Members Shoop Posted July 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 4, 2009 K, I don't know why this shocked me a bit, but my best friend (in conversation) asked my boyfriend if he'd ever had any same sex contact (she expected him to say no, knowing him) and he said "qualify contact!" at which point my friend changed the subject. She later said that she'd not wanted to embarrass him by qualifying it but we both agreed that he'd done SOMETHING if he needed it qualified. I admit, this shocked me a bit. I know, i know, i don't know why it did, but it was just so unexpected....my ex, yes...I can imagine but my current boyfriend? He always seemed SOOOO straight (I've asked him "how straight are you" type questions before and have got NOTHING like this). Oh and later when questioned (once again by my friend, not me, but I was right there) he said that he'd not KISS a man but he'd let him touch his penis. K...seriously. Although in theory I find this hot, in reality it brings out some weird sort of fear in me. i can't explain it.Help.(no flames, just help)I dont' think he's gay. I don't really even think he's bi. I think he's probably just had experiences and possibly fantasies (I read that a certain percentage of straight men fantasize about other men some of the time). Heck, I've had the same and consider myself straight. And funny enough, gay porn is a big turn on for me. So why can't this idea turn me on rather than scare the fuck out me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted July 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 4, 2009 Don't panic!!!Seriously, do you know how many men in their teenage years touch eachother just to do it? SOOOOOO many do. There are also so many men and women who have curiousity about same sex experience and it means NOTHING. His answer about not kissing another man but letting him touch his penis should be comforting. Kissing is very intimate, more intimate that touching, so that says to me that he is just curious, not bi-sexual or gay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shoop Posted July 4, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 4, 2009 Don't panic!!!Seriously, do you know how many men in their teenage years touch eachother just to do it? SOOOOOO many do. There are also so many men and women who have curiousity about same sex experience and it means NOTHING. His answer about not kissing another man but letting him touch his penis should be comforting. Kissing is very intimate, more intimate that touching, so that says to me that he is just curious, not bi-sexual or gay.well my best friend said later (while laughing) "men will let ANYONE touch their penis, won't they?"...not that that's true, but I think she was trying to comfort me.Thanks for the response....Actually the conversation STARTED because we were debating the straight/gay/bi status of a few guys we knew in high school. One of my friends had had threesomes (in highschool in the late 80's...man, I wasn't doing that! And somehow when we counted I'd slept with more people than she did! Because she didn't have sex with them all, she just made out a lot, but I digress...i was shocked either way, I thought her "number" was WAY higher than mine!) with these guys and remembers the men touching eachother A LOT. My other friend said it was experimentation, and the first friend said that you don't do that kind of thing and remain straight. THAT'S how she brought my boyfriend in to the discussion. She TOO thought he was the straightest guy ever and assumed that he'd support her theory. Her point was one of those high school guys totally came out as gay, but we were debating what happened to the other one. Friend number one assumed that he also came out but friend number 2 said it could have just been experimentation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted July 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 4, 2009 It doesn't necessarily mean that there was anything actually going on with another guy.....you've seen the 3-some MMF scenes where she's doing both guys orally at the same time or even DP....there's inevitably going to be some "contact" there that has nothing to do with the guys "doing" each other. In a case like that I would say that most guys who are not homophobes would say that that little bit of taboo contact is actually kind of hot or at the very least inconsequential.....it doesn't mean that they actually "want" a guy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members admiraltolokus Posted July 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2009 Mikayla is very correct I must say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members synirr Posted July 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2009 Nothing to worry about Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shoop Posted July 14, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 whew...ok, thanks guys.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted July 14, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 he said that he'd not KISS a man but he'd let him touch his penis. I dont' think he's gay. I don't really even think he's bi. I think he's probably just had experiences and possibly fantasies (I read that a certain percentage of straight men fantasize about other men some of the time). Heck, I've had the same and consider myself straight. And funny enough, gay porn is a big turn on for me. So why can't this idea turn me on rather than scare the fuck out me? OK Awhile back I came out on this site as a recent convert to gayness.But now days I kinda feel almost like I am back to square one in that I'm really not sure. Plus coming from a quazi dysfunctional family sure as hell don't help things........In last 2 years I've had sex with 2 gay men. First time was with a very femme cd. We kissed-gave each other oral-hugged like crazy. It was sum of the hottest sex I have ever had. I would LOVE a repeat performance with this hottie.Three or 4 months ago I picked up a cute leatherman in a gay niteclub. For the 1st time in my life I was a total slut. We sat at the bar drinkin' our beers and rubbin each others thigh and I was gettin' HOT! We went outside for a smoke now and then and fooled around some. After awhile we went to his place, took a shower together and then he fucked me. He wasn't as big as I hoped but I still enjoyed it. Afterwards he gave me his number!!I still like lookin at hot ladies but now I like lookin' at hot men too!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RikaLovesDie Posted July 21, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 My very first sexual experience was with another girl. She was a friend who had been dabbling in same-sex relations for a bit and she said she wanted to kiss me. After some prodding I eventually gave in (my first kiss!) and she proceeded to shove her tongue down my throat. -.- Needless to say, the whole thing was rather awkward and didn't really go anywhere.I had a few more opportunities with women in college, but never bothered because they didn't seem very serious to me. Basically, the sexual experience I had with my friend in high school didn't sway me in my sexuality in anyway.I know what you're feeling though, because I've had similar issues with my husband. I'm almost certain that he's had some sort of sexual experience with other men, though he's never fessed up to it. But I find that my concern is more specific to my husband's personality--I really worry that other people might take advantage of him and he wouldn't put up much of a fight, and he tends to hang around some wild crowds... But that's just me being paranoid. X) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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