MarieMarie

Personally, I think part of why I could never see myself doing the Craig's List one-night-stand thing is that (aside from the danger factor) I don't do one-night-stands in general. I have to really get to know someone first before I want to have sex with them. By the same token, I don't really get turned on by looking at photos of a stranger's willie. I have always wondered if this is due to some difference in the wiring of the male/female brains, or it's simply just a matter of personal taste across the board regardless of your gender. Any thoughts on this? Are there any women out there who do get turned on by pics of strange willie? Any guys out there who don't get turned on by pics of strange cooch/boobs? I suppose this question could use a thread of its own, but, hey, I'm highjacking my own thread.

I hear ya, woman!

I've been married most of my adult life (twice), so I've only had a few partners in my whole life. All of them were people I had been friends with well ahead of time. I've never hooked up with someone I'd just met in a bar or whatever. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, of course. But if you want to know the truth, seeing "Looking For Mr. Goodbar" when I was about 16 scared the Bejeezus out of me in that regard). So, yeah, I can totally see your point about how people you initially meet face-to-face could easily turn into creeps, too. But while I'm really curious about exploring what's out there, I guess I may just have to face the fact that I'm a more conservative adventurer than my fantasies seem to suggest. Whaddya think?

I must admit, ever since I stumbled onto the Craig's List "casual encounters" section, I have been mesmerized by it. Folks on there just place ads looking to hook up for a BJ or mutual masturbation or rough sex or just about anything else you can think of. While I admit to getting more than a little...uh...moist reading some of the posts and imagining myself responding to them (or placing my own), I can't help but feel a little worried about some of those who are posting -- especially the women. I was going a little out of my skin one night, so I set up a dummy email/chat account, posted on CL, and did some sexy chat and photo exchange and fumbled around with using my web cam for the first time, which was fun. But I would be way too afraid to ever actually meet up with anyone. Even if a guy agrees to meet you in a public place first, he could always turn out to be a creep later. So, I'm curious--have any of you men or ladies actually had face-to-face encounters through Craig's List? Anyone ever thought about trying it?

For years I've just been whacking away at the ol' pubes with a scissors and shaping the edges with a razor. I'm curious whether a good electric trimmer might be a better way to go. Any thoughts on this? Anyone have any brand recommendations? I'm not interested in going bald (yet), but I do like to have a fairly close and tidy trim.

Funny, I was just wondering this about myself today. Mine is dark, too, and I don't think it has always been that way. But maybe it has. I don't know.

What is a "T-string"?

Woohoo! I'm sold.

Those pink lace ones are adorable! I think I need to go shopping and buy myself a little treat......and then walk several hundred miles so I actually look good in them.

I've just come out of a 13-year relationship. We had so much in common and are doing our best to remain friends. But....the sex was terrible and then nonexistent in the last few years, which at that point was almost kind of a relief. Prior to our relationship, we had both had fantastic sex with other partners. The two of us just never clicked on that level, though, and we both thought that we were somehow being more mature by ignoring that aspect of our relationship and focusing on the friendship part. But gradually that morphed into very hurt feelings on both sides, and some really oppressed desires. The upshot is that our divorce will be final next month. I'm 38, and I have made a promise to myself that my next relationship will involve sex and a lot of it. Sure, all the other stuff has to be there, too. But I simply cannot be in a sexless relationship again.

That's a good point and something I've often wondered about. I remember being 16 or 17 and shoving, like, shampoo bottles up there just to see how it felt. I think it's a safe bet that I broke my own.

I prefer my men natural. I shaved for an ex once, and I really enjoyed the breeze! So, here's something I've always wondered. When women do just a short trim instead of shaving....do guys get rug burn?

True. Starting to gain more confidence and working toward my BA. TPBM is curious about dabbling with the same sex, but is not sure whether he/she could take the plunge.

Jeez, are you kidding? My guy and I have to pretend we're platonic for another four months due to some life complications, pesky moral values, blahblahblah, but all I can think about right now is that I can't wait to get my hands on him and give him a blow job. I get incredibly turned on while giving one. Plus...balls are fun. :)

Falling out of an exercise routine is a slippery slope; the less you exercise, the less energy you have and the more likely it is that you'll slide into the doldrums. Right now I'm dragging myself kicking and screaming out of a post-breakup, post-holiday funk. It takes a lot of gumption to get yourself back on the exercise wagon, but it's very much worth the hassle. After only a few days of my old walking routine (I do 3-5 miles at a time), I am feeling far more happy and energetic. I also feel much more sexy, which is weird, since I haven't exercised enough to have improved my shape any at this point (but the Smart Balls definitely helped!). The main key to feeling sexy is your state of mind. If you feel energetic and you feel like you're really working and making an effort to get in shape, those positive vibes will snowball. The simple truth is that working toward a goal makes you feel better about yourself. It's a lesson that applies to so many things in life. By the way, in no way do I mean to sound like I'm preaching to you. The above rant was as much a reminder to myself than anything. We all need reminders once in a while.

Actually, you've stumbled onto a point that I've always wondered about. In a first-time scenario, what's protocol for kissing a guy right after you blow him? I mean, I would like to kiss him after, just because the blow job makes me feel really close to my partner and my natural inclination would be to kiss him. But I've often shied away from it because I was afraid that my partner would be grossed out. Any suggestions?

If it's good enough for him, it's good enough for me. I have no problem with it.

It occurs to me that if he was making HelloKitty feel guilty for masturbating, it seems likely that he's dealing with some guilt issues of his own when he gets caught looking at porn.

Sounds as if you're communicating in fits and starts, and neither of you is really getting across what you want to say. I wonder whether it would help if you two could have a weekend without the kids to unwind with the intention of really hashing things out and having a little fun. Maybe it's hard to have a real heart-to-heart with the kids around? I don't have any, so I don't know. My ex and I were never able to talk about this stuff until it was too late, and that didn't help us any. You need to get those lines of communication open or else the hurt feelings are going to keep stacking up on both sides. If it's difficult for you to talk about these issues together, maybe your idea of a letter would be a good way for you to get all of your feelings out while allowing him to think things over and give a thoughtful response. If you try this, you need to stress that this is something that you both need to work on so that he doesn't feel like you're accusing him of something. Then again, I have all of my sex by myself these days, so what the hell do I know, eh?

Welcome, Hotbunnz! I just joined a few days ago and can assure you that you'll find lots of nice, helpful people here.

Wow, that's a beautiful shot!

My first time was a very bad experience. I wasn't forced, but my partner just didn't realize what he was doing (and neither did I) and he basically just shoved his way in and I collapsed from the pain. With my second partner, I knew better. He asked once whether I would be up for it, and I told him about my previous bad experience. I said that I would be up for trying it again under the right circumstances (e.g., lots of foreplay, a couple glasses of wine, and a lot of lube). The times we'd tried it after that, it was fabulous for both of us. I agree with Ladylove. Work up to it slowly. Maybe pick out some small, unintimidating ass toys together. I bet she'll come around.

Well, we were both a little hammered.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the cell phone company. I never get telemarketing calls unless it's with someone I've done business with in the past. Like Toyota or one of my credit cards. And I don't get the credit card ones anymore because the first time they called, I just asked them to take me off their call list. Could also be because I have all of my contacts programmed into my phone, and on the rare occasion that I don't recognize the number of an incoming call, I just don't pick it up. If it's important, they'll leave a message.

Whenever I see anything like this, I check it out on Snopes.com--a site that investigates rumors. Here's a link to a nice article on it: Cell Phone Directory