Members raniedaize Posted April 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 5, 2009 It's been sixty-four days of sexual sobriety for me. Yay, but urgh. So, long story made short: stolen virginity --> PTSD and random sex --> awesome sex weekend to face issues --> no more PTSD --> me being the abstinate girl I prefer to be --> no sex the past two months --> hip hip hooray; congrats to me; I feel like I'm dying. May I just say, this is way ahead of schedule! Usually, I would be able to hold out five months before nearly going out of my mind. But two? Come on, Self, this is ridiculous! I've even had to stay away from my TooTimid friends and their posts the past week due to this inner yearning whose screams for attention are getting louder and louder. And they aren't the good kind of screams, either. I simply want them to leave me alone. I mean, honestly, if I plan on behaving myself well, can't God simply take away the need from me for just a little while? Definitely not permanently, but, is it really so much to ask?! This is exhausting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members crossroads123 Posted April 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 5, 2009 It's been sixty-four days of sexual sobriety for me. Yay, but urgh. So, long story made short: stolen virginity --> PTSD and random sex --> awesome sex weekend to face issues --> no more PTSD --> me being the abstinate girl I prefer to be --> no sex the past two months --> hip hip hooray; congrats to me; I feel like I'm dying. May I just say, this is way ahead of schedule! Usually, I would be able to hold out five months before nearly going out of my mind. But two? Come on, Self, this is ridiculous! I've even had to stay away from my TooTimid friends and their posts the past week due to this inner yearning whose screams for attention are getting louder and louder. And they aren't the good kind of screams, either. I simply want them to leave me alone. I mean, honestly, if I plan on behaving myself well, can't God simply take away the need from me for just a little while? Definitely not permanently, but, is it really so much to ask?! This is exhausting.Girl, it could be worse you could be a married man then you'd REALLY know what long term NO sex felt like!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted April 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 5, 2009 Welcome to the club I'm at 17 months and 23 days-ish. It gets better, then worse, then better, then worse and continues like that until you get some. I'm glad everything (else) is looking up though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted April 5, 2009 Report Share Posted April 5, 2009 Wow! Well, I'm glad you're getting help with your PTSD. I know that never goes away fully, but gets better with treatment, so that's great!! My FIL was in Vietnam, and still suffers from it! Anyway.....you are HUMAN dear. Desire is a part of human nature. It won't go away. It waxes and wanes, but, like the moon, even when you don't think you see it, it's still there! Don't feel bad, don't hate it. That has NOTHING to do with what happened to you, it doesn't make you a bad or dirty person. It's normal. In fact, I'd be worried if your desire totally shut down all together.Being "horny" doesn't make you a "drunk" aka someone with problem, sweetie. So, please don't ever think that. You're human, and your body is just acting as such. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie lill4u Posted April 9, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 I got you all beat!!! I'm 25-30 y.o. and every year high & dry talk about frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No rape or anything just come from a somewhat verbally abusive background and my first few sexual experiences just served to make me feel further humiliated with the way the acted and things they said (treating my inexperience at my "age" as a problem and not worth their time to "help educate" me). now i'm just trying to get back on the horse and mentally not take myself out before anything with a new guy can start. lill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 9, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 I got you all beat!!! I'm 25-30 y.o. and every year high & dry talk about frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No rape or anything just come from a somewhat verbally abusive background and my first few sexual experiences just served to make me feel further humiliated with the way the acted and things they said (treating my inexperience at my "age" as a problem and not worth their time to "help educate" me). now i'm just trying to get back on the horse and mentally not take myself out before anything with a new guy can start. lillWow!!!!!! You need a toy bad girlfriend. Seriously, good for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie lill4u Posted April 9, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 Wow!!!!!! You need a toy bad girlfriend. Seriously, good for you.ladylove, oh honey toys and me are old friends!!!! I'm just watching out for the blindess with all the masturbation haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 9, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 ladylove, oh honey toys and me are old friends!!!! I'm just watching out for the blindess with all the masturbation haha :lol: :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted April 9, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 ladylove, oh honey toys and me are old friends!!!! I'm just watching out for the blindess with all the masturbation haha "I think I'm turning japense I think I'm turning japense I really think so!" and the hair on your hands! Just wax it off! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted June 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 19, 2009 ladylove, oh honey toys and me are old friends!!!! I'm just watching out for the blindess with all the masturbation haha I stopped when I got glasses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted June 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 19, 2009 I stopped when I got glasses.Then many years later I too discovered the joy of toys... :) Some years after that I rediscovered the joy of anal sex...And brothers and sisters let me tell you.....plain ole masturbation has nothin' on hot anal sex!!Granted lately I've been in a slump sexually.Tho I suddenly got the urge yesterday and blew a 2 week load looking at some random internet porn.The last time I got laid was a good 2 months ago. Or more.I really wish The Cuff was closer...or gas was cheaper....or I had a bf. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted June 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2009 How are you doing with your sobriety? How many days? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members raniedaize Posted June 22, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2009 How are you doing with your sobriety? How many days?I had a relapse at the end of May. So, that makes it 24 days of good behavior today. Yeah...a few issues came out to play, but I'm moving to a different neighborhood where they can't come pester me anymore! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted June 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2009 I had a relapse at the end of May. So, that makes it 24 days of good behavior today. Yeah...a few issues came out to play, but I'm moving to a different neighborhood where they can't come pester me anymore! Good for you, keep moving forward..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted July 14, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 I had a relapse at the end of May. So, that makes it 24 days of good behavior today. Yeah...a few issues came out to play, but I'm moving to a different neighborhood where they can't come pester me anymore! I am confused here. Are you talking about sexual sobriety or alcohol?I have some experience with past alcohol problems. But I cannot understand why you are denying yourself sexual relief. Masturbation has gotten me thru some dark days that became months. I even thot I had it all figured out but I am just as screwed up now as I ever was. But you should lighten up on yourself girl. Bend Mikaylas ear she knows stuff....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 14, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 I am confused here. Are you talking about sexual sobriety or alcohol?SEX with a person not masturbation o alcohol abuse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members raniedaize Posted July 14, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 I am confused here. Are you talking about sexual sobriety or alcohol?I have some experience with past alcohol problems. But I cannot understand why you are denying yourself sexual relief. Masturbation has gotten me thru some dark days that became months. I even thot I had it all figured out but I am just as screwed up now as I ever was. But you should lighten up on yourself girl. Bend Mikaylas ear she knows stuff.......Ladylove is right. I was most definitely talking about abstaining from sex with another human being or even kissing guys I'm not willing to be in a relationship with. I apologize if my analogy was offensive to anyone with previous or current alcohol sobriety issues. Meanwhile...47 days going strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members raniedaize Posted July 15, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Congrats. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 15, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Ladylove is right. I was most definitely talking about abstaining from sex with another human being or even kissing guys I'm not willing to be in a relationship with. I apologize if my analogy was offensive to anyone with previous or current alcohol sobriety issues. Meanwhile...47 days going strong. Good for you! Just keep extra batteries on hand..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted October 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 4, 2009 Good for you! Just keep extra batteries on hand..... Get those batteries in 48 batt paks at COSTCO!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 5, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 5, 2009 Get those batteries in 48 batt paks at COSTCO!!! :lol: Thank goodness for Costco... :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted November 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 :lol: Thank goodness for Costco... :lol: Well I've gone some pretty long stretches w/o sex with a partner. Its been about 8 months since I was laid (last March). I don't really feel all that bad off considering. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted November 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 Well I've gone some pretty long stretches w/o sex with a partner. Its been about 8 months since I was laid (last March). I don't really feel all that bad off considering.Thank goodness for masturbation....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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