cybele

Welcome to the forum, bluestocking. First, congratulations on getting out of the abusive relationship. You've come to the right place where the people are wonderful and very supportive. Like you, I never had a toy before finding this site. My favorite is the bullet for the reasons mentioned above. It's discreet; it's cute; it gives stimution exactly where I want it; it doesn't leave toothpaste in the bathroom sink; and I don't have to do its laundry. I may just marry the little sucker. Take care and hope to see you again in the forum.

I wasn't able to deep throat either until I started reading the articles and tips on this site. Matter of fact, quite frankly, I never enjoyed it, nor did I think I was particularly good at it. But, these articles have changed that - boy have they changed that. Anyway, I found that laying on the bed worked well. I found lying down sideways, or 69 didn't. However, for some reason, the easiest way for me was squatting or kneeling in front of him. He's extremely gentle and lets me pace it until I can get him back there. I'm still a little slow getting him back there - but I think he thinks of it as a tease - he enjoys it! Once there, it seems easy. He also always lets me know when he's getting close to cumming, so it's not a surprise. If if we've decided to do that, I found being vertical is the best - gravity helps.

Beautiful! You have great eyes!

Oh my god, I was in pain just reading about what you went through. Hope you have better luck with the ortho surgeon. Take care..

The more kings, the merrier... I think you need to go on a recruiting mission in the great Northeast and hold a workshop.

Oh my goodness. I hope she's doing all right. I would definitely go to an Urgent Care facility or an ER just to have it on record. I would recommend the PD too. Any updates?

A truly beautiful, heartfelt letter. I don't know you or your relationship well, but my thoughts on his lack of reaction was that it's probably a lot to process for any man. They're not wired the same, and the powerful emotions that you brought across would daunt anyone. He's so lucky to have you and the intensity that you love him. I'm sure he knows that, even if he keeps it locked up.

A little over two years of being frozen inside - not even desiring it after my husband came out.

Wow. Seriously, you've got it over men I've seen who are ten years younger!

I would say that as long as his breathing was regular, you don't have great cause for worry. The only thing I'd be concerned with is if it's a blood pressure thing. Has he had that checked recently? I can imagine how scary it was though. My suggestion is that if it happens again, for him to contact his doctor. Or if he has a normally scheduled "well visit" that he should mention it.

I agree - your office needs some artwork. If you think Meg's desk is messy, you should see mine on even a slow day at school - sometimes I need to pat down the stuff in order to find a pen.

Visually, a clean, neat, relaxed appearance - ok, maybe a little beard stubble if he doesn't have a trim beard Intellectually: fast paced eclectic and witty conversation. Physically: confidence - I know some will say that's not a physical attribute, but I can see how a man carries himself whether he's confident. Since my physical tastes seem to change - I think I'm more affected by the intellectual turn on. And the hands and forearms. I agree with a lot of you. Whew.. most definitely.

I had a '65 Mustang. I don't think I have any pictures of it though - maybe one where I was digging it out of the blizzard of '78. I loved that car, but it eventually got unreliable, and I needed reliable to get me to work in the morning.

Welcome to TT. In my short time here, I've found that it's a great group of people.

I'm in charge of the grill now, getting better at it and no longer serve ashes for dinner. I have a natural gas grill that's plugged right into the house from the deck. I grill year round. Pinky - I have Mikes in the fridge. I think I win with the closest - RI. Would love the company.

By the way, if you were thinking of going to another online site, one of my friends found a free one: http://www.plentyoffish.com/ Good luck - let me know if you find any other places where they're hanging out wondering where all the nice decent available women are

I know what you mean. I have no idea where to meet them. The only difference is that I teach, but certainly don't want to get involved with any teacher at the school... not that any are available. I was at Borders one Saturday night and it seemed to be full of many single people. I'll have to check it out again. Who would have thought? Go to a bookstore to meet men? hehe.

Omg. What a cutie! Makes me miss having babies around. I'll have to be content to become a Nana. Wait! That's wrong... I'm too young to be a Nana! [make mental note to let my kids (23,22,19) know that I'm too young to be a Nana] My son wore plenty of pink and lavender. With two older sisters, they also played dress up with him. Nothing like having a picture tucked away of a three year old in a tutu and workboots. I just need to find the perfect time to break it out.

Pinky, Sorry to hear about the fiasco. From what I know of you, you deserve someone of a lot more quality. I have friends who have done the gambit of dating sites. One of my friends thought she found someone really compatible. Lots of chemistry, great conversation, similar life goals. He was in the process of getting a divorce. That was three years ago. He's still in the process. She's had it and plans on telling him so next time she sees him. Meanwhile, she's tried more dating sites, and been on more dates, all with the same results as you've had. Where do we, single 40+yr olds, meet decent men? Your right, toys don't ask; they are never self-serving; and they don't leave beard stubble in the sink. lol.

Pinky - you rock! I couldn't find "Instead" at Target. Tried K-Mart, WalMart, Walgreens.. you name it. I got them online at drugstore.com (I think that's it - easy enough to find if you google.) The rim is a little harder and wider than a diaphram, but just as easy to put in and take out. He never felt a thing. I was nervous about it shifting and worried about leakage, but everything was fine. The only thing - it's a little messy to get out. But that was well worth it. Thanks again. ~cyb.

Count me in the club too! I better not lose all this sexual energy now that I've found it. I'm truly enjoying myself and becoming more and more comfortable with my own sexuality. I can't begin to tell you all how helpful this site has been. Not only have I learned some new tricks , I have learned about being comfortable and that it's all natural. This was not always so with me. To some extent, I wonder if I was even ready for it when I was younger. So, I better not be losing it all in a year. Good question/post Vanilla Bean.

Awesome pics. It's evident you have a great relationship with your daughter - you can't fake grins like that on both of you

Angel - I can almost hear you laughing - awesome pics. You go girl. I gotta get me some overalls. Based on the other posts, clothing manufacturers are going to be wicked confused about the new trend in erotic wear. hehehe.

To all you wonderful people who posted in this thread: Thank you, thank you, thank you. Actually, maybe I shouldn't be the one who is saying "thank you." Honestly, I've never been able to deep throat, and I've never been able to swallow it all. I was nervous and kept reminding myself of all the tips I had read here. But, I did both without gagging. I never let on that it was something I've never been able to do. Let me tell you how pleased he was... no, not just pleased, amazed and grateful. Apparently, it was a first for him as well. And also for the first time, I really enjoyed it too. Thanks again! -cyb

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