My g/f is good at sewing so she made up her own harness with a ring that we can change out the toy but the toy is a doc johnson and is 9inches long with balls but is very slender and works well at hitting my protate and let me tell you she sure knows how to please my ass as I said before I think she enjoys giving me pleasure as much as i enjoy pleasing her ,, we have several toy and she really loves it when i give her oral while using a dildo (we purchased) on her and boy howdy she has multiple O`s and i sure enjoy giving them to her but back to her giving me pleasure she really likes it and she loves to spread me wide and do my ass while on my back so she can play with my cock and get me off on a wonderful orgasium all i can say is i love her and hope we can try many new things together as for you good luck all i can say is give her what she wants and she`ll hopefuly return the pleasure im sure ,, so have fun and be safe let me know how it gose manmtn50,,,,,,,