I know some of these posts are old, but I think they still apply and I find them interesting to read. I had a partner for a few months who loved using bondage on me and it was extremely exciting. think cuffs, spreader bars, and lots of fun toys. He had lots of hooks on the ceiling, a bed set up to a certain level. We experimented a lot. I met my second husband after we broke up, and he tried, but was very vanilla and very happy with that. He pleased me but just was not into the control thing.