LilyElle

I've got a pretty bad gag reflex, though I've been working on it. I can barely deepthroat him if I do it slowly, much less let him be forceful about it. The one exception to this is when I'm orgasming; I completely relax, and I don't know or care how deep he goes. It's always been a game to him to see how long he can make me orgasm, so now he has even more reason to keep me orgasming: reduced gag reflex! Me N Him, that's a great idea. I'd never have thought of something like that, but it would work really well!

True, though I don't have as much time for it as I used to... TPBM is shy.

True! But it may not happen, because life keeps getting in the way of my plans...... TPBM is waiting for a new toy to arrive in the mail.

My boyfriend and I experimented with this once or twice, but it was never with any sort of pressure. Like Mikayla, the thought of any pressure just doesn't do anything for me; in my case, it's actually a turnoff. For me, I like the feeling of his hands just gently holding me, at about the same tension as (pardon the term) a choker-style necklace. It's kind of like a cross between the feelings of wearing a collar or cuffs and being embraced, and we have a standing rule that when we do this, he's NEVER allowed to apply any pressure, to prevent any mistakes from happening. And our safeword is Pixie Stix! Makes us laugh, so it diffuses any tension from having to use the safeword. Be safe, and do come back and tell us all the details! We like stories!

False, but I sent my boyfriend his first toy last night... TPBM is a caffeine addict.

False, for once! TPBM is trying to convince his/her SO to try something new in the bedroom.

Thanks! Just ordered one (and a few other goodies...) and can't wait to see how my boyfriend likes it! If they're going this fast, then I'm glad I came back and checked again tonight, I'd hate to have missed this one.

True. My boyfriend has suddenly opened up to the idea of anal play, for both of us, so we're going to do a little exploring. TPBM is a healthy eater.

I've been toying with the idea of getting that one for a while, to start my anal explorations as it were. Any problems with this one popping out? I've heard that's a problem with smooth plugs.

Hm... a few days after I turned 20 I went "Damn, I feel like a grown up!" But that didn't last long (as I sit here in my Scooby-Doo pjs with a teddy bear in my lap...) So I guess I've never quite grown up? TPBM has experienced unrequited love.

The first time I gave my boyfriend a BJ, he was already clean-shaven, and he's the only man I've ever done that for, so I've never experienced much male hair down there. Though I have to say that the one time I came face to balls with 2 days of stubble was downright PAINFUL! It was so sharp and coarse that by the time I was done, my lips were scratched and raw. Luckily not much grows on his shaft... I'd do it again if I had to, I love doing that for him, but I would not enjoy it as much as usual. My bf's response to this question was that if my mouth was down there around his cock, and I was enjoying myself with it, then anything else was icing on the cake. Very wonderful icing that he'd love to have as much as possible, as often as possible, but not essential for it to be a good blowjob.

I don't have any kids, but I've got an 11 year old baby sister. When she was little, she fit the blond-haired blue-eyed angel model perfectly. Much as we fought at home, whenever we went out I never let her out of my sight. I used to take her to the park down the street from us, but I'd always bring our Samoyed with us. I've always been on the small side, but there's nothing like a big dog to scare off creeps... More than once guys with cameras decided that my sister wasn't worth trying to take a picture of when there was suddenly 60 pounds of curious dog between them. (for those of you who aren't familiar with the breed, Samoyeds are a kind of white sled dog that weigh 50-70 lbs, but look much larger because of their thick, fluffy fur) What a sick world we live in. Pass on any other warnings you get Pappy! We're glad of every one of them.

Pappy, you're a good man, and as ladylove said, a gentleman. I hope someday she comes and finds you so you two can have a second chance. You of all people deserve it. I had a few crushes, but I've only fallen in love once. I was 17, and my current boyfriend and I had been dating for a few weeks. I can't really point to the moment when I fell in love, but over those first weeks we were inseparable, and our mutual crush quickly turned to love. Almost three years and surprisingly little drama later, we're talking about getting married someday. I'd just given up on love completely when I met my him... funny how that seems to work.

I've had this fantasy for a while about getting my wonderful, incredibly gentle boyfriend to get aggressive with me in bed. Not really as full-out forcing role play, but more as a kind of game. After almost a year, I'd finally been able to get him to spank me occasionally, but the closest we've come was ME holding HIM down and having my way with him, and as fun as that is, I wanted to reverse the roles occasionally. Until tonight he'd always said that he would never even pretend to force me, even with rules and a safe-word. It just struck him as wrong to even pretend to force me. Then, tonight, I finally got my wish. We were in a more playful mood than usual, teasing and tickling and generally just being silly as we made love. I finally turned to him and told him I bet he couldn't hold me down if I tried to get away. He knew exactly what I meant, because that's about how all of our failed conversations about my fantasy had started. To my happy surprise, instead of killing the mood, he rolled over and responded that he bet he could! I was ecstatic! We quickly set the rules (I could resist with body but not with voice, thus anything I said was law, so I could tell him exactly what was wrong at any time if he started to really hurt me by accident) and had a blast! Given our mood at the time, it was much more silly than serious, with a lot of laughter at the contortions we got ourselves into as he "tried" to "force" me. We must have looked like a pretzel! Ah, but it was so much fun, and it had us both going crazy by the time he finally got me! Getting him to be so aggressive at all was a huge step for him, and I know it wasn't easy for him to take that first plunge to help me fulfill this fantasy. He's even decided that now that he's tried it, he actually likes this kind of play and will do it again! I needed someone to gush to about how happy I am and how proud of him I am. Thank you TT! All those articles and all my lurking around this board is paying off, thanks to all of you! Especially Mikayla! Your BDSM 101 article gave me some wonderful ideas, and even though what we did wasn't ropes and whips and feathers bondage, my boyfriend told me that what won him over in the end was the idea that even our flavor of bondage could be playful and painless. I'd sent him your article a while back, and never known if he'd read it or not. I guess I have my answer! Thank you all again!

Amen to every word of that! If you don't know what you like yet, I'd say go for the Durex Pleasure Pack, it's got a few each of their most popular styles. Have fun!

I do believe dolphins have them... those kinky little buggers!

You took the words right out of my mouth. I was originally a No Way! girl about any anal play, but getting up my ass is a big fantasy of his, so I've been working really hard for the last few months to get comfortable with the idea (let alone get comfortable enough to start putting little toys there!). But when I told him it would be a lot easier for me if he was going through it with me, he freaked out a tiny bit. He expects me to get all comfortable with MY ass being something sexy, but doesn't want me to realize that he's got a perfectly good one, just like mine, nestled in that sexy butt of his, and want to play with it. His reason? "That's just... no! *shudder* NO!" Soooooo helpful...

You too? Glad I'm not the only one! I've been confused, because I've never heard anyone use the term "queef," everyone I've ever talked to about it calls them varts! We always make a joke out of them: usually a slight pause to let her finish having her say, then one of us looks down and tells my lady parts to shut up while we both laugh. If we're feeling particularly silly, we pretend to try to figure out what she was trying to say... "She says you're not fucking me hard enough" "No, I think she said A little to the right..."

I have GOT to go find these DVDs... I'd never given it much thought before, but after such rave reviews, I really think I need to see this show...

I love it! Mind if I consider stealing the idea? My man is in an underground band as well... Though he's told me he'd kill me if I beat him to this question too! (I asked him out, which he has NEVER lived down!)

I grew up in what I now know is a very unique neighborhood. My hometown is about 1/3 Caucasian of many flavors, and the rest is a mixture of just about everything. I grew up racially colorblind, and so did most of my friends. Honestly, the only kids that ever made much of an issue of race were the ones who moved into town during high school. I was very lucky to live in such an accepting area, because though I am white, race was so rarely an issue. I'm in a relationship to wonderful, loving man. We've talked about getting married someday. When I look at him, I don't see "Ecuadorian," I see Jon, the man I love. The only person who's ever given us any trouble about our interracial relationship is my grandmother. She's a deep "Suthun Lady" as she puts it. When she found out that my boyfriend was hispanic, she did a double take, and later she casually brought up how interracial children always have trouble later on. We talked for a little while, and I gently told her that those issues just aren't as prevalent where we live. (also, it turns out her real problem with my boyfriend was that he had long hair, wore baggy jeans that were tattered at the bottom, and wore crazy punk band t-shirts! XD) Even his family is incredibly accepting of us. Their general feeling is "She loves you, you love her. Bueno! And you're going to make such beautiful babies!" I swear, that last part is word for word! Every time I meet a new auntie (and his family is HUGE), she takes one look at me and tells us we will have beautiful babies; and we're not even engaged yet! It makes me laugh every time, and it makes Jon blush like crazy. The only problem I've ever had with dating a hispanic man is the language barrier. He and his immediate family all speak English very well, but much of his extended family speaks little to no English. I understand a little Spanish from high school, and I speak even less, but I'm learning as quickly as I can (which is rather slowly I'm afraid). I've got great motivation to keep it up, since he teases me that he can't take me to Ecuador to stay with the rest of his family for a few weeks until I can stagger my way through a conversation. I can't wait!

Come on, tell us what it's called! You can't rave on and on about a toy like that and leave us hanging!

Some of those can NOT be possible... at least not without a penis like a prehensile tail! Some of the others, though, look like a lot of fun!

When I'm starting, my thoughts drift a bit. I mostly focus on the sensations, but bits of the last time my SO and I made love pop up a lot. When I'm getting ready to come, I usually end up fantasizing about him going down on me, which sends me over the edge every time. Turtles, iha? I almost dropped my laptop I was laughing so hard.

Someone who understands! Yay! I've always wanted to take my fetish a little farther and make love ON the piano, but that's a little difficult with an upright...! I can see it now: "Honey, the keys are hitting my spine off key, could you thrust a little more to the right?"