GlacialDrift

Listening to that song now, it's pretty good. But yeah, there's a lot of sadness in front of you, but that's not the only thing for your future. It's impossible to explain to a person in grief that things will get better (I know by experience), but I might as well try. Keep pushing on, keep living, stay strong. Don't lose yourself in this.

This could be it. Sure a man traditionally initiates in a sexual relationship, but sometimes it's great if the woman does it. If he wants more BDSM stuff, well, it might be time to consider your darkest fantasies. I know mine have been fulfilled with the best sex of my life with a committed partner.

Does this turn anyone else off? Sometimes I slow down for a bit (or whatever) and the question "why?" comes up and I have to think about it. This kills the mood for me as I search for the words to describe why I've done whatever. Do other people have this problem? I just can't think like a rational human being during sex, I just do it. If I have to think I lose it.

Moaning is great. Screaming is great. The louder the better in my opinion. It's all about the intensity of the moment. Unfortunately we live in a duplex and our neighbors are practically silent. Kinda awkward.

As a male, after I finish, it's tough to get into getting her off, much less going down on her. It's a sad fact for me. I might get her off ten times, but after I finish, it's time to sleep. However, my own ejaculate never really turned me off. She loves to make out after swallowing and I think it's hot too. It probably is a gay taboo thing for most guys - I could care less and think it's pretty hot. The mixture of juices during sex is so damn hot.

Making out does it for me if my wife isn't into it. As soon as her tongue gets involved I know it's on. So yeah, kiss her passionately (preferably after doing something "romantic" like making her dinner or taking her on a date or whatever) and say, "let's go to the bedroom." That always works for me. Alternatively you don't even have to go to the bedroom, but that's for another post.

As an uncut man, I can tell you that everything below the foreskin is Extremely sensitive. Typically I am Never totally "unraveled" during sex, and if I am, while it's intense, it's usually not as pleasureable (too much sensation!). But yeah, traditional foreplay doesn't do a lot for me either - it's more psychological. If my wife lays down next to me in a sexy nightie (or whatever they're called) while we're watching a movie I'll be ready to go in minutes. But all the kissing and caressing and tickling or whatever - it's just boring. If I'm hard I'm hard and ready to go. Keeping an erection for ten minutes of "foreplay" is tough. Though never underestimate the ability of a man to get sexually prepared (hard) again after losing it. Women will never understand how back and forth a man can be in a sexual situation.

way too much chick stuff, but, for anyone's information, female ejaculation is freakin hot, in my experiences.

It's weird how when we first got together we thought calling each other "baby" was sexist and demeaning. Now it's our favorite words for each other - it's sexual and cuddly endearing - perfect.

Yeah, it's hot. If my SO said it to me I would do as stated. Because she. Is. Mine.

I'm nearest to the door (I'm the male). Though she does tend to flop to the right (fortunately at this place).

The old adage is "men cheat because they think they can get away with it, women cheat because they're out of the relationship." Yes, it's sexist, but I think it's true here. I'm sorry, you're losing her. If you put your heart and your dominant male masculinity into it can you keep her? Yes, but it will never be the same. Sure, you'll have your companion, but so much will be overshadowed by this. It's so hard to comment on a relationship 25 years in the making, but you're asking, so I'm telling. You lost her - 2 options. Have a relatively loveless marriage or divorce and hope for something better. It's so hard, but I'm sorry, she's gone.

For getting in the mood: Ben Harper - Sexual Healing (of all the things that could make me go gay for one night, this is it) For enhancing the act: Sandstorm

Wife and I have discussed it, but it's really more trouble than it's worth for us. According to her having two women means far too many holes for just one penis. And there's no way anyone else is touching her. But yeah, it isn't cheating if both partners agree and understand one another. I mean, cheating refers to the lie that occurs.