Stress and new baby on the way, That would be my guess. Don't think about all the "stuff" spend time with your beautiful wife and soon to be mother of your child. Make love to her for those reasons alone. Don't do it to relieve stress or as an escape from the real world. Make that time YOUR world. When you wake up after , then deal with the crap. When you worry about anything, other than the two of you at that moment, you will undoubtedly not be able to please each other. Also, if you are hoping she'll do something, and you're waiting for it to happen, that might also put a damper on things. My wife gives great oral. I have found that if I wait for it to happen, than I'm not into it and it takes longer for me to finish. If she climaxes first, I need to be close behind, so she usually lets me go first, so I can make it another round, I let her "drive the boat". If she's "done" then we stop, wether I am or not. On the other hand, I will not roll over until she has been satisfied. I enjoy nothing more than make her happy. It's not about SEX, it's that a relationship gets stronger through intimacy. What ever kind of intimacy that may be. Last night started with a kiss........................