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I also dated a married man that was "almost" divorced. He kept me a secret and strung me along for a long time. I supported him and we kept everything quiet and we continued to have sex and get emotionally involved with each other. Eventually he did get divorced and immediately dumped me because he said "I have never been single and I need to enjoy this time to date other people and I am afraid that I will resent you for my divorce!" I was devastated. It is hard, but you deserve someone who will want to be with you 100% of the time. Kristine

Lost, You seem like a pretty nice guy, even though you are BLIND!!! You deserve a lot better. Kristine

Get away fast! You can do a lot better. The disappearances are a big RED flag. Danger!

ok, maybe someone can give me some ideas. I am new to town and haven't met many people. I have met a cool guy that I enjoy hanging out with and he invites me to do things with him and I always have a good time. I don't find him attractive or interesting at all. I like hanging out with him and he is a good friend to have, but not romantically. The more we do stuff (go to bars, concerts, baseball games) I get the feeling that he thinks we are dating. I have dropped hints like saying things such as "Maybe there will be young single men there...." I haven't led him on or given him any false hope, but I think he likes me more than I like him. I don't want to hurt his feelings, how do I handle this situtation without coming across like I am using him? Kristine

Gabby82, Wow! Just like all the other responses, the problem is not you. I wish you luck and hopefully something can work out or change for the better. Keep us posted, you sound like a great gal trying to make a stressful and complicated situation better for everyone. Kristine

Thank you for the e-mail and for reading the articles. I have learned that you never find anything if you LOOK for it. But to answer your question, yes I am single and available and trying to meet men to date. Any suggestions? Why would you think I am not looking? Kristine

Lil Nymph- I have found that my comfort level makes a big difference when it comes to sex. If you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself, your body, your partner, whatever.....it makes the experience more satisfying. When you can really let go and enjoy yourself, your partner will notice. Sometimes it is hard to do that, you think about things that can distract you from the enjoyment. My stomach is fat, can he see my cellulite? Am I doing this right? I have to be to work early tomorrow....Did I shave my legs? Thoughts like those can take you away from the moment. There is also something to be said about not being comfortable enough with your partner. That is another issue entirely. Laugh and have fun and experiment and make sure your comfort level is where it should be. Try to relax and find what feels good to you and express that to him, he will appreciate it and make more of an effort because you are making an effort as well. Some of the best sex I have ever had involved a lot of laughing and akward moments, but I was comfortable and not self conscience at all. Kristine

Goofy, If there are issues right now with maturity, then they will probably continue. I don't think it is ever wise to stay in any situation that makes you unhappy. Think of all the great girls out there that deserve a cool guy like you!! Keep us posted. Kristine

That is hilarious! I will try the dirty fingernail trick next time. The man in question was a friend of my sister and since the article, he has told her is gay and they don't hang out much anymore. I am bummed because I really wanted to meet him. Kristine

I am back!!! Please check out my articles in the Dating and Relationship section. Please feel free to give me suggestions or ask questions. I look forward to hearing from you. Kristine

If she is into you, then she should understand the situation, but most women will avoid any stressful situation, especially in a new relationship. Living with your ex, even if she is cool, would qualify as a stressful situation. Find yourself some new digs and start over with the new girl. Good luck. Kristine