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Hmmmm...this makes me think of CUM, for sure!

I have to agree with both of you. Casual sex is not for the faint of heart. I don't understand what happened tho Lil lib, why was the sex so terrible? Is it because you couldn't see yourself with the guy in a relationship? Just curious!! Maybe I missed something .....

SUCK! hehehe

No nudies for me (I'm too shy for that) but here is a great cleavage shot!! Enjoy I need some sun!! Summer, where are you....I'm waiting! LOL

Hey Tyger, Great review! Like I mentioned in the other post, I'm planning on buying the lucid dream #14 soon. If you had to choose one which do you think is better? I know some reviews said that the lucid dream was a little too big and uncomfortable? I've never tried a GS vibe, so I have NO clue as to which one to buy. I was really shocked that there were actually so many to choose from! Also, if you know when the sale officially ends (meaning when we can NO LONGER BUY and get the discount), can you let me know ? Or anyone else that knows, please chime in!!

Oohh that just rocks!! Do you know if we can place the order ON Thursday and still get the discount or does it stop on Thursday? I get paid on Thursday and I'm dying to get what's on my Wishlist!! Anyone that has a clue please let me know! MsLayD, I have the lucid dream#14 on my wishlist , I'm hoping to buy it soon!

Thanks for the response Tyger, that's a good point. Would be so much more convenient if they made more lubes that were safe for all kinds of sex, but I guess you can't always have your cake and eat it too LOL. I think I will try out the O'My flavored lubes that Eminatic suggested, and if they don't work out, oh well, no harm no foul. Thanks again for the tips.

UGhh that makes no sense, does it?! Why would they make flavored lubes...a product you use ON or IN your fun parts with sugar which obviously causes yeast and other vaginal infections?! With all the things they've come up with in the sex business, you'd think they would have found a lube that was safe for your fun parts and tasted decent as well! LOL But I digress Thanks for the recommendation! Will definitely check those out

Okay, so I was surfing through the lubricants and oils, and found a few interesting tidbits. My hubby and I have always used Astroglide as our lubricant of choice, but I'm looking for something a little different! I've seen the body toppings and flavored massage oils, but I'm looking for something high quality that is safe to use EVERYWHERE, and tastes good too! Can anyone recommend a lube that is good for all kinds of sex(oral included) and doesn't taste like well, LUBE? LOL We like to go from intercourse to oral and back again and I think a tasty lube would be a nice little treat to spice things up a bit (especially for anal!). Any ideas on some safe and tasty products?

Thanks guys, I appreciate all the input!! I think you're right Suzy, it's not really my complete confidence that needs a makeover, it's just the certain areas that I'm not fond of that make me a little self conscious at times. Like Girl on top!! That's a toughy for me, I feel like he can see all of my flaws! I agree with Chuck too, doggy is the best position, especially if you have a big ol booty hahahah

Ok! One more question! Any good products you can recommend in the tasty-lube department? I'm very much PRO-lube, but the taste isn't always appealing to me OR the hubby!! And well, I don't know about you guys, but I want my hubby to have a special treat when he goes down south!! Lol SO...I want something tasty that I can use for both lubrication AND oral. Any ideas???

It is ALLL good toyqueen!!! Maybe I'm naive when I say that one should love(both physical and emotional love) without regard to what the scale says. That just seems so superficial to me. A close friend of mine gained a significant amount of weight a few years into her marriage, her husband said he had issues with it sexually. Then her husband went to Iraq...she lost 80lbs in 7 months, and he came back home and decided, it indeed was NOT her weight that bothered him, it was just her in general!!! Now she's seperated (needless to say). I guess what I'm trying to say is, if there is TRUE love there, a spouse should want to demonstrate physical affection in the form of sex no matter how they look. That is the beauty of love in my opinion, it's not like dating which is usually just a big sex fest with someone that strikes you as eye candy! I know that when I look at my hubby, I can say with confidence...he could be 50lbs heavier and I'd still want to be with him sexually!! Maybe I'm just not for all the socially-driven ideals on what constitutes attraction between lovers.

So am I!! Hey, everyone loves the grumpy uncle, he always tells it like it is! LOL

OUCH, that was a nice little smack in the face there, but I see where you are coming from. I also see where Susy is coming from: I was in track and dance team all through High School, and when I got married, things really slowed down, not to mention the meals I was cooking now. Perhaps it's a combination of the two. I will be the first to admit, I'm out of shape and don't get enough excercise. BUT it took 4 years to put on 50lbs, I didn't really think it had anything to do with a health concern. I know women who've put on 100 in less time. As for it relating to marital/sexual problems, I sincerely hope that superficial idea wouldn't interfere with my husband desiring me. If that was the case, I think I'd have bigger problems to worry about than a lackluster sex life, I'd worry I needed to trade him in for someone who would love me unconditionally.

I'm sorry Dadt, I didn't mean to say that on an assumption, it seemed as though you were being sarcastic. Kinda like the earlier "Get divorced" spill LOL It's very hard to convey tone over the internet. I really appreciate those considered thoughts. Thank you for the good luck. We had another talk this evening; we seem to be doing a lot of that lately. Which can only mean we're working together. I feel like we're on the same page now and I think the swinging thing may actually become a distant memory. I appreciate your REALNESS...Thank you. Lil Lib: That's a great way to look at it! I agree, it isn't a necessary evil...but the mint does make your breath fresh (tehehehe) In all seriousness, I can't predict what is to come; I just know we have to make some decisions and prioritize somethings. I'm glad to have been so productive with the bold advice Dr. Dadt offered...honestly I'd still be sitting her lost and confused if he hadn't put it in perspective. Thanks again Dadt. Wish me luck on this journey and see you guys in the forums!

Ok, so I read back over some of your information, and this is the part that I don't understand. I don't see any emotional stress from swinging---unless I'm just young and dumb and don't see the big picture.

OK...what is with the sarcastic pessimism? I admit, my point of view is probably skewed by some resentful feelings, but why all the reference to divorce. You really think swinging is that much of a distraction from our emotional and physical relationship? If so, by all means enlighten me.

Okay, wow, thanks guys!! I feel better already! Iha: You're poetic if not philosophical. Thank you for the uplifting reply. Lillie: I definitely continue to wear the lingerie once in a while That's probably when I feel the sexiest! Pappy: You are very right. It's tough for a woman that once looked like "this" to go to looking like "that", especially where self image is concerned. I am comfortable in my own skin, despite the areas I'd like to change. I wish there was a way to avoid the self-consciousness that comes with weight gain! It's almost unavoidable. No matter how much you try to psyche yourself up and tell yourself that you're still sexy as hell, that little voice (I'm guessing the ego) pops up saying "No, your belly is too big, look at that double-chin, don't get naked with the lights on, are you nuts" LOL....I think you get what I mean LOL!

Wow Dadt, somehow I feel like a hit a nerve with my last reply, LOL. It's a good thing I'm thick-skinned and willing to accept constructive criticism. After re-reading my replies, I did notice that some of my reasoning surrounding the swinging topic made it sound like I'd rather continue "the recreational fucking" than work at awakening his sexual interest again. Just to clarify, that's not the situation at all. Like I said earlier on, I would LOVE for it to be just me and him again. Aside from his psychological malfunctions (for lack of better terms) my SO is a bored soul. He does not have a romantic/sensual bone in his body. I (and I accentuate the I) have tried everything my imagination can generate to see what makes him tick. The thing with him is, as soon as he tries it and likes it, he's ready to move on to something new almost instantaneously. He gets a thrill from the "taboo"...which I think is why he is so set on swinging. Tying me up or vice versa, power exchange, erotic massage, mutual masturbation, watching each other masturbate, "rough" sex...none of it sustains his interest for more than a single sack session. I'll bet there is nothing in your distinguished list of "spicing things up with your spouse" that we haven't tried or continue to do as a part of our once every two week escapade. Nothing except for changing the face and body of the person he's with, watching me with another woman (or man), or being with another man's wife in front of the guy does it for him. He gets OFF on feeling like he's doing something wrong. I say it again, he is sexually spoiled. He still has that 18yr old mentality; fuck as many women as he can and experience it all. He doesn't have to work for it, because all of his fantasies and desires have been served to him on a silver fucking platter. I didn't coin the term "married sex." He did. He is completely unsatisfied unless he is tasting the rainbow. If there was no job issues, I fear THAT would STILL be our reality. If living like a free agent is the ONLY thing that makes him happy, who am I to say "no, let's not do that anymore" You sense exhaustion for a reason, I am TIRED of feeling like I have to trade bodies with someone just to get my man to want me. I'm TIRED of talking to a cold wall of a human being every day at 530 on the dot. Think of it in terms of empty nesters. You raised your kids, did the best you could, and now it's time to take care of you. I gave him sexual freedom and freedom from being exclusive to one sexual partner (what many husbands would kill for), and did my best to ensure his needs were taken care of. Now I just want someone to focus on ME a little. I want him to WANT to make ME HAPPY. As I have him. Is that completely selfish? Yes. BUT I devote a lot of time to his happiness, and continue to expect nothing in return except love (good thing, cuz I'd be SOL otherwise). If he were to demonstrate the same amount of interest in satisfying me as I do him, I betcha I would be a happy gal. Ahhhh jeezz the plot only thickens.

Okay, so it seems inevitable that a girl puts on some pounds after she gets married; some more than others---the so-called "happy-wife effect" Well my question is, as a once curvy girl turned pleasantly plump, what are some positions that can make us chunky girls feel a little more secure about our size? Is it purely psychological? I know my hubby has no problem with my size, he loves a girl with some meat on her bones, but 4 years after the "I do" there is now 50lbs sitting between me now and my "while we were dating" body. I would love to be as confident and sexually charged as I was then....any ideas? Thanks in advance guys!!!

Hmmm, a thought-provoking topic. My hubby and I are swingers, and our experiences are secluded to only sexual exchanges between other couples or adding a 3rd. I don't necessarily believe in polymory, as I believe there is a soul mate (not mates) for everyone, but then again, I'm also very open-minded to the various alternative lifestyles people engage in. This is a very complex situation you're in, as I know swinging makes things complicated sometimes, I couldn't imagine being open emotionally too. My personal opinion: communicate your worries to him. Make sure he KNOWS beyond the shadow of a doubt that you could indeed develop emotional interest in any of these extra lovers, but that it in no way affects your feelings for him (I'm assuming). If that isn't something he's prepared for, he will either have to swallow hard and walk away or allow you to share your love between whoever you see fit. Sorry if that was too blunt, but I tried to be brief and get my point across. Communication is the best way to keep someone you care about from feeling alienated, so let it all hang out!!! Good luck

I'm completely in agreement with Iha here. Be a gentleman; being a pushy asshole is not going to get you anywhere (not that you didn't already know that!). The number one thing that is going to work in your favor here, and this is just my two sense, is that you stand apart from the wealth of other horny, inconsiderate young men and instill a a sense of trust in your lady. When she completely trusts you and feels as if you really want to please her and aren't just out to get your rox off, she will begin to loosen her feelings of insecurity with you. I think the number one thing on a young woman's mind when she's experimenting with sex for the first few times is that she will somehow displease her partner, so be very loving and sensitive in how you approach the topic of improving her methods. As for the discomfort, what is it exactly that is making it uncomfortable for you? Like Iha mentioned, if it's scraping her teeth, she should wrap her lips around her teeth and focus on using the tongue to manipulate. A great method for avoiding any gag-reflex she may have is for her to stick her tongue out a little while she's going down. This allows her to control how deep it goes; she can train her reflexes to be less sensitive to that gagging sensation, but it takes some practice (tehehehe) I'm probably going to get lots of conflicting arguments, but I know when I was younger and less experienced, I always used a condom with oral, just because it allows the woman to get used to the movements without the threat of rawing bare skin or skimming with her teeth. While many men feels this lessens the sensitivity, it will also keep you from getting a dick-ache LOL. Obviously some flavored condoms are recommended for this, as there is nothing sexy about going down on a guy and getting a numbing spermacide in the mouth. I use the Durex brand flavored condoms, they taste good and have no after taste of spermacide. Definitely communicate with your lady; be sensitive about it, but make sure she knows how eager you are to taste her and please her. Knowing how badly a man wants to taste you is extremely erotic, I think many ladies would agree!! Also, does she shave or wax? I speak for myself when I say shaving/waxing down there can make a woman feel more sensual, clean, and comfortable with her lady parts. If she hasn't shaved already, make sure she consults some tutorials on it, as the days preceeding a full on shave can be very uncomfortable if done wrong! Anyway, I hope I've helped. Good luck!!

I just have to add my two sense here. Being in your 20's doesn't necessarily mean you can recover easily. My hubby is 23 and is very much a one hit per 24 hr period kind of fella, sadly enough. It's ALL good though, he's lucky I love him!!!! LOL I do remember one especially hot night, he managed to cum 3x within a 4 or 5 hr period. It was fan-frikin-tastic! Ahhh, good times.

It really is strange how every woman is different. The first time I got 'er dun with the G-spot O was by myself, both clitoral stimulation and while using a dildo. I think the key thing about achieving it is complete and total relaxation and overwhelming arousal. I warm up with some naughty videos, or even some personal fantasy, and allot a good amount of time! Tensing up and getting frustrated is both psychologically and physically disabling if you're trying to reach that ultimate O...once ya get it you're spoiled for life!! LOL And definitely read Mikayla's Holy Grail article, it is RIGHT ON POINT!

Dadt: You speak with such reason, it would be impossible for me to get pissed at you LOL. Hell, you called me an intelligent woman, which only gives you brownie points The fact that you're taking time out of your day to add your input into some young wife's marital/sexual troubles shows what a nice individual you are! You really gave me exactly what I needed, which was another man's perspective AND you certainly hit the nail on the head with your interpretation of his job. He joined so he could serve his country and feel like a hero, as I imagine most Marines do; but I feel for him in that it hasn't given him half of what he's worth, if anything, it has smothered the admirable traits he once felt he had. AND back to swinging (sigh). The whole thing is almost exhausting to think about in between studying socialist theories and business laws. Huff---I digress. The swinging thing is a very difficult topic. Both of us enjoy being with other people sexually; if anything it makes the sex between him and I very lusty and exciting (well, once upon a time). Initially I felt like it was what created the sexual barrier between us, like he'd rather be with other women than the same ol' pussy every night (pardon the language). The problem is, and I go by our previous trials at complete monogomy, the sex fizzles. It gets boring and well, becomes what he so tenderly refers to as "married sex." I know that's a horrible way to look at things, and I know I'm naive to the many issues that should probably be shooting off metaphoric "ERROR" flares, but I don't know what else to do really. We talked about the lifestyle in our convo, and both agreed that the way we prioritized meeting up with other couples was not helping, and that it was time we could have been spending working on our own sexual relationship. BUT....neither one of us wants things to fall back into a routine again. My husband is a very logical thinker, he is far from creative. So when it comes to changing things up, that usually falls on my shoulders. As for the oral thing you mentioned, I don't know what planet my husband reigned from, but when he doesn't want sex, he doesn't want ANYTHING to do with sex. Notably in that aspect, I feel he is very selfish. I have never been demanding of sex, I'm just too passive for that. I usually approach the area of sexual suggestion with caution in fear of being rejected; rightly so, I am USUALLY rejected. Once a girl is turned down so many times, she stops trying, and once I stopped trying, our sex life diminished. Thus why I jumped on this sexpert board with such haste and visible frustration! I'm glad I found what psychological barrier sits between him and I sexually, but now I worry that the job frustration will be used as a scape goat for continued sexual denial. Then again, I overanalyze a lot of things. It's the classic "caught btwn a rock and a hard place" scenario no matter which way I turn, and I'm not sure how to approach the whole damn thing. SuzyP: I have tried that tactic OVER AND OVER again. It just doesn't work. He's too smart for that. It's like he almost TRIES to deny it, just so he can watch me squirm over it. I am a VERY sexual being, and aside from the physical frustrations, the inadequacies I feel more than lessen my self assurance. Maybe subconsciously he feels this perceived sexual prowess when I initiate things with him, so he rejects ME and it replaces his sense of failure in other areas of his life. But who am I kidding, I'm no PHD. Sorry for that very long-winded reply, I tried to cover all the bases. By all means, speak your mind!