NICE GIRLS DO! I too use to be in the same position as you, many years ago. I'm happy to report it's no longer a problem; But it did take time. Lots of baby steps. Part of my problem was upbringing also, nice girls don't....well you know what I'm saying. Mikalya1 and Tyger gave you excellent advice. The only thing I'd like to add is, if you can, go away for a weekend or at the very least one night. Make plans to go out for a romantic dinner, (it doesn't have to be expensive to be romantic) and have a drink, but don't get drunk, and forget about the goal. While your away just live in the moment. Make a rule not to discuss kids, jobs, fianances or any 'stuff' like that. I found going away for the weekend helped me leave my emotional distractions and baggage behind, I was more relaxed. There also seems to be a greater sense of freedom when your not thinking the baby's might cry, or kids may walk in, or the phone could ring,....on and on it goes.... Good luck! And Remember STOP THINKING!!, just feel. Look at any tiny step forward as a huge accomplishment; because it is! Feel free to pm me anytime, with any questions or concerns you might have. I've been in your shoes and know what you may be feeling.