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As a father of 2, the thing that I would stress is patience for the first little while If your wife has morning sickness that isn't going to put her in the mood. As well, my wife said she was WAY more tired all the time during the first trimester. Then as she adjusted to hormone levels it got better and her sex drive increased. Pregnant sex is awsome! No worries over birth control! As well my wife said her orgasims were a little more intense. Some women that aren't that large in the bust rather enjoy their larger breasts. Another good thing about pregnant sex is as the baby bump gets bigger, it forces the 2 of you to be a little more creative in finding new positions which is always fun.

The average load is 3.5mL. So with you swallowing 156 times a year that is 546mL. And at approx. 6cal/load that is 936 calories you get from him per year. Food for thought

I'm sorry, but if you make the spot, you have to deal with it

Full marks for working druthers and swell into the same post!!

I think I could. Can't think of anyone else that looks forward to changing the oil in the car, watching a hockey game with some cold ones and then having sex.

My wife has some medical issues too right now (not cancer or anything like that). And I would say if you are getting it once every 2 weeks you are doing good. It's been approx. 1 month since I last had any sex including a handjob and geez......at least 4-5 months since I last got a good blowjob. She will sometimes show signs of wanting it but then doesn't. Or I will play with her, and she might even orgasim but then doesn't want sex. And then she feels horrible because I got her off and she can feel my hard on up against her and knows that I want it. But I know that if she is going to get better I have to be supportive in this time. We went out and I bought a Fleshlight. I had other guys toys but nothing compares to this. Sometimes she will help play with me because she then doesn't feel as bad leaving me wanting it. I just keep telling myself that she will get better and one day our sexlife will come back.

Sometimes my wife will say it to me. That is generally code for she wants it harder and deeper...maybe a little light hair pulling too.

Reaching in and helping is always welcome My wife likes to watch me, but likes to finish so she can feel my cock pulsing as I blow my load.

I've seen a few ladies in traffic that have been using toys. One of them at a red light picks something up off of the console arm rest. It looked like a remote for her stereo. She put her head back and started to wiggle. Then I noticed where the cord was going.... Another one wasn't so discreet. She was commando and had her skirt hitched up and her left hand was going to town.

Married for 5, together for 8 years. And yes, she still makes my jeans tight if you catch my drift. Even in something that isn't the slightest bit sexy (like sweats and a baggy shirt). And the sex is better now than ever.

He says it is itchy? Could be a latex allergy.

Trust

I wouldn't mind going for the snip, but my wife and I aren't sure that we are done having kids. At age 30 it is too soon to make that call I think. But right now because she is breast feeding we are using condoms. She is looking at getting the shot after the baby stops breast feeding.

Yes but if she is leaving forward you can then kiss as well as put an arm over her hips and let your fingers do the walking towards the back 9.

Speaking as a guy, it is always nice to have your ladies boobs that close to your face too

My wife enjoys having a max of 3 orgasims. After the 3rd she doesn't like it anymore. So if I haven't timed it right, and she is done and I am not, it is kind of a let down where even a handjob or blowjob won't get me off.

Her Dr doesn't have her on sleeping pills or anything. We just try and get the kids to bed at a more reasonable hour these days and try to get to bed earlier ourselves as being over tired makes the symptoms worse. It's hard to say if things are getting better. She seems to be willing to talk about more things now. But at the same time she wants to know what I feel and so I told her sometimes I feel alone in the woods trying to figure out things. Then she got upset at herself for isolating me when she gets attention from her therapist and support group. But she wanted to know how I felt and that was the honest answer. I went to her latest therapy session. Dr was a little shocked I was there but said that it was a good thing. From what I have read, partners are encouraged to come to at least a few of the sessions. But I have never been asked to. Well once I was. But from my research should have been more. I guess every therapist has a different style. We are going on a bit of a weekend trip soon. Just get away from life for awhile and take care of ourselves. Hopefully it is a positive experience.

The thing that I am having the hardest time with right now is if she doesn't want to talk. I can take my best guess at what is bugging her, but then when I ask I get no answer or she says that isn't it. But then she doesn't want to play 50 questions either. But then when I stop asking questions, she says I don't care or I'm mad at her. I told her I do care and that is why I want to talk with her. But when she says she doesn't want to talk...what does she want me to do? I'm not ignoring her, I am just trying to do what she wants. It is just hard because work right now is stressing me out. But I don't want to worry her with any of that stuff. I've made an appointment to go to a dads support group where guys talk about issues and a therapist talks about stratagies that might help the father and the mother.

Not sure what support services there are for the partners of deployed US Forces members, but in Canada with the Canadian Forces (CF) they have a really community based feel. I know someone that has done 1 tour in Afghanistan and is thinking about going over for another. His GF had full access many services provided by the CF including counciling for the spouse as well as children. In fact, they have a great number of resources for children from books to movies to one on one time with a trained councilor. Once overseas, the CF member and their spouse back home have video conference technology they can access (pre-booked and approved of course). But in base towns, there is a civilian staff member that runs spouse support groups that get families together to do stuff. Be it a BBQ, time to get together and just talk or special events. Doesn't matter if the family has been thru a deployment or not. Because chances are they have been effected by a deployment at some point and can bring their experiences and share them, or they will be thru one soon. And just because their spouse is home, it doesn't mean that they still aren't stressed themselves. Many marriages/relationships change. It is hard for the deployed person to go from killing machine to home life just like that. That is why the CF has a new policy where members coming back from deployment get sent on a "vacation" before getting back home. The whole platoon or company goes and while there they get access to counciling services and courses on how to destress and signs of PTSD and what is there for them if they notice them. But if you are being shut out because your husband hasn't been sent over, that is pretty shameful. They say the cost of these wars won't end once the fighting stops. It will cost millions if not BILLIONS to provide the support that families need.

That is sort of the situation that I was describing in my thread about Post Partum Depression. The situation my wife and I are in is that she doesn't have the same sex drive, and for obvious reasons. But to best support her, everything I read said don't push sex or you risk making the situation worse as doubt about if you still love her because she isn't "putting out" creap in with the other questions about herself and what is going on in her life that are already in her head. The other evening we were sitting on the couch watching Myth Busters (Yeah we are science geeks) and I was playing with her hair and rubbing her neck. Then I felt her hand go down the front of my pyjama pants. Much to her surprise I wasn't hard. Usually sitting playing with her hair and watching Myth Busters I am ready to go...yes I'm a geek. So we head to the bedroom and rock the headboard. Best multiple orgasim sex in a long time. Probably because we hadn't had any in about a month. If not longer. Then she asks me why I didn't wake up last night when she put her hand down my pants when I was sleeping. I said I didn't feel it. Normally that would have got my attention right away. But since I had been thinking all this time "don't pressure her", I sort of lost interest too. I am hoping that this latest outburst of desire on her part is that the treatment is really starting to work. Then I can get back to my old horndog self

Kind of makes me think back to that scene from Meet the Parents where Jack says to Greg: Jack: I'm a realist. I understand it's the 21st century, and you've probably had premarital relations with my daughter. But under our roof, it's my way or the Long Island Expressway. Is that understood? Greg: Of course, yeah. Jack: Good. Keep your snake in its cage for 72 hours.

Her moods don't swing like they used to. Her therapist said after the diagnosis, alot of women get some instant relief that they aren't going nutbar and that there are proven treatments that work. And that will pretty much cure the outward signs. But still inside she says the feelings of nervousness and lack of control are still there. Getting better but still there. She has been on the medication for about a month...maybe month and a half. They say after 2 months the effects of the meds really start to show since they start you off low dose then ramp up from there. The meds she is on are the most safe for breastfeeding babies. And the Dr. is really doesn't have 100% confidance in the other ones that claim are safe because there isn't enough research yet to come to a solid conclusion. And in the end I want what is best for the baby and my wife agrees. We've talked a couple of times about sex, but she gets upset either at me for bringing it up or at herself for being a bad wife. I know the real answer is somewhere in the middle and the swings to either side is just the depression. That is the thing with a woman that has PPD...you can be as calm and loving as you want when you talk to her and it is a crapshoot at best of how she is going to interpet what you just said and how the response will come come out. Ranging from anger, tears, silence (and then the cold shoulder for the rest of the day), a rational truthful answer or guilt.

I love it when my wife would finally start talking dirty to me. She liked it when I did to her but would never do it back. I like it when she tells me what she is going to do with/to my cock. Or when she is on top and she slowly sits onto it asking me how her wet cunt feels.

Well my wife has fairly recently been diagnosed with Postpartum Depression (PPD). And the therapist thinks that she may have had a mild form from the first child but could cope with it. And now with the second child (who is now 6months old) it has made it worse. I am 110% glad that we have finally figured out what it is. Things weren't going so well. We were fighting alot and she was taking everything out of context. Tension was just almost to the breaking point. Now she is getting treatment (both meds and therapist sessions). And I can see it starting to help. Everything that I have read and have been told that this is a baby steps thing. Don't expect one morning that it is just as if a light has been flipped on and everything is better. And the thing is that with PPD the partner really has to understand that even if the person with PPD lashes out at them and is mad and agressive, even over nothing, that really it is more of the depression talking. Looking back I can see the patterns as hind sight is always 20/20. And that the partner of the patient has to try their best to NOT take it personally and let it bounce off and don't react or say well I told you about this so what is your issue now. I can do that. Sometimes it is tough and I have to go have some time to myself to vent (yelling at hockey refs does wonders ). But another side effect of the depression is a lack of sex drive. And that was one of the other things that we got into conflict all the time about after the 2nd child. And I know the worst thing I can do is pressure her for it. It just makes her feel guilty that I want it but she doesn't and that she is a bad wife. Yesterday she put on a top that shows a fair amount of cleavage. I was rock hard all day. I just wanted to do her. So at night I tried my best to make her evening as stress free as possible. Rubbed her neck and back....and slowly worked my way down there. She just wasn't interested. And that was fine, I just dropped it. I have read from a couple of other couples experience that the woman at some point will say to her husband it is alright if you want to go out to have sex. I wouldn't even dream of that. I love my wife and know that as the treatment progresses things will get better and back to normal. But the bottom line is I am still a man who loves sex. And I have no problems with masterbation. It is just that it is getting old...almost to the point that I am not interested in doing it anymore. To the point that I will look at some of our old sex pics and be so turned on but when actually going to do something about it, it just seems more like a drill than pleasure. So I was thinking of getting a guys toy. My old girlfriend when I went away after highschool gave me one as a going away present and a reminder that she wouldn't be on the prowl cause she had a dildo and I should either cause I have this (At leaast I kept up my end of the bargain). But then got to thinking about how is my wife going to feel about that. It's almost like I am replacing her with this Cyberskin pussy. It would be different if we had our normal sex life still and this was just an added toy to our collection. And at the same time, I don't know if asking her if she would mind is the best course of action either. I don't know if it would just upset her. But if I just came home with one she might or most likely be upset anyway. I seriously don't know what to do. Anyone else have a similar experience?

I've been with my wife, previous GF. But I have also been with my best female friend. She's a riot. Goes over to to shelf and pics up the biggest Holmes dildo they have and says..."Well this isn't big enough...where are the horse models?" Then again, I have seen most of my friends naked through crazy drunken late night truth or dare sessions.