Members vanilla_bean Posted June 15, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2008 There are several women on this site of similar age who've all experience a kind of sexual "awakening" (and I adore every rabid one of you). Many of us have said it was like turning on a switch or opening a gate. This has permanently changed many things in my life and I'm very grateful that this has happened, but I've heard many attribute this to wacky hormones and someone in chat the other day said, "Just wait til your fifties. It disappears." My concern is that all this energy/desire/excitement could evaporate just like it suddenly showed up.I know that interest in sex is linked to physical and mental health, but could "it", this gift so many of us has received, just go away like it came. Is it just wacky hormones? Is it some temporary state? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members toohotcatmom Posted June 15, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2008 God I HOPE not....cause for me 50 is just a year away......and I just started feeling like this! Would be nice to know though... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted June 15, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2008 I don't think it goes away. I think relationships change for the worse. When partners do not communicate and shut their minds down, then it gets bad. I think as long as you both care about each other, and want that sexual heat to stay it will. It takes two to tango but sadly only one to stop the music. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted June 15, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2008 I don't think it goes away. I think relationships change for the worse. When partners do not communicate and shut their minds down, then it gets bad. I think as long as you both care about each other, and want that sexual heat to stay it will. It takes two to tango but sadly only one to stop the music.I really am enjoying myself now and I would hate for this to fade away, but i think sexuality is sort of like a muscle..you have to use it to keep it in good shape. Engage the brain and you're half way there. As long as we wild women keep our brains engaged, i think the bodies should hold up, too. I don't have a partner right now, but i can keep my sexual interest up by masturbating and watching porn, using my imagination, and just generally thinking about being sexy. For example, i love to wear sexy lingerie under regular clothes..it makes me feel sexy. I'm going to continue that for as long as my VS credit card limit holds out!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted June 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 25, 2008 Oh, boy, I hope not! I have always had a fairly strong sex drive, and the Ex wasn't really interested in sex. Never was.Major arguements where about the lack of sex in our marriage. The last five or six years there was NO SEX.The guy was as emotional as a robot. SweetGuys ex was the same way.SweetGuy is very sensual and enjoys making love, what a change for both of us.My good times with a partner just started at 46, he was 51. I'd like to think we will still be going strong 30 years from now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted June 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 25, 2008 I agree with you guys...I absolutely REFUSE to let this go! I think if we keep our minds and bodies focused and active and strive to make sensuality one of the main parts of who we are we can keep it going well into OLD age....that's my intention anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted June 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 25, 2008 I don't think it goes away. I think relationships change for the worse. When partners do not communicate and shut their minds down, then it gets bad. I think as long as you both care about each other, and want that sexual heat to stay it will. It takes two to tango but sadly only one to stop the music.Good wording! Also it is linked to the use it or loose it thing, if you still desire sex and stay active you will be fine. Although It is new to me as well what a cruel joke that would be to take it from me now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 I hope not!, and my husband just said he's praying it doesn't change..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members toohotcatmom Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 So, I asked my obgyn this very question earlier today (had my yearly with her). Apparently hormones are partly to blame for this phenom - and some women do "lose it" as quickly and as abruptly as it started. Hormones are powerful things and mind over matter doesn't always succeed - i.e. just because I want to always feel like this and keep sexually active, hormones may prevent me from dong so at any time in the future. Not exactly what I wanted to hear.However, she said that a woman now has the same options as a man as far as treatments for low libido. So she stressed that anyone suddenly losing it should talk to their doctor about options. She said "a healthy sex life is too important to overall health to just give up on it". She made a note in my chart to discuss next time as well - so she can help me determine if I still have "it" or not (she's a great doctor!).So - just fyi.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 I agree with you guys...I absolutely REFUSE to let this go! I think if we keep our minds and bodies focused and active and strive to make sensuality one of the main parts of who we are we can keep it going well into OLD age....that's my intention anyway! Ooooohhhhh be still my heart!!!Maybe you should hold a few seminars! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 Most definitely up for it these days....several "seminar sessions" a day....Need volunteers please so line up now! (oooh makes me want to try the whip!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 Most definitely up for it these days....several "seminar sessions" a day....Need volunteers please so line up now! (oooh makes me want to try the whip!) I'm first in line lovely lady but I don't know about the whip!!! But if you must, you must! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 Oh I'd never be cruel or too rough....just use it to point ya in the right direction so to speak! And to reinforce the "MORE!, HARDER!, NOW!" cues! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanilla_bean Posted June 26, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 So, I asked my obgyn this very question earlier today (had my yearly with her). Apparently hormones are partly to blame for this phenom - and some women do "lose it" as quickly and as abruptly as it started. Hormones are powerful things and mind over matter doesn't always succeed - i.e. just because I want to always feel like this and keep sexually active, hormones may prevent me from dong so at any time in the future. Not exactly what I wanted to hear.However, she said that a woman now has the same options as a man as far as treatments for low libido. So she stressed that anyone suddenly losing it should talk to their doctor about options. She said "a healthy sex life is too important to overall health to just give up on it". She made a note in my chart to discuss next time as well - so she can help me determine if I still have "it" or not (she's a great doctor!).So - just fyi....2hot Thanks so much for asking your obgyn this and passing the info on to us. I've said this before, but this is a great community. Hopefully we'll still all be discussing sex and tips for the next 20-30 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jj53 Posted June 26, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 26, 2008 There are several women on this site of similar age who've all experience a kind of sexual "awakening" (and I adore every rabid one of you). Many of us have said it was like turning on a switch or opening a gate. This has permanently changed many things in my life and I'm very grateful that this has happened, but I've heard many attribute this to wacky hormones and someone in chat the other day said, "Just wait til your fifties. It disappears." My concern is that all this energy/desire/excitement could evaporate just like it suddenly showed up.I know that interest in sex is linked to physical and mental health, but could "it", this gift so many of us has received, just go away like it came. Is it just wacky hormones? Is it some temporary state?Hi Vanilla"just wait until your fifties, It disappears" "BS" Di's 51 AND HOTTER THAN EVER. We've always enjoyed sex but there have been times when things have cooled down , but right now it seems Di can't keep her hands, and a few other body parts, off of me . If a woman, or man for that matter, says that their sex lives have waned because they got older it's because they let themselves get OLD . Age is just a number, do everything you can to feel young; eat right, exercise, enjoy and have lots of sex, and then have more sex, and you will start to realize that age is just a number. If your hormones get wacky they have things to straighten them out, Di's on the patch, can't get it up, they've got stuff for that too, I'm on Cialas. Don't let age be an excuse, let it be an experience enhancer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanilla_bean Posted June 27, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted June 27, 2008 Hi Vanilla"just wait until your fifties, It disappears" "BS" Di's 51 AND HOTTER THAN EVER. We've always enjoyed sex but there have been times when things have cooled down , but right now it seems Di can't keep her hands, and a few other body parts, off of me . If a woman, or man for that matter, says that their sex lives have waned because they got older it's because they let themselves get OLD . Age is just a number, do everything you can to feel young; eat right, exercise, enjoy and have lots of sex, and then have more sex, and you will start to realize that age is just a number. If your hormones get wacky they have things to straighten them out, Di's on the patch, can't get it up, they've got stuff for that too, I'm on Cialas. Don't let age be an excuse, let it be an experience enhancer. Di's Guy, I love your attitude! You're one of my new heroes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted June 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 27, 2008 "just wait until your fifties, It disappears" "BS" Di's 51 AND HOTTER THAN EVER. We've always enjoyed sex but there have been times when things have cooled down , but right now it seems Di can't keep her hands, and a few other body parts, off of me . If a woman, or man for that matter, says that their sex lives have waned because they got older it's because they let themselves get OLD . Age is just a number, do everything you can to feel young; eat right, exercise, enjoy and have lots of sex, and then have more sex, and you will start to realize that age is just a number. If your hormones get wacky they have things to straighten them out, Di's on the patch, can't get it up, they've got stuff for that too, I'm on Cialas. Don't let age be an excuse, let it be an experience enhancer. I'm glad to hear this news...and plan on it coming true, like chloegirl, just need to get that partner lined up. Harder to find a man as you get older. Women outnumber men after age 50. I guess we're just gonna have more threesomes!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted June 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 27, 2008 Doesn't it just depress the hell out of you when you talk to those "older" women who have no interest in sex or anything sensual for that matter and just run it down ? I've know some that look down their noses and talk like any woman who is into anything sensual and erotic is basically crazy (and the thought of toys, etc. just blows their minds!) yet these women are the ones who's personalities are soooo bitter and cold I can't help but wonder why their husbands stay and put up with it. So sad!...I intend to be one of those "crazy" old ladies who's still getting and giving even in the nursing home years! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted June 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 27, 2008 Doesn't it just depress the hell out of you when you talk to those "older" women who have no interest in sex or anything sensual for that matter and just run it down ? I've know some that look down their noses and talk like any woman who is into anything sensual and erotic is basically crazy (and the thought of toys, etc. just blows their minds!) yet these women are the ones who's personalities are soooo bitter and cold I can't help but wonder why their husbands stay and put up with it. So sad!...I intend to be one of those "crazy" old ladies who's still getting and giving even in the nursing home years! lolYEP! and ya know what's worse... the women who are not "older" and do the same thing!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members toohotcatmom Posted June 28, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2008 ...I intend to be one of those "crazy" old ladies who's still getting and giving even in the nursing home years! lolOH Hell Yeah - me too Chloegirl..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted June 28, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2008 Oh yeah...we are definitely gonna have to form a club and get together at least once a year to egg each other on and keep our zest for living strong and hot! I just love all you guys here! Wish I would have met up with you all years ago and shook off that "good girl, gotta be respectable mentality" If I had known half of what all I've learned and opened up to here way back then, look out! .... Oh well, better late than never and I am more than making up for the lost years now! My maxim these days is to never let a day go by without wearing some really hot underwear and having at least 1 really good "O" a day! Look out 50's, us TT ladies are going to kick your ass! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted June 28, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2008 Can I be in your club?? (: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanilla_bean Posted June 28, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2008 Can I be in your club?? (:me too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Angelina Posted June 28, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2008 So, I asked my obgyn this very question earlier today (had my yearly with her). Apparently hormones are partly to blame for this phenom - and some women do "lose it" as quickly and as abruptly as it started. Hormones are powerful things and mind over matter doesn't always succeed - i.e. just because I want to always feel like this and keep sexually active, hormones may prevent me from dong so at any time in the future. Not exactly what I wanted to hear.However, she said that a woman now has the same options as a man as far as treatments for low libido. So she stressed that anyone suddenly losing it should talk to their doctor about options. She said "a healthy sex life is too important to overall health to just give up on it". She made a note in my chart to discuss next time as well - so she can help me determine if I still have "it" or not (she's a great doctor!).So - just fyi.... Do you happen to know what type of drug she’s talking about.Other then HRT there is no drug that I am aware of that can help us with our drive as men have Viagra we do not.It is not just that there is no clinical data showing that women are/can be affected in the same way as men.I have personally know a couple women who have tried it on the off chance that it would/could work and it did nothing for them.Could have just been them also.I know I have turned into a FREAK and we are LOVING it! Thank you TT friends for all your help take a bow. I think that once the cattle have escaped thru the fence it is hard to put ‘em back.THANK GOD!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cybele Posted June 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 30, 2008 Count me in the club too!I better not lose all this sexual energy now that I've found it. I'm truly enjoying myself and becoming more and more comfortable with my own sexuality.I can't begin to tell you all how helpful this site has been. Not only have I learned some new tricks , I have learned about being comfortable and that it's all natural. This was not always so with me. To some extent, I wonder if I was even ready for it when I was younger. So, I better not be losing it all in a year.Good question/post Vanilla Bean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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