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Dh and I have a one strike your out rule. he was cheated on by every one of his serious relationships so he knows that once the trust is broken it can never be restored. i personally would never cheat. i didnt get married so i could screw around, i take my vow seriously. i think it is in mens DNA to spread the seed so to say. but its a mans choice to either screw around or remain faithful to his wife. hubby and i have talked alot about this and both believe that infidelity os a choice a person makes. I expect my husband to honor his vows and remain faithful and he exppects the same from me. i understand men and that they arent blind to other women or that desire to screw, BUT......if you make a vow you honor it and remain faithful. if you arent happy in your relationship you should get out or work on it.

so the whole threesome thing has been in the back my mind for while now. is that strange to go back and forth between yes and no?

no dolls. but thanks theres actually only one person i would consider it with. well see how things go.

i would love to lose my inhibitions long enough for a threesome. there are times i am very aroused by thouht. than others i am ambiguous about it. and in this fantasy i would be aroused by watching DH screw another woman. but alas in reality,. i could never handle it

im just confused as to how he can work on a friends tractor for three hours yet cant keep up on the housework for you. my hubby has back pain and sometimes severe from an injury in the military, yet he works 48 hurs a week and helps alot around the house without me having to say anything. im glad hes getting the umemployment,(lord knows it kept us in our home after i lost my job) but right now cigareests arent a priority food is. and im glad hes going back to school for a new profession. please take some time for yourself, start telling people either no or you do it.

he calls me sugarbutt and i call him babes. i know im unoriginal

thankyou all for your responses,. and im sorry its taken me this long, theres just been sooo much going dealing with my own stuff and issues ive been ignoring for a long time. but im doing alot better. so im in a much better place i told hubby that right now i am not interested, i have no desire to experience a woman. i want to lose some weight and im starting a new job, so i want to get settled there too. and also, as im becoming more and more comfortable in myself, i find myself enjoying sex alot more. im able to turn my mind off and enjoy the moment. which is a big step for me. sex has become more passionate and intimate. so right now this is the road i want to be on. i told him that if i ever reconsider ill let him know. which he seems okay with. i know i could never watch him with another woman. i just know me. i wouldnt be able to get past it. maybe someday down the road ill be alot more secure but for now no. thankyou all for your advice and perspective. it really helped me to think this thru once i calmed down. and mikayla you were right, i was freaking out for nothing.

for me, i am not capable of seperating the two. which is why ill never have a threesome with hubby. i know men can but i couldnt imagine. i have learned that when your married you have to gaurd your heart because you will meet people you could spark with. i just dont let it go anywhere, and hubby is the same way. these things dont just sneak up on people , they let it happen. im sorry for what your going thru.

those nighttime chats must have been interesting!

hmmmm. demonstrate a vibrator in a PG way????

im not a fan of KY products. the warming liquid hurt more that it helped. so im not willing to fork over 20 bucks for the his hers. I am however patientle waiting for my liquid silk to come in. best stuff ever!!!!

thats hilarious

i came here after a very failed attempt at giving DH a blow job. after reading all about the subject here as i could. we tried again, and he loved it. totally got off. which was a total self esteem booster for me. thanks for the advice and this is such a great,educational, and supportive place that you all are stuck with me. (ha ha)

amen suzy I would love a chat room .......ROB.......PPPLLEEEAAASSSEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (do you think that will work?)

Ok, here's my list 69 mutual mastrubation (idk why but ive always wanted to see DH masturbate) sex on the beach shower DP surprise pull over and fuck me in the car

he asked me to think about it and that it would only happen if i were completely into it.

he says that a threesome is the only way for him to satisfy this sexual need of his and not be cheating,. since he wants me to an enthusiastic partcipant. i cant help but think that hes having a mid life crisis. how is it a man can be in a loving commited relationship and feel this "need" to be sexually attractive to someone much younger. i think hes feeling his age. i cant get my head around this.is this a conquest thing??? guys please help me with some perspective

so here's my situation. DH is 39 and im 31. weve been married 4 years in november and together 6. we were at a friends house and we got to talking about how men and women view sex differently. cheating being the context. expalining that men and women werent designed for life long relationships that men have this need for casual sex. how men can screw without any emotion involved. afterwards we went out for dinner just hubby and I . and we were still talking. and so i finally asked him if he wanted a thressome, hes been complaining alot about grey hair,. heavier, etc. and he said he wanted one. soemthing about needing to feel like he could have sex with some young hottie. he described it a need. one which i he had previously said he had filled in the military. i cant lie and say ive never thought about it. but im married and would never go outside our marriage. he said that it was totally up to me and that if i wanted it i would have full control over the entire situation. and that he would never mention it again until i brought it up to have the next conversation about it. also that if i didnt want it, it would never happen, and he would never cheat on me. here;s the problem. i am sooo upset by this. he claims to be happy and satisfied. so no matter what he says im always thinking well hes really not and this is just the beginning of the end.i feel like hes already betrayed me. like he has a desire for someonelse. feels like a complete betrayal. now when he says i love you , im like mmm hmm. i dont believe him anymore. i cant get over this. and i cant get it out of my head. thers doubt in my head where there never used to be. as for me, im going a really tough emotional time. im unemplyed and im dealing with my longstanding hatred of myself. a process that is painful enough, and throw this on top and im at my wits end. i love him and i cant imagine my life without him. but this is really upsetting me.

how can a man say he loves his wife but still want a FFM threesome?