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Thanks, but he wasn't the right guy tbh! I had a gut feeling about him when we got to know each other.

Not sure if facials are considered a fetish, but that's like whip cream on top for me.

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I wonder if anyone thinks that a man's personality can be a huge turn off during sex. What I value the most is an open mind and unconditional acceptance. The best sex partners I've had understood my sexual preferences and didn't criticize/lecture or dictate me. When a man or a woman makes a rude comment about my sexuality, it's hard for me to let go with them. For instance, calling me a prude or sexually messed up isn't going to make me want to get naked with you. The partners that I was the most attracted to saw me as sexually open and fun. sex is all about making your partner feel good.

Bumping up this topic for fun. So interesting to see how I've grown. I don't put up with and shut down when someone pressures me. It's a huge turn off. The only struggle is when someone calls you prudish, lesbian and uptight when you say no. Ugh.

I'm open minded too, and my first instinct was discomfort when reading the post. I think it's human nature to feel a bit uneasy when imagining our partner or ex with someone else. To turn the tables, how would he feel if she had videos of her sucking some other dude off or even hearing her talk about her past exploits? The past is the past, but it doesn't need to be brought in one's current sex life.

Exactly. Being in my early 30's, I felt like some of my late 20-something and early 30-something friends would question me on why I wasn't so eager to casually hook up with just anyone. It's not going to even feel good without the chemistry. The people that question me are the type that can easily feel sexual enjoyment with just anyone, but I can't. It's a lot of pressure on your body.

Quiet people are the freakiest, Imo.

Beautifully put! I agree that with the right man, anything is possible. Looking back at my past relationships, the few men that I was crazy about knew how to touch me without me having to explain. Giving oral to someone that I'm crazy about is just worship. I did have a casual sex partner in the past that couldn't make me orgasm no matter how hard he tried. The answer was simple. The emotional intimacy and trust wasn't as strong.

Straight up p in v. Not much oral, facials, titty fucking, rimming, anal play, etc.

I like giving better than receiving. If I'm receiving, the person has to touch my clit properly. I do enjoy fingering the clit or using a vibrator more than cunnilingus. Or, maybe I just haven't met someone that's really good at giving oral.

. Absolutely! Always listen to your body. It doesn't lie!

I told a man that I was dating about my sexual preferences. I told him straight up that I like giving oral sex better than everything else. His response was, "we are not sexually compatible then." I was relieved, bc I wasn't 100% into him.I was dating him to give him a chance and to see if anything would develop. Anyways, keep the replies coming!

Congrats...the right person makes all the difference. This is why I think you can never underestimate an emotional connection during sex.

You guys and girls are awesome! Wonder why I haven't posted in forever. Bigc-you are lucky!

Hehe...still feel the same at 32....

Wow-glad to know others are like me. Haven't been here in forever. Still struggle with feeling weird for liking bj's so much. Life is happy where im lucky to have a giving male lover that totally understands why I get off on giving head, lol.

It turns out the man that told me how I was more likely to cheat ended up being a cheater himself! He revealed how he cheated on hos wife, and it ruined his marriage. It's hilarious how people project their actions onto you. Good luck to them.

See, I think sexuality is very fluid and complex. It's not black and white. I've seen women that believed they were straight for many years with their husbands, and then left him for another woman. Or, the man that likes to receive a strap-on from his woman. I think being bisexual also means you look at the person and not the gender.

They were men in their 40's and 50's, and divorced. Nothing against divorced people or older people, but I wonder if insecurity is a factor here. As a single woman that's fairly young (30), I also felt insecure hearing those comments. I don't want to feel as if my chances of marriage are ruined. I would only have sex with another woman, if my future husband was okay with it. If he says "No, that will hurt me," I will respect his wish.