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My wife and I have been together for 6 years. We are both divorced and have 4 children between us but none of our own. I have had a "V' 7 years ago and the cost to reverse it is prohibitive. Over the last 6 years years we have had many hurdles that couples have. I have "exposed " her many new and different things when it comes to sex. She very quickly discovered that she can squirt during orgasm. (something my ex did also). I would sum our sex life up to "normal" as far as frequency (4-6 times a month). We are crazy about each other but being 40ish it's not like we are in high school again. Over the last few years I have noticed that when we make love there is not a lot of kissing, something I like. I have also noticed that on many occasions, as my wife orgasms, she has what she describes as an anxiety attack. For me, that attack ruins a wonderful time. I have stayed with her and talked her through things and in a few minutes it passes. We are very supportive of each other and work to make it easier for each of us. The other night after making love, she has a small attack and then says to me that her body tells her it feels good but she has been taught for so long that she is not supposed to feel good, and thats what brings on the anxiety. Now I know that her past had been full of abusive boyfriends and an ex husband that she gave everything too, but i have also been lucky enough to see her with other "partners" and she really enjoyed the "sex without commitment". I curious to get another point of view. Can you shed any light? thanks

I would say the bead is worn to the front on "top" of his penis, to rub your clit. OR around the back under his balls to push against the main blood vein going into his erection.

why?

I like it

I did. All I wanted was to get her off. She is now my wife and apparently I have taught her things she didn't know she could do.

It sounds like it is too tight. Cold and dark are not a good sign. Glad you are enjoying them.

I have a stainless steel one that wraps around everything. It really is different than the one you are using, and one that you need to be concerned about fit. If you can't get the steel ones off they need to be cut, and thats a trip to the ER. The one you are using should not be a problem, if he says it feels good then dont stop. I tried many different sized rubber orings before I found a size that was comfortable for me. Leathercreations.com was where I purchased mine. We like it and she asks me to wear it often. My wife likes the bigger more defined erection. It's hard to take the steel off before ejaculation. When I do cum it feels stronger and the first spurt will cross the room at times. WOW, sorry.

I try everything, but if she's not into it, then we're not into it. I'll drop hints all day, I light candles at night. I must say, that since we have gotten married it's more often that she will start. I'm the helpless romantic, but if she's not in the mood it's hard to get her there.

Last night my wife said "I want you behind me" doggie is not usually in our love making, we prefer face to face, but last night she had other plans

Stress and new baby on the way, That would be my guess. Don't think about all the "stuff" spend time with your beautiful wife and soon to be mother of your child. Make love to her for those reasons alone. Don't do it to relieve stress or as an escape from the real world. Make that time YOUR world. When you wake up after , then deal with the crap. When you worry about anything, other than the two of you at that moment, you will undoubtedly not be able to please each other. Also, if you are hoping she'll do something, and you're waiting for it to happen, that might also put a damper on things. My wife gives great oral. I have found that if I wait for it to happen, than I'm not into it and it takes longer for me to finish. If she climaxes first, I need to be close behind, so she usually lets me go first, so I can make it another round, I let her "drive the boat". If she's "done" then we stop, wether I am or not. On the other hand, I will not roll over until she has been satisfied. I enjoy nothing more than make her happy. It's not about SEX, it's that a relationship gets stronger through intimacy. What ever kind of intimacy that may be. Last night started with a kiss........................

Sorry I blew your cover

House?

i agree with MOH nipple............ its more sensitive and .........

I would rather you be yourself and just let things happen. If you really are in a relationship it should take care of itself. Don't worry about wowing me just be yourself. The first time my wife and I became intimate it was just a kiss. WOW. I was hooked. The next few times it was all about her, I was still hooked.

I have the same problem and I think it's because of the pressuer of her sitting on me. It feels great but her body weight is in the right spot to "hold things up". I would suggest, if you can, is get your body weight off of him and "hover" over top of him. It has work for us in the past. If not then ride for a while and try something new. There is nothing wrong with that.

I really enjoy oral but would much rather "finish" with intercourse.

My Dad explained to me, on the eve of my moving out of the house, that my brother and I were "mistakes" and not to make any "mistakes". During the explanation he mentioned that we were both unplanned and thats what he meant by mistakes. LOL

Thats great advise!!!!

how long is quite some time? Does he have any problems without a condom? My first take is that he does not want to use them any more. It also could be a performance issues in that he doesn't feel he can perform with it on and thus.... how old is he? my guess that a "18 something" would not have any medical issues that would cause the problem

The big "V" here. It's by far the best. We have 4 children (she 1 and I 3) and as much as we would like one of our own It's not really possible without a big financial commitment.

There is nothing more exciting, sensual, and intimate than a women who lets herself be pleasured to the point that she feels the way you are feeling.

I would look for women directors, they seem to be more about the story than the sex

We have a stainless ring from Leather Creations and it's wonderful. The advantage of having it around "everything" is to restrict blood flow out of the erect penis. It puts pressure on the vein under the scrotum that carries blood to the penis. It will also restrict ejaculation as if trying for multiples or I have also noticed it will intensify it at which point you need to stand back LOL. I will say that if your partner is willing to try it will give both of you pleasure. His penis will feel larger and fuller than ever before hitting areas that might have never been touched before. My lady friend really likes it. But as stated before with a steel ring you must be careful to pick the right size. I tried the local home store for black rubber "o" rings to find a size that wasn't too big or small. when in doubt go up in size. an 1/8" will not make a huge difference but a 1/4" will. If it is too tight it will not allow blood to flow out of the penis and thus create a dangerous experience which may include a trip to the ER to have it cut off. OUCH!! Leather Creations and Gear Essentials web sites are full of information including why you should stay away from "chrome" rings. Give it a try and you will be happy