Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 9, 2008 Review Team Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Hello to everyone....We fell across this wonderful site a few weeks ago and then signed up to be product reviewers and were accepted.I say we.... not becasue I have a mouse in my pocket, but because I am one of 4. I am part of a polyamorous quad which consists of 2 long term married couples (over 17 years each) and our total of 10 children, 9 still at home. The hubbies are both 40 and the wives 39... we have figured out that these are some of the best years of our lives. The 20's were great, but I think the upcoming years will be ever so much more wonderful.We all live together and have found this lovestyle to be the best of many worlds. Whoever said you can't have your cake and eat it too.... has never had desert at our house We have a website and blog that keeps us connected in the poly world and we are really looking forward to becomeing a part of this forum.Temptress et all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 9, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 That is totally FASCINATING!!!I would love to hear more on your 'lovestyle' - as I have always believed that you could totally love more than one person and find the whole polyamourous situation to be so interesting!Welcome!! BTW, I am interested also in how the 'toy testing' will work out..LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Valntyn Posted January 9, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Welcome!! I can tell I'll totally be following your review posts! Mikayla couldn't have worded it better if it'd come out of my own mouth. I've always found polyamorous households/relations acceptable, possible and wonderfully fascinating and I can't wait to learn more from/about your family!So again, a big heartfelt welcome!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bazil323 Posted January 9, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 So how does that work? Welcome to the forum, by the way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 9, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Welcome to the forum. Looking forward to reading more of your chosen relationship(s). I'm sure we've all thought about this but it will be interesting to see the dynamics from someone who is there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 10, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thans to everyone for the warm welcome.... we are looking forward to the opportunity to become aquainted with you all.This seems like a very friendly forum and I'm sure we'll enjoy the conversation and reveiws greatly.Temptress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 11, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 So how does that work? Welcome to the forum, by the way!We are fairly open about ourselves and our unique relationship. I woudl love to answer your question but I'm afraid you'll need to ask it in a different way.... what do you mean exactly by "How does that work" ?Temptress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jesso Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Welcome to the board! Looking forward to reading your reviews from a such a unique relationship perspective Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 OK, I am going to ask those questions that everyone is thinking, and no one is asking. I know a little (and I mean little) about polyamorous relationships, so forgive me if I ask the 'obvious.' I also hope I do not offend you by asking these things. It is so rare that someone (or people) as interesting as you are available for comment!(1) There are 4 of you - so, are you all equally married, or are there couples and you 'switch?'(2) You have many children between you - do you know who fathered which ones?(3) Do you have lesbian activity with your other 'wife?'(4) Are there set sleeping arrangements?(5) Do you have a favorite 'husband?'(6) What do you tell your kids?(7) The toy reviews, how are you going to do that? One couple at a time, one wife, both wives, etc? (could be interesting to have 2 women's reviews of an item at the same time)I think that is all that is on the top of my mind! Again, WELCOME!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nikki2076 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 OK, I am going to ask those questions that everyone is thinking, and no one is asking. I know a little (and I mean little) about polyamorous relationships, so forgive me if I ask the 'obvious.' I also hope I do not offend you by asking these things. It is so rare that someone (or people) as interesting as you are available for comment!(1) There are 4 of you - so, are you all equally married, or are there couples and you 'switch?'(2) You have many children between you - do you know who fathered which ones?(3) Do you have lesbian activity with your other 'wife?'(4) Are there set sleeping arrangements?(5) Do you have a favorite 'husband?'(6) What do you tell your kids?(7) The toy reviews, how are you going to do that? One couple at a time, one wife, both wives, etc? (could be interesting to have 2 women's reviews of an item at the same time)I think that is all that is on the top of my mind! Again, WELCOME!!!I could not have asked it better myself Mikayla... I have sooo many ?s when it comes to this. I mean I understand the swinging lifestyle but you obviosly go home with your partner but this is way beyond swinging and I think it is wonderful that people can live the lifestyle that they can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 If this site gets 4 reviews from every product I would call that a BARGAIN!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I just got that old "V-8" smack in the forehead for not asking this. Are all four of you registered here or is it just yourself? We would love to see all of you in here!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 11, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Mikayla,Great questions.... we loved answering them ( answers are below)!!There was also another asked by another member about our memberships in reply to that..... I am currently the only one who is a member here, however I fully expect Big will be signing up shortly, he loves to chat. Goddess is the domestic deva of our household... I expect she will sign up at some point but generally prefers to read and reply through me. Fix is not very social and has poor writing skills so I doubt he will be joining anytime soon.Just as a bit of info.... Fix had a difficult childhood, and harbored some deep seated issues from that. In the fall of 05 he was part of the emergency responce crew and returned home to us after 9 weeks away. Several weeks later he suffered a nervous breakdown and was subsequently diagnosed with PTSD and depression and much of his childhood issues coupled with the PTSD have made life very difficult for him. He moved out of the house Thanksgiving week to concentrate on himself and to attend intensive therapy. We are hoping that by summertime he will be back home with us.(1)There are 4 of you - so, are you all equally married, or are there couples and you 'switch?' A short Bio… Fix and I legally married Dec 1990 just celebrated anniv # 17. Mr Big and The Laundry Goddess legally married August 1989. Goddess and I met July of 1999 while pregnant with child #4 for each. We became very close friends and in October 2005, we decided to take our relationship and that of our spouses into the realm of Polyamory.January 1 2006 the four us exchanged rings privately making lifelong commitments to each other and our families as a whole.(2) You have many children between you - do you know who fathered which ones?There are 10 children total, 4 born to Fix and I ( + my wedding gift from Fix, a then 3 yr old daughter) and 5 to Big and Goddess.Yes we are certain of their bio fathers, all were born before we blended families.Fix and I have 20, 13, 8, & 3 yr old girls and 15 yr old boy. Big and Goddess have two girls,15 and 5 , and 3 boys 13, 9 & 8(3) Do you have lesbian activity with your other 'wife?'Yes indeed…. The men have actually made the statement that we are the primary relationship. As time goes on, Goddess and I begin to think they are correct.(4) Are there set sleeping arrangements? Yes there were…… 2 days with the spouse, and 2 with the spice and every Wednesday just us girls. It went on a rotating basis. Currently however I spend the majority of nights with Big and Goddess because Fix currently resides out of the home while he is in intensive therapy for PTSD and depression.(5) Do you have a favorite 'husband?' LOL….. no more than I have a favorite child. I think I can say the same for Goddess. However, what I can tell you is that each husband has his strengths and weakness’s and they play off each other very well. I get something very special and unique from each husband and truly find I have the best of both worlds. I do have a favorite wife however…. And she knows it.(6) What do you tell your kids? The 5 oldest, 20 down to 13 are all “in the know” we are not explicit with them, however they are aware that we love each other and are intimate with each other. The youngers have never been told anything specific however I can say we don’t hide… The hubbies kiss both wives in front of the children. The kids have dove into bed on Saturday mornings with the mixed parents and thought nothing of it. Now the one thing we have not come out about is the relationship between the women, but we are fairly certain none of the 5 olders are stupid.(7) The toy reviews, how are you going to do that? One couple at a time, one wife, both wives, etc? (could be interesting to have 2 women's reviews of an item at the same time)We are not certain how the reviews will done… I can tell you one toy used on me by each partner can feel completely different.. so I am certain we will be giving each toy a full workout <evil grin>. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 What a chance for all of us to see into your lives. I think this is a great thing for this forum!!!! As you know this is not an everyday thing! Thanks for the enlightenment!!!! Sorry about Fix's situation, hope he figures it out soon. I have been diagnosed with the PTSD also but not for the same reason and if he ever feels the need to bend an ear I am always at home, not always online but usually here, and do have a serious understanding of most of this problem!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Thanks so much for indulging my questions! I find this totally interesting and I can understand it too. Oftentimes I have wondered "why I limit myself to one man" as I too have been in love with a woman. You are lucky to have this arrangement, seem to be honest and open about it, your kids seem to be adjusted fine. Hurrah for you!I look forward to hearing more and more.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members OPL Laundry Goddess Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 As usual my Techno-savvy Temptress pokes her head in a new site long before the rest of us catch up... But just thought I'd pop in and wave hello while introducing myself as well to this new forum. Looking forward to getting to know you guys and enjoying the review process. The Laundry Goddess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 This is fascinating! Looking forward to hearing alot from you all. Another question though...have you ever had problems with the territorial thing. I personally think it would be great to have 2 husbands but I think I might have a problem with having another woman invading my territory and authority around the house and the kids. I guess since you two were so close first that helps? Tell us more..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 11, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 As usual my Techno-savvy Temptress pokes her head in a new site long before the rest of us catch up... But just thought I'd pop in and wave hello while introducing myself as well to this new forum. Looking forward to getting to know you guys and enjoying the review process. The Laundry Goddess Welcome to the forum. I, for one, am looking forward to hearing more about yourself and your life/lovestyle!!! I do have to ask where the username came about though? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members OPL Laundry Goddess Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 The name was a gift on the occassion that my loves first visited our home - kind of a long story.If you are interested, there is a lot of history and background on our website www.ourpolylife.org and if you go to the blog archive from the beginning forward, there is a blog called "Let's Talk about this Goddess Thing." I'll warn you, most of our blogs are really more like essays in length and depth.The short version is this... I love conquering the laundry. No stain can beat me, it's a personal challenge, and now a running family joke.~TLG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 IDK how much you've found time to explore in here but in-depth and lengthy are a valuable part of this site! I will be checking out your site in the meantime also! I must say I love your attitude!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 12, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 This is fascinating! Looking forward to hearing alot from you all. Another question though...have you ever had problems with the territorial thing. I personally think it would be great to have 2 husbands but I think I might have a problem with having another woman invading my territory and authority around the house and the kids. I guess since you two were so close first that helps? Tell us more.....I won't answer for the men except to say that initially and still on rare occasions they do raise a minor territorial banner. It is usally withdrawn quickly and without much fanfare... COMMUNICATION is the key.As for the wives, I will leave my Goddess to answer on her own but I can say it is my depth of love for her that makes sharing my husband, my home, my children and my life possible. All that I have, am, and ever could or will be is hers.She is a mornning person.. I am not. So when we first moved in together she began to get up at 5 am to makes Fix's lunch and see him off to work as I had once. She always made him grand breakfast and lunches that were always a production.One day in an act of misplaced jealousy I told I felt like she was trying to "out do" me in the wife dept. She replied that in her eyes he was my husband, and I was sharing him with her, and when someone lets you share something of theirs you take better care of it that if it belonged to you.That made so very much sense to me...... After that it never bothered me in the least. I knew she was caring for the man I loved in way that showed her loved and respect for me.When I have the opportunity to see Goddess with either of the men I get this amazing feeling of comphersion like I can not explain. The only time I can say I have any feelign sof jealous or terratorialism is when I perceive a man or woman over-stepping where my 3 loves are concerned.Where the home is concerned... I was a stay at home mom for 15 years, I had always wanted a career but knew (or thought) it wouldn't happen until my kids were grown. Now Big and I have created a business together, I have left the house frau role behind and Goddess wears that mantel. I was glad as hell to hand over the home!And as for my kids.... well she is a cream puff and I'm a hard ass. She can be MUCH easier on my kids than I am in many aspects. I know that she loves and cares for them as a mother, because that is who she is.Temptress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 12, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 IDK how much you've found time to explore in here but in-depth and lengthy are a valuable part of this site! I will be checking out your site in the meantime also! I must say I love your attitude!!!Just as a heads up.... there is a lot to read.. but it's alwats best to start at the beginning.Temptress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jesso Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Just wanted to say hello to the Laundry Goddess and Temptress, thanks for such detailed explanations. Your relationships sound very healthy, loving and intimate. I look forward to hearing more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ToyQueen Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 I don't know how I missed telling you this before, but welcome to the forum. I have looked at your website a little and find it fascinating. I look forward to reading more! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team OPL_Temptress Posted January 14, 2008 Author Review Team Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 I don't know how I missed telling you this before, but welcome to the forum. I have looked at your website a little and find it fascinating. I look forward to reading more!We have a lot written on the site ... we are currently going thru a rough patch.... but with time and everyone staying strong and working towards the end goal of a unified family I am sure we can move past it.Temptress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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