It seems to me that you just need to give him a little direction down there. Chances are he's comfortable with what he's doing because its working, or at the very least he thinks its working perfectly well. As always, communication is the key. A simple "oh, do that again" when he gets it just right...or a "don't stop". The only way he'll get out of that comfort zone(I've been in this position myself before) is if you talk to him about it. It's been mentioned here before but I'll say it again, good lovers are made, not born. I can't imagine not exploring, but then, I love giving oral. As far as the bullet, perhaps he just hasn't seen how much more intense your reactions will be when he uses it on you, and maybe you just need to show him what you like. Expiriment on your own. On the flip side of the coin, maybe you haven't found the right places to put it on his shaft, balls, and the areas around them. I think once that happens, the willingness to use toys will open up. I know it did for me. I'd love to give you advice on the cock rings, but we've only just started using them ourselves so I'll just say this... Some go around the shaft, some around the shaft and balls, some have bullets, some have two loops(one for shaft and one for balls). The idea is to restrict the bloodflow one way and to keep him harder. The orgasms for him will be explosive if used right, and you'll get a slightly fuller feeling. I hope some of this helps you out. Thurisas