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Well being the girlie girl that I am I have to say having my nails done and being well groomed especially "down there" are the major ones. Also wearing something sexy underneath even if im just in a t-shirt and jeans always makes me feel sexy cause I know whats on underneath LOL.....Like most I have my off days where i dont feel sexy at all but they pass. I feel its all in the attitude. If you feel it/believe it others will too.

I too watched her story on E. It was very interesting. Just goes to show you that you dont know everyones life story by just what YOU see. More to the book then the cover.

Well for me Aramis was the cologne my hubby first wore when we met so that always brings backs memories. He has over the yrs tried many others and a few of the new ones are good but the first will always be the one. Polo will always remind me of my very first boyfriend. Funny how the simple scent of something can bring back memories. I know for a fact that my hubby loves loves loves when i wear Coty Wild Musk. I have many perfumes....some expensive some not and that is the one he always buys for me for whatever holiday or birthday and thats the one he makes comments about when i wear it and test him to see if he can tell or not LOL If i have it on and walk near him he will smile and say "You are wearing wild musk arent you"? Since my perfune collection varies i dont have a "signature" scent

THANK YOU HOWARD !!!!!!! You hit the nail on the head.....I too couldnt understand why he wouldnt rather get home to "play" rather then be out with they guys......for us I KNOW its NOT that the sex isnt good etc and he didnt want to talk about it etc.....I think in our case it him just being him.....thinking only stopping for a few mins. plenty of time etc.....then before you know it time flies and I know how he is when we go out......he loves to bullshit so when with the guys from work.,,,,,,LOOK OUT lol..... I am in no way against time apart that needed time or two with friends.....like you said we all need to just clear our heads sometimes.....but your correct it was the lack of respect and me feeling that I wasnt number one on his list that turned me off that night. Now when kids are gone......all i have to do is tell him im going to get out my vibe and if he cares to watch or join....it would be in his favor to get home soon.....lol.....works everytime. I have friends that the guys do this to them more often then not and thier SO thinks they could have cake and eat it too. My one friend told me her hubby did almost same as mine....went out with friends....only suppose to be for a hour or so.....he ended up staying til last call....then came home drunk and thinking she would be still wanting to have sex. Well since she didnt and him being drunk it lead into much more of a worse fight then it started out to be. I told her you can never fight/talk/reason with a person who is drunk.....He turned the whole thing around on her and actually said since SHE didnt want to screw him that she mustve got it from someone else before he came home......So he thought keeping her waiting while he was out having a good time....and then coming home...drunk...(.and im sure having that awful smokey bar smell) was suppose to turn her on and she had no right or reason to be upset. Ofcourse next day he is sorry.....yes he actually told her the words "Im sorry" lol but he has done it again.....so she is living/putting up with it...........We her friends have tried to make her see the light....but i guess she has to live and learn......I told her to come here for advice......maybe she would listen to others....maybe they can get to the bottom of why he does this to her so often......maybe the reason is he is just a jerk....i dont know. Thanks again Howard HC

In your last post you said "you think you maybe getting taken for a ride and two can play that game"......Well I think you just answered your own question.....As others have said there is NO way we here can answer about what you are going through and feeling at this time. After reading more about you two it does sound like she has feeling etc.....but then again you said others are telling you the opposite.....Well how trustworthy are these other sources/friends/peers???? Is it someone that spends a lot of time with her in the treatment center to she how she acts towards others? It could be that she is like this towards others and this person or people are telling you to watch out for her cause they just dont want to see you hurt in anyway. I say if you have doubt (which you do) that is number one reason to get to the bottom of all this.....no need to be strung along right......especially when your child (and hers) are involved.....So when you see her face to face go someplace quite without the kids if you can and just have a heart to heart talk......lay it all out there.....every question every doubt......this is your time so dont hold back, clear everything up so you can move on together and put to rest what others are telling you.....or you can move on and find someone withwhom you have no doubt at all.....Either way I wish you the best of luck. Hope it all works out for you.......keep us posted. Hrnychick

Thanks for your post.....and cute way to get back at him Im sure it worked wonders. Oh those nights out with the boys....been there done that.....that was the reason(s) I was angry with my hubby enough to just say "goodnight" and roll over and off to sleepyland. Im sure the gals out there could understand my reason for being pissed.....all day home with 3 very active kids....driving me up the wall..(but kids will be kids right) cant wait for hubby to get home.....sending message via text about what our time will be like.....kids go to grandmas for a few hours.....waiting for him to arrive home....then to have him call and say going for a beer or two with the guys be home soon.....well soon lead to kids coming home.....me being pissed.....and him acting like he had no clue as to why I was upset......OMG what a lame excuse.....he knew lol.....but that time he put friends ahead of me.....and our hot sex we were planning......So I guess I shouldnt say I was withholding.....I see i shouldve chosen better wording.....lets just say after being let down.....I wasnt receptive. Well bright spot of all that is he never did it again.....(so far knock on wood)....and when he knows we can have a afternoon sex romp cause kids arent home......HE BURNS RUBBER TO GET HERE>>>>>lol HC

This is my point exactly. After reading your post I now see that my wording was off.....I guess I lead people to think that I withheld sex and a punishment to hubby but really its the way you said in your post.....just not receptive and didnt want to be approached. More of just not in the mood and it really take me a lot to "NOT be in he mood" thank goodness im pretty easy going......LOL HC

WOW....talk about feeling alone....LOL. I see your point girls "why withhold something thats good for you" and I dont always withhold sex....we do have that "just a fuck" when I am a little mad at him or only bickering but im talking about an all out arguement. You mean to tell me NO couple reading this has EVER had a arguement with thier SO that lead to needing that time to cool down and so on? Maybe its just my temper....when pushed to my limit I just want to be left alone. I could take care of business myself and let him do the same (or not). I dont want to make it seem like hubby and I never get along ( hell its been 12yrs of marriage and a total of 18yrs together) but there has been a time or two (back in the days of getting to know eachother and getting over the tough times early in the marriage) over the course of our relationship where HE crossed the line...pushed me to that point where I was sooo mad that the last thing on my mind was having sex or even just 'fucking' him. I never stayed mad long just one night and since we aim to have sex everyday one night was plenty for him to understand just how mad he made me besides me telling him. Oh well our relationship isnt perfect but still going strong!!! Thanks for the replys. HC

I read the posts about this topic since my last.....and I see some may have been geared towards my reply. So let me start off by saying that the Big Red and Red Hots DO NOT BURN MY MOUTH....i have a reaction to the cinnamon..I know this because I can eat very HOT stuff much stronger and hotter then a piece of Big Red or Red Hots.....so therefore no cinnamon for me hate to see what would happen with something even stronger then a piece of cinnamon flavored gum.....like the altoids mentioned in another post....I think i know enough that IF they BURNED in my mouth NOT to use them on more sensitive places....so YES I do have common sense. I do not recall anywhere in my original post saying anything about BURNING and/or HOT. I was simply trying to agree with Juz that cinnamon flavored anything maybe be great for some but not for all. Now I am NOT trying to turn anyone here (the readers out there or regular members who post often) away from ever purchasing anything cinnamon,.lube, candy whatever. I am just telling my response to cinnamon flavor....yes mine was to candy and not to lube and as Howard so clearly stated the candy has the same substance used in Mace therefore its much stronger then cinnamon flavored lube would be but I still (and again THIS IS JUST ME) would not purchase anything cinnamon ever again to eat or use beacause of past experiences. So if Cinnamon flavor feels great and works for you then I say GO FOR IT AND HAVE FUN. HC

So tell me guys and gals when you are mad at your SO for one reason or another do you withhold sex? I touched base on this topic with a post about another topic....and that had me wondering is any or all of you out there like me? When my hubby pisses me off and it takes a lot for me to really get mad and stay mad I dont want him anywhere near me.....so sex is a big fat NO am I alone on this or not? I know they say "you should never go to bed mad" but sometimes it just cant be helped. We dont "fight" as often as we did in our younger days....but we still get into some good ones every now and then.....nothing that is harmful. no abuse etc......its basic talk when we really have to and that kind of stuff and like i said NO sex.....I stay my side of the bed the best i can....LOL But then when hubby cant take it and wants "some" he wont say sorry he just makes his moves on me.....ofcourse by that time Im ready to forgive and forget.....but would a sorry really kill him .....lol So back to the question "do you withhold sex from your SO when mad"? Just curious Hrnychick

First off a big thanks to all the posts....very helpful advice. Howard special thanks to you and the other guys for that male point of view I was looking for. Second to Sam....I dont understand why your wife said "you will get yours and go to sleep?" I know you said you talked to her about this but I just dont get that answer.....sorry maybe its me....but read it and reread it and i just dont get it. Now dont know if this would help you in anyway.....but here is my story with multi Os and hubby: I was NEVER one to have that multi O....once and I was done....or so I thought.....but info here about "working throught the pain" etc has helped me out a lot. Well hubby and I had a disagreement on something, not pertaining to sex, but when I am mad I want him no where near me. I maybe alone on that one but so be it thats the way I am....anyway we made up and I guess it was my lack of sex for a few days with him that when we did do it I had my first set of multi Os.....well happy as can be was I but when it came to hubby he did it once and then we had not time then to try again.....kids were coming home soon from school.....so anyway all he kept "joking" to me about was that I had 3 and he had 1....keeping score I guess lol....anyway later that night when kids were asleep.....I surprised him while he was sleeping......waking him up in that way most if not all men love to be woke up......and I didnt even think of my benefit I just wanted to please him.....and he had his 2nd O for the day.....now the score was still 3 to 2 in my favor....but hey who is counting right....lol....anyway point being maybe there is not time for YOU to try again....so how about doing it early for your first go round then try again later on that night???? Just a suggestion......it worked for us so thought i would pass it on. keep posting!!! Hrnychick

I think Juzjons point was that cinnamon is not for everyone.....like anything else some people like and go for certain things and others dont. I for one CAN NOT have cinnamon just a piece of Big Red gum makes my taste buds and my tongue funny and I love love love Red Hots but found out the hard way that the more I ate the worse the feeling...or lack of i should say....in my tongue. Goes to show you that whats good for some isnt good for all. Yes maybe he should have worded it different but I knew where he was coming from on this one (no pun intended) and have to agree NO CINNAMON FOR ME!!!!! Just my Point of View...... Hrnychick

Did you go back to the Dr. after you hurt it this time? How long will it take to heal? Must be rough with a bum knee to keep up with your little one running around....plus everything else you have to do.....well CHEER up....and hope you feel better soon. HC

Tyger I never heard of it....so if the above post is correct then why the heck is it called smurfing??? LOL....only smurf i ever heard of was a cartoon back when i was a kid LOL.....goes to show you can learn something new everyday. Tyger cant wait to find out what you did to get him back. Hrnychick

Sounds to me like the only answer is to have a talk with her.....in a NON sexual setting. Get mom to watch the kids and go out for a nice dinner or stay home but the point is you have to get to the bottom of this if you are not "happy" meaning happy otherwise but not fully in the bedroom. Sounds like you do all that you can ( time permitting) to help around the house and thats great.....so if she has no cooking to do and you help with kids then those suggestions of you helping and giving her more time are mute. Valid ofcourse but in this case you are already doing all of that. I myself am leaning toward the hormones causeing this reaction or nonreaction......Kids take a toll on a womans body....and you did say your youngest is only 2 1/2 MONTHS old. Buddy hate to say it but those days of sex 5 to 10 times daily (if i read it correct) may be long gone.....but thats not to say you wont or cant have sex everyday. This is a tricky situation because you want more and more of a reaction and if you push her to much you wont get anything. So again I say communicate. Let us know how things go.......keep posting Hrnychick

Have to agree with the others on this one....for me pussy is ok.....pretty much the standard but cunt on the other hand...thats a word that sets me off. I say ask her what she would like you to call it....just to see what she says if you dont like what she suggested then just go with what the last post said and say your so tight and you are so wet etc....sounds like the best way around it until she comes out of her shell even more. You are learning more and more about her each day and just keep doing what you are doing as in taking baby steps with her about sexual things.....it because of YOU and the way you treat her that she is coming out of her shell. She is very lucky to have such a understanding man. Hrnychick

I say write it. Unless you think its a waste of your time other then that what could it hurt right? Im sure as all the articles it will help.....even if it helps one person its worth it. Also I would like to add that there are A LOT of members here at TooTimid as you are well aware and not ALL of them post most just read....so who knows just how many out there you may help without ever knowing. Again I say go for it......I will read it you can count on that. Hrnychick

Have to agree with the above statement "What men want in the bedroom is another story". I know a lot of guys, hubby included, who go ga-ga over seeing gals with big boobs like ofcourse Pam Anderson......I have to agree nice to look at in clothes but undressed.....who knows? There have been some ladies that I thought had big tits by the way they looked in clothes and come to find out that I am a bigger size then they are......couldve been a WonderBra LOL I would never have implants....but I would consider a lift......seriously thinking about that. Im happy with my size (38dd) the only downfall for me is finding a good bra with lots of support that looks nice and has good coverage......Any suggestions? I have been to Victoria Secret and like but even those tend to "let me down" (pun intended) after a few wears. Hrnychick

You said it all.....well written hope your comment and this forum does open up minds, eyes, and hearts. I know it took me awhile to get hubby onboard for some toy fun.......now he loves it. Hrnychick

Hmmmmm, Howards post on this topic had me really thinking.....just why I dont like my hubby stripping for me but I do like to undress him and undress for him......I think it maybe a control issue......If I undress him then I have the control.......but still stand frim on my thoughts of him (or any guy for that matter) stripping.....just doesnt do it for me. Hrnychick

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted and best wishes. One of your TooTimid friends, Hrnychick

Congrats from me to all I thought all the stories were GREAT........hard to judge them......Mikayla sure had her job cut out for her on this one. Hrnychick

I think its very nice and thoughtful of you to offer to help her out. Its been a year and a half as you have said so I dont see why she wont accept your offer but then again on the other hand she may not want to feel like she is a burden or maybe doesnt want to depend on someone. If I remember correctly didnt you say she was married before.....maybe now that she is out of that bad situation she loves the freedom she has and wants to make it on her own. Im sure you can work something out.....like maybe if she really really wants to NOT have you help her out you could stop after she gets her second job and gets her new rent and other finances in order.....as you know its all a matter of pride and sometimes pride is just hard to swallow. Sounds like all things with her.....sexual and not.....are to be taken with baby steps......so give her time like you have been doing......I think you two will be a loving lasting relationship. Good luck with everything and also with your kids......im sure they will come around too someday.......hopefully. Hrnychick

Katprr, In answer to your question NO they did not check my blood for a thyroid problem. I guess the fact that the baby was healthy was enough for them. Family told me so many reasons as to why I could be dropping weight at a time I should be gaining......you know everyone thinks they know the answer why lol......well I did have a BAD sinus infection.....the worse ever and I couldnt take anything stronger then Tylenol that was one reason I was given.....maybe true for some of the time but not for the whole time.....another reason was I had some other things going on and I was also told it was my nerves and thats why......yet again after everything I dont think that was totally it either. I have to shamefully say I have since gained back some of the weight I lost while pregnant and right after. Its so up and down and sometimes seem like a lost cause that I am now goint to ask my Dr at my next visit for full blood work. Just to see if I could have a thyroid problem or not. That way I will know for sure if its me and do more excercise etc....or if its medical. Thanks for pointing out a possiable problem with your question. I never thought of it. Tyger, My point exactly why do the guys think it shouldnt be them to get fixed. I agree we women go through enough.....thats my arguement with hubby. Is it to much to ask? LOL . He is great with the kids but If I do it I could just see what I would come home to after just one night in the hospital.......oh brother lol Thanks you for your syampathy towards my loss (and Katprrs as well) After having two great pregnancies and two very healthy boys you couldnt imagine my shock to find out something was wrong. You know they say sometimes you just know.....and looking back after-the-fact I did know.......but thought maybe it was me......maybe things were just different the third time around due to age etc. Again I say everything happens for a reason......Its a hard thing to deal with but I am a stronger person because of it. Mikayla, Thanks to you and the others its nice just knowing I am not alone on this. I will find that answer that only I know......but its nice being able to put it out there to see what other moms have to say. Thanks to all the Sexy Mommas of TooTimid. Hrnychick

A lot of nipple attention really turns my hubby on and if I tease enough and play enough then once I get to that hard cock he cums in no time. In answer to the question does it turn men on more then women.......its such a close call but I would have to say yes. Hrnychick