I'm not qualified either...but..anyway I like to look at porn. I like to look at other women. I like to look at all the variation in human body form. I like to look at men..I like the variation, there, too. When i was practicing medicine, i would have women come to my office who were quite large. On my health questionnaire was a question: Are you happy with your sex life? Almost every one, across the board, said YES. Being a person who has had issues with weight, i couldn't imagine these BIG women having sex with ANYone, let alone being happy with it. But, over time i began to realize that men find all sorts of bodies attractive. And women can feel good about themselves at all weights..and that this is a GOOD thing. Learn to love yourself for what you are..every curve and hollow. Your hubby wants to be with you. Who wants to grab skin and bones? Don't let our culture mess with your mind. Remember Marilyn Monroe wore, what, a size 14?