OPL Laundry Goddess

WW, I reviewed this little gem a few months ago, and it was awesome... http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...amp;ProdID=5849 Hope all goes well. ~TLG

No home videos, but I have shown off for a specific audience on webcam... I don't like saving things for proof, but I am sort of excited by live performances. ~TLG

VERY NEAT looking toy there... I can see why it would work so well. Maybe one of us will get lucky and Meg will send it for review?? ~TLG

I'm in that camp... when the action is hot and heavy, who has time to dictate a brush and gargle? I like the way people taste (generally) so when I'm going for their pleasure, whatever fluids get in the way only adds excitment for me, sort of like proof they are having a good time too. One of my favorite thrills is kissing one of the hubbies after they've gone down on wife. I love tasting her on their lips or their manhood. I'm pretty sure Temptress feels the same about tasting me. The guys, on the other hand, are quite different in their preferences and willingness. One is quite finicky about second hand kissing. The other will go down on us, kiss us, whatever - no matter what fluid is present. I guess it's personal preference, to each his own, right? ~TLG

I'm pretty sure I answered this in my intro back in January, but I'll poast it here again for purposes of this thread: The name was a gift on the occassion that my other loves first visited our home - kind of a long story. If you are interested, there is a lot of history and background on our website www.ourpolylife.org and if you go to the blog archive from the beginning forward, there is a blog called "Let's Talk about this Goddess Thing." I'll warn you, most of our blogs are really more like essays in length and depth. The short version is this... I love conquering the laundry. No stain can beat me, it's a personal challenge, and now a running family joke. ~TLG

It's my experience that a guy has to be taught how you want to be treated. Some guys are just naturally more inclined or think of those romantic things, but even for those to whom it does not come easy still can learn what makes you feel special. Really, it isn't just a guy thing, it goes both ways in relationships. I'd start with dropping some hints like, "do you ever think of me when you are at work? How about giving me a call next time?" or maybe something like, "There are days when nothing would make me feel more loved than having you bring me home a bar of chocolate to let me know you understand I had a hard day too." I think most everybody, male and female, enjoy making their love feel special, its just understanding how you percieve love/romance and how your partner percieves it. I can suggest a really great book called THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES. I cannot remember the author off the top of my head, but it talks about this very thing. You can find a used copy on Amazon for nearly nothing. Just remember love isn't always an emotion, sometimes its an act of the will. ~TLG

1. what do you do for a living? by society's standards, nothing, but I'm the busiest person I know - stay at home mommy to 9 children under roof in our fabulously blended family 2. children: 10 total ranging in age from 20 to 3 3. pets? one cockatiel and a fish tank, we have several family members who are allergic to most danders 4. tats/piercings? both ears are triple pierced, no tats yet, but I plan on it one day when I find the one that really speaks to me 5. what is in your cd player in your car? Billy Joel, Harry Connick jr, or Kid's Movie Hits, depending on who is riding with me 6. fav. tv show? I don't watch much TV, but Temptress has me hooked on The L Word and Bones 7. what are you reading? at the moment nothing, just doing a lot of unpacking and settling in, but I go for nonfiction before anything else ~TLG

First I'd have to ask how sensitive you or hubby are to the sumac. For some reason, and depending on the area of the country in which you live, the sumac can be a little tougher to deal with than just oak or ivy. If you don't see some improvement very quickly with the over the counter or natural treatments, or if blisters appear, please consult your physician. My 9YO got a bad case at scout camp last summer and it took almost 2 weeks and 3 Rx to clear it, and he still has scars. But he is very sensitive to dermal rashes and we tried for several days to treat it ourselves before finally taking him in. Totally aggrivated my mommy guilt, but we just didn't know he was so sensitive. We wound up getting rid of two pair of shoes and washing everything in his room TWICE in baking soda and vinegar rinses. Really, the sumac is not something you want to play around with. good luck with that... ~TLG

The "official" poly term for three that share common bonds is called a TRIAD. The V you refer to is one type of a HINGE relationship. Although the four of us consider ourselves a quad (4) we interact like two adjoining Triads. I can't tell you how everyone handles their arrangements, because we all do what works best for the particular group of people, but in our home there is some degree of bed sharing, and some degree of rotation/scheduling when we are all under roof. The best, worst, and unexpected parts could fill more than a book, so I don't think I could do it justice here. I suggest you do research at www.polyamoryonline.org as that site has a lot of information and a forum. You could ask those questions there. Also, if you have personal questions you want to ask, you can PM me, or ask them here. ~TLG

I scored 41%... go figure. ~TLG

I would have to echo this sentiment. Any toying with multiples, whether it be for relationship or play, can use the caveat we use at our house is"do ONE relationship right first, then consider adding." I would advise if you are thinking it is too early, then you are right. This is a follow your gut situation. ~TLG

LOL, I've so enjoyed this thread! Very fun to read and loaded with good ideas! May I just chime in here with a bit of advice from personal experience... For all you beach/ocean fans - sand in the bathing suit is NOTHING in comparrison to the irritation of sand in the vagina. And the salty ocean water will eat away like acid any trace of natural lubrication either body can produce. Just a word of caution when trying these antics. Also, for those of you with multiple/group sex ideas - I can fodder the imagination with this statement... "the more the merrier!" If all are in agreement on the terms and boundaries, MFM, FMF, and MFMF are all wonderful experiences. I can say one thing I haven't ever been able to experience is a role playing opportunity with someone who is naturally into the parts. Haven't ever been attached to anyone with acting abilities or fetishes, but I think it would have been fun. Maybe I can live vicariously through some of you who do? ~TLG

In my personal experience, I find during the build I cannot use constant stimulation in one particular pattern or intensity, I have to vary the sensations for the O to build properly. Listen to your body, if you feel like taking it away, do so. Use that time for another toy, your hands, or just some lube and mental imagery. Then reapply the toy in the manner it feels best. I find the longer and slower the build, the better the release. Knowing your body is all trial and error, and every toy will have a different feel and technique that works best. Good Luck and Have Fun! ~the laundry goddess

I totally agree! A movie like this one gets me thinking and in the long run is much more effective than porn. ~TLG

OH, I can so TOTALLY relate to this one! Fabulously true, thanks WW. ~the laundry goddess

Let me add also... anal sex is one of those extra treats that for most, myself included, is not standard fare. I agree your past experience is prolly limiting the mental ability to really enjoy it, since you stated you did it for your husband. The thing is this, when I want it, I want it, and when I don't, I don't. Not a terribly articulate statement, but it makes the point that 1. you have to be in the right frame of mind, and 2. it isn't something you can do for someone else. Because of the differences between vaginal and anal sex, especially the lack of natural lube there and the double sphinters, anal is a process, and it helps if you are mentally and physically ready for that step. Might I suggest you let hubby ease you into that arena with more anal play (around the outter rim) with his fingers for a while, try the smaller toy, try other less invasive feeling foreplay. Then when you are ready, revisit. I do not orgasm from the anal alone, so see that for what it is, a fun and extra part of an otherwise fulfilling sex life you share with someone special. ~the laundry goddess

Twist, I tend to be a bit of a latent hippie type and all my loves know that I never/rarely wear panties underneath my long skirts. Even when I am totally dressed and doing something mundane about the house, there is this elevated sense of "she's available" going on. Nice and easy access for those quickies over the washing machine. Similarly, if your breasts are perky enough, going braless with a sheer top is a turn on too. The hint or suggestion is usually a huge turn on for guys! Then allow a little anticipation to build before following through. Good Luck, the laundry goddess

Big had a V done after the birth of child number 5 (it was a moral imperative at that point) and while I can't and won't speak for him, my libido changed for the better. It was a mental thing, the idea of knowing pregnancy was not gonna be an option again allowed me to just relax and truly enjoy the experiences. Couple that with the hormonal changes of my late 30s and well, I don't think anyone at our house is complaining about our sex lives.

Based on the reccomendation on this site and another I frequent, I finally rented and watched this movie - I LOVED it! Definitely for those who understand the BDSM lifestyle or for those who might be kink curious. A very positive spin on what most consider taboo. This is totally the truth, isn't it? I know the DOM usually has an interest, but I find far more than not, its the SUB who gets the most out of this relationship. ~the laundry goddess

I haven't tried any of the creams, but I can say for the purposes you mention here, I prefer an egg rather than a bullet. Eggs are larger and more all over vibes, whereas the bullets are concentrated vibes and I find (also a difficult to climax person at times) that the bullets just do not cover enough area to do the job right. Good luck with finding what works for you. ~the laundry goddess

My favorite is what I call "the train." Wife is laying down on her back and I am going down on her while hubby enters me from behind, either standing or kneeling... the rocking effects all three of us! yummy ~ laundry goddess

The thing about poly is that its a journey... go slowly and communicate throughout. As long as he is willing to take the next step, whatever that may be, then you can in all consciousness move forward. Might I suggest you find some poly forums, as there can be a lot of support along your path with people that are like minded and facing the same challenges. (FYI, our fav is polyamoryonline.org) Good Luck, Avalon! ~the laundry goddess

Welcome to the boards, Still! ~the laundry goddess

Sex Goddess, me too... maybe it's just a heightened self awareness that filters through into the conscious bedroom (or other places) behavior that creates the enlightened goddess image? ~the laundry goddess

We are on the beginning end of the teen spectrum, but foresee a long and varied future of parenting ahead of us. The 20 year old daughter already out (was and is in constant need of saving from one thing or another), two 15 year olds (boy and girl), two 13 year olds (boy and girl), one 10 YO, two 8 YO (boy and girl), one 6 and one 3, both girls... Ten kids, yup, you counted right. We see both the joys and the pitfalls of the teen/parent condition but one thing I think is for certain... since both sets of parents were very young (early 20s) when the onslaught of children began, we didn't really do the "live life to the fullest and enjoy" because we never had a chance to be DINKs. I do look forward to a time when we can enjoy each other as empty nesters, but not at the expense of missing a single special moment in between... of course, the not so pleasant moments are free to FLY by. ~the laundry goddess