Is this how it's been since the beginning? If so I believe you knew what you were getting into and perhaps closed your eyes to it. If you want it to change and you haven't had success so far you have a couple of choices. 1. Deal with it you knew what you were getting into 2. Therapy 3. leave Hard line to take but I can't think anymore choices. I believe your situation may different. Not better or worse, just different.