Newbie multipurposeglue Posted July 2, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 okay, so im in a new relationship after a while of being single ((no action)) sooo, it turns out, my guy has only even madeout which i fidn really hard to believe, but i gave him a handjob the other nigth and he didn't cum at all... wouldn't u think if he was new it would've actually happened faster? he said it felt good, but nothing happened? and then a few days later i gave him a blowjob and stilll nothing... he hasn't cum at all yet and i mean i have no idea what to think, every other guy i've been with has and in a pretty short amount of time. do i just suck at it, or is it normal? haha i have no idea a little help ? =/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie multipurposeglue Posted July 2, 2009 Author Newbie Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 If he said it feels good then you're doing it right. I think the issue would be with him, not you. I don't know the full story but if its something thats been going on and also happens when he is by himself then he probably needs to have it checked out. Good luck.hmm well thats the thing, he says it works when he's doign it himself, we both have nooo idea whats up with it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members leslieanne Posted July 2, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 so have him masterbate with you watching what he does and see what you can learn from that. He may have a particular "spot" or motion that works better for him. Also there maybe some "anxiety" on his part that's causing some "interference"....just a thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted July 2, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 Most likely he masturbates a lot alone, knows his own style (what speed, pressure, etc) and he is not adjusting to having someone else do it for him. If he is erect and maintaining his erection, then there probably isn't an issue. how old is he? Also, a lot of guys have anxiety when it comes to orgasm with a partner, specifically if they are un-experienced or are worried about pregnancy.Just keep trying and make sure you are playing safe! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie multipurposeglue Posted July 2, 2009 Author Newbie Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 thank youuu all =] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SadPuppy Posted July 2, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 Yup - that's happened to me before. Feels great, she's doing nothing wrong, but I just couldn't push myself over the edge. My failure to reach orgasm was my fault, not hers. It was probably stage fright anxiety, etc, and usually happened the first few times with a new girl (what few I've had). I was never REALLY comfortable 100% of the time until my wife & I were married. Sex with a non-spouse is great, but for me, for some reason, the deep emotional attachment didn't take place until we were actually married. Then sex was REALLY an emotional and physical union for me. When she would whisper into my ear, "Mmmmmm, my husband," it would make me melt and would produce a deep orgasm for me. That's one reason that I haven't been able to have sex with anyone since we got divorced (8 years ago). But that's just me - for some folks, marriage is not necessary for the deep emotional bond. And that's fine. Point is, it's probably him thats having the snag for whatever reason, and probably won't happen every time, or even most of the time. Some of us aren't the stereotypical semen-squirting automatrons that can drop a load whenever we want. Be patient, understanding, and keep going. But don't think that's it's somehow you're fault. He may not have came, but a good time was still had by all!SP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted July 3, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 3, 2009 Could be performance anxiety, that's all. He just needs to relax. Sometimes you try too hard to impress a partner and your mind worries too much. JMHO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted July 3, 2009 Report Share Posted July 3, 2009 i was with my ex almost 2 months before he came without doing it himself. probably just too nervous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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