TonboMidori

LOL! Oh my god, that's freakin' FUNNY

The issue could be as simple as this: He doesn't know what he wants yet. You mention that you are 21(roughly) and he is 4 years older (making him 25, I'm guessing). Not that I'm that much older, but I do remember those are hard ages to be. He may be trying to figure things out about himself, you and the possibility of your life together. Pressure from life itself can mess with your sex drive. You mention he didn't have a job for the 3 months you were visiting. Does he have seasonal work? Did he quit/get fired from a job? Was he worried about impressing you since you were in his territory, so to speak? These probably aren't things he would tell you would be worried about. I know it's hard, but you also might want to keep from pressuring him about sex. I may sound odd to some people, but just because a guy has an erection does not always mean he wants sex. Quite frankly, if you pounce on him the second you see Mr. Happy wake up, it could be a bit intimidating for him. Honestly, think about it the other way around. If he jumped on you every time he saw that your nipples got hard (which, as we know, can be influenced by tons of different things) and kept pushing for sex, wouldn't you shut down a bit? I agree with the other posters that communication is key. If you don't have communication, you really have nothing. You might want to ask him about these things, and let him know that if he feels he can't put them into words, you'll wait awhile until he can (depending on how long you're willing to wait). Hope things work out for you guys

15 out of 20... maybe I should cut down

My kitties are very territorial about "their" tub. They like to play in it when it's empty, so they just seem to assume it always empty. So when I do take a bath, they hang out on the side and harrass me and give me horrible looks. It's like they're thinking to themselves, "What the hell is this? Get your butt and all this wet crap out of our tub!" The funny thing is, they'll jump in before all the water is drained so their paws get wet and they don't seem to care. My smaller one will actually roll in the water and then wash herself with her tongue. Very odd kitties, they are

1. What drives you buck wild in the bedroom? -- scratching and nibbling 2. What totally turns you off in the bedroom? -- someone knocking at the door, cracking my head on the headboard 3. What is your favorite type of sexual experience? (ex straight, doggie, oral, bondage, etc...) -- i am finding i like being a bit of a dominatrix (just vocal, though. i.e. 'did i say you could touch that? now you can't touch it for twice as long...') 4. What makes you hard (Men) or wet (Ladies)? -- when my SO comes up behind me and growls softly in my ear. the sound and the hot air on my neck <shiver> oooh... 5. What is one tip or idea you'd like to pass on to everyone here? -- communication is the best thing you can do in the bedroom. it let's your SO know what's good/bad, and it sometimes doubles as light dirty talk as well

A body cast If we insist on something voluntary, I would say complete debt erasure, unlimited free vacations AND at least 5 million, payment due the exact second the year is up. If my SO and I have to suffer, so does the person doing the offering

I'm a believer that everything happends for a reason. Something sounds bad, feels bad, but has a good outcome. Case in point: My SO got laid off from his night shift job recently. He was really upset about it for a few days (said he felt 'useless'), but he's getting better because he realized some good things. - No more messed up sleep schedule - He can go back to school (and he decided to today, I'm sooooooo proud!) - He's not so irritable - Since our schedules aren't so different, we can have more nookie! Yay! Nookienookienookienookienoooookiiieeee!! Good for us, bad for our roommate! I realize this is a relatively useless post, but I just had to post it somewhere! I love being a part-time optimist!

Hell. No. Those chicks are nuts!

It's personal preference. It doesn't really bother me much, though my SO did ask me if I would be willing to "clip a little closer" a while back. I appreciate him asking, since I know that means he will let me know what he likes and dislikes. Besides, flossing with stray hairs is no good for either person involved. I mean, unless you're into that kind of thing...

Those are great, though I do have one complaint: I am from North Carolina and we do not say "I Love You" by saying "Nice Tits"! We say "Nice Ass", thank you very much.

LOL! That is too funny... and too true!

I'm gonna be the odd-woman-out here, since I don't particularly like or dislike porn. I have just never seen one that got me going. The worst ones make me laugh. The wierd thing is, I like to watch people that are real (like, 5-feet-in-front-of-me real. I can go to a nightclub and watch 2 people make out and get sooo hot). The best my SO and I can figure, it's because I know in my mind that the pornsex is fake and realsex is, well, real. My SO thinks I get off on the emotion rather than the physical act (not that sex is anywhere near bad). Who knows, just my 2 cents.

My doc put me on Lexapro for a while and I had the same thing, while a friend of mine had no problems. It's just a matter of what works with your chemistry. One thing my doctor did say was that Wellbutrin has a high rate of weight gain in its users, which can mess with your health by default. Depending on your condition, you might want to ask about some of the anti-seizure meds that have come out since some of them have a mood-stabilizing effect.

Really? Maybe they recently changed, because I've ordered from them and it didn't have anything descriptive on it. I think more email order places are becoming aware of privacy issues, which is good for us and bad for our nosy neighbors

So she's graduating a bit later than expected, so what? She's still graduating, right? She'll have her day, but this one's yours, baby! Your hubby has the right idea Go for it and congratulations!

I am about to get my first silicone and ur3 toys, but I have heard that you can't store certain materials together (i.e. silicone and metal) or they will do horrible things like 'melt'. Is this true? If so, what materials do I need to keep seperate? Thanks!

My SO and I had that discussion, and here are some of the reasons I put forth. These are not slams, these reasons can (and do) apply to vaginas too! - Real penis is not always available - Real penis is not alway cooperative - Sometimes you just want to get off all on your own (like when you and SO have had a fight and make-up sex hasn't occurred yet ) - Dildos can come in fun colors/shapes that just do NOT occur in a healthy human penis (if a guy's actual penis had long soft tendrils and was bright orange, I might assume the guy was an alien sent to mate with human women. And I don't have an alien fetish, so that would be a no go)

A friend's Halloween party. I was dressed as Sally from Nightmare Before Christmas and my future SO was dressed as a Ninja. I had come out of a nasty relationship not too long before, and wasn't looking for anything. All I knew was every time I turned around, this Ninja was doing the 'oh-I've-been-caught-looking-and-must-now-look-away' thing. Well, then someone drunk got the bright idea to go streaking up and down the street yelling about 'having your treats right here', and of course everyone had to go outside and watch. We ended up standing beside one another and started talking. He asked me out, and I told him 'no' (I did tell him why). He said that was fine, he was cool with that. I thought after awhile he had forgotten about it, but when New Year's rolled around he asked again. You know, since it was a new year and all... We've been together ever since. You know, now that I read this it sounds like a bad chick flick

My current SO and I had a few of these before we actually had sex. There were no toys involved, which was actually more comfortable for me. There was nothing "distracting" from the experience. Plus, it was a learning experience since I got to see what he liked. We have regular "helping hands" sessions because he works 3rd shift and can't help waking me up when he comes in (I'm a bit of a light sleeper). Being the horn-dog that he is, he usually pops a tent as soon as he gets in the bed Unfortuantely I usually have early classes and am still too sleepy to engage in the full package, so I'll use my hands. He says he likes it because I'm soft and 'comforting' On the other hand I have a small vibrator in my purse, a cell phone, a break between classes, and access to an out-of-the-way and rarely used campus bathroom. Those sessions are obviously a bit different, but he says he likes those too

We have a position where I'm on my back and I put my feet together and pull them up toward my face and hold them (yoga types - think of it as a kind of reverse butterfly). It hits all my good spots, and it drives him completely nuts. The first time I did it, he just stared open-mouthed at me until I said his name for the umpteenth time. I took that as a compliment since he watches a lot of porn

Hello to all out there in Sexyland! I'm relatively new to all of this, but let's just say I'm throwing myself in with wild abandon! Grew up without a good view on sex, but after a long and arduous process, I've come around That's not to say I'm up for anything, some things are still a big no-no on my list and I don't think they'll ever come off (for various reasons). I am always up for sharing ideas and opinions though, so watch out