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I believe it is a great idea. I though use Microsoft word and make links to all the products on my wish list, so I don't forget which ones. That way if my hubby feels like getting on the computer, which he does quite often and browes and types documents for work he sees my file named wish list and he can see all the things I have wished for.

Amethyst, I have to say your last post I think you kinda answered some of this question yourself and just didn't notice. You said that at times he is just not in the mood. Well as I was reading you stated that his last relationship was just physical, and he doesn't want this one to end up that way. I think that statement there says alot. He may not be in the mood, in fear of this relationship turning into just a physical one. As far as having sex a couple times during one day and him saying after that, his penis is sore it could be from the friction, more lube. I mean I could be totally off base here but just giving you my insight. When anyone and not just men, have something on there mind that is bothering them, whether they are aware of it at the time or not can make them not want or be in the mood for sex. You never know in the back of his mind, although your relationship with him is not completely physical, he may be thinking if we keep going like this it may turn into nothing but a physical relationship. I also of course agree with Howards post, as for as the fear in the topics that need to be discussed. Honestly I would talk with him, I know you have said that you all talk which is wonderful, but have you ever sat down and told him that you want this relationship to be full oflove and understanding and that the last thing you would want to happen in your relationship with him is for it to be just physical. Maybe him hearing that from you might help to. These are just a few of my thoughts Keep us posted and good luck

Well Amethyst, I have to say I put alot of my trust in Mikaylas reviews when toy shopping although I don't have this one it is in your price range and she has written a great review. Heck for 10.00 dollars it is a heck of a deal. http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3475 Now I have this one and it rocks and packs a heck of a vibe with it. So I hope these two help. I am sure others will have some more listed. I know there are alot and it can get just get to be to much at times with shopping for bullets since there are so many. http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4998

I have to say you will love them both very much. I have purchased both of them, well I should say purchased the one and only paid shipping on the other. Hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

I LOVE my hair pulled whether during kissing or doggie style it seems to have more of an effect.

Hey Bondagejunkie, I am right there with you! Howard is the man, after I tried the morning thing in the shower with my hubby, I called him threw out the day, and well thanked him and teased him and sort of as he would state, tortured him in a good way. Told him how great he made me feel and I was already wet thinking about him today and I couldn't wait for him to get home. Amazing the little things that spice up a relationship!!!!!

Valntyn, you didn't put words in my mouth That is what I was thinking. I know tootimid costumer service is WONDERFUL. They really do know what the true meaning of costumer service is. Glad to hear it was all taken care of.

This vibe really caught my attention when I received it. The package stated an enlarged head, hmmm so I was wondering why would that be, also I noticed that it had swirls going down the shaft. I couldn't wait for my hubby to get home. This head twister really is an OUTSTANDING WATERPROOF toy. It is 6.5" long and has about a 1.25" girth, this product is unique in the sense that I noticed it starts off bigger and goes smaller, interesting. Here is a little bit of the basics; it is made of a soft jelly, upon opening the package I noticed that the vibe was a little oily but not to much, so I washed it and that oily feel went away immediately. I did notice that the head was a little enlarged, which of course got my mind wondering, along with the swirling lines that are around the shaft of this vibe. Well since it is waterproof, I figured the pool would be the best place to test it out. My hubby was so excited, that he went to get the 2AA batteries, and told me to go get in the pool. I have noticed that the best lube for water play is a silicone lube. My hubby inserted the 2AA batteries and told me to grab hold of the rail. I bent over and waited to be teased. This devil has POWER and I mean lots of power, it is not quiet so if you need something quiet I would make sure I turned a radio on, since we are outside in the pool my husband quickly jumped up and turned on the stereo. He lubed it up and slowly started to insert it in to me. I found out immediately what the enlarged head was for, it rubbed and put pressure of the upper part of my vaginal wall, add that with the power of this vibe and I was in heaven. He then started to turn the vibe from side to side, oh my god, I could feel the swirls on this vibe immediately, and it hit me in all the right spots. Since it did seems to get a little smaller towards the base I felt like my husband was intentional teasing me with it, by going all the way to the base and quickly pulling it out some. This little thing had me begging for more. My husband was so excited just watching me grind up against it, and then it really hit me, WOW it brought me to have the best water orgasm I think I have ever had. I am truly impressed with this product. I would recommend this product for beginners or even advanced players. This product like I said before is WATERPROOF great for the pool, tub, or anywhere your little heart desires. Grab the Head Twister and let it twist you into multi orgasms like it did me. Happy playing!! http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3434

Amethyst, sorry to hear about your experiance with this type of vibe. I just have a few questions for you, how were you cleaning it and also what type of lube were you using? Here at tootimid, it doesn't cost anything to return the product, and they will replace it or give you store credit. That is what is so great about this site besides the forum and all the help they offer. If I was you I would call the 1-800 number listed at the top of the screen and at least let them know. Sorry to hear.

Here is also a article well written by Mikayla on anal play. Yes my husband has gotten into it. At first I have to say I was a little shocked and also worried. It is normal in fact I think the reason why alot of straight men are getting into it is because their prostate gland is there and OH MY what it can do for them. Alot of talk and between you to is needed, let him walk you threw it etc, take direction from him and he will let you know when to stop or if it hurts etc, same thing for him if he is going to try it with you. Here is the article also here is a GREAT lube for anal play. http://www.tootimid.com/sex_education/anal...to_anal_sex.htm http://www.tootimid.com/sex_education/anal...to_anal_sex.htm Hope this helps/ Keep us posted

Hiya Trooper! Well here is my point a view, I do agree with Howard. A fantasy is suppose to be just that. Have you looked at the bad points of this if you act on it? Lets take a little look here. First off you stated that your wife, prolly wouldn't be found on the idea at least that is what I grasped. Since you did say maybe one day you might get the courage to ask her. Well if you act on this fantasy without your wife knowing you may suffer terrible reprocussions of your action; marital problems, she may feel like you cheated although you didn't get involved you only watched. Also if you think she won't find out, she will! She will notice, although not intentional on your part, something different about you. Could just be the way you are carring yourself, a new look or something. For exsample, my husband came home at his regular time from work, I had spoke with him that day and everything was fine and could tell he was still there. He never said a word to be, but I noticed something a little different about him, it took a couple days but it was there so I asked and he had went to the strip club at lunch, NO BIGGIE, hell I have taken him to the full nude club on his birthday, he said he didn't want to tell me because he knew that we couldn't find a sitter for the kids etc...This was of course 5years ago. I still knew and that and the not telling me he said was killing him. I have learned that fantasy should be left that way. I learned that the hard way, a great relationship, marriage all suffered, although everyone was in agreement the after effects played a different story. Alot of times people and couples do act on their fantasy, some make it and continue on with no reprecussions and others don't, more times then most the relationship and/or friendships end up over. Howard also makes another good point. It is hard to come up with more fantasies when the ULTIMATE fantasy has been fullfilled. Of course the choice is yours and whether you act on it or not is up to you this is just my thoughts on the issue. As far as it being cheating, in my eyes it isn't cheating since you aren't getting involved you are only watching.

I have to be honest and let you know, that all the toys I have,,, I wash them with anti-bacterial soap even if some of them are dishwasher safe. Call me a clean freak but the ones that I can put in the dishwasher I still was them with antibacterial soap. Howard is absolutly correct there is nothing wrong with washing them with soap.

Hey Househunter, Here is a few links to some of the products here with flavoring. As far as lubes be very careful with what type of lube you use with what type of toy. Exsample Never use a silicone lube with a silicone toy, with a cyberskin toy use only a waterbased lube. As far as heating lubes and toys I am not to sure about since I am not a heating type of person unless you are talking about the Viva cream then I LOVE IT!!!! That stuff is amazing. Here a the links for both you and her: http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3169 http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3102 http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4956 These will help to enhace your oral sex life to. Let me know

I agree, YES sometimes we do. I know that if I have had a stressful day I LOVE IT rough and hard. Call it getting my stress out. There are also times when I want to be pampered, softly kissed and teased. I think it all depends alot on my mood for the day. My husband knows when I am having a stressfull day, he gets the phone calls from me. I swear he knows in the back of his mind that I am going to be rough and that I want it rough, sometimes he comes home and will spank me on the ass and say there......that is for calling me numerous times today. Talk about teasing me.

Welcome!! I have so many ideas but as already posted what type are you looking for? I have to let you know that my husband has enjoyed alot of my toys with me, the strob light ones etc had the extra little boost I think. Let him know that he does satisfy you, and that you just want to spice things up a bit. Take this talk gently though. Good luck and keep us posted!

Hey Draven, being that I have 5 children, 3 are teens. Talking about this kind of stuff has become easy to me the very first time I talked with my children it didn't seem weird or hard for me since I am extremely confidant in myself and my sex life, and have always had that open door policy. The best advice I can give to talking about sex, along with all that goes with it, is make sure that you are honest about everything even with the questions that might come up. For exsample my son asked me if I have ever been in a FFM situtation I of course told him the truth. I find the easiest way to talk to children is first you have to be calm, and feel extremely secure about your sexuality and what you do in your sex life, let the child see that you are not emberassed in anyway. Heck I had to talk with my 9year old girl who has started PMS way to young in my eyes. We talked about the horney(per say) feeling ect, covered masterbation,sex and everything that comes with it. Yes I am sure I am going to catch a little grief from somesone, but hey with puberty comes alot of responsibility, we can't judge what age it will come at. When I grew up my parents didn't talk to me about anything, I learned it from my friends and that I think was the worst. All my children now have had the TALK, except for the 3year old, think he is alot to young Start slow and never lie to a child or mislead them when it comes to sex etc.. Heck he has already found the porn, and most children do regardless of what we do. Anyway, I just wanted to give you a few little hits on how to talk to your child, I know it is hard for alot of people exspecially when the children are at such a young age. Good Luck.

Welcome Amethyst!!! Well after what I have read here is my little bit of two sense. IF he is feeling intimidated by a toy, and you want another one maybe you all should sit down and have a serious talk. My husband about 8years ago was the same way. We talked and now he has found out that not only do the toys help inhance our sex life but he gets more turned on playing with me and my toys. I understand(not meaning to take his side) in a sense the way he may feel, being my husband was the same way and I had numerous toys before we got married.The best advice I can give to you is TALK to him let him know that he satisfies you but you feel that your sex life with HIM needs a little more spice. Heck sit at the computer with him and shop togeather they have lots of things for both men and women.Make sure you go gently with the subject to, or even let him read some of the post on here and what others think. Once my husband relized that it turned me on more and that my toys could also make him feel good with the vibration of my bullets etc he couldn't wait for us to get more toys. Also here is a little tip from Howard(sry Howard)if you want more, you should also try a few of these tips, heck not to long ago my sex life shall I say was getting boring, not that my man couldn't satisfy me, but that he didn't want it has much as I did etc... If you live togeather which you didn't state so I am going to asume that you do, wake up and meet him in the shower get him all hot and bothered there. I am telling you he will think about it all day long. Then when he gets home he will be ready to do it again. I know how it feels to always seem like you have to start the scene, hey but sometimes us women have to, I know I had to and after a few shower runs or a little bit of blue balls for him on the way to work, man has things changed around here. Another tip after he falls asleep for about an hour, gently begin rubbing him, kissing him etc. My husband sleeps on his back and I am telling you my sex drive is off the wall. Well so I took it upon myself to suck on him and make him hard and just as he was beginning to wake up I had already straddled him. It takes time and yes being that he is only 18, I can also see why toys might intimidate him he is young. Sounds like you all are in for a serious talk also if you both get online togeather to look here on this site for toys, go to the games and couple section first to help make him a little more comfortable, Good Luck and please keep us informed we love followup! Also in my book there is no such thing as TOO HORNEY. =)

Howard I totally agree with you! My daugher is 9 and has been menstruating for about 6months now. We had a talk before she actually had her period so she really wasn't surprised to much about the signs and stuff. When she did finally start she came to me and said mom that horney feeling you tried to explain to me I think I am feeling it. Needless to say we had another long talk about it. I never thought in a million years that my daughter would have this at nine. As far as the breast development Oh MY I am gonna be jealous my daughter at 9 is already wearing a size B cup almost a C. Thank goodness she hasn't had any problems with others nor has she been teased or asked questions by her friends nor others at school. Maybe I am just to open with my children on alot of issues, but I know when I was growing up my parents NEVER had a talk with me about anything at all, the school nurse gave me alot of information and my friends. I have to say though I sure wasn't expecting to have to have this type of talk with my nine year old so early. Like I have said before my children and I have a OPEN DOOR policy, we have talked about everything from sex to mastrubation. YEs although I HIGHLY agree nine is a little to young but what do you do when your nine year old is having these feeling and sensations but to talk to her. Children that start young are losing alot of their I feel childhood, it is alot of responsibility to take on at such a young age.

Sorry Telecom69, I can't help you on this one. I have to let you know though I am glad things are getting better. I have never been a boundary issue person, to me it is all good.

Thanks Mikayla I needed a new anal toy and this one sounds great!!!

Mikayla, Have a safe wonderful vacation. You will be missed, I guess we will just have to go on strike tell you get back.

Well I am going to fill you in on a little more. My children and I have a open door policy, they want to talk about sex I am okay with that maybe I am just a little more casual with my teens then most. Like I said in my original post is that I allow my teen to read playboy, and we talk about it. Playboy sure doesn't show much but what a naked women! I wish they would put sex ed back in the schools. I know when I was a child I took the course. I do believe that the parent should also attend the class, with their child. That way the parent can discuss things with them while they watch the movie. I know when I was a child sex ed wasn't until I was 15 which is about the time children hit puberty. Not anymore though heck my 9year old girl as already hit it. I do believe though that teens are going to get their hands on worse material from their friends. Exsample, I was cleaning my sons room one day, this is before he got his hands on our porn, I found a video and a girlie mag that was HIGHLY provocation. Well instead of flipping out which I know alot of parents this day in age would do I set them on his dresser, in view so he knew that I have found them. When he came home he didn't say anything about them to me, he did go to my husband and said I see mom found something, you think I should go talk to her. My husband of course said yes. My son came to me and we talked, his friend had given it to him. I talked with his friend and his friends parents and we both agreed that if they were that curious then they should have come to us. Well nothing really came of the situtation, my teen gets my husband's playboy when he is done with it, and yes my teen watched the video from playboy which was in EXTREMELY GOOD taste and had more nudity then anything else. Maybe I am wrong in alot of peoples eyes to have such a open door policy with my children, but I rather they come to me and talk and ask questions then to learn it from their friends. My teens know about STDs and alot of other information. I have always answered their questions honestly, and when they have asked me if I have ever been in a FFM situtation I answer them honestly. Let me remind you though I am not talking about a 13year old I am talking about a 16year old but if for any reason at all my 9year old daughter came to me and asked me about sex or anything else. I wouldn't beat around the bush or anything else I would be straight up honest with her. I am sure I am gonna catch a little grief about it from some people on here, which is okay with me. I am a opened minded parent and I would expect my children to come to me with anything, they all know we can talk about sex, and they can ask questions and know they are going to get information from me or my husband with nothing hidden or anything else. I also believe that society has put alot of bad on this subject, I believe that it is a parents job to protect their children, I also do believe that you can be a parent and a friend to your child at the same time depending on the situtation. I will always be the parent but when my child needs a friend to turn to and someone that will listen as a friend and not a parent I am here for that also.

As most of us know I have five children and 3 of them are teens. I am curious as to how many mothers and/or fathers out there would buy a subscribtion to a magizine for their teen. I am not talking about a extremely penetrating mag. I am talking about a playboy or something along those lines, since I myself find playboy to be a very classy magizine. I bought my husband a subscribtion to playboy, well when he is done with it, he gives it to our 16year old son, I myself find nothing wrong with it since one way or another he will prolly find worse mags then that at his age. Heck and it keeps him out of our porno and our rooom. Although Playboy is not really in my eyes considered porn. Although my husband did recieve a DVD from playboy it isnt really to bad, still pretty clean I mean it does show two women togeather but nothing hard core, my husband let my teens watch it. I rather my son learn the facts of sex and life from us then his friends since friends can be misleading etc.. So I am curious. So how many of you would allow it and why?

Well I have been there a few times. My children are 17,16,15,9, and 3. They are all boys but the nine yr old. I have to agree with Telecom 69. I am sure that, exspecially teens have gone threw their parents room etc long before you caught them. I have my stuff locked up now and under the double doors of my bed, the doors are locked also. You did the right thing with talking, that is about the only thing you can do is have a talk with them, and you know I also have a key lock on my bedroom door. I know that sounds a little extreme but hey it is my room. Here is my little story, my 16year old son asked if he could use our bathroom since his sister was in the one downstairs, well not only did he use the bathroom but I noticed later that day that a few porn movies were missing. So I talked to hubby and we went to my son. He didn't deny it in the least. In fact he knew that he wasn't in trouble for that but was waiting to find out what we were going to do about him going in the closet. I told him he wasn't in trouble for that it was a little bit of our fault to. We left it out in plane view on the shelve in our closet, he didn't have to hunt for it, it was easily viewable from the bathroom mirror. Well we talked and got threw it no problem, in fact we had a talk with all the older ones that night.

Well my hubby works six days a week also. Yes it is possible he might be tired, but thanks to Howard and MIkayla and many others there are a few tricks I learned. Wake up before him, join him in a shower before work, trust me he will think about it all day long and come home and want more. I also have five children so yes stress and everyday life can play a huge factor I think in alot of ways.