Theresa

I haven't used regular lubs before because there was really no need for them but when there was need for them I have always used baby oil with my kids fatheer for anal only or full body massage. I would like to use some in the future with my girlfriend when ever we can get sometime alone w/out our kids around. Any suggestions for a first timer in this field?

I myself enjoy reading erotica and my favorite erotic writer is Zane she writes as if you were part of the story line you become so engulfed in the stories in her book you wnat to try them out with you partner or signifigant other or you can "love" yourself after reading her books. I have never been interested in Penthouse or Playboy because I can write my own erotic stories by using my imagination I have never had any complaints about it in the past both of my kids father loved reading them when I used to write him letters telling him the things that I would want to do to him. So the only erotica I like to read is Zane and other than that I just use my imagination.

The first time I had anal sex was with my "first" it hurt because I had never had anal sex before and he didn't prep me for it either. But being with my kids father for six years I enjoyed it he preped me for it and told me to relax and breathe deep and I did he took his time and each time we had sex I would beg for us to have anal sex I have the biggest orgasm so my advice to you is start of with a finger job if that doesn't work then maybe the anal beads will work for you but different strokes for different folks. Good luck and Good sex and most of all enjoy it

The many places I've had sex in the years I've been having sex: My bedroom where my sister was the look out the night I lost my Virginity (one of my fathers apt after he died) The living room in my mothers lazy boy chair The Pier in NYC the middle of October first time ever getting pussy eaten with this guy named Reginald The stairs in a building of mid-town Manhatan The park at 10 O' Clock on a friday night A bathroom in Midtown w/a steady piece A garage with my kids father A shed with a steady piece My mothers shed in NJ 1997 20 YO The living room The bathroom in my kids father uncles house In the woods in Job Corps, w/ my kids father My mothers basement with my ex @ 16 YO In my bedroom while my mother was home In my mothers bed In the shower (it works) On the train track with my kids father (trains don't run through often) The dining room in my mothers house An abonded house w/my kids father A motel A boarding house empty room Stair case in a building w/ex we called him Captain but after having sex w/him I started calling him "Captain Hook" I always wanted to have sex in the rain but couldn't find anybody that adventurous. Well that's my list I'm not sure if thats it but I'm pretty sure that's it.

Happy 1st to Mikayla. Thank you for your advice in my first post and by reading your post has opened up my eyes even more to see that not all men have it under control and not all women have it under control either. Thank You and Howard for your advice and I appreciate your advice and this website. How I found this was I was on the yahoo search engine looking for sex toys and I was reffered here and thats how I got the courage toopen up to you guys on here thank you to everybody on here. Again Happy 1st to Mikayla

I like a man and a woman in a nice pair of jeans not too tight but just right. My girlfriend has a nice juicy ass and every time I saee her all I can say is mm mm mm. If I were a man I would have a hard on every time I see her. And when I was with my kids father I used to love to squeeze his ass during sex. Even if he wasn't gonna give up yhe dick he would tease me by laying in the bed with out any clothes on and I used to rub his ass because it was as smooth as a baby's bottom. Sometimes when I used to smoke weed and I would be missing him and I was hanging out with my friends. I remember when he was locked up and me and this girl I used to hang out with we went to her friends house and we smoked some tree's (weed) I missed him so much that I started thinking about his nice juicy ass and I started rubbing on a biycle seat.

The first time I had an Orgasm I was with my second. I was 16 YO it was a school day and I was in High School so he came over to my mother house after school and we were in the livingroom watching TV. This was the second time we had sex with eachother the first time he didn't penatrate and he didn't use a condom so I wrote him a letter telling him to use a condom next time we have sex. So that day he came over to my mothers house he went to the store after reading the letter and bought a condom. So we went into the basement and had sex on the couch it was my first Orgasm and I ahd only been having sex for a couple of months now, even when I was with my first I never had an orgasm with him but with my first teenage love I had my first Orgasm. One time after we "broke up" he came over to thenhouse with his cousin because his cousin usedm to like my sister so he came over acting like he ain't gonna give up the dick after I set up the basement for us I cleaned it and everything and it was off limits to anybody especially my brothers. So when he came over that night he was acting like he didn't want any pussy and he wasn't gonna give up the dick. He already knew I was horny and wanted some dick so I went into the kitchen and sat on the counter mad and horny then he comes into the kitchen and gives me the ultimate french kiss and my pussy was throbbing so damn hard you would've thought I had a dick in between my legs. Before the night was over I got me some good dick. I had the best orgasm that a sixteen year girl could have. How I knew i was having an orgasm is just like what Howard said you get light heade like youn was stretching and your body was tired & your body shivers like you were having a siezure it is the best feling in the world

I have a few favorite positions myself: I like it when I'm on top riding it like I was bull riding (in a matter of speaking) it gives me a sense of control to know that I can rock a mans world like that. Now I know why they call it the rodeo. Another one I like is: Doggy Style because you can have two types of control you can control how deep you want your man to go while he has his penis inside of your vaginal walls or he can control how much he wants you to cum it sort of like a two way street. Then there is always Missionary: because with that position you can do many different Missionary styles like the Scissors position it is kind of hard to describe but for those of you who know how that feels know what I'm talking about. I also like to have anal sex Doggy style and Missionary too I like it both ways but in order to have anal sex in the Missionary position you have to have had alot of practice with your partner and feel confident enough that your partner won't hurt you. I like them all but my favorite position is Rodeo Style. Because you can ride that dick that a horse jockey

I have to agree to disagree and disagree to agree. Because since I satrted having sex at 16 YO I have enjoyed every minute of it. A few times I have had men who had the equiment and didn't know how to use them including their tongue as well. I met this guy named Jeffery from Bordentown NJ in the bar and we kicked for a coulpe of weeks before I had sex with him and the first time we had sex I built up so much anticipation that I was let down. (When I say anticipation I mean I was horny that day) I wanted to have sex with him because his personality turned me on. The second time we had sex it was anal sex. Now he must have been about 4" and it didn't hurt because he wasn't hung to well and we used lubrication. Now the third time we had sex I wasn't in that much anticipation because I was messing around with this guy named Bryan AKA B-Ruck and he was well indowed about 8" and so in between the time I seen Jeffery I was javing sex with the other guy from time to time. Now at this time I was living with my mother and she was very promiscuous (due to the addiction of drugs and alcohol) so she was right in the next room and my sister walked in on us it's not like she interupted anything because there was nothing to interupt. Thanksgiving 1997 I had sex with B-Ruck and Jeffery came over while we were in the middle of having sex and he was mad because he thought we were in a relationship because he introduced me to his grandmother. He told me that he couldn't see me any more bacause I was still having sex with B-Ruck. Another guy I was messing with named James I met while I was living in Lakewood NJ I met James about a month after I had my oldest daughter six years ago while walking to the bus station. What attracted me to him was he had a bright white smile I wa in a relationship with my daughters father at the time and he tried everything he could to get me to talk to him. I would see him all the time living in Lakewood. While my daughters father was MIA well he was locked up four about two months for the things he did in his past anywho, I was felling lonely at the time so when I seen James he made my day that day and at the time I didn't have anywhere to stay so I used my gift of gab and the gift that god gave me. Awomans most prized possession the pussy. So I was hungry horny lonely and tired. James bought me something to eat and took me home with him to take a shower and eat. The sex was what I would rate *** (three stars) because although he was well endowed he just didn't do it for me. When in the Rodeo Posistion where the woman has all the control you would expect the man to thrust his penis enough to make you cum I thought I was going to break him in two and that's not what I was looking for. aThe only position that did it for me was the Doggy Style position because from the back I didn't have to give full participation only a little bit to get satisfaction enough to make me cum. Another guy I had sex with once before his name is Kevin. It's funny how when your man is not around everybody wants to tell you how they have been watching you with him and tells you that he can treat you better then he can. Men I tell you they are something of a kind not only did he lack in the penatration dept. he also lacked in the tongue dept. as well. he thought he was doing something when he tried to toss my salad when all he did was irritate me with the stubbles of hair on his face. He thought he really was outdong my man when all he did was make me miss him more. So size does matter sometimes, and sometimes it doesn't, it depends if you know how to steer your boat on experienced waters and if you're an experienced boater don't set sail in the lakes and ponds of the sex world, stick to oceans and rivers.

Well I like to listen to music to get me in the mood prefferably R&B. There are certain songs on the radio or by the artist that they play on the radio at a certain hour. Me myself love to listen to R&B music because of the way the artist expresses themselves it is very erotic and sensual it can set the mood for whatever mood you're in whateher it is to have a nice evening at home with your spouse or signifigant other or you want to set the mood to a sexy lovemaking session with your SO music enhances whatever mood you are trying to create. I think the fact that you husband is laughing is because you play the same song constantly and although it may do something for you it may not do anything for him so try different type of music my personal prefference is R&B music. I listen to many R&B artist from the late 60's,the early and late 70's, the 80's,the 90's and today's R&B. Form artist like Usher,R.Kelly,Alicia Keys,MaryJ.Blige just to name a few if you wnat I'll send you a list of songs that I would like to put on a CD once I get someone to burn them for me I'll give you the name of the song, the artist and the name of the Album/CD. I plan on becoming a DJ and I specialize in R&B music to set any type of mood one day I will own my own nightclub and it will be called "The Rainbow Room" each room will have a different color and it will play different music in each room of the six colors in the rainbow. DJ Mo' Grind est. 1991

I remember the first time I had anal sex I was sixteen years old and I was with my "first" he didn't try to take his time or help me relax he just stuck right in, until about four years later I met this guy in a bar in New Jersey he had what me and my sister call L.D.S (Little Dick Sydrome), LOL. So the first time we had sex I was so excited that I thought that because I was so excited that that's why I didn't feel him penatrate me until I found out later on down the line that he suffered from L.D.S, so naturaly because he suffered from this disease we had anal sex and because he suffered from L.D.S it didn't hurt and I enjoyed that more than the acutal sexual intercourse. Then about two years later I met the then love of my life he introduced me to anal sex with a "bigger" male. It was vanlentines day 1999 our first valentine day together and we had the night planned out for when we went to bed, we gave eachother full body massages until, he told me that he wanted some "butt" and to get the baby oil that we just used so he could lubricate me and in the beggining it kinda hurt because I wasn't used to having anal sex but after about a year later I got used to it. (we were living with his sister in the beginning of our relationship) (we were living with his uncle at this point in our relationship) I was so much into having anal sex with this man that when we would steal quickies in his uncles bathroom that I would be so excited that we didn't need any lubrication. Or if were in the middle of making love I would tell him to stop so I could get the baby oil just so we could have anal sex. I was addicted to anal sex when I was with this man so much so that that ws the only reason why I bought baby oil. I loved having anal sex whether it be doggy style or missionary (yes missionary, it feels just as good as regular sex missionary vaginal sex) I used to crave anal sex that I would throw my "back into it". I agree with Howard you should try to talk to him outside of the places you make love to him and explain to him that he's too rough and he needs to take his time because you want to enjoy it just as much as he does. By him thrusting his penis into your cervis that can cause you to become infected or god forbid stop you from having kids.

All though drugs and alcohol may not help the effects of an orgasm but it does help relax the body I'm not saying get drunk and have sex no it's not going to work like that and I'm not saying that you have to be high to enjoy sex either what I was saying was there are ways to loosen up before a lovemaking session every time I made love to my daughters father I wasn't high and I wasn't drunk, neither was he what I'm saying is that there are different strokes for different folks and you do whatever you have to do in order for your partner to have an orgasm if you like to masturbate let your partner help you with your masturbation while your hands are in between your thighs your partner should try assisting you by sucking on your breast there are lots of ways for a woman to have an orgasm without having sex. Try kissing each other feeding each other your favorite dessert or like I said before try reading erotica stories together that will definitely enhance her orgasm while having sex and again alcohol and drugs aren't always the answer but no it does not give you a false sense of reality some people may like to smoke weed or drink before having sex or making love with their partner the book may also give new ideas on different positions or different aphrodisiacs. You can set the mood with dinner and a movie at home and some nice soft R&B in the background or if you preffer soft music like jazz or anything instunental to set the mood there are ways to enhancing your orgasm with no interuptions from anyone turn off all cell phones and pagers and turn off the phone and the answering machine so nothing will mess up your evening with you and your partner

Hmmm Sex on an air bed . I totaly agree with Howard when he said most women drink before having sex/making love it does inhance your libido and it make you more open to other things like different positions or just an all out love making session where you and your partner can try many different things to enhance your orgasm while making love to your husband, maybe invite new people into your bedroom have a menage trios or an orgy who knows you won't know unless you try it. But if you're the discreet type who doesn't like to "share" her man then try video taping your love making session with your husband you may enjoy it even more because of the thrill of being video taped and when it's over you can watch it together or if you like you can try the all natural enhancer marijuana/weed that will really enhance your orgasm it has worked for me in the past with my kids father and theres also erotica fiction that will definitely get your juices flowing. Trust me I love reading the. I suggest my favorite erotica author Zane a few of her books are strictly erotica. Might I suggest you read the Sex Chronicles; Shattering The Myth, Chocolate Flava and many other erotica books with your partner as a part of your foreplay.

How dare him do some shit like that to you and then you give him a second chance? I was with my daughter's father for six years and he has never ever ever ever tryed to take what's mine from me and if he ever did try his ass would either be locked up for the rest of his life or dead right now because my younger brothers and sister and my crazy aunt would have murdered him once they found that out. You're 20 years old you have your whole life ahead of you leave this man alone and take your daughter and get out while you still the courage and strength and the will power to do so you're too young to deal with that. I was raped once when I was 17 years old and for years I never told nobody about this except my best friend and she told me to stop beating myself up about it because for years I beat myself up about it for years I told myself that I never should've gotten into that car with him. I always told myself that I was young and dimb but if it wasn't for her telling me that then I would've went on thinking that it was my fault for getting raped. Remember NO IS NO IS NO! He violated you and this will not be the last time if you do not leave this man. God forbid something should happen to you who's gonna take care of your daughter. Have you ever read the poem "He Bought Me Flowers Today"? The poem is about a woman being abused by her husband and every time he beat her he bought her flowers and just knew he was sorry bacause he bought her flowers until one day she got flowers at her funeral. You have to A: report him B:(opt.) give him a taste of his own medicine like someone said have a well hung mandingo warrior homasexual male tie his behind down to the bed and let him have his way with him ( cold blooded revenge) C: leave this man alone he obviously has a drinking problem and you're not the first person he's done that to either. So please get out of there now leave with the clothes on your back if you have to just get out get out get out!!!!! Now while you can.

I started having sex @16 years old before then I used to watch pornographic movies and I remamber having to feel like I had to pee because my walls were throbbing making me think that I had to pee. But since I started having sex I know what it feels like to "ejaculate" B.K.A "cum" and I enjoy it very much with or without someone to make me ejaculate. When you're making love to your wife and you hear something that sounds like she's flatulating for lack of a better word she's not she's ejaculating, in my generation we call it the "drowing process" because it sounds like the mans penis is gasping for air while inserted inside the womans vagina. So to answer your question yes we do ejaculate. and depending on our activities that day whether we were already excited by a thought or a movie or just plain horny we ejaculate much more especially if the sex is good.

Thank you very much for the advice and yet some of you may have hit the nail on the head and some of you don't have any type of experience in this field but thank you anyway and whiskey woman I thik I will go along with your advice because my daughter father is an addict and I was put through the drama for 6 years the empty promises and everything that I thought sounded good being clouded by my own judgment all though two can play that game I don't want to get hurt again in another relationship so when I see her I will put it out there about my feelings for her. And don't worry about what other people are telling me I ahve to see for my self thank you

My daughters father is about ten inches and I never could fit his whole dick in my mouth but no matter how you do it try to relax your jaw muscles and enjoy don't worry about it fitting it all into your mouth after time you eventualy get more & more into your mouth. I was with him for six years and never had a complaint fro him or anybody else I was messing around with on the side. Thanks to my first I now enjoy giving BJ's because I know that no matter what if you perform weel then there should be no problem.

When I said treament I meant as in alcohol & drugs not anything else thats how we met, in there. But the truth of the matter is I don't know who to trust whether it be her or my peers I feel like I'm in a tangled web of deception. I guess I'll have to wait and see what happns when I see her next Friday at Narcotics Ananymous meeting and I will get to bottom of who's telling me the truth. Because I just seen her last Tuesday and she was happy to see me and my daughter, she knows how I feel about her and her daughter I mean I know that in one week her feelings haven't changed for me that quick. Every time I she sees me and my daughter she screams like a crazed fan in the front row of a concert of her favorit celebrity. Unless she is just taking me for a ride? But I'll ride this thing until the wheels fall of or she tells me about her feelings for me which ever one comes first because two can play that game. I was in a relationship for six years and I know when I'm being taken for ride. And when I do find out that I'm being taken for a ride I'll let her know that "I'm too experienced too be taken for a ride and oh no it's not my foolish pride" I am so very full of pride because it's in my nature I'm a Sagitarius and she's an Aries talk about oppisites attrack

Basically we started off as friends and then we became attracted to eachother after a while. now that I'm no longer living in the same facility with her it's kinda hard tell where her feelings for me lie. when I go to the treatment facility to see how's she's doing when she sees me and my daughter she screams like a crazed fan like she misses me so much but not only are my feelings involved so is my three year olds sometimes all she talks about is Monica. when we go to the building to handle some business and when she sees her she goes right where she is and she likes her also. That's what really made me like her the way she treats my daughter. She has a ten month old daughter who I also adore as much as I would my own daughter and her daughter loves me too we even have nicknames for our kids. She calls my daughter Chipmunk and I call her daughter Puffy Puffy and up until recently I was told differently about what she "thinks" about our relationship. This is my first female relationship, she has had other female relationships in the past also. I would really like to get to the bottom of this and find out the real deal but that would have to wait until A: she replies to the letter I wrote her last nioght and sent off today or B: I'll have to wait until Isee her on the 29th of this month whichis next weekend.

This is my first realtionship with a female and I'm not sure how she really feels about me when I see her and receive her letters in the male it seems as if she has feelings for me, but behind her back I'm being told something else who's telling the truth