That can work both ways.....that's the attitude we ALL want to receive.....but a "I want mine and I guess I'll just HAVE to put forth a little for you too every once in awhile" attitude is a real buzz killer. Of course the more you talk, laugh, and share together the feelings of intimacy grow, but it also depends on what and how you are talking.....A few minutes of "tell me about your day" is fine, but we really don't want to hear EVERY single detail of what you did on the job. Heck, most of us have jobs too and when we're home we'd just as soon not think about it. What we would rather hear is what you're thinking and feeling. If you're worried or bothered by something at work, ok...lets talk about that....it's the emotions, whether it's good, bad, humorous, dirty, or whatever that sparks the connection. Also, I don't know if this would apply to someone who has been abused in any way, but while the "nice and understanding" guy persona is generally a good thing, I think most women would really respond to an occasional animalistic, agressive, "I HAVE TO HAVE YOU NOW IN A DOZEN DIFFERENT WAYS!!" stance. Let her know it's not just the sex you are wanting but that it is HER that you want with an uncontrollable passion. Unless she has killed the sexual side of herself off completely there's no way she can refuse an offer like that!