Cherry Busting

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[Chris4u]

Yeah, the hymen is for real. Some girls will bleed when they lose their virginity. I've taken the virginity of two girls and the first didn't have any blood come out, and the girl I'm currently with lost tiny bit...you could see some spead out on the condom, but only a very thin layer, not gushing out or anything.

I know you asked how girls like to have it taken, and since you lose it only once, you either have a good or bad or okay time doing so. But from the 2 I took it away from, I went slowly in, nothing rough or fast, just to keep her at ease, because even though they were excited to lose it, I thought they might, in the back of their head, fear it may be painful and I didn't want to cause that. That's out of curtisy to them, but like I said, I wouldn't know and perhaps everyone's different in this area. Guys just have to take into consideration that they are somewhat nervous about defloration and want it to be a great moment (and some just want it out of the way).

If I were you, I start slow and pick up the pace gradually and see her responses.

[Jeremy]

it is almost always going to hurt a girl/woman the first time she has sex. the most shes probably used to is a tampon, so go nice and slow. if you have doubts that she wouldnt like that, then ask her how you want her to do it. chris is right, she may still be a virgin and when you get ahold of her she wont bleed. i'd had sex with 4 different guys before my hymen broke, which happened to be when my boyfriend (who i had been having sex with) was fingering me. and there was a puddle of blood. but it all depends on the girl and her body. just remember, be nice. you dont want to scare her into never having sex again fora long time, and you want to treat her right...if you tell her to just lay there and dont move or talk ill go to whereever you live and cut your penis off. that still bothers me that one dick said that to the girl, no wonder she doesnt know what to do

(oops)

-Steph

(i guess thats what i get for using my boyfriends computer.)

Edited June 16, 2005 by Jeremy

[ladypc]

I've always wondered from the female point of view, what is the proper way to deflower a virgin.  I'm fairly sure that these defloration sites aren't going about it the way a girl would truly want, or am I wrong?  I guess I'm basically asking should it be the old grab her shoulders and ram away, or take some time, kiss, lick her pussy, and ease in slow and gentle like!??  So tell me.

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u need to be nice

u be sweet reamber this would be her first time ,kiss her then if she lets u undo her shirt fell around she will let u know go ahead or stop.this is her body not your toy treat it with kindness...... lose her cherry is a big thing be sweet no raming.

[Guest T-Bone]

to lady pc: what the hell is that supposed 2 mean anyway. please learn 2 communikate properly. O.K.

[ladypc]

to lady pc:  what the hell is that supposed 2 mean anyway.  please learn 2 communikate properly.  O.K.    

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communakate

u say ram ......

just do what u think is best....if it came out that i was rud or nasty i'm sorry ..ram was just not a god word to use

[Jen]

Deflower a virgin...why do I have an image of a girl lying in a field of wild flowers, her pink floral dress slowly being unbuttoned by her dream boy???

AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Only in the movies.

When I lost my virginity it was with a friend, who was also a virgin. Our whole sexual escapade was goofy, fun and exactly how I would have wanted it to happen. I never bled--I few too many bike accidents had taken care of the hymen years before. Yes it was uncomfortable, but I think a good deal of that had to do with nervousness.

1) Make sure the girl (or boy) really wants to have sex. This is important for so many reasons. The desire to please the person they are with so often clouds judgement (this really applies a lot to the younger crowd, teens-mid twenties).

2) Keep it simple. You don't want sexual overload.

3) Remember that if this is their first sexual experience they are ALWAYS going to remember it! Be kind, gentle, and caring.

4) If they are not ready then they are not ready. They will respect you a lot more if you hold off and wait until a better time.

I hope this helps.

Good luck.

Jen

[delenamc]

Jen, Thats too funny. I also had the dreaded bike bar incident. I never told anyone that. Thought I was the only one. I bled when it happened but didn't know till a few years later that was it. My first was with a virgin also. I didn't bleed but since we didn't know what we were doing it didn't suprise me. It never happened so I guess I lost my virginity to a Schwinn in 1986. lol

[CJF]

it is almost always going to hurt a girl/woman the first time she has sex. the most shes probably used to is a tampon, so go nice and slow. if you have doubts that she wouldnt like that, then ask her how you want her to do it. chris is right, she may still be a virgin and when you get ahold of her she wont bleed. i'd had sex with 4 different guys before my hymen broke, which happened to be when my boyfriend (who i had been having sex with) was fingering me. and there was a puddle of blood. but it all depends on the girl and her body. just remember, be nice. you dont want to scare her into never having sex again fora long time, and you want to treat her right...if you tell her to just lay there and dont move or talk ill go to whereever you live and cut your penis off. that still bothers me that one dick said that to the girl, no wonder she doesnt know what to do 

(oops)

-Steph

(i guess thats what i get for using my boyfriends computer.)

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[Chris4u]

Howard, I totally understand your feelings about guys who want to marry a virgin...but I don't know I'd go as far as you do in your explanation as to why they do. Granted I bet the guys you know did it for that reason, since you know them. I know two guys who are not broken in themselves and religion is the factor.

I don't know if they'll find sex dirty...do you think Jessica Simpson would? She waited and from what it sounded like on her MTV show she has a good sexual relationship.

I know you weren't placing complete blame on the factors you listed, but I think for anyone visiting this site and reading about losing their virginity should know that they wont be ridiculed for holding back till marriage or be labeled as finding sexual practices dirty.

I think many who choose to do so because they want to make sure their partner is faithful and perhaps they'd feel jealous at the prospect of that partner having fun with someone else. Maybe in their subconcious they would wonder if they were as good or less satisfying than their spouse's previous partner(s). Even if both of you have had sex with others, sometimes one is suspicious as to their performance rating compared with past partners.

There are so many reasons why people choose sex before or after marriage and it just depends on the social environment and the individual themself.

But I do agree with you howard that there are those who find sex dirty and should basically be practiced for procreation.

[12GAUGE]

Tough topic. Since I have never been with a virgin (except when I had my first time) I don't feel qualified to give an opinion. Surprised Howard? 12G

[hot-pants-kate]

Did anybody see the porn movie, "Behind The Green Door"? I think that was the title. One scene i'll not forget fast is where a few guys at a bar were discussing this very subject of taking a girls virginity. One said "it's a dirty job, but someone has to do it"

I like how guys think in this relm..... did i say LIKE ?

Ohhh my.

[Mikayla1]

Oh my God!!! I can not believe someone else besides me has seen that porn "Behind the Green Door! HPK you and I are destined to be friends! I watched that porn a few years back...a few friends of ours were over for a night of drinks and movies and my friends man and I went to the video store to scope out the porn section. I immediately go to new releases to find something with Chasey Lane (love her tits) or some other hot actress and he brings me BTGD...I am like, "uh no...don't think so!" He says it is a classic, he was deflowered watching it and we HAVE to get it. So we watched it. I cracked up almost the whole time. All those bushy women and the silent fucking! It was erotic in theme, the black man in those tights taking that woman...but in aethetic quality...no way!

Anyway, I had to share that I too am a part of the BTGD fan club...or, at least I have seen it.

[12GAUGE]

IT ALMOST MAKES ME FEEL LIKE SOME KIND OF DINOSAUR but I saw BTGD back when it first came out....it was sooooooo long ago I don't really remember anything. I also saw DEEPTHROAT AND THE DEVIL IN MISS JONES. I remember it was kind of weird for me and made me uncomfortable and squeemish...due largely to my religious upbringing. It was like smoking...in a way-I had to get used to it. Like my first time with a girl. She seduced me. There was ALOT of touching and caressing and kissing and rubbing. I had been to a kegger earlier that evening so I was pretty looped. I remember when I slid my dick in her pussy it was so warm and such a delicious wet warmth surrounded my dick it's almost indescribable. Add to that the stroking in and out and I was oblivious to everything in the room except the woman I was inside of. We enjoyed each other two more times during the night. My best advice would be: go slow-there is no need to hurry. Both of you should be sober. I would think if it pleases both of you oral sex will excite you both and continued oral should put her in such a state that any pain encountered with penetration would be minimal. Again remember to go easy and listen to her...be gentle to each other and enjoy your bodies. You are only a virgin once...

[hot-pants-kate]

..........................................enjoy your bodies. You are only a virgin once.

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Here's the skinny. Go to a neighbor who raises chickens and get a fresh, just slaughtered, chicken heart. Put it under your bed in a dish. At the right time, when he is distracted, slip it up your cunny. Then when he starts thrusting, BINGO, a little blood gets on his cock, you were a virgin again.

[hot-pants-kate]

He He, i guess i've been watching too many foreign porn movies.

[12GAUGE]

hi kate r u out here?

[hot-pants-kate]

Here's the skinny. ................................................BINGO, a little blood gets on his cock, you were a virgin again.

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Hi All, my previous two posts on this thread were prompted by a REALLY MUST SEE MOVIE, rent it if you possibly can. It's "Naked Tango" a foreign film, there is an english version, an extremely exciting and profound story, cliff hanging suspense, lots of action, unbelievably sexy scenes that are not explicit, and a WONDERFUL dance scene where the leading lady (forgot her name) is dragged out of someone elses bed by the man she really loves, told to grab her shoes, taken to a slaughter house, and dances the ancient folkloric Tango in the nude with him. And God is he a dream (i could really love this guy).

Early in the story she is held captive in a brothel, stabs her first John in the chest with a dagger, finally excapes, only to be brought back by the police (in return for favors from the madam).

Profound ending too.

Kate.

[12GAUGE]

SO MY SWEETNESS KATIE U R HERE--SO TELL ME...HAVE U GOTTEN "SOME" YET OR R U STILL IN SEXUAL DECLINE?? XOXO 12G

[Chris4u]

Very true howard. A virgin isn't going to be an expert in sexual acts and love-making on the honeymoon. Experience makes that happen as howard so plainfully spelled out. A virgin, with or without the knowledge, is a ver 1.0 or 1.5 respectively in the bed the first time through. That isn't to say that they can't learn to be as good as others, because they can but with time. Having multiple partners I've been able to improve in areas I felt less successful in, but even with many partners it still takes time. Everything takes time

I don't look at someone differently for marrying before or after loosing their virginity. Some people marry their high school sweethearts and may not have had a partner prior to he or she. They're lucky that they found the right one so early in life.

Yes, faithfulness isn't solidified in marriage, considering statistics show that over 25% of married women cheat on their husbands, and over 15% do likewise. How true this is I don't know. I stopped relying on statistics when I got into college. I go to Auburn University, in Auburn, AL. During freshmen orientation one of the speakers said "girls, look to your left and right...statistics show that before you graduate that those two girls will have been raped." I don't know how they came upon 66% getting raped and 1 in 12 guys being rapists, but there are mathmatical factors and unreported cases that obviously comprise this.

But getting back to faithfulness. A girl with only one man in her life (and the same goes for men) may be curious as to other guys and have a one-nighter or a fling. To help ensure his/her loyalty one must communicate regularly, make your partner feel part of and important in your life, don't inspire jealousy or regret in them, and many other things.

Whatever you feel is right to you...to be or not to be before marriage...you must follow you emotions and do what feels right. There isn't a right or wrong answer.