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My HB almost never cums when I ride him, and we've learned that it's no big deal. I cum like crazy when I'm on top, rolling my hips back and forth with his cock deep inside, which he loves to watch... and when I've had enough orgasms or I'm just plain exhausted we switch to a different position so he can fuck me hard and cum too. The only exception is if I lean forward so my breasts are on his chest, and he thrusts up into me... he can cum pretty easily doing that.

Wide is wonderful... I am blessed with a man who is both very long and very thick, but if I had to choose one over the other, I'll take thickness. If you crave the sensation of deeper penetration, you can try putting a set of ben-wa balls in your vagina first, placing them as deeply as possible. This worked for me years ago when I was with a man who was built like your guy. We eventually broke up, but not over his penis size.

We've never used blades in our role play scenes, but in one of our favorite role-plays he's a cop and I'm a hooker, and we fuck with our clothes on... including his gun in his shoulder holster, which is for some reason a huge turn-on for me. As for pain in general, I like to be spanked (naughty schoolgirl, stern teacher role play) but not too hard. Sometimes I really like it when my hb bites my nipples, and I love it when he pulls my hair hard while he's fucking me from behind. And there is the delicious pain that comes from fucking enough times in a short time period to be rather sore, then doing it just one more time... there's no question that type of pain really spices things up.

Role play. We often incorporate bondage into our role plays, though, so maybe it's both, LOL!

shortstuff is absolutely right. Like her, it took me a long time to get to the point of being able to take my hb's cock anally. She should definitely try anal stimulation with masturbation. Just holding a vibe on the outside of the anus at first with another vibe on her clitoris to start with, and gradually working up to insertion with a slim vibe. Once the body and brain start to associate anal stimulation with orgasmic pleasure, progress can be swift.

I love anal, both with my hb and solo. We have anal intercourse about as often as vaginal. DP is nice, sometimes, but a long, hard butt-fuck is simply heaven.

I too have anal orgasms. I have different kinds, depending on what we're doing... dp (plug/dildo in my ass and cock in my pussy) usually gives me explosive "blended" orgasms, which I feel in my rectum and in my vagina, and these feel like a long, deep vaginal orgasms with a bit of an anal flavor. But orgasms from deep penile thrusting in my ass are purely anorectal for me. I feel anal orgasms very deep inside, way to the back of my pelvis, and in my anus. The contractions or pulsations are longer and slower than any other kind of orgasm I've had.In Tristan Taormino's Anal Sex videos she and one other porn actress state that anal orgasms are their absolute favorite. I'm not quite that committed (I like ALL orgasms ).

I have nipple orgasms sometimes, and they are awesome. Conditions have to be just right, though. We have to have gone without sex for a bit too long, so I'm extremely horny, and I have to be very relaxed. Also, I have to have a bra or corset on, I think because it insulates my breasts from touching his skin before we 'go for it'. Lots of through-the-bra touching and squeezing, and lots of kissing and licking the tops of my breasts are necessary. Then the first thing that touches my nipple has to be his mouth... then very, very strong sucking of my nipple and firm squeezing of my breast and, most of the time within a few seconds I'll have my orgasm. It's a totally unique orgasm, too... it feels sort of in my nipple, and my womb, and the pit of my stomach all at once. My nipple will be immediately very sensitive after I come, like your clit gets after an oral orgasm, and I can't stand to have it touched again for a long time. I have to tuck it back into my bra, which is part of why wearing one is important. But the good news is if I have a nipple come on one side, I'll get a second one on the other side every time. BTW, I had my first nipple orgasm with my HB while I was breastfeeding our third child. I think the extra sensitivity that comes with breatfeeding made the breakthrough possible. Yet another good reason to breastfeed your babies!

I too am multiorgasmic, at least with intercourse (vaginal and anal), and I find the longer we fuck, the more orgasms I have, and the wetter I get. But that's vaginal lubrication, not urethral ejaculation. I have only squirted a handful of times in my life, and the first couple of times I was mortified because I thought I'd urinated. Each time I've squirted it's been after 30 or 40 minutes of intense fucking, many orgasms, and then being fucked really deep from behind with a pillow or Liberator cushion under my hips. I think it's the combination of prolonged intense intercourse followed by really hard G-spot that does it to me. I've had G-spot orgasms with a vibe (the Hitachi Magic Wand with its G-spot attachment is OMG out of this world for G-spot orgasms), but I never squirt that way. I think it's not just the G-spot stimulation that makes me squirt, but the long buildup and the really filled sensation I get in that position. But every woman is different. My HB had a girlfriend before we met that he says squirted every time he made her come with his fingers, but never squirted when he fucked her. Mind you, he never fucked her face-down on a Liberator Wedge for 40 minutes, either, so we'll never know!

My HB bought me a leather buttplug harness several years ago that works really well... it's hard to describe, but it works so I'll try. You could make one yourself with a few strips of leather and a pop-rivet tool. Basically, it's a wide, soft leather belt that you buckle around your waist or upper hips. There's a single strap that buckles to the belt in the middle of the back, about half an inch wide, that runs down between your cheeks and splits into two right at your anus. The split straps can be buckled to the belt really wide apart at the front so your pussy is completely exposed for vaginal sex with a plug in your ass, or they can be buckled right together so you can have a toy in your pussy as well as in your ass, or you can lengthen the back strap and shorten the front straps so the harness holds a toy in your pussy but keeps your clit free for oral/manual stimulation. I'm sorry if this isn't clear, and neither of us have any idea where to get another one. But it is simple enough that anyone who can sew a zipper or rivet a buckle into a dress could make one. I don't use mine much for solo stimulation... usually I wear it to hold a buttplug in my ass under my dress while my HB and I go out for dinner or drinks, and for the hot sex that invariably happens afterward when we get home (or sometimes in the car in the parking lot, LOL!)

I can identify with your husband's reluctance to watch porn. I was raised under strict religious rules, and struggled with that myself for a long time. I had an internal conflict due to the fact that I was really turned on by porn, but believed it was immoral, and that conflict raised a lot of guilt in my heart. I'm not sure that I've resolved the conflict, but I've come to terms with it and now can enjoy watching it with my man before, during, and after we have sex. It can be a great enhancement to our sex parties. I don't use porn at all on my own, but I do use erotic literature when I masturbate. Some of the "how-to" DVD's are very hot, BTW, so if that's a way you and your husband can get around his moral issue, and you can get the hot visual stimulation you want, more power to you. BTW, the "how-to" videos can be a real inspiration to try new things. I have a girlfriend who thought I was crazy for years because I was so into anal sex. But after she watched Tristan Taormino's "Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" video, then "Crystal Dreams" with her husband, and saw Tristan and Chloe having clearly non-faked anal orgasms, she decided to try anal herself. She is now even more of an anal addict than I am! Seeing real people enjoy things that are outside our current comfort zones is a great way to extend the limits of our sexual experiences.

Hmm. I don't think I have enough information to give you a thorough answer. How long a time are you talking about? 15 minutes? An hour? What kind of sex... oral, vaginal, anal? My man usually has to fuck me for a good 10-15 minutes before he's ready to come (vaginal sex), a bit less if we're having anal, and a lot longer if I'm giving him a blowjob. I enjoy his staying power... the longer he lasts, the more orgasms I have. But I know what you mean, sometimes you just want your man to come right now. There are a few things I've found that can make my man come faster. If I get him to penetrate me as soon as he's got a hard-on, he'll come much faster. Also, if we watch porn or read some erotica together for a while before we have sex he'll be really turned on and will come faster. The only "on-demand" way I have for making him come right now is to put my finger in his ass while he's fucking me. I can't quite reach his prostate gland, but the anal stimulation usually makes him come very soon, ten or fifteen seconds. Maybe you can give that a try and see how your lover reacts.

Fucking was really difficult during the last trimester of all three of my pregnancies, and coming (me) was almost impossible... when I did come, my uterus would cramp for hours afterwards. So I don't recall my breasts dripping at all because we hardly had sex at all. When I was breast-feeding our babies it was hard to have sex... something about the breastfeeding inhibiting estrogen, so my vagina was sore for months after childbirth... but when we DID start having regular sex again, my breasts would literally erupt when I came. I mean milk would shoot across the bedroom! I was mortified the first time it happened, but my HB laughed and told me it was sweet (literally! breastmilk is really, really sugar-sweet), and not to worry. It wasn't a turn-on for either of us, really, but it was an intriguing and interesting side-trip on our lifelong sexual journey.

My HB was never shy with me about anal stimulation. We were quite young when we became lovers, and being head over heels in love and horny as hell and completely turned on by each other, we put our mouths and fingers everywhere. I learned early on that if I wanted him to come right now all I had to do was put my finger up his ass and he would explode. We stopped doing that for a while when we were raising our children, but we re-discovered his anal sensitivity a few years ago and I've been exploiting it shamelessly. Since we were already really into anal fucking (his cock, my ass) we didn't have any problems using the same toys in him that we were using in me... except that I was/am able to take much bigger toys than he is. I don't know why that is, except that women are built to be penetrated, and we have more sensitivity deep inside than a man does, I think. Anyway, he doesn't enjoy really deep anal penetration, but he does enjoy having a toy in his ass when I give him a blowjob or even when he's fucking me. I know that my HB uses anal stim when he masturbates, but I don't care to know the details. I understand that sometimes a man just needs to get his rocks off, but a part of me has always hated the idea that his semen was being spurted anywhere but inside me. Anyway, a few years ago when I couldn't fuck and he was really horny, instead of giving him a blowjob or handjob I told him I wanted us to watch each other masturbate, and I wanted him to use a vibrator in his ass. He knelt between my legs while we did it, and when he came, his semen spurted all the way up to my breasts.... wow! I really don't care for come-showers, though... I prefer him to come inside me. We had a really hot session a few weeks ago where we were both really, really into anal... We had already had a great regular fuck, and we both wanted the second round to take place in my ass, so as I was getting him hard with my mouth and hand I worked a vibrator into his ass, then after he was stretched out I worked the large Jule Ashton Beginner's kit plug up into him. We both like this plug because it's big enough that once you get it in, it stays in really well. I guess I should admit that at the same time he was doing some mouth magic on my pussy and had a very large vibrator in my backdoor. Anyway, in short order I was on my knees and he was pounding my ass, and it was a HUGE turnon for me to know that while he was fucking my ass, I was in a sense fucking his with the plug I'd put in him. OMG... HUGE orgasms for both of us. I've been looking at the prostate gland stimulators here on TT.com. I think paolo might reaalllllyyy enjoy getting blown with one of those buzzing inside him... Film at eleven... <grin>

Oh, absolutely! My HB and I have been having regular anal sex for years and years, and I love deep, hard anal fucking... but if we haven't done anal for a while (dunno how long exactly that is.. maybe two or three weeks? our sex life cycles... sometimes we have anal almost every time we fuck, sometimes we're just more focused on other activities...) he has to start with slow thrusting or I'll make him stop. He loves coming in my ass, which is good incentive for him to make sure he doesn't pick up the pace until I'm ready for it. In a really good anal session, I'll come several times before he really starts piledriving my ass (ahem.. excuse the pun), and then I come my brains out over and over until he pumps his load into me. And BTW, I agree that it's great feeling my man come in my ass. I can feel him come in my ass a lot better than I can feel him come in my pussy... not the squirts of semen, but the pulsations of his cock. Keep us posted on your anal adventures!

It took me a LONG time to be able to take anything bigger than my HB's index finger up my ass, but we finally figured out that the closer I was to orgasm, the easier anal insertion was. Typically, he would lick my pussy until I was very aroused, then work a well-lubed finger into my ass while continuing cunnilingus, and when I was almost ready to come I'd tell him and he'd replace his finger with a slim vibrator and I would come... then after a few times he used a bigger vibrator, then after a while a REALLY big vibrator. After that, getting a plug into my ass was not at all difficult, and eventually, my HB's cock, which is my absolute favorite anal "toy" of all time. In your solo butt plug sessions, you may find the same thing works... get yourself close to orgasm with a smaller plug in your ass, then when you're almost ready to come, take it out and put in a bigger one. If you're like me, you'll find it much easier to do, and the feeling of fullness in your anus will make your O a lot longer and stronger.

I enjoy written erotica more than visual erotica, but I like and use both. We have an extensive library of erotic literature and a modest library of erotic DVD's. I enjoy writing erotica, and while none of my stories have been published people have told me they're good enough for publication. I prefer to keep them private, as my stories are all based on real-life experiences, and I don't care to share that with just anyone. I have found some other people's written erotica amazing. Jane Urquhart's erotica is wonderfully fun and happy and very, very sexy. There are some others on the internet, but mostly I like my old, tried-and-true smut books. I have to keep taping the pages back in on some of them, LOL! We use both books and DVD's, together and separately. I find books are better as foreplay and for solo enhancement, but when I've got 9 inches of my husband's hard cock pounding into me, it's hard to hold (let alone focus on) a book. That's when erotic DVD's are priceless. Listening to the sounds... hard breathing, the slapping of a man's hips on a woman's ass, the moans of a woman cumming... makes my own orgasms sooooo much more intense. It's not an everyday thing, but when we use either books or DVD's, it's definitely HOT.

The restraints are quite good. The cuffs are soft and velcro closed, with plastic clips for quick attachment and release, and there are extension straps so HB can restrain me in almost any position. You can't tighten them as much as ropes or bondage scarves/ribbons, so we sometimes don't use them if I crave the sensations of very tight bondage, but if we're in the middle of a hot fuck, my HB can strap them on my wrists while we're still having sex, which allows us to transition to a bondage fuck very quickly. They're very versatile and comfortable. If I could have only one Liberator shape, it would be the Wedge, but you should definitely get the restraints set. If you get the Ramp, you'll want a set of thigh cuffs, too. They come in VERY handy for fastening me to the Ramp very securely.

I agree with the other ladies. Some people just need a lot of practice before they can take a really large object anally. In my case, it took several years. I think we could've gone faster, now that I know what to do, but there was almost no information out there on how to perform anal sex when we started. Several things will help get your anus in shape for your man's cock. First, try to include anal play every time you and your man have sex... combine his finger in your ass with clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation. Second, get some anal toys and use them when you masturbate. There are lots of good suggestions in here, but I recommend a slim insertable vibrator to start with because nothing relaxes your sphincter as quickly and as pleasurably as a vibe, in my experience. The main objective here is for your body to get used to having orgasms with something in your ass. The more orgasms you have with anal stimulation, the more you'll look forward to it. Once you form that subconscious association, you're 90% of the way to being able to have anal intercourse. The last 10% is getting physically ready to take his wide cock. You'll want to stretch your anus so he can fit in you with no pain, and for that there is no substitute for a set of anal plugs ranging in size from small to large. Start with the small, then work your way up to large. Again, the more turned-on you are, the easier it'll be to put something really big in there. Once you get the plug in, leave it in for a while. If my HB and I haven't had anal sex for a while and I've got the urge, I'll wear a plug around the house for a few hours to make sure I'll be stretched and ready for him that night. And wearing a plug for a while can be a really good way to heat up a solo session, too.

My HB has, on several occasions, had two orgasms during the same act of intercourse. I'm not talking about coming, getting soft, getting hard again, and coming again... I mean he has an orgasm, ejaculates inside me, but instead of going soft his cock seems to get harder and he just keeps going until he has a second orgasm with ejaculation. Of course, in the meantime I'm having 20 orgasms to each of his, and the sensations are wonderful. He never did this when he was younger, but he's done it half a dozen times in the past couple of years. It's not drugs, although a couple of times Cialis was involved.

Actually, LL, she really is my friend. My HB and I have been doing sex role-play games for years. She popped over for coffee a few months ago and caught me trying on a new 'pirate's wench' outfit I'd just bought. It's obviously a sex costume (black velvet lace-up corset top, dark red slit skirt with lace-up front, thigh-high stiletto boots), so I laughed and told her about the role-play we were going to have that evening... the big bad pirate and the helpless wench, she trying in vain to fight him off while he binds her, teases her to a frenzy, then ravishes her again and again... LOL! My friend was fascinated, and it took months for her to get her HB to role-play with her. Now that he's into it, she's a very happy lady.

Absolutely right. Using email or notes can get things going. One of my girlfriends wanted to try role-play with her husband, but he was resistant. She succeeded, finally, by sending him an email inviting to meet her for a drink after work, but that when they met, her name would be Natasha, and his would be Boris. To further entice him, she attached a picture of herself from the waist down in nothing but a garter belt and stockings and heels (big turn-on for him, like most men, I think, and something she'd resisted doing because she thought garters & stockings were "slutty"). So he got his woman into a garter belt, and she got her man into a role-play, and they had a great time. They've branched into a few other role-play games, now, and for the first time in years their sex life is too hot to handle.

These products and this topic is too good to leave it languishing on Page 4. Pink, I have the same problem with that position. My husband solved the problem by buying me a velvet corset that comes down quite low on my hips. The corset fabric meshes with the microfiber Liberator shapes cover, and it locks my hips in place like Velcro! Combine that with wrist and ankle restraints, and this is one girl who doesn't slide ANYWHERE no matter how hard hubby pounds my pussy.

"No means no!!" Actually, it doesn't, in bondage play. Bondage, and sex in bondage, can only work if you absolutely trust your partner. It works both ways. The concept of a safeword or signal is introduced so the sub can play the role of resistance to the hilt. In bondage, "no" means YES!!! The thrill of playing out a force fantasy (I like that term better than 'rape' fantasy) is in no small part the DOM forcing his will on his partner, and the sub resisting, struggling against the DOM and her bonds, the protesting that she doesn't want it. We have always used the same safeword: my HB's name. For whatever reason we've never used each other's names in our sex life, except when something is wrong. It gets each other's attention immediately, we stop, we correct the problem, and we move on. In our bondage sex, I am almost always gagged (I absolutely love being gagged), so obviously a safeword doesn't work. We use the same safe-signal as Tyger... I extend my middle fingers (if he can see my hands, depends on what position we're using) or I hum "shave and a haircut... two bits". The beauty of it is I haven't had to use our safeword or signal in years.

Yes, my HB and I used it, among other things, to get some lube in deeper. Our favorite lube for anal sex is Astroglide Gel. We use a plastic vaginal contraceptive foam applicator sometimes... just squeeze the Astroglide into the applicator, insert, press plunger, and clean it up with soap and water afterwards. Having more lube in deep helps with anal fucking, but isn't so great with buttplugs because they come out more easily. I prefer to use the minimum amount of lube to insert a plug. Your anal plug choice is a good one... I have that one and it's one of my favorites. It stays in hands-free pretty well, although one with a longer anal segment stays in better. The largest plug in the Juli Ashton anal kit works really well for me: http://shop.tootimid.com/juli-ashtons-anal...inners-kit.aspx I find I can wear a smaller plug longer, but I have to wear tight jeans or a tight leather thong to keep it in. My HB bought me a leather buttplug harness (I don't know where, sorry) that also works well... it's just a belt with a strap that runs between your cheeks that you can buckle as tight as you like to put some real pressure on the base of the plug. VERY useful in a DOM/sub role-play. Please let us know how you enjoy your anal toy!