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Also, for a touch of romance, rose petals and candles work wonders!! The bedroom should be neat and tidy, with a pleasant smell like potporri or candles is nice too. Less distracting as well.

Any woman that does a breast increase (or even decrease) FOR a man is doomed to low-self-esteem, IMO. I'm now a 36D, and fine with that. Although, I LOVED when I was a 36C (weight gain), but they're still pretty perky, but I feel better in a bra. I don't feel comfortable without one actually. Probably due to all of the breast-feeding I did when my DD was a baby. I have to agree with the poster that said that fake breasts look GREAT in a shirt, but lousy naked. I can appreciate a curvacious woman, in or out of clothes. But when I see a teenie tiny woman with like 44DDD boobs, well, DUH!! Unnatural!! I know lots of strippers (politically correctly called "exotic dancers") get their boobs done for better tips, so IMO, men LOVE to see huge boobs, fake or real, no matter what they may say. Now as far as what they'd want in the bedroom, that's another story.

I couldn't really find what that IS from the link you sent. The pics of it look awful though!! I hope your son's isn't as severe as some of those. If it's not too upsetting, what is it, and what causes it? I will think positively for you and your family. I hope all turns out well!!!

Congrats to all who won!!!

I haven't seen any, though they may be out there. I use to live in Maine, so I SO feel her discomfort there!! Not nice to be all hot and bothered and then *shocked* down there with a cold toy!! Not nice!! For a quick, spontaneous suggestion, I would recommend having the lube warmed up by putting it in a warm bowl of water, or even the toy itself, so long as it is water-resistant (it will say right on the box). You can also try the K-Y self-warming personal lube too. Or, while playing, you hold the toy in your hands, or place it on/under you so that your body heat will warm it up. Or, she could do some extra teasing and give the toy some oral action, infront of you. More eye candy for you!

No, I don't think it does make a right. Though it may make the guilty party feel better about what they did. And if they want to continue the marriage/relationship, and that works for them, then who's to say it's right or wrong. In the case that was given as an example. No, this didn't make everything right. In fact, it sounded like the woman wanted a reason to "legitimately cheat" again. Make sense? And, her going back while her husband slept, was just another cheat.

My FWB and I, I believe anyway, started having feelings for each other, but we never expressed them, and in so-not doing, went our seperate ways. Sometimes I wish I'd been more honest with him about it all. If you decide to be more open, then definitely do NOT sound like you're accusing. Just tell him that you think that this relationship is starting onto a next level, and if so, are you both willing to explore that? If he (or you) just wants to continue to have sex, maybe the person NOT growing more deeper feelings should go elsewhere, since someone could probably get hurt sooner rather than later. Good luck!!

I too, read the post of not wanting sex after the baby was born first, so NOW that makes a lot more sense. Honey, he didn't ALMOST rape you. He did rape you. You asked him to stop, and he still had sex with you. Anal intercourse is still rape as well. AND he did this while pregnant, which shows, IMO, he is not only a bastard, but he will get progressively more violent as time goes on. And who's to say that, sober or drunk, he won't turn that onto your daughter? Because, sooner or later, the violence WILL stream down to her. BIG if here, but IF he never hits her, but she sees you getting hit, she will think it's OK for a man to hit her too, so there goes the cycle over and over some more. Do you want your daughter growing up thinking that that kind of treatment is OK? You have to be strong for you and your daughter and get the hell outta there. I don't care WHO he thinks he is in and out of the bedroom. NO MAN is worth getting beat up and raped for. Never. BTW, if he truly loved you, he'd never hit or rape you, EVER!

I've been totally bald *down there* since I was about 20 I guess. So, 13 yrs. The initial shaving, almost feels "cold" down there, and a bit wierd. But after that, it's all maintainance. and not bad, just kind of a PITA at times. Although, I feel really good about myself down there! I don't recommend soap, but a good, thick cream, and a really really good razor, like the Venus Divine (I have the vibrating one~go figure, and it's great!!) and if you need too, after-care cream for bumps.

Well, I will try and answer this question, which I believe to be, "have you ever had an orgasm due to nipple play?" No, I haven't. But my DH loves that, and firm nipping seems to set him over the edge.

When I was lactating, it was kind of an unspoken thing where it did NOT happen. I was sore and tired enough, and Breast Feeding, I just didn't want my breasts touched anyway.

What IS it with men thinking that WE should be the ones to get "fixed" and not them?? Like it de-masculates them or something!! My dh is the same darn way! Not like women have enough physical crap to deal with: pregnancy, weight gain, PMS, periods......OK, I think I am done the rant, sorry! LOL I am so sorry for the losses that some of the posters have experienced. I have one healthy 3 1/2 yr old baby girl, and it scares the hell outta me, just thinking of something bad happening to her. My DH has a girl from a previous marriage, and says he wants to try for a boy. Both of his siblings died tragic deaths in their adulthood, so he's the only child left to give grandbabies. Well, there is no positive way to make sure we'd have a boy. Plus, HE'S not the one that would have to go thru another c-section, which I tore, and had a bad time of it all. Plus, the stretch marks, weight, and my sanity!! I don't want another one. One child is perfectly FINE with me. But most ppl look at me like since that's not really "normal" down here in TX to have just ONE, and NOT want more. I guess it's going to have to be a personal choice, as always. Just let your hubby know, that in the case of elective sterilization, for the man to have it done is cheaper, and so much faster! For the woman, it's a matter of being in the hospital at least over night, where the man is day surgery, in, snip, out. Bastards get everything easy!! LOL

Definitely GIRTH. And, of course, talent.

Well, I'm not really sure.... For a woman, either Curvacious, or Mikalya. Howard does seem like the logical choice for men.....but since not too many men post....I guess I'm not really sure there. LOL Guess I will have to post more to get on someone's list LOL!!!

Well, the original poster certainly "stirred the turd" didn't he? Wow! Anyway, everyone has the right to be ignorant, and some just abuse the privelage. I believe everyone has the right to their opinion. That man will just have an extremely hard time finding any woman that will put up with such a hypocritical person such as he. Maybe there should be a debate forum just for things like that.

Well, congrats on the healthy baby girl!! I lost all of my sex-drive after my baby was born too. It's just now slowly coming back (and she's 3). But I think most of that has to do with my low body image of myself. Anyway....someone mentioned a possible "rape"? If this is the case, it could be your lacking libido is caused by not wanting HIM at all...resentment and so on. If not, talk to your DR/GYN and tell him/her what is going on. They can't help if you don't tell them. It's actually fairly common.

I have to agree with Howard & Rob. Sounds like there is more to it than just "not liking sex". 14 yrs is a LONG time (esp these days) to be married. Most men can even have sex with women that they don't really like anymore. But 3 times a year is a bit sad, for the both of you. If he pushes you away, chances are, unfortunately, there is someone else occupying his sexual time. You will probably have to bring that up. Also, the counselling may be an option if there isn't anyone else in his life. He also may be trying to push you away so you will be the first one to leave. Some people hate "being the bad-guy" in the relationship (aka the one to leave). Good luck to you, and keep us posted.

I have been PMed and hit on, and I have to agree with ChickenMom, I didn't come here to be propositioned, but for information. Where it is flattering to still be considered desirable (but let's be honest~how desirable can I be to someone who's never even SEEN me?), I don't go online looking to be hit on. TYVM, but no thanks!!

Sounds like you've had a lot to deal with! You also must be a very strong person to be able to handle what has been dealt to you. No wonder you may be a bit "lagging" sex-wise!! Between the burns, and as of late, the hurricane!! I must commend you both for being so strong, especially together!! I can sympathize a bit with the hurricane trauma, cuz, I too, went thru that, but with Rita. We got hit pretty hard, but were very fortunate to be sure!! Howard made a great point with the pain meds. Also, have you had counselling after the surgeries? I'm not talking follow-up medical ones, but real counselling? Sound cheezy to say, and probably mentioned a lot, but it really does help. That, and having counselling with your wife, as well as some for her, to talk about her issues/concerns that she may have with it too. Be honest with your doctors about the sexual difficutlies. Don't be shy about it. If they don't know that it's an issue (possibly due to the meds you're on), then they can't help you fix it. Good luck to you!!

Looks very cute. I have one a lot like that one too.

Having sex? Was it no big deal, or were you a bit shocked? For me, it was a bit surprising, and almost gross. And I was 13!! But she never talked to me about sex, and I never really "thought" that she did that. Now, being older, I know better, but it still kinda makes me go to think about it! And to they know that you saw them? My mother doesn't know, thank goodness!!

LOL Diamond!! I was shy, and my mother never really discussed sex. Starting my period was just "another thing". But there was one day that showed me that Mom could get her freak on too!! It was enlightening, as well as disturbing!!

There are SEVERAL!!! I can be so picky!!! My hubby smokes (he quit for a long time, but started up again during the whole hurricane Rita drama we went thru), and I HATE it!! He has to shower and brush his teeth before he even THINKS of coming near me!!! I also hate men that scream like women when they come!! And men that are SO insecure about their penises, that they obsess over your past lovers and try and compare!! (My ex dh was like that.) Dirty, unclean men. And, to sound a bit on the materialistic (as far as looks go), I don't do bald men. Confidence is a good thing, but being so cocky (no pun intended), that they think they don't need to exude any effort, is SO irritating, I never bothered.

I love the warning that they give as to "Item is not returnable, please be sure that you understand the size of this product" (or something like that!!). All I can really say is OMFG!!!