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I can certainly understand the appeal of those online chat sites. There is something that makes the experience more erotic because you are living wholly in a fantasy and you can act out those fantasies as long as you have a willing partner. I think the danger though is that it is very easy to reap large rewards and it can become addictive and dangerous. If you are feeling like its time to stop then there is no one on here that would be right in telling you otherwise. You know what is best for you. At the same time though, I think it would be good for you to find someone you can open up to (as Tyger said) and release that tension in a healthier manner. Cybersex is great and it has its time and place, but you dont want to use it as a way to deal with the deeper issues. If you are using it for your sexual health, and you feel comfortable, then there is nothing wrong. On the other hand, if you are using it in lieu of healing, then you need to find a way to heal first.

I tried shaving once. I don't know how either guys manage it, but it was painful due to the short hairs. She wasn't a fan of it either. I have trimmed the hair a few times since just to keep it neat for her. She tends to prefer it as it is though so I'm not one to complain :).

Those who know me may have seen me active two years ago, and since then I have kind of gone off the radar. I checked in to the forums from time to time, but otherwise I was busy and didn't have enough time to really sit down and enjoy myself. Of course, I had free time, but most of that time was spent just decompressing while playing video games instead of getting to enjoy myself on the forums. So hopefully now that things have settled down, I will have more time to really enjoy myself on the forums instead. What's important about the last two years? Well in 2013 I finished my UG degree in creative writing, and then I jumped straight into the MFA program for creative writing. That took a lot more of my writing energy than I really expected it to. I did earn my MFA of course, but I haven't really been putting myself into writing unless it is academics, so hopefully I can find some of that passion here again. I also finally moved into my own place with my girlfriend (the same one) which has given me a lot more space to express myself sexually versus the very conservative home of my parents that I was living in. In that time I have learned a lot about myself though. My girlfriend and I had numerous fights about any kind of sexting. I love dirty talk and the tease. She hates it. It hasn't improved much in that time, though she is somewhat more reluctant (in very rare occasions, and only for one or two texts). I did learn something about myself though because of it. I am not sure how many men share this, but I love it when my fantasy is a turn on for someone else, namely women. I love it even more if they tell me that it is making them wet. I suspect that many men enjoy this, but I would almost rather prefer knowing that my fantasy is making the woman wet than actually acting on the fantasy itself. While I don't think I will really have the opportunity to share this with my girlfriend in the near future, I am hoping that instead of expending that energy, and ultimately leading the two of us into confrontation, I can bring that energy back here and just enjoy myself again. So hopefully you will be seeing more of me on the forums, and (also hopefully) I will be getting back into reviews once again. I have neglected the toys for too long, and hope to jump back in with them feet first.

Exactly like that. Just say that you want him to be more dominant, take more control. Maybe even watch some porn together depicting what you are interested in.

I would likely go with the delight. But it definitely depends on preference. The delight appears like it would be better for stimulation by size, and variation in width of the bulbs. The plug would be more from the stimulation of the expansion and contraction. I would be wary of suction cups though. While RC4 may have had good luck, I have personally had my share of bad suction cups. Don't get me wrong, the one suction cup that I have that works is amazing, but I would decide more on the main features of the toy (unless someone vouches for the suction cup design in advance, or unless you don't mind it not working out). Suction cups also work best on flat smooth surfaces, so bathroom tile walls wont be as ideal as glass, or smooth surface walls.

For a beginner I would probably suggest getting two separate toys and using them at the same time. Bullets are perfect for beginners because they are easy to use and great for clit stimulation. G-spot vibes are slightly trickier because you need that upward curve on the head, and everyone is different. I dont really think there is a 100 percent success rate for specific g-spot vibes. That being said, if you just want one toy and to be done with it, youll want a rabbit with a rounded curved head. http://www.tootimid.com/the-big-g-vibe-silicone-waterproof-6168.html This one should do the trick, and it is on the cheaper side for that type of toy. There are more expensive ones that have reviews, but its up to you how much you are willing to invest in a first try. Hope this helps.

Would love to see people in the chat room more often. This is a great community with great people!

As some of you may know, I am a writer. I recently graduated with both my BA's and I am currently working on m master's. I am used to writing at a degree higher than paperback fiction. Frankly, my professors would not allow anything less than a story that gets to the heart of the character etc. etc. However, that being said, I had the thought recently to try writing erotica, and to try writing it for profit. The idea mostly came to me because I was talking to people about kinks and fetishes and it was quite enjoyable, because there is a lot you can learn from someone who has done it, but I kept getting asked the same questions. The first being "Are you actually 22?" and this is a question I have been asked before (because for some reason 22 year olds often don't take the time to learn in order to please their partner) and then the question "Do you write erotica?" I have never written it before, I have been curious though. My main hang up as I am considering it, is if there are any rules that I would not usually suspect. What I mean by this is what I would expect of erotica is usual description working toward a scene that is a turn on, that builds a sexual tension and narrative. Instead I saw an example where at one point, the woman becoming turned on and getting wet was instead referred to as "her vertical juices flowing out of her." Really? Is that a turn on? Because I think if I was reading that I would either start laughing, or put it down. Is that just a different market? So I guess I am mostly wondering, has anyone written or tried to write erotica? How did it go and what did you learn?

So I have always loved taking sex out of the bedroom, my girlfriend isn't the biggest fan but often is willing to give it a shot. We have tried many different wireless vibes, all designed as panty vibes, and not one of them has been rewarding. The initial one was cheap and housed a bullet in the panties, it did nothing for her and was uncomfortable. Then the mistake of getting ones that turned out to not have a remote. Finally the most recent one was an egg, and again no reward from having a vibrating egg inside of her. Have any of you come across a vibe that is able to stimulate the clit, is not uncomfortable or noticeable, is quiet enough that we wouldn't draw attention, and that does have a usable remote? I know it is a lot of criteria, but I am not willing to drop another 60 or 70 dollars on a toy I won't use. I came across the Ohmibod Blub Vibe 2.Oh which looks nice, but people say it is pretty loud. The lelo lyla 2 also looks nice. I am willing to consider an expensive toy if it has a proven ability to work well.

Ask her if she has tried wands. The hitachi is the most well known, but I decided a while back to get my gf a magic mini as a gift, and it is one of her favorites. Cheap too (I think it was around ten or fifteen dollars). Rabbits are always good too. but tend to be a bit pricier. I also highly recommend toys with a clit stimulator that is separate from the insertable portion because it allows greater control over the stimulation.

You know your post reminds me of a toy that the two of you might enjoy. It is called the We Vibe and though it is pricey ($130) it is fantastic. It gets inserted and then penetration carries as usual. The benefit is that the toy is stimulating her clitoris while you are penetrating her (and the vibrations dont feel too bad for the male either ) the first time we used it she was over the top ecstatic about the toy. I highly recommend it if you are finding that toys are really the only thing able to give her that feeling at the moment.

When kissing and such I keep my eyes closed. Otherwise open. Sometimes I close them because it is a different feeling but rarely do I keep them shut.

Once I found the G-Spot and I was stimulating her it took about five or ten minutes I think. Now though I can get her to orgasm pretty quickly, maybe two or three if I do it right.

Then they have a return policy. If it breaks in the first year you can return it for a replacement. If you don't like it within thirty days of purchase then you can return it and pick something else out. http://www.tootimid.com/return-policy.html The people in customer service are amazing, and extremely helpful. So I would just contact them and let them know what the issue is. I am sure it wont be an issue.

It wasn't immediate that she knew it, and you certainly have to be in the mood. If youre not aroused already then it isn't going to be a sudden explosion of amazement. However if youre aroused and youre playing around in that area with that kind of toy, you will quickly learn how to stimulate it.