Members shoupja Posted April 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2009 I don't want to rain on the parade here, but I hope you are prepared for him to not be interested. I know you are trying to spice up your relationship, but I fear that you may be left out in the cold if you put too much effort into it.In the previous thread you asked for advice because he was not taking your advances very well, in fact at times he was flat out rejecting your advances. I hope that you are 10,000% sure that your plan for his birthday is something that he would love to partake in.I do hope that your plan works out the way you intend, I just hope that you are prepared to tone it down if he's not receptive to the idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members attyathome Posted April 20, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 20, 2009 Ok, there are lots of creative ideas out there--thank you.Hisbunny, yes indeed, I have considered what you're saying. I have been on the fence about whether I should go forward with this plan, because I am pretty much going out on a limb. Because you're right we have been in a period of sort of negotiating the new dynamics of our sexual relationship. But I think things are on the right track. It's not that he's been rejecting my advances, more so that I have been frustrated at his lack of initiating. The sex has been great, and he's enjoying it as much as I do. It's just that I think I could do with a little more, and I definitely could do with a little more sexy build up before we are even taking our clothes off--flirting, dirty talk, etc. Discussions about all this are ongoing. But on that note, I did ask him if he thinks he's ready for a sexy birthday, and I think we're on the same page, based on his positive response. You're right, though. I know things may not work out as planned, and I'll have to deal with that disappointment if it happens. I'm confident enough to take the risk.We shall see...But one of my kids is sick now, so the whole thing could fall apart anyway; if this virus runs through all of them it's entirely likely someone will be sick on Friday. The joys of parenting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 21, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Ok, there are lots of creative ideas out there--thank you.Hisbunny, yes indeed, I have considered what you're saying. I have been on the fence about whether I should go forward with this plan, because I am pretty much going out on a limb. Because you're right we have been in a period of sort of negotiating the new dynamics of our sexual relationship. But I think things are on the right track. It's not that he's been rejecting my advances, more so that I have been frustrated at his lack of initiating. The sex has been great, and he's enjoying it as much as I do. It's just that I think I could do with a little more, and I definitely could do with a little more sexy build up before we are even taking our clothes off--flirting, dirty talk, etc. Discussions about all this are ongoing. But on that note, I did ask him if he thinks he's ready for a sexy birthday, and I think we're on the same page, based on his positive response. You're right, though. I know things may not work out as planned, and I'll have to deal with that disappointment if it happens. I'm confident enough to take the risk.We shall see...But one of my kids is sick now, so the whole thing could fall apart anyway; if this virus runs through all of them it's entirely likely someone will be sick on Friday. The joys of parenting!I think you might consider toning down the overt sex part of your plan, give him a sensual, yummy, loving homecoming, get a reading on how he's feeling, and if it seems right, turn on the sex. For me, it might not go well if I came home from a stressful day at work and found my SO in the house cooking dinner naked. It takes me a while to shift my mental gears from work, work, work, to sex. I would need to ease into it, even if I knew it was coming. But that's me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 21, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 I think you might consider toning down the overt sex part of your plan, give him a sensual, yummy, loving homecoming, get a reading on how he's feeling, and if it seems right, turn on the sex. For me, it might not go well if I came home from a stressful day at work and found my SO in the house cooking dinner naked. It takes me a while to shift my mental gears from work, work, work, to sex. I would need to ease into it, even if I knew it was coming. But that's me.Sunday, that's a really good point. Your not the only one who needs time to shift gears. My husband also needs time many times, as most men, unless he has a long commute. I send my husband to the man cave to decompress. Maybe a quiet drink, some appetizers and the paper for a half hour or so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members attyathome Posted April 21, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 Sunday, that's a really good point. Your not the only one who needs time to shift gears. My husband also needs time many times, as most men, unless he has a long commute. I send my husband to the man cave to decompress. Maybe a quiet drink, some appetizers and the paper for a half hour or so.OK, good points. I'm toning down the overt sex parts and starting the evening with a little innocuous togetherness, romance and relaxation. If I'm getting the green light, we can turn up the heat. No need to hurry, after all. I did ask him what he has in mind to celebrate his birthday, and whether he thinks he's up for being romanced. I told him I'm planning something different and sexy, but I don't want him to feel pressure to perform if the day doesn't work out that way. He says he's looking forward to it. I do want to surprise him, but not have this thing come totally out of the blue. I think if I build up the anticipation before hand a little bit, I will get a pretty good idea of whether he's going to be receptive and whether it's a good night for my ideas. And if it turns out not to be the time for the sex adventure, then the worst that happens is we have a whole night alone and a candlelight dinner for 2. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 21, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 21, 2009 OK, good points. I'm toning down the overt sex parts and starting the evening with a little innocuous togetherness, romance and relaxation. If I'm getting the green light, we can turn up the heat. No need to hurry, after all. I did ask him what he has in mind to celebrate his birthday, and whether he thinks he's up for being romanced. I told him I'm planning something different and sexy, but I don't want him to feel pressure to perform if the day doesn't work out that way. He says he's looking forward to it. I do want to surprise him, but not have this thing come totally out of the blue. I think if I build up the anticipation before hand a little bit, I will get a pretty good idea of whether he's going to be receptive and whether it's a good night for my ideas. And if it turns out not to be the time for the sex adventure, then the worst that happens is we have a whole night alone and a candlelight dinner for 2.I think you will have a success which ever way it turns out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 22, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 OK, good points. I'm toning down the overt sex parts and starting the evening with a little innocuous togetherness, romance and relaxation. If I'm getting the green light, we can turn up the heat. No need to hurry, after all. I did ask him what he has in mind to celebrate his birthday, and whether he thinks he's up for being romanced. I told him I'm planning something different and sexy, but I don't want him to feel pressure to perform if the day doesn't work out that way. He says he's looking forward to it. I do want to surprise him, but not have this thing come totally out of the blue. I think if I build up the anticipation before hand a little bit, I will get a pretty good idea of whether he's going to be receptive and whether it's a good night for my ideas. And if it turns out not to be the time for the sex adventure, then the worst that happens is we have a whole night alone and a candlelight dinner for 2.THAT'S a recipe for success! It'll be great, I can feel it. Wish I was as lucky as your man!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members attyathome Posted April 22, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 THAT'S a recipe for success! It'll be great, I can feel it. Wish I was as lucky as your man!!Thanks for all the encouragement. I think we are going to have a great time, regardless. I can tell because I've been hinting around, and we've been doing lots of sexy flirting. I will let you all know how it all shapes up. I can't wait til Friday! Stay tuned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 Today the big day. I'm thinking of you. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted April 24, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 Today the big day. I'm thinking of you. Good luck!I was thinking the same thing. I can't wait for the report - hope it is good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted April 24, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 OHHHH GOOD LUCK!!Ona side note, your husband has the same b-day as my lil bro! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 OHHHH GOOD LUCK!!Ona side note, your husband has the same b-day as my lil bro!and my family member... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 Well it must have went well! She's still in recovery! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members attyathome Posted April 26, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 Well it must have went well! She's still in recovery! LOLOk, have fully recovered. Unfortunately we had to go from our night of bliss and get slammed with a super busy weekend, but that's ok. It's all good. Birthday plans went fabulously well.First of all, I ran into so many logistical issues with the arrangements I had made for the kids that I almost gave up the whole thing, but I perservered. And I am glad.So, how much detail would you like...? If you want the short and clean version, we had a great time! If you're in the mood for more, you can read on. I discovered a great act at a jazz club, so I decided to scrap the "ravish him as soon as he gets home" plan, which turned out to be a great decision. I spent the day readying myself--cleaned up the house (naked), shaved everything, fixed up my hair, face, new dress and new strappy shoes. And I had the new lingerie ready in my closet. I set candles up all over the house and got stuff ready for us to have dessert at home. I told him he would have to think of a drink to make with dessert, because he's the bartender among us.So, I picked him up at work and we went to hear this incredible female jazz vocalist and had dinner at the jazz club. Even though it was his birthday, he bought me a red rose on the street, because he know what he was in for, which I loved. The music was great, and it was a perfect mood setter. We sat in a corner and had some opportunity to smooch and rub each other--everything over the clothes. Afterwards, I told him we were going home for dessert and then some, and when we were almost home, he asked me where we needed to take the babysitter home. So that's when I told him, "baby, there's no sitter to take home. Just for tonight, we have no kids and the house to ourselves." When we got home, he changed into some comfy clothes while I heated up the chocolate fondue and got the candles lit. Then while he was making his drink, I went upstairs and changed into my red and black number, but of course left my shoes on. I also put on a playlist of sexy music I had made, and I told him we had over 3 hours of tunes, and I'd like to challenge us to last through the very last song. Over dessert I put my foot in his crotch and, clumsy me, I droppred my fondue fork and had to crawl under the table to pick it up. Then I spilled some chocolate on my tits, and I didn't have a napkin, so I had to prevail upon him to lick it off! It was really hot, but I reminded him that we had all night and I wanted to take it really slow. I have never been very multi-orgasmic (it's on my list of things to achieve), so I really didn't want to get to the finish line too early. After dessert, we sat on the couch where he proceeded to play with my nipples until they were so hard it was nearly painful. We stayed downstairs for about an hour teasing each other, and I was on my knees sucking his cock and licking his balls but insisting that he relax and not come yet because I was not ready to be done. He wanted to move the party to the bedroom, so we did. We brought the candles upstairs, and he took the rest of his clothes off and we got to it. I wanted to continue with my blowjob, but he said he was feeling a little left out, so we did a lot of 69, and lots of massaging--for a while with my nightie on, but then he stripped it off. But he asked me to keep the shoes on. Finally we started fucking, and we managed to hit I think every position that we've ever tried before, plus one or two new ones. After all these years, I didn't think we had any new positions! I wanted to suck him some more, because I love the taste of our fucking on his cock. So I did. I don't remember how long we were fucking, but we finished up with some anal (only the second time for that), and he was playing with my clit because we really wanted to come together. Then I got out my dolphin vibe to help him out, and we both came with him in my ass, and we were able to scream as loud as we wanted. (but truthfully I think we're a bit conditioned, because I don't think the noise we made accurately reflected what a good time we were having.) We didn't make it to the end of my playlist. It was probably about a 2 and a half hour affair. It was amazing, and now I'm all hot again from writing about it, and I have to go pick up my son. Bummer.I hope that description hasn't offended any of your innocent sensibilities! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members attyathome Posted April 26, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 and my family member...I hope that your relative and SuzyP's brother had as good a birthday as my hubby had! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 That is great. I am glad that things went so well. Way to go with all of your planning and such. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 I hope that description hasn't offended any of your innocent sensibilities! What are those? To be honest, if my little brother had a bitrhday like that I wouldn't want to know!! Glad you had fun and it all worked out though!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ohshelly Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 Awesome! I'm sure it is a birthday he will never forget! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 26, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2009 Congrats . I'm so jelly.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 27, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2009 I hope that your relative and SuzyP's brother had as good a birthday as my hubby had!My daughter is studying for finals, but we went to take her out to dinner and give her presents...... then off to study again for her ...... She said she had a great dinner and was very glad we came up. As for you sultymom, way to go! I'm happy for you. The tides have certainly turned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted April 27, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted April 27, 2009 YAY and great story!I wish I lived some place with jazz clubs - the perils of a small southern town. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 27, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2009 WOW! Sounds like it was a rousing (or arousing) success!! Good for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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