SensualWoman

Perhaps... Would it make you hot if I all I had was some chocolate paint on me?

On the left, nearest to the wall for me. Safety thing...

On the left, nearest to the wall for me. Safety thing...

Thank you so much for the advice!! As it so happens, not long after I wrote my rant we had freaking AWESOME foreplay!! I don't know what it was, almost as if he just KNEW or something, because he definately went beyond.^^ And he is into fore-play, but it seems that he will only do it if I ask most of the time. LL: I actually have done that before! He got it for a little bit. I do have a feeling that he understands now. He is not bad in bed DURING sex, and I would never leave him over such a small thing that might just need some time. MK: I DID have him read your article! And another from a sex book. I also had him read some of your entries on your blog, since your husband seems to have a VERY good grasp on it. And he did follow what he read for a bit. But he wasn't doing it the right way or something, because it wasn't that great. BUT! There are some things he has perfected. I believe that the foreplay will get interesting again! Here's hoping.

fun

Okay, this has seriously been ticking me off! I have talked, I have explained, I have shown, I have given articles to read!!! But he just doesn't seem to understand what to do with fore-play! He just goes straight for my pussy or boobs! And not anywhere else. I mean c'mon! There is a whole body with erogenous-zones, not just one or two. He has been trying, but then just stops. GGRR!! Another thing is when he plays with my pussy, he just circles my clitoris. Which is fine, but... That's it? You can do MUCH MORE WITH IT. I tell him all this, have again again in fact. We have amazing communication. But he just doesn't get it or something. It has done a number on our sex life... Because I don't feel like I'm getting enough so I just end up not giving enough on my end. I get off on my own usually because there is no getting off during sexual encounters with him usually. WHY CAN'T HE JUST UNDERSTAND!!!!???? I really didn't think that he would be so... Thick? I am not trying to put him down for everything, just fore-play. It is SO BORING. What more can I do????!!

Usually it's: *heads to bedroom* *take clothes off* *grab lube and apply* *start intercourse* I get almost as much enjoyment with or without fore-play. And he has yet to make fore-play interesting... So straight sex is much much better!

lust

OMG so true! I need one of those days. TPBM is ready to take on 2010 with an iron fist!

I do believe that it could help some couples, but just go over others. Perhaps the best kind of counseling is just living with each other before hitting the alter. Not really for a specific amount of time, just enough to understand what makes the other tick, and how the other lives. After living with a person you might realize that the relationship is just not possible for marriage, or living with one another. After being at the church, and seeing a young couple or two only move in after marriage, I have come to the conclusion that it ends up being way too quick. There was one couple in particular that were "so in love", and the rose colored glasses were on, but when they moved in after the wedding things just went sour. They were never really "together", and during church, I would find the husband looking at me too often. The wife was asking one of my friends for marriage advice only after one or two months! I am unaware of where they are now, since I left that church. Before the wedding, just start moving in with the other person slowly. Bringing a couple of things over every time, or every other time. Spend most of the weekend over at their place/have them over most of the weekend. They don't have to spend the night, just most of the day. Have breakfast/dinner/supper with them. See what they do about chores, and how they do their laundry. This is of course my own humble opinions. No harm meant. The best of luck!

I would have to say yes it very much is... Being the controled is much more erotic for me... But I do love being the one controling just as much actually. I think if I had someone who was really good at controling, I would be even more turned on by being submissive.

OMG YES! I get very turned on when giving, more than recieving. Although, I haven't been giving really at all lately. He's been tasting a little... Different... I do enjoy it, but it has been really difficult to finish.

I wish I had 18 inches of snow... Well, I did, but most of it is gone already. I just want Christmas to come and go already, jeezz. Enough of this anticipation for what's under the tree.

rock

Girl, if you can do it I'll watch in amazement. Will it make you hot if I dressed as Mrs. Claus and asked you if you wanted be under my Christmas tree?

I had the same guess... Although I could never fantasize about him, the only way would have to be real, and that's not gonna happen. He has got to be the best looking european ever!!! I have had a couple of erotic dreams with him, and that's better than any fantasy . *mealts* Mmmmm.

I hate it when your in the mood and or SO isn't home... it is truly annoying. Or when you go to see an academic adviser, and they laugh in your face when you tell 'em what you want to do as a career. At least it's almost Christmas break! Stay positive! SO will be home soon, and I am going to get a different adviser to help me... Merry Christmas!!

I suppose the only question I would have is: Does he go down on you successfully? Because if he is successful, then what more is a toy going to do? What I mean is, does he feel competition with a toy? If he does, then he needs to be reassured that it's not gonna replace him. Although, it could be that he just doesn't think that a toy is necessary because you get off with him down on you, or whatever way he uses. Perhaps you just need to start with handcuffs or something little when it comes to erotic toys.

Wow, I'm glad that they can divorce nicely. I just hope that they can find someone else that will suit their needs. A woman who cares for him and a man who doesn't have a sex drive for her.

Wow! I wish I had the self-esteem to do THAT! Also, if I did, I think DH would probably kill me. If you felt good at the time, don't regret it.

Here is a question that I have never thought of!!! Would you rather have the boob, or the nipple? All on it's own. Imagine there is only one choice!

I wonder if making out with a chick is as great as some seem to make it out to be...? Now I really want to try it out...

lingere!

I say at least have a friendship going, even if sex isn't all that there, at least you enjoy eachothers company and talking with them. I NEED to have sexual play in my relationship, I would go crazy if there was none. Now that doesn't mean that I'm going to leave him because there isn't any, just that I wouldn't be as happy. I would say that after two months I would be VERY concerned and have a talk about possibly having to leave the relationship before there is a point where I let myself get too used to it (although I don't know how that could happen). If all that's going for us is friendship, then I will be his friend, not his room-mate.

Penetration is when all the fun starts for me, but usually fore-play lasts 30-1hr because of how long it takes me to orgasm, and I LOVE oral for that. It really depends on how long I want to penetration, if it's painful for one reason or another I don't want it for very long, but if there is no pain I want every position in the book and I want it for how ever long he feels he can last. But there have been many times where there is the sand paper happening if you gals know what I mean? Then I want it to just end. The drunker I am the more and longer I want penetration to go, no matter how little time we have for whatever we are needing to do. *starts sinking into very satisfying thoughts*