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my wife is a true exhibitionist and poses outdoors for pictures all the time i am a voyeur 39 years married and still going strong we live by woodstock ny if your close by let us know

My wife loves riding topless

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The guest for my birthday party were starting to leave Karen came over to me and told me she has one more gift to give me after everyone leaves I thought she was talking about a love making session before we went to sleep. As waited and waited as each guest would slowly get up and say their good-byes. Karen’s Friend was the last to leave she stopped long enough to give me a kiss that was a little more passionate then her normal peck. When she left I told Karen about the Kiss and said I think she had a little too much to drink and hoped she got home ok. Karen smiled and said she would be ok. She then asked if I was ready for my last birthday gift. I quickly said yes knowing it was going to be a fun time in the bed room. Karen took me by my hand and told me to close my eyes as she lead me down the hallway to our bed room when we got to the bedroom Karen said to keep my eyes closed as she started to undress me. She ran her hands over my chest as she was kissing me. When I was completely undressed she pulled me down to the bed saying keep your eyes closed. Karen was slowly pulling my hands over my head all the time running one of her hands up and down a cock giving me a very slow hand job. Next thing I knew was that my right hand was cuffed to the bedpost opening my eyes I looked and seen Karen had got a bondage kit and had the bed setup to cuff me down Karen smiled and said you always use rope to tie me down and I don’t know how to do that to you. I allowed Karen to finish cuffing my hands and feet to the bed. She then reached into the nightstand and took out a black hood telling me that it was for my head. After the hood was on I could hear her raffling through the draws of the dresser. Damn she exclaimed it must be in the other room I will be back, just lay there. Karen came back in to the room and said ok ready for your gift. I said I can’t wait to see what you’re going to do now. Karen started to kiss my chest slowly working her way down. Her mouth came into contact with my manhood and she started to give me a blow job while she was giving me a blow I knew some thing was different. The feeling was just not the same but I could not put my finger on it. As soon as climaxed I told Karen to untie me. Karen said not just yet. I could feel the bed moved has she straddled me reaching for my cock she guided me into her. When her full weight came down on me I knew it was not my wife but someone else. I asked who it was and Karen just started to laugh. Undoing the cuffs starting with the feet she said don’t remove the hood until I say so As soon as my hands were free I reached out to the person who was fucking my real slow her tits were very large. I then knew it had to be her Friend Debbie. Karen took the hood off showing me that it was in fact her Friend. Debbie continued to ride my cock while Karen sat on my face. Her moist cunt was dripping with her own excitement. it did not take long for Karen and I both to climax. Debbie on the hand had not climax yet. Karen went to the dresser and took out a vibrator and handed it to me. I laid Debbie down and used the cuffs on her. Has I took the vibrator and pinched her clit between one finger and the vibrator Debbie started to moan. Karen laid down and held her Friend allowing her hands to rub across Debbie’s breast. Debbie said kiss me please. Karen undid the cuffs holding Debbie’s hands. Both Debbie and Karen held each other running their hands and lips over each others breast and neck. It did not take long for Debbie to climax. We all feel asleep cuddled up to each other exhausted from a fantastic birthday party.

This is the story of my wife and I taking our first steps towards a much wilder and open sex life. My wife Karen has a great body and a really nice tit's and shortly after we were married I started encouraging her to show it off, by wearing more reviling clothing one night a friend was at our house till sometime around midnight karen was wearing a very low-cut blouse with no bra I caught paul trying to get a better look a couple of times. When I had the chance, I told Karen he was trying to see down her blouse all she did was smile and said “oh” Karen went to the kitchen to get snacks for us and when she returned I noticed that she had undone one more button on the already low cut blouse now from the side you could see the start of her nipples and they were standing out. after paul had left we talked about the show he must of seen karen got a real charge out of knowing he was looking and that night and the next morning she was a wild cat in bed over the next few days we talked about the show paul must have seen and I could tell she always got excited thinking about it I talked to her about how much she wanted to show paul and she always smiled and said we will see the next time paul come over it was about 9 at night and karen true to form was making sure he got a peek here and there. I made up my mind to make sure that paul got the best view of his life around midnight I told karen, me and paul were going out for a few drinks and I would be back in an hour or two told paul I would be right out after I tucked my wife in to bed earlier i had made sure that the bedroom blinds were open the bedroom window faced the driveway parking area as soon as he went to the car i took karen into the bedroom and stood with her helping her undress slowly running my hands over her breast and butt before i turned out the light the next day paul came back to the house and and asked me when the next show was when he left i told karen he let me know he seen her undressing last night and every time we would make love i would open the shades a little bit telling her that we may get caught again. pauls birthday was coming up and we then decided to setup our friend to get a better look we invited him over for a birthday dinner The day of the dinner karen got dressed in a short tight skirt and nice shirt She looked at herself from different angles in the mirror before deciding that she would unfasten one more button. The shirt wasn't transparent by any means, but it would be obvious to anyone that she wasn't wearing a bra and she was showing a nice amount of cleavage. she asked me how she looked and the only thing i said was i could see her panty lines in that skirt she lifted the skirt and remove her panties. Paul showed up at the house a little bit early and karen was still cleaning up the living room as she used the vacuum she would bend at the waist to get under the chairs and coffee table giving paul a nice view of her behind She always got along well with paul but it was pretty clear she was getting more attention than usual from him and the bulge in his pant’s said it all. Karen was amazed at pauls reaction. I dared her to undo a few more buttons on her shirt. She undid one button on her next trip to the bathroom. From the right angle paul could see a nice amount of side boob and when she bent over her shirt would billow open giving look at her lovely breasts hanging down. After dinner we went back to the living room were Karen served us cake and coffee She sat on the couch next to paul and when he was looking a different direction she undid one more button of her blouse Her nipples were now halfway exposed and paul notice right away He put his arms around Karen’s waist and would move the fabric back causing Karen's breast to completely show He sat there looking down at her breast and when Karen caught him looking She unbuttoned her shirt completely. Paul would hold Karen and allow his hand to accidentally slide over her breast every time karen would move. karen would smile and lean forward pressing her breast into his hand. At the time I wasn't sure how far Karen would take this new interest in exhibitionism, but I was ready to let her take it as far as she wanted as long as I was along for the ride. the following week Karen told me to ask paul to stop by the house around 8pm. karen waited for paul as paul pulled into the driveway karen ran to the bathroom before he got into the house i took our paul into the kitchen which was next to the bathroom and waited for karen knowing what she was planning karen walked out of the bathroom with towel over her head drying her hair paul was sitting facing the bathroom door and i was sitting with my back to it he got a full view of karen karen said oh well too late to do anything about it now you seen all of me she went and sat down at the table by his side stopping long enough to give him a hug and kiss after a short time we returned the living room karen again sat with paul on the couch and when i got up to go to the bathroom karen took pauls hand and placed it on her breast as she rub his manhood through his pants. when i returned paul pulled away from Karen karen just keep rubbing him through his pants i could see that she was getting very wet and excited i sat down next to her and started rubbing her clit she undid pauls pants and slowly started to kiss and rub him her body jerked as i brought her to a climax she let out a moan she then pushed me away and got on top of paul allow his dick to rub the outside of her that was all it took paul shot his load over her belly. Karen stood up and took paul by the hand and lead him back to the bathroom she undressed paul and got into the shower with him she took the soap and washed his chest using herself as the washcloth slowly rubbing her breast all over him It did not take paul very long to get hard again he lifted Karen up and held her just over the top of his dick slowly lowering her down on to it Karen let out a small moan of approval and kissed paul paul slid into Karen with ease Karen responded by moving with him Paul came quickly and held onto Karen pulling her into him When they got out of the shower Karen turned speaking to me and said your turn and walked into the bedroom I put down the camera and when into the bed with her Karen took me in her arms and started to kiss my chest and slowly moved down I laid there enjoying the attention she was giving me she took me into her mouth and started to give me what would turn out to be the best blow job of our marriage paul joined us in bed using his hand and bringing Karen to 3 more climaxes As soon as paul left we went back to bed Karen had no intentions of letting me sleep she started rubbing and kissing me making sure I was ready for more action as soon as I was hard she climbed on top of me she move with incredible speed up and down taking all of me in within a few minutes she let out a scream as she climaxed falling face down on me allowing me to control the speed of or love making we both came almost at the same time she fell a sleep with me still in her total exhausted The following morning we talked about the activities of the night and it was agreed that I could look for more ways for her to show off her only rule is I cannot tell her if I setup the meetings or if they are accidental she enjoys thinking that they are accidental

This is the story of my wife and I taking our first steps towards a much wilder and open sex life. My wife Karen has a great body and a really nice tit's and shortly after we were married I started encouraging her to show it off, by wearing more reviling clothing one night a friend was at our house till sometime around midnight karen was wearing a very low-cut blouse with no bra I caught paul trying to get a better look a couple of times. When I had the chance, I told Karen he was trying to see down her blouse all she did was smile and said “oh” Karen went to the kitchen to get snacks for us and when she returned I noticed that she had undone one more button on the already low cut blouse now from the side you could see the start of her nipples and they were standing out. after paul had left we talked about the show he must of seen karen got a real charge out of knowing he was looking and that night and the next morning she was a wild cat in bed over the next few days we talked about the show paul must have seen and I could tell she always got excited thinking about it I talked to her about how much she wanted to show paul and she always smiled and said we will see the next time paul come over it was about 9 at night and karen true to form was making sure he got a peek here and there. I made up my mind to make sure that paul got the best view of his life around midnight I told karen, me and paul were going out for a few drinks and I would be back in an hour or two told paul I would be right out after I tucked my wife in to bed earlier i had made sure that the bedroom blinds were open the bedroom window faced the driveway parking area as soon as he went to the car i took karen into the bedroom and stood with her helping her undress slowly running my hands over her breast and butt before i turned out the light the next day paul came back to the house and and asked me when the next show was when he left i told karen he let me know he seen her undressing last night and every time we would make love i would open the shades a little bit telling her that we may get caught again. pauls birthday was coming up and we then decided to setup our friend to get a better look we invited him over for a birthday dinner The day of the dinner karen got dressed in a short tight skirt and nice shirt She looked at herself from different angles in the mirror before deciding that she would unfasten one more button. The shirt wasn't transparent by any means, but it would be obvious to anyone that she wasn't wearing a bra and she was showing a nice amount of cleavage. she asked me how she looked and the only thing i said was i could see her panty lines in that skirt she lifted the skirt and remove her panties. Paul showed up at the house a little bit early and karen was still cleaning up the living room as she used the vacuum she would bend at the waist to get under the chairs and coffee table giving paul a nice view of her behind She always got along well with paul but it was pretty clear she was getting more attention than usual from him and the bulge in his pant’s said it all. Karen was amazed at pauls reaction. I dared her to undo a few more buttons on her shirt. She undid one button on her next trip to the bathroom. From the right angle paul could see a nice amount of side boob and when she bent over her shirt would billow open giving look at her lovely breasts hanging down. After dinner we went back to the living room were Karen served us cake and coffee She sat on the couch next to paul and when he was looking a different direction she undid one more button of her blouse Her nipples were now halfway exposed and paul notice right away He put his arms around Karen’s waist and would move the fabric back causing Karen's breast to completely show He sat there looking down at her breast and when Karen caught him looking She unbuttoned her shirt completely. Paul would hold Karen and allow his hand to accidentally slide over her breast every time karen would move. karen would smile and lean forward pressing her breast into his hand. At the time I wasn't sure how far Karen would take this new interest in exhibitionism, but I was ready to let her take it as far as she wanted as long as I was along for the ride. the following week Karen told me to ask paul to stop by the house around 8pm. karen waited for paul as paul pulled into the driveway karen ran to the bathroom before he got into the house i took our paul into the kitchen which was next to the bathroom and waited for karen knowing what she was planning karen walked out of the bathroom with towel over her head drying her hair paul was sitting facing the bathroom door and i was sitting with my back to it he got a full view of karen karen said oh well too late to do anything about it now you seen all of me she went and sat down at the table by his side stopping long enough to give him a hug and kiss after a short time we returned the living room karen again sat with paul on the couch and when i got up to go to the bathroom karen took pauls hand and placed it on her breast as she rub his manhood through his pants. when i returned paul pulled away from Karen karen just keep rubbing him through his pants i could see that she was getting very wet and excited i sat down next to her and started rubbing her clit she undid pauls pants and slowly started to kiss and rub him her body jerked as i brought her to a climax she let out a moan she then pushed me away and got on top of paul allow his dick to rub the outside of her that was all it took paul shot his load over her belly. Karen stood up and took paul by the hand and lead him back to the bathroom she undressed paul and got into the shower with him she took the soap and washed his chest using herself as the washcloth slowly rubbing her breast all over him It did not take paul very long to get hard again he lifted Karen up and held her just over the top of his dick slowly lowering her down on to it Karen let out a small moan of approval and kissed paul paul slid into Karen with ease Karen responded by moving with him Paul came quickly and held onto Karen pulling her into him When they got out of the shower Karen turned speaking to me and said your turn and walked into the bedroom I put down the camera and when into the bed with her Karen took me in her arms and started to kiss my chest and slowly moved down I laid there enjoying the attention she was giving me she took me into her mouth and started to give me what would turn out to be the best blow job of our marriage paul joined us in bed using his hand and bringing Karen to 3 more climaxes As soon as paul left we went back to bed Karen had no intentions of letting me sleep she started rubbing and kissing me making sure I was ready for more action as soon as I was hard she climbed on top of me she move with incredible speed up and down taking all of me in within a few minutes she let out a scream as she climaxed falling face down on me allowing me to control the speed of or love making we both came almost at the same time she fell a sleep with me still in her total exhausted The following morning we talked about the activities of the night and it was agreed that I could look for more ways for her to show off her only rule is I cannot tell her if I setup the meetings or if they are accidental she enjoys thinking that they are accidental

whole lot of factors effect the time you can last age is a real big factor (at 71 i last for the better part of an hour or more)

One morning Karen said we should go fishing to one of our remote spots The summer was in its height and as it turned out it was a bit of a heat wave. I encouraged Karen to wear her skimpiest clothes. when we arrived I setup the fishing poles and laid out the blanket for Karen. As she lay in the sun reading a book. She undid her blouse just enough so that standing to one side I could see her breast It was not long before two Guys showed up and set up their gear just a short distances from us They seemed to spend most of their time drinking and smoking. I noticed that they used any excuse to pass our fishing spot to get a look at Karen as she Laid there reading. The weather got hotter and I suggested to she should undo a few more buttons on her blouse. I was delighted when she agreed. She looked great laying there with blouse almost completely undone and her legs parted just slightly. Wisps of her pubic hair peeked out between her legs (she did not wear any pannties) One of the guys was walking past and caught a glimpse of Karen laying half naked in the sun. I watched as he walked back to tell his buddy. My mind was racing. I knew the guys were interested in Karen. Would they actually do anything about it or would it be all look and no play. I decided to walk back out to the car using the excuse I forgot my smokes. I went past the guy's fishing spot and stopped for a chat. When I got back Karen was sitting up talking with one of the guys with her blouse completely open I knew Karen was getting turned on by the guy sitting there looking at her breast. Karen Nipples were fully erect. I stopped just long enough to give her a kiss and grab one breast then went back to my poles. The guy offered some suntan oil to Karen and she accepted the bottle. Karen took the bottle and and removed her blouse She rubbed the oil over her breast and neck. As she handed the bottle back the Guy asked her if he should put any on her back and Karen quickly said yes please. The guy started to rub the oil on her back and allowed his hands to wonder along her side. With each pass his hands would travel toward her breast until they were touching the sides. The guys bulge in his pants told me he was excited by Karen. Karen most of noticed also because each time his hand would get close to her breast she would turn and his hand would then rub over her nipples. That was all the guy needed, he reached around her grabbing both breast in his hands. Karen laid back down on her blanket allowing the guy to add more oil to her breast. Now the guys Friend noticed what was going on and came over to watch. Karen looked up at him and said “my legs could use some suntan lotion”. The new Guy grabbed the bottle and started to rub the oil on her legs. his hand reaching up under her short dress. Karen started to moan has his hand rubbed under her dress. she quickly lifted her dress up over her belly allowing full access. Now both guys were rubbing their hands all over Karen as she lay completely exposed. Karen reached over to the guy that was rubbing her breast, undoing his zipper. She reached in and took out his manhood and started to give him a hand job. The guy stood up removing his pants and then kneeled on the blanket and Karen pulled him by his manhood up to where she could use her mouth. She started to slowly lick his dick and with each lick she would take it in to her mouth just a little more each time. The other guy was now placing two fingers inside of Karen and all of a sudden Karen removed her mouth to let out a moan as her hips rose up telling me she had just had her first climax. The guy jumped and yelled she is a squirter!!! Karen then continued to give the first guy a blowjob while using her hand on the second guy. It did not take long before both guys exploded covering her face and belly with their cum. As we packed or gear into the car the guys asked when we would be back to this spot . Karen replied we never knew we just show up. On the drive home I asked Karen if she enjoyed herself. Karen smiled and said we need to do this more often having sex with a stranger was the most exciting thing she has ever done. Her hand slid over between my legs as she said we need to get home so we could finish what was started. so now I try to make sure someone meets us at one of our fishing spots.

She loves getting caught nude or topless by others and we often go out to public places where she can "put on a show". Problem with that is in the winter it gets real cold, too cold for more then a few minutes nude or topless. This problem was solved by us going to our local adult store. The adult stores in New York do not have "glory holes", but they do have video booths. Here is the story of our first time visiting the adult store. It was mid week and Karen wanted to go some where to show off and make out. The temperature was in the low teens so a suggested we try the adult store Saying she could have her blouse undone enough to just expose her breast and maybe we could find something to buy. Karen was a little nervous saying that the store maybe a little too busy. so i said that if we went just after lunch that there would not be many if any people there. Karen put on her favorite red body dress one that fully unzipped in the front. Smiled and said lets go. We arrived around 1 and the parking lot had just two cars. as we entered the store Karen opened her coat and undid her dress so that her breast was almost completely exposed. Karen walked around the store looking at just about everything they had, while i walked at a short distance away. When she got to the locked display of the personal lubricants the store clerk came over and asked if she needed help. Karen asked questions about the different lubes while she made sure the clerk was getting a full view of her breast. She even unzipped the dress a bit more so that when she moved her breast would get uncovered. Karen picked out a flavored lube and paid for it. Karen stood at the counter talking with the clerk for what seemed to be a long time. as i approached i heard the clerk telling Karen about a video that was just uploaded in the booths Karen turned to me and asked if i wanted to watch the video and of course i said yes. As we watched the movie, I could feel my cock getting harder as she sat on my lap. I unzipped her dress started to rub her tits. Slowly slid My cock into her. She moaned softly as I pushed deeper into Her. I spread her legs wide as she rode my cock reverse cowgirl. Karen started to moan. i reached around and was rubbing her clit. the door to the video booth we were in was slightly ajar and i saw the store clerk standing at the entrance to our booth, I wasn’t sure what to think. The clerk had a stern look on his face and he didn’t seem happy about finding us fucking in his store. My body went flush with embarrassment as my mind raced to find something to say to the store clerk. I was desperate to explain away the sex that he was witnessing. Before I could get a word out, Karen said: “Don’t just stand there, get your cock out and join us.” The clerk smiled as he unzipped his pants and pulled his cock out. Without hesitation, Karen opened her mouth and took the clerk’s fat 8-inch cock down her throat. Having two cocks in her turned me on in ways I didn’t think were possible. It was not to long before Karen’s pussy exploded with cum, soaking my cock. The clerk’s stiff cock throbbing in her throat almost simultaneously, As she swallowed his load. The clerk pulled his cock out of her mouth and went back to work at the front of the store.. We left the store knowing that we had just added another chapter to our crazy sex life. we will be going back and if you are in the Kingston ny area let us know just maybe we can meet up at the adult store..

OK! You love the Thought of swinging. You find it lots of fun, fulfilling and exciting. You have been trying to get your spouse into the lifestyle for years and each time they were hesitant because they didn't think the lifestyle was for them. Well, they finally agreed to give it a try and you both had a great time… so it seemed. After your evening with a hot and sexy couple, your partner confesses to you that deep down they didn't like it all that much. They felt really uncomfortable, quite awkward, and just plain out of place. The only reason they did it was to get you to stop bugging them about it. They said that you have been pressuring them for so long that they figured that this was the only way to satisfy you once and for all. Your attitude is that you had a great time and like it or not, you are going to be swingers and your partner just better get used to it. This happens a lot in swinging. Many times, it's the husband that introduces the wife to the prospect of swinging. Some wives are eager to try it and others dead set against it. First of all, you must keep in mind that swinging is not for everyone. Before you try to convince your partner to swing you first need to look at yourself and ask yourself why you want to swing. If the only reason you want to swing is so that you can "get more action", then you shouldn't even bother. That is not what this lifestyle is about. You must determine whether your partner can handle swinging, even if he or she is interested. If you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others then you can start looking at how to convince your partner. Your partner is no different than anyone else who would want to please you. If you ask them the same thing over and over again it won't be long before they give in and do what they can to try to accommodate your requests. If they are really not ready to swing you should not pressure them. That is why communication is so important in a relationship in this lifestyle. It could be really embarrassing if you attended a club and a hot couple wants to hook up with you two and one of you is an eager beaver and the other hates it. Sometimes a situation like this can cause more trouble than it's worth. Many wives and girlfriends go to clubs for the sole purpose of pleasing their husbands or boyfriends. They don't particularly like the idea of swinging or even enjoy it. They basically give in just to keep the peace and to keep him happy. You should avoid a situation like this at all costs. Risking your relationship just isn't worth it. If swinging is something that you both want to do you may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing -- all you have to do is let them know that you want to try it. The first thing you need to do is talk about your fantasies. Yes talk! I cannot stress how very important it is to communicate with your partner. If they really love you they will listen. Be open to answer any question that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to try swinging. Take your time -- it takes time to become comfortable with the whole idea. At one point you have to ask it, "What about if we give it a try?" If your partner is adamant and say's "No Way!", then back off. Pushing them will get you nowhere and pressuring them to go will eventually destroy your relationship. After some time you can mention your fantasies to him/her while talking some more about it. Maybe you can talk them into going just to watch at first and just to meet people. It may take several months, but if you can get your partner turned on you are moving in the right direction. Don't forget, swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it can make a good one that much better. One of the questions I see a lot is ‘How to get my partner to swing?’ or ‘How do I get my spouse into wife sharing. Although the question is mainly asked by men wanting their wife to swing with them it isn’t exclusively that way. I believe the below applies to all people who want to swing with their partners but I am going to talk about the subject from the viewpoint of a husband wanting to share his wife. The approach It’s all in the question I can usually tell how a person is approaching things by the way they phrase the question in rooms and I get frustrated when I see the question phrased ‘How can I convince my wife to swing’ or ‘How can I make my wife swing’. I feel the person asking is thinking of it the wrong way and doesn’t stand a chance of introducing their partner to swinging without a struggle. They are talking like they feel their partner needs to be forced/tricked into it or told to do for them. You need to introduce swinging to your partner by encouraging her to have an open mind and emphasizing the benefits and all the fun bits. Also if you acknowledge that you know there are pitfalls you will show that you have thought about the problems and have some plans in mind on how you are going to avoid or at least lessen the chances of the problems arising. So how to approach the subject I don’t think there is an approach guaranteed to work, and I think when first approached there is nearly always going to be a step back while the other person thinks about it, unless it turns out that they have been considering bringing the subject up themselves. However there are ways of approaching the subject of swinging that shouldn’t rock the relationship too much. Sounding out. I feel you should always get a feel on your spouse’s opinion on swinging in general first to see if they have any moral issues or practical queries towards swinging. Draw their attention to a news article on a swinging couple or a TV series just to gauge where they stand on swinging without suggesting that you join the swinging community. If you and your partner watch porn together, maybe look up a site that has videos of swinging parties as a change from your normal favorite naughty videos. If they react with interest and don’t seem to have any issues with swinging in general I think you stand a good chance of introducing the subject as something you would like to look into as a couple and being successful. If they have any kind of moral issue you have a harder task ahead and I think that goes beyond the scope of this article as sometimes moral values run deep, there are just some people who would never see swinging as anything less than cheating and wrong. Introducing the idea. Next step is to introduce the idea of swinging as something you want to do with your partner as a couple. This can be tricky even if there are no issues with the concept of swinging as it now something that might happen in real life. One option is to point out a nice looking couple while you are out one night and start discussing and fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with them. This will open up the discussion and will let her think about the prospect for a while with an actual picture of what it is like without putting pressure on her to commit to joining in with swinging. Common issues and why I don’t see them really being an obstacle. Jealousy: I’m going to put worrying about being jealous as the first on the list as not only is it a common issue, but it is often a huge block on the road to swinging and hard to get around. Yes there might be that odd fleeting feeling, but if both of you are playing and having fun, you will be too busy enjoying yourself to let the thought take hold and I haven’t felt anything that hasn’t passed by the time the play date is over. You go home with your partner and nothing has changed, the more this happens the more you realize that jealousy isn’t going to be a big problem for you. Feeling inadequate: Another common issue I have heard is the feeling that you are not enough when your partner has suggested swinging. You can help sort out any fears by showing and demonstrating regularly over time that you still find your partner the sexiest and most attractive and don’t forget to play with each other as well as the other couples when on swinging dates, that way it is more likely to feel like it is something you are doing together as a couple instead of something you do and they do separately. Easy way to look for someone else: Another common issue I have heard is that they feel their partner wants to use swinging as a way to find someone else and will leave them as soon as they have. Again all you can do here is show how much you love your partner and how they are the most important person to you and stress that it is not the reason for wanting to swing/wife share it is something that you have to show and let your partner feel. Feeling disloyal: I have also heard, from women, that one of the issues they have is that they feel wrong thinking about men other than their husbands in a sexual way. You are not being disloyal or cheating as your other half is in the same room as you, totally aware of what you are doing and up to fun stuff themselves. Being outed: We know a few couples who are worried about being seen by friends/family or work college. Even to the extent they only want to meet travelling couples or expats, as they feel this minimises the risk of meeting someone they know. The way I see it is if they are at a party you are at, then they are swingers as well, so firstly will probably be open minded enough not to feel too shocked to see you there, and secondly probably won’t want the fact that they are swingers themselves broadcasted. It is unlikely to go any further and will probably only be awkward for the first 10 mins or so while you get around the ‘oh fancy seeing you here’. here is a fast list to follow 1. Be very sociable. Remain in the company of many friends. This ensures that your girlfriend feels comfortable around others. The longer you socialize, the closer and more intimate your relationships will be. Try to meet others who have experimented or have a similar swinging lifestyle. 2. Do not forget to compliment your girlfriend. Although your end goal is to get her to become a swinger, you must not forget to make her feel special and beautiful. One of the biggest reasons why women will not experiment, is because of insecurities. Tell her that she is sexy and that the experience would heighten your sexuality and enhance your relationship. 3. Educate her on exactly what a swinger is. When trying to convince your wife or girlfriend to become a swinger, do not hide facts or try to trick your girlfriend into having sex with others. Being up front is always the best way to go. If she is tricked into doing this act, she will likely never do it again and you will fail at your endeavors. Let your girlfriend know your wishes, fantasies, desires and preferences, and give her time to ease into the lifestyle transitions. 4. Do not try to find intimate partners on your own when trying to get your wife or girlfriend to become a swinger. If you feel like she may have reservations about becoming a swinger, let her make friends on her own. Often, women will be more adventurous when they feel like they are in control of their own body and mind. Being manipulative or aggressive isn't always the best answer. Getting your wife or girlfriend to become a swinger always sounds so exciting. But, if this is done the wrong way, you may lose any chance you have at enjoying this lifestyle with her. In fact, many women who have been coerced too strongly into this lifestyle often refuse, but end up enjoying it with someone else who allowed them the freedom to choose if this was the right lifestyle for them.