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Gee Mykayla, tell us how you really feel! (JK) Sounds like this Julian is a whole lotta eye candy. It also sounds like between the new "Jenna's Velvet Jewels" and "Velvet Thrust" it could be a VERY interesting (not to mention, velvety!) evening! Thanks for the heads-up (pun intended)!!

Oooooo, me likes the looks of that.

Okay, what I was able to find after a google search, it is indeed a sexual position. The man is laying down, face up, and the woman is on top of him, also facing up supporting herself by her arms and legs with the torso area remaining elevated (picture the "crab walk" position we all used to do in elementary school). Sounds rather advanced and requiring a tremendous amount of arm and leg strength. So, there you go.

Regardless of whether this behaviour in your eyes is right or wrong, this is his mother. Mothers are sacred to their sons. He may agree with you 100% to your face, but, if he has any respect at all for his mom, he is not going to dis her to her face. I'm sorry to tell you this, but this is one argument, discussion, whatever you want to call it, you WILL NOT win. When my DH and I first married, my M-I-L was terribly critical of everything I did. From the house work to the cooking to the kids (think Marie from "Everybody Loves Raymond"). Okay, a slight exageration. She was more the quiet critical type. Tended to "cluck" alot (you know the thing with the tongue that says whatever your doing at the moment is so not the right thing-LOL). Anyway, when I would complain to the hubby, he would molify me, make nice with me, then say NOTHING to his mother. This was not an isolated thing to our marriage. It is rare the son that will attempt to correct their mother. (How do I know at this moment that Howard will absolutely respond to that statement? JK-Howard) Anyway, as I've aged, I've learned that you basically have to take these kind of things with a grain of salt. This is how she has always responded to him as a mother and you should also remember that, unfortunately and like it or not, you are a threat to that relationship at this time. I don't mean that in a nasty way, but rather she has always been the number one female in his life. There is competition for that affection now and she must have time to adjust to that. I know this all sounds incredibly unhealthy, but, as Howard stated, it is all very normal. I'm sure it isn't what you want to hear, it certainly wasn't what I would have wanted to be told at that time. But, look at this way, imagine what a loving grandmother she could be someday!

To answer your original question, yes, there is such a thing as an anal yeast infection. Yeast likes a warm, moist environment, be it the vagina or the rectum. Yeast is present in the GI tract which, of course, includes the rectum. This "intense" itching that you are describing would tend to lean more towards yeast than a possible healing abrasion or tear. Keep in mind also that yeast likes the various "sugars" that can be found in some lubricants (these can be listed several different ways in ingredient listings on the product). Keep this in mind for the future and check your lubricant to see if you are using one that possibly contains this as it can certainly make a nice food source for the yeast. The most important thing you can do at this point is to talk with your doctor about the problem and go with his recommendations. Remember, this is absolutely nothing that they haven't heard in the past so don't let embarrasment keep you from discussing this with them! Good luck to you.

I just can't narrow this down to one: 1. Shopping, shopping, shopping (for anything or anybody) 2. Mick's Oreo cheesecake 3. Hair salon for cut and color 4. Long, hot baths (alone or with my sweetie!) 5. Reading a really good book ALL day 6. Going to Vegas for a long weekend and spending a ridiculous amount on room service 7. While in Vegas, going to our usual adult store and spending about an hour looking, laughing and buying!

You know, the previous two posts are what I like most about this board. I don't mean to embarass ya'll, but, how great is it that we can get a response from both sides of a couple? Ya'll are two of the main reasons I read this board. You are so open and sharing with each other and with all of us. Thanks so much for that. (BTW, both of those post belong on the "sweetest thing" contest.) This is very hard for me to admit, but, the one thing I regret the most was early in our relationship I had some real problems with addiction. It wasn't alcohol or illegal substances but prescription meds. I had some accidents and health issues at that time and was prescibed pain meds and others that are highly addictive. I didn't know where to stop and things got out of hand. There were several of the meds that definitely affected by personality. To put it bluntly, I was a bitch. My DH never once made me feel alone or abandoned. He stuck with me through it all even when I was physically abusive to him once. He had every reason to leave me but didn't. I will spend the rest of my life making that up to him and showing him as much unconditional love as he showed me then, and has continued to ever since.

That's interesting Mikayla, I can smell Everclear a mile away. It does go down smooth, though (until it hits the tummy, then LOOK OUT). I make homemade limoncello with Everclear sometimes, vodka when I don't want it quite so strong, and I guess I'm just used to working with it but it has a very potent smell to me. Did you ever try pure grain alcohol? I mean the kind you buy back in the woods from guys named Bubba or Coot? Back in the day, that was one of our few choices because we were underage (not to mention stupid!) and it was cheaper than buying a six pack from the same guys. Curl your toes and, God, talk about a burn going down. Regardless, you are right, Everclear is the number one ingredient in the college "hunchpunch" (gotta love that Hawaiian punch and Everclear) and about put me on my ass one night. Typical frat party with barrells of the stuff and, sad to say, I was underage and didn't know any better. Found myself, just in the nick of time I might add, half naked with a guy that would have been very hard to live down at that college. He had slept with everyone and, I think, everyTHING in the county at one time or another. YUCK! Never, ever let that happen again to me.

Not sure how I missed your part of this post but when I did see it I had to go do a search on the lipstick vibrator. Man (or woman, as the case may be), I gotta get me one of these! That is too cool and what a turn on to know you have with you all the time and for ANY time that might arise. Hehehehe.

Oh, yes, yes, yes to the strawberries. This came about quite by accident though. We were staying in a really nice hotel in Vegas several years back and ordered room service breakfast. Strawberries were included with powdered sugar. Things got frisky and I reached over and just grabbed one and I think just laid in my belly button. One thing led to another and pretty soon we were eating strawberries off of each other from about any place you can imagine. Now, every time we stay in a hotel that offers room service (which we make a point of doing now!) we ALWAYS have strawberries with breakfast. Not much into chocolate though. I'm too much of a neat freak and can't stand being sticky (although I will tolerate whipped cream-go figure). I have always had a little fantasy involving bananas. Wonder what the DH would think of that!? Just might have to give that one a try before too long.

Having been in the medical field for years, I developed a latex allergy from the gloves. For probably 10+ years my hands stayed constantly inflammed and unbelievably not a single doctor I worked with could diagnose exactly what the problem was. The doctor I have worked with for the last 9 years was the first one to suggest a possible latex allergy. Started wearing vinyl gloves and haven't suffered a day since. One comment Glennbaker1 made about Astroglide caught my attention. Is their something in this product that can aggravate those with a latex allergy? I have used Astroglide for probably six months or more and haven't had any problems. I don't ever want to get back to the point I was at before so just thought I would ask. My DH and I are starting to explore anal, and seeing that I am something of a neat freak, I purchased some of the lambskin condoms for him to use. I agree with babeinwoods, using these will allow you to continue using the toys that you love (although it gets a little expensive as the lambskins are not cheap). It is amazing, when you start looking for it, how many products in everyday use contain latex. Just about anything rubber these days contains latex. A tremendous amount of medical supplies contain latex including IV tubing, syringes and so forth. We have started to carry latex free products for our patients who have this sensitivity. Some have allergies so severe, that simply breathing in the powder from the gloves can induce a violent reaction.

Joey 9817, you crack me up. Another idea is to try one of the newer razors that have come out that have the built-in "slick" strip. They are usually made with aloe or some other type skin protector. This helps to provide an additional skin protector and also to prevent irritation when adding pressure to get the last few "nubs". A couple of the ones I have tried are Gillette Venus and the Schick Quattro. They give an incredibly close shave without so much of the irritation.

My DH definitely knows I'm on here and posting. However, I will say he doesn't know that I have changed my id. I did this because I have shared this site with my adult children and I'm just not ready for them to be able to identify exactly who I am. He also gets on and reads the articles, but, as yet, hasn't posted. I can't really see him sharing on here because it just isn't his thing to speak out publicly about sex. I can't tell you how much this site has improved our sexual relationship. After 22 years, we were definitely in a rut and in the last year and a half this has COMPLETELY turned around. He is very receptive to the info that he reads and also to me sharing what I have learned. I will second the thanks to Mikayla and add Mikayla's Man, Howard, Tyger and the many others that take the time to share, encourage, teach, and, on occasion, call us on the bullshit we have spent a lifetime believing. It's uplifting to know that there are many others out there that have the same insecurities, fears and misconceptions and not one of us is alone in this crazy thing we call love.

Seeing that I'm only about 5'2" I can't really give the OP much help, BUT, am I the only one here that wants to comment on Joey9817? Come on ladies! This is a ladies man if I've ever heard one (and I mean that in the best possible sense). Your wife is one lucky lady to have you. I think there are many guys out there that could learn a tremendous amount if they shared the same attitude that you have. To your wife, from one very lucky lady (my DH shares a very similiar opinion about pleasing me) to another, hang on to this guy with both hands (and a couple of looonnnggg legs). BTW, Howard, I totally agree with you on the man's shirt thing. This past weekend on our little romantic escape, I did just that. I snuck one of his white dress shirts into my suitcase along with a pair of fuschia satin panties. I thought he was going to lose it before the fun ever got started! Try it ladies if you haven't ever done this (which I had not). He thought it was way hotter than some of the lacy, see-through stuff I have. For those of you like me, i.e. very short, it can make even the shortest legs look amazingly long. And to the OP, be very proud of that height. I would give anything for just a couple of those inches. Well, maybe not ANYthing. HA.

This isn't really "advice" but I had to relate a "what happened to me" story. This past w/end, the DH and I had a very nice romantic little get away. Stayed in a very nice hotel that provided HBO. Years ago we used to watch the show "Real Sex" and really enjoyed it so we were pleasantly surprised to find it on one night. One thing led to another and things started getting hot. My DH begins to play with my clit and instead of rubbing in circles as usual, he applies direct hard pressure without moving his finger around. Lo and behold, and to my great delight, I lit up like the fourth of July and off I went. He has never tried this before and I'm not sure what possessed him to try it that night, but, thank the good Man above he did. He tried it again the next day, but it didn't work the same and actually was quite uncomfortable. It was back to the light circular motion. Anyway, I guess the moral to the story is orgasming can take different things on different nights to accomplish. You are severely limiting yourself if you can only get off in one position. I found it easier to figure out the "how" by playing alone first then teaching my DH what works and what doesn't. Toys can be a huge help in this because there aren't too many positions that you can get into that you can't use some toy to move the process along. I was never able to orgasm doggy style with intercourse alone. And, on top of that, I am not a petite woman, so it was hard to reach the clit in this position. Out came the vibrator and, may I say, WOW. Cowgirl? it takes a cock ring with a mini bullet, and HELLO! Reverse cowgirl? the DH's finger works every time. Missionary? a small bullet. You get the idea. Very few women can orgasm through intercourse alone (Mikayla, I am soooo jealous of you!). It takes a little ingenuity and creativity, but it is possible, it may just take a different route than you are used to. Start thinking outside the box and it can be accomplished. Good luck to you.

Definitely love having the hair pulled. And I am in full agreement with Mikayla, while doing it doggy style is the best. I am letting my hair grow out after having it really short for 10+ years and I had forgotten how great it feels to have it pulled during sex. Also love the fisting of the hair when kissing as this really lets me know he is into it. Oh geez, getting hot now just thinking about it.

I'm guessing this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but, I also have to agree with the first two. Size doesn't matter to me either. It is definitely how you use what you have.

The cinnamon is also yummy!

Wow, what a way to follow through! I am really glad to hear you have been so proactive. Have fun with the "homework" she gives you. Some of it is meant to be fun and bring you closer together. Other parts are going to be difficult and as I said before, will take you out of your comfort zone. Remember, this is a process. The relationship didn't get to this point overnight and it's going to be a slow climb to the top. Be patient with him and, just as important, with yourself. There may be a few steps backwards to move forward. It appears you both are very interested in making this work. I wish you both the very best of luck.

I have bad allergies so the runny nose thing happens to me frequently. I wish there was a sure fire fix for it but there really isn't. I have tried nose sprays, antihistamines (which, BTW, can slightly reduce your ability to orgasm) and just about everything else you can think of with no success. I have, on occasion, had to stop the sucking (and the fucking on the rare occasion) and blow my nose! Not exactly sexy, but, my DH lives with me everyday and knows there just really isn't anything I can do about it. I take two different allergy meds and an asthma med everyday (yeah, you should try a blowjob while wheezing! I know, TMI). Anyway, I think most guys are understanding about this sort of thing. It's just another bodily function that happens to everyone so getting all worked up about it is kinda silly if you think about it. I used to get unbelievably embarassed about his kind of thing but I guess I was blessed with a really good egg and he is just interested in me being comfortable no matter what it takes. I wouldn't recommend taking the antihistamine if you are doing the bondage thing. Antihistamines, to a small degree, can slow your breathing. That and being gagged at the same time just don't sound like a whole lot of fun to me. Take care!

If both of you are truly interested in making things better, there is ALWAYS hope. Both of you being able to admit you can't do it on your own is a big step in the right direction. Now go follow through and do whatever it takes to make this work. That will certainly mean stepping outside of your own personal comfort zone but you know it's worth it. You wouldn't have married him otherwise and I think he probably feels the same.

I began reading your post and maybe half way into the first paragraph my first thought was "they so need counseling". I was then very glad to read that you both have already figured this out. We can tell you ad nauseum how to fix things but only a trained couselor can get to the root of the conflict and then help you to grow from there. Unfortunately, nobody tells you how unbelievably hard marriage will be. Oh sure, people will tell you it's "something you have to work at everyday", blah, blah, blah. This is true enough, but, nobody can tell you just exactly what that means. I can't tell you how unrealistic my idea of marriage was 22+ years ago when we were newlyweds. We seemed so compatible while dating, the sex was mind-blowing and I thought this would never end. And then we got married. What the f#*k?!? (These were my thoughts.) This man that I was so in love with became someone I felt like I had never met and he was thinking the same thing about me. We fought over the stupidest things, and, yes, every disagreement became an all out war with the little wrong things we had ever done to each other being fair game every fight. There isn't a couple out there that hasn't gone through this at some point in their marriage. Some after several years, others, like yourself, after only a few months. Believe it or not, this doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage is imminent. Counseling will help both of you to open up about what may be bothering you deep down (remember, rarely is a fight about the issue at hand, but, usually something much deeper than either of you realize). As you have found in the past, a couselor can truly be a moderator (or referee, if you will) and can make sure each of you are able to discuss issues in a way that you actually hear what the other is saying. This rarely can be accomplished in the heat of battle. Just a few counseling sessions aren't going to be enough to "fix" things. This needs to be ongoing for many months. Counseling isn't just about getting the bad stuff out in the open. It is also about teaching each of you a new way to relate to each other, how to find peace with each other and how to then grow as a couple. They will teach you how to disagree fairly, constuctively, and, believe it or not, lovingly. Once you learn to relate to each other again, it will be amazing to you how all areas of your relationship will improve. Good luck to you both and hang in there. Your feelings for each other are deep enough to have brought you this far. With direction and guidance, you can get back to that level of intimacy, closeness and love you once felt for each other.

Wow, Tyger, I............well.......just WOW. (You know you are gonna get it from Howard over that one!) BUT, I get your point and agree. To be an effective teacher you must be able to admit you don't know it all, not ever! You must still be able to LEARN. Howard, as much as I respect your many opinions and agree with you on some, I have to say you cannot lump all children into one category. I have three kids and each of them are completely different in how they react to parenting decisions. My oldest will consider, then question, then do it his way anyway. Fortunately he has a sensible head on his shoulders and thinks things through reasonably. My middle child, a daughter, really listens and takes to heart EVERYTHING I say, which really keeps me on my toes. I have to always be on my game with her because she forgets nothing and takes everything very literally. My youngest, well, he is a challenge. Questions everything, which in and of itself is not bad, but can also come across as quite disrespectful. He requires a much firmer hand than the other two. But he is also exceptionally intelligent and can see through any BS. How would I handle the vibrator/dildo issue? I truly do not know. I do feel 14 is too young, but that then sets up the question what is old enough? That answer changes with each child and with each parent. There is no "pat" right or wrong answer. As has previously been said, only the parent knows what is right for their child. Unfortunately, there are alot of parents out there that have no clue what is going on with their child. We, as parents, will make mistakes, we will give wrong advice, we will regret not being proactive over something, and at other times making too big an issue out of something. You can only do what you think is right at that moment in that time and hope for the best. This sounds very cavalier, but that is what parenting boils down to. What was right for my generation is not necessarily right for todays kids or will be right for their kids. It's all a big guessing game and you do the best you can with the info you have at hand. Well, that was probably a whole lot of nothing (and certainly didn't answer the original question) but it was what came to mind.

Excellent advice Howard. It is absolutely true that you do not have to take him all the way in the first time. It took us probably about a week before I could take him completely. Definitely you on top as others have already said. This in and of itself took some getting used to as we (okay, ME) had not done a whole lot of exploring before and I was still very self-conscious of him seeing all there was to see. You are definitely on display in this position. Just relax as much as possible and as others have said, make sure there is LOTS of foreplay and plenty of lube. Can I also add, you are young, you have a whole lifetime ahead of you. Your first time is something you never forget. If you can't make it special (that is, don't do it in the back seat of a car or hidden away somewhere that can get you into trouble) then wait. I know, it's not what you asked, but, the mom in me is coming out and I am telling you essentially the same thing I told my 18 yo daughter. As I'm sure you have already thought of, this decision is forever, no taking it back. Make it something you can look back on and remember fondly, not just sweaty and in the moment. Sorry, I will get off the soapbox now.

I'll also throw something in here as well. My DH is 45 and in constant fear of his ability to get it up and keep it up not working properly. When he starts this it is like a challenge to me to prove him "fit". I have found that if I get him off quickly the first time, i.e. blow job or hand job, then he can really sustain for a while. Usually he can go for a third if I keep at him. Remember too, it is as much the build up for guys as it is the getting off. Let him get you off, then take him to the brink and back off. You go again, and then him back to the brink, etc. We have found movies (porn) helps tremendously in helping him get hard again. Start one when you start playing and keep it going the entire time. On the first wind down, between me and the porn, we can usually keep him from ever really getting soft. Now, admittedly, this doesn't work everytime. Once, sometimes, is all either of us can manage. The coming toys should also help with this mission. Nothing can get me going again faster than a bullet or a g-spot toy. (I can hit a g-spot in record time now with the "g-spot vibe" sold here on tootimid.) I know, I know, this is supposed to be about him! Keep at it (and him) and it will amaze you what you are capable of. I don't think my DH has ever gone more than three at one session. Wow, maybe this will be my own personal challenge!