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wow, that is sad. Minus the anal part, i feel like I was your wife. My ex probably could have written your post. Too bad for him though, i'm cute and sexy. His loss! Out of curiosity, what were you not attracted to about your wife?

I had the same experience except I LIKED this guy so much that I did have sex with him a lot. But it was so teeny weeny it really didn't do much for me. But even granted that, I was generally so attracted to him that it didn't matter. I dated him the first time for a year and then pined for him after he broke up with me for another 2 years and then we got back together as "friends with benefits" a few years later...but ya, it was small. i think there is a term for that...micro penis. looking at the pics in the wiki, my man was thinner than the guy pictured, but maybe a TAD longer...still micro... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micropenis

hmmm...that's tough...when i was 16 I was dating this guy who (also 16) couldn't keep it up. It was always rubbery. What was THAT about? (nerves?) As an adult I may have understood more, but as a teen? I thought teens were always rock hard... Um....then there's my ex who didn't like to kiss me, touch my breasts or go down on me (he had reasons for each, as to why each wasn't pleasant for him) and that was pretty bad. He was good at the actual pumping (gotta give credit where it's due) but as for the rest..pass... In high school (and early 20's) I had a lot of just "plain old pumping" sex. I put that down to young men who didn't know any better? Granted my best friend (i only found this out recently as we're still best friends) was getting ANAL and all sorts of sex in HS, whereas I was just getting the "pump and comes". Female pleasure didn't exist back in HS sadly. Even sadder was I didn't know that was WRONG.

IS THAT real?

I know, but this is a puzzle that I go around and around in my head trying to grasp and I never can quite understand it. Which is why I ask for advice. It may make me seem unconfident, however it's really just confusion and requests for insight.

I'm not listening to what you thinkg! LOL. Just joking. I hear ya though. I hear ya.

thanks... Funny enough my boyfriend told me to tell HER to get fake ones if she's telling me too. I said "she already has them" and he was surprised because he'd glanced at them (she was at my house with no bra on and headlight nipples I don't blame him for looking) and didn't think they were anything great.

Do I still love him? I don't think so. I love what we had. I long for that. I wish it didn't have to go away. Do I want to spend my life with him? I feel I can't go back. How could I do that? I'd have to get the boobs. I dont' want to kiss him though. I don't want to lay next to him. I dont' want to sleep with him. I want to sleep with ryan. I want to kiss ryan. You're right though, it really isn't black and white.

But she sure acts like she knows all! LOL. Anathema Device and I are friends in real life and I trust opinon her more than this "new" friend. And she has met my current man PLUS my ex....but not this new friend.

Well, HER ex is a psychopath. I'm sure of it. So my ex looks like a DREAM DADDY to her, I'm sure, and thus a dream husband. My ex was weird. He wasn't COLD, he was very warm actually. But manipulative. He'd try to make me think that the surgery ideas were MY idea (didn't work AT ALL). First he wanted me to get an uplift "for my own self esteem" which really pissed me off because I was still NURSING our 2nd child. HERE I was nursing and he's criticizing the boobs that are giving our daughter sustenance? I dont' know why that made me so mad, but it did. When he went for the implants idea, he didn't try to make it seem like it was for my self esteem at all. i MADE him come clean and he admitted that it was all his idea (both ideas) and that he was trying to get me to do it for him. Anyways, the hard part for me was that he was generally a warm loving guy. And to pull this shit was very confusing. Still is. Thanks for answering.

I just had a friend over tonight (she's a new friend, we've only known eachother 6 months however we've told a lot of secrets in those 6 months if that makes sense...she's not a "casual" friend) and she was here when my kids dad dropped off my son as he had him for a few hours. Anyways, she watched the "interaction" between the two of us and said he is "totally still into me". I don't know HOW she saw that, but she said she did. Then she met live-in boyfriend. And she said that she thought I 'click' with my ex better. I told her my ex ISN'T ATTRACTED to me. I explained our love life and how he picked my body apart and also how he told me flat out "I do not like your boobs" and asked me to get fake boobs. We spent 3 hrs talking and he tried to convince me to get them. Anyways, SHE thinks I should get them and go back to him. This seems crazy to me. I mean, the ex and I did have a great friendship. But it REALLY bothers me that he wanted to me alter his body for him. She thinks it's cosmetic and if I can do this for him then I should. This woman has fake boobs, if that matters. She got them because her exhusband wanted her to. she said that he ex didn't love her, he just wanted her to get fake boobs, whereas in the 10 minutes she saw the ex and I together she could tell he loves me, he just wants big boobs. Big deal, get the boobs, she said. I was SO upset. AFTER she left I had a hard time keeping it together. But I managed, until a few minutes ago... I just bawled my eyes out and told my boyfriend. Which probably wasn't a good move (he says he doesn't care what she thinks, but I can't imagine someone saying that your girlfriend should get surgery and go back to her ex would feel NICE)...anyways, he says she doesn't know anything about us and this woman has caused nothing but trouble (not entirely true, but I have come home in tears before after being with her, because she tells me to go back to the ex..she told me that last time I was out with her too) and it's just hurtful. Plus her daughter is WILD and truly NOT a good influence on mine... I think the reason that I cry when people tell me to go back to the ex is because of many reasons. I loved him. I loved our life. I feel sad that my kids are now being raised in a split home. I still can't comprehend WHY i wasn't enough for him THE WAY I AM and even that makes me sad. I am sitting here bawling right now. I wonder if I should have tried harder, however I DID try VERY hard and the only thing I didn't do was get the boobs. Well, that and therapy. I wish I had done that WHEN WE WERE MORE SOLID vs when we were breaking up. It was too late then.

K, my love for DADT continues. I read not only sex in that, but big huge love and that's what I really liked. Seriously.

oh AD that is the WORST timing, I can't believe that! Brutal...

Well this isn't really an option for AD because she lives in canada and he's a usa citizen. He needs to have a job in order to stay in canada....

I thought of this more and seriously I just can't imagine you leaving him. I know you did that BEFORE (sort of, for other reasons) and you were CRUSHED. I don't see this as being an option... Oh hon, I just dont' know....k, going to read the other responses...

ya, i think this is me. I don't think I'd actually want to do anything. I don't think that is ME if that makes any sense. It's just fantasy. I've actually discussed this with my best friend recently (she's bi) because she's curious how far I'd take it. Turns out, not as far as she thought I would (she was making suggestions like "you'd do this, but not this" and I was like "no, I'd just do this, that's all"....

HA HA HA, well it is embarrassing. Either way, I think I am sort of "over this" if that make sense. Really. I think it was a phase...

Hey hon I don't know what to say...I know how you are sooo into him, i can't imagine suggesting you leave him. And as for the ultimatum, really, I don't think that would work...as for you going there...well I can't imagine you leaving your son, nor can I imagine your ex moving WITH you to the states...so it's quite a problem... I'll think about this and come back to it later. As for now, i just worked all night and must sleep. Maybe i'll come back to it with a fresh perspective...((sigh)) it is a position you are in. I so wish he would move here...

I've given up, i just shave against the grain, daily....

well let's just say for his birthday a few months ago I bought him a plug.

Ya, probably. It IS my weekend off. TPBM is reallllly tired.

that's post TWO babies. And thank you. I put these pics up a while ago for my own self esteem boost since my ex wasn't attracted to me. Freak! LOL

I know this post is not for me, but I perfer my MAN shaved. I do the same for him.

yes and no. These shifts ARE pretty crazy and hard to adapt to. I need to try to sleep though,that's for sure. TPBM hasn't noticed that Wayne Newton has had major cosmetic surgery...

I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I think a lot of men THINK they could or would want to have as much sex as you stated above, however given opportunity, they tire. I think there are a fair number or women with no sex drive and that pulls the women's number's down so to speak. I think my drive at age 35 is higher or at least equal to my 26 year old boyfriend.