Members ManofHerdreams Posted July 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 . If they so choose to.Well Aiden I guess she chooses not to change. I don't know and I'm tired of trying to figure it out.Maybe there is a deeper rooted cause for her not wanting to do it but she's never admitted to it even though I've asked about it in the past. I got the BS answer of "I don't like doing it"I give up!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted July 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 Well Aiden I guess she chooses not to change. I don't know and I'm tired of trying to figure it out.Maybe there is a deeper rooted cause for her not wanting to do it but she's never admitted to it even though I've asked about it in the past. I got the BS answer of "I don't like doing it"I give up!!!!!!!!!!I would venture to say it is probably because of a couple reasons. She is afraid she isn't doing it well enough and that maybe she just cant get past the idea that it's gross or wrong. I was like that too, insecure and stuff. I would do it only for like a couple min during foreplay. Almost never to "fruition". I guess it's just not her "thing" and at least she is exploring other things like you said above, that's good news! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted July 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 I would venture to say it is probably because of a couple reasons. She is afraid she isn't doing it well enough and that maybe she just cant get past the idea that it's gross or wrong. I was like that too, insecure and stuff. I would do it only for like a couple min during foreplay. Almost never to "fruition". I guess it's just not her "thing" and at least she is exploring other things like you said above, that's good news!Yeah I guess it's the silver lining to the storm clouds........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Neuroticax Posted July 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 I usually decide the second before he cums. I'm still in "training" mode, if you will. He has a very pungent smell and taste that takes getting used to. lol So sometimes when I'm feelin' ballsy, I just say "fuck it" and do it. Other times within that nano second, I decide not to, and just let it go onto my tongue or face. Depends on the mood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tkla Posted July 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 I'm one of those evil women who doesn't swallow...ever. I hate it..that said my hubbie gets oral everytime we have sex, with very few exceptions. I rarely let it go that far anyhow, I normally climb on to finish, or he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie focl Posted June 5, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted June 5, 2009 I've responded to this before but will again. I've always swallowed...31 years...couple times a week = aprox 3224 times. (That doesn't seem like much) I didn't know until I got here that it was any kinda big deal. Wow...thats 12 1/2 gallons!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TopCat Posted June 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 6, 2009 I really don't care either way... It doesn't mean she does not love me or want me. I'll cum....somewhere Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted June 8, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 8, 2009 I always swallow, and like my fellow poster, didn't know it was such a big deal until I got here!I enjoy feeling the changes in his penis as he gets closer to cumming. I can either slow him down if he wants, or speed him up and over the edge.We have been together long enough now so I can tell by his actions what he prefers.One thing we both have noticed is when we have oral sex, he cums more (in volume) then he does when we have vaginal sex.Is this possible, or do we have good imaginations?What do you think, Mikayla?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted June 8, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 8, 2009 I really don't care either way... It doesn't mean she does not love me or want me. I'll cum....somewhereHAHAHAHA that cracked me up! "I'll cum... somewhere" Awesome! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kjellis Posted June 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 25, 2009 me being the ponderor, I wanted to estimate how many times since we have been together that I swallowed I swallow every time, if the Bj is to completion or like Mikayla stated, we may just move on to sex and not finish the Bj. But considering that I blow him at least 4-5 times a week on average, I would say I swallow three of those times at least. So about 156 times a year I swallow Now how often do I blow him in a year? I would say about 208 times. Statistics.. statistics. God I love research!The average load is 3.5mL. So with you swallowing 156 times a year that is 546mL. And at approx. 6cal/load that is 936 calories you get from him per year.Food for thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tinyclit Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 I'm sort of surprised at some of the comments in this thread. I'm an oral sex fan. I always swallow. Like some other gal in here said, three or four times a week is normal for me. I would never want my husband to cum anywhere other than into my mouth. I get nervous and even a bit scared if any cum goes anywhere other than into my mouth. The last place I'd ever want any cum going is into my vagina. I'd totally freak out if that happened. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 I'm sort of surprised at some of the comments in this thread. I'm an oral sex fan. I always swallow. Like some other gal in here said, three or four times a week is normal for me. I would never want my husband to cum anywhere other than into my mouth. I get nervous and even a bit scared if any cum goes anywhere other than into my mouth. The last place I'd ever want any cum going is into my vagina. I'd totally freak out if that happened.REALLY??? Why do you freak out if he cums in you vaginally ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 REALLY??? Why do you freak out if he cums in you vaginally ?Unless there is fear of conception, what other fear is there ?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Unless there is fear of conception, what other fear is there ??I agree, but with all the choices for birth control I'm a bit perplexed. I would never give up feeling my DH cum inside me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 I agree, but with all the choices for birth control I'm a bit perplexed. I would never give up feeling my DH cum inside me.I dont know what she could fear by having her SO cum inside her...I dont know of any phobias of this nature...Hopefull she will explain soon enough... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 I dont know what she could fear by having her SO cum inside her...I dont know of any phobias of this nature...Hopefull she will explain soon enough...I am thinking that most likely she is afraid of getting pregnant. If you don't know when your fertile time is--it's a little like playing Russian Roulette ! We have always used Natural Family Planning--AKA "Sympto Thermal Method" (No, it's not for everyone ) It's worked for us all these years. I did use it to plan both my daughters. You get to know your body and when your most fertile days are and use protection at that time. Because sperm can live up to 5 days or so, you have to take that in account and take EXTRA precautions as well. Once the ovulation time has passed then it's safe for sex without protection. I love to swallow !!! My husband did not used to enjoy this-- but over the last year or so, he has been enjoying it more and more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 I love to swallow !!! Thats always a plus... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 I am thinking that most likely she is afraid of getting pregnant. If you don't know when your fertile time is--it's a little like playing Russion Roulette ! We have always used Natural Family Planning--AKA "Sympto Thermal Method" (No, it's not for everyone ) It's worked for us all these years. I did use it to plan both my daughters. You get to know your body and when your most fertile days are and use protection at that time. Because sperm can live up to 5 days or so, you have to take that in account and take EXTRA precautions as well. Once the ovulation time has passed then it's safe for sex without protection. I love to swallow !!! My husband did not used to enjoy this-- but over the last year or so, he has been enjoying it more and more. I just have to know.... Are you saying you never used any alternative birth control method besides STM (bodies temperature based?) and it never failed? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 I just have to know.... Are you saying you never used any alternative birth control method besides STM (bodies temperature based?) and it never failed? Must be a woman thing, I have no idea... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 Must be a woman thing, I have no idea...I think what she is saying is that a women's reproductive system can be known by her bodies temperature. My aunt followed her bodty temp to raise the chances of getting pregnant. She lives out by you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 I just have to know.... Are you saying you never used any alternative birth control method besides STM (bodies temperature based?) and it never failed? It's much more involved than just checking your Basal Temperature. That is PART of it. You can tell when you are approaching your fertile time. You check your cervix and the body's discharge daily. When you are approaching your fertile time your cervix becomes very soft--more open. The discharge becomes very very slippery. Women have some discharge every day. It's only the fertile discharge that is most dangerous (or wanted if you are looking to get pregnant) The consistency is exactly like that of raw egg whites. It stretches between your fingers. The sperm love this as it helps them to get up to the egg. The cervix becomes closed and much harder when you are done ovulating. The discharge is much different also. There is a great book out there called "Taking Charge of your Fertility". I also took a Natural Family Planning Class years ago. I know they still offer them.I never wanted to use the Pill---I never wanted to alter the way my body is supposed to work. I also work in a Cancer Treatment Center. It is MIND BLOWING how many women--YOUNGER women are getting breast cancer. I do believe that the Pill has just a little bit (if not more) to do with this. (along with the other things in our environment)But, all that aside, I know when I am fertile. Now, I probably overcompensate and take extra measures just in case. (because the sperm can live up to 5 days--some research indicates 7 days) For me, the time we use condoms would be toward the end of my period--perhaps a day or so before it ends until my temperature goes up. Maybe a total of 10 days or more just in case. Ovulation is over after your basal temperature goes up. It's around the 19th day or so of my cycle. It's different for every woman so if you are reading this PLEASE do not assume that your body is the same as mine. You can also tell when you will get your period as your temperature DROPS the day it comes. This method is not for everyone. It requires a lot of work in monitoring the changes in your body. I have done it for so long that I know my body pretty well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 It's much more involved than just checking your Basal Temperature. That is PART of it. You can tell when you are approaching your fertile time. You check your cervix and the body's discharge daily. When you are approaching your fertile time your cervix becomes very soft--more open. The discharge becomes very very slippery. Women have some discharge every day. It's only the fertile discharge that is most dangerous (or wanted if you are looking to get pregnant) It's exactly like that of a raw egg. It stretches between your fingers. The sperm love this as it helps them to get up to the egg. The cervix becomes closed and much harder when you are done ovulating. The discharge is much different also. There is a great book out there called "Taking Charge of your Fertility". I did take a Natural Family Planning Class years ago though. I know they still offer them.I never wanted to use the Pill---I never wanted to alter the way my body is supposed to work. I also work in a Cancer Treatment Center. It is MIND BLOWING how many women--YOUNGER women are getting breast cancer. I do believe that the Pill has just a little bit (if not more) to do with this. (along with the other things in our environment)But, all that aside, I know when I am fertile. Now, I probably overcompensate and take extra measures just in case. (because the sperm can live up to 5 days--some research indicates 7 days) For me, the time we use condoms would be toward the end of my period--perhaps a day or so before it ends until my temperature goes up. Maybe a total of 10 days or more just in case. Ovulation is over after your basal temperature goes up. It's around the 19th day or so of my cycle. It's different for every woman so if you are reading this PLEASE do not assume that your body is the same as mine. You can tell when you will get your period as your temperature DROPS the day it comes. This method is not for everyone. It requires a lot of work in monitoring the changes in your body. I have done it for so long that I know my body pretty well. Interesting, and I'm amazed you never had an accident. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 Interesting, and I'm amazed you never had an accident.When you know exactly when your fertile days are-- it's relatively easy. I think that the people who claim that this method does not work and have gotten pregnant while on it, do not fully understand the method. But, I do take EXTRA precautions as I mentioned---I always allow a few extra days of precaution "just in case"... Much better to be careful than surprised ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted January 20, 2012 Review Team Report Share Posted January 20, 2012 When you know exactly when your fertile days are-- it's relatively easy.... I agree. I have had a lot of sex in my life, only took the pill a few years in my teens, and the one time I have gotten pregnant I knew before he was out of my bed that I was probably preg, because I know my body, I know my cycle. When I was with my ex, we typically had sex at least twice a day, every day. I knew the days that it was safe for him to cum in me and they days it wasn't, and I must have been right because no babies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 20, 2012 I agree. I have had a lot of sex in my life, only took the pill a few years in my teens, and the one time I have gotten pregnant I knew before he was out of my bed that I was probably preg, because I know my body, I know my cycle. When I was with my ex, we typically had sex at least twice a day, every day. I knew the days that it was safe for him to cum in me and they days it wasn't, and I must have been right because no babies. Somehow this train has de-railed...What happened to the topic at hand...Swallowing... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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