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Lube, lube, lube!! If it hurts, try more lube. If it still hurts, stop now and try again later when you are more relaxed. Hubby and I had to try countless times before we could successfully perform anal. And lube was critical to that. I would never recommend a numbing lube. Doesn't that just defeat the purpose of sex? Plus it allows you to accidentally hurt yourself without knowing until later. And then you might never want to do it again because you ended up bleeding or even having to go to a hospital. Just take it slow, be relaxed, LOTS of lube, patience, perserverance, and lots of stimulation of the clit, pussy, breasts, whatever gets you going before you go anal. And communication! Have a safeword if need be.

Well, we've only done it a few times, but it has gotten better and better each time. The last time we did it I had already had at least 4 Os and had a plug in before his penis. I didn't come from that, but I was really close. It is still such a new sensation that my brain is having a hard time deciding what to do with it. I'd say that at first I need other stimulation, such as clit, to get off, and that might help you. You will begin to associate the orgasmic feeling with anal stimulation so that you will eventually be able to orgasm from anal alone.

I guess I'll put my two cents in. We have only recently started anal, and we've done it about a half dozen times. It took me a long time to get comfortable with even trying anything anal, fingers, toys, anything. So I applaud your willingness to "go there". What works for us is to do plenty of foreplay, and even for him to enter my pussy for a while. The last time we did it was the best. He got me revved up by licking my tits and clit. He used a vibrator on my clit while we had a hot & heavy makeout session. I had a little O from the clit stimulation, and then he started doing me in the missionary position. After another O, we switched to doggy style. I kept the vibrator on my clit, and I was really, really relaxed. Then he brought out my little butt plug. It has a bulge near the bottom that can be hard to get in, even though it's supposed to be a begginer's toy. So he lubed it and me up really well and slowly inserted the tip. He took it out and put it back in several times, and then it was super easy to get it all the way in. Then he fucked me some more doggy style with the plug in my ass. That was wonderful. Then he had me flip over onto my back (that's the position I'm most comfortable with for anal) and I put a pillow under my butt. He then lubed up some more and took out the plug. He was able to slip his penis into my anus with little difficulty and the sensation was so much better than the first and even second times. It only gets better with experience. It is so different from the sensations I get from clit or vaginal stimulation that I had a hard time even deciding if I liked it or hated it. Just take it nice and slow. Try to have several Os before you try anal and don't forget the lube. Communication, communication, communication! I can't stress it enough. There is no way that we could be doing anal if I wasn't able to say stop or go slower. And it goes the other way too. We wouldn't be doing it at all if he hadn't said, "I really want to try this." I'd have no idea.

Lol, I was thinking Rocky Horror as soon as saw the topic. Hubby's tried on various items more for kicks & giggles. He doesn't have the chest for it. He's a big burly guy, so it's more amusing than a turn on. But smaller guys in drag is pretty hot.

I love it! Especially when I get my breasts all slippery with baby oil or other slippery substance... Hubby loves it too. I went up from a C cup at the time of our marriage to a D cup, so he's pretty happy. lol.

Heck yeah! About a month after we got married, hubby and I ended up having to stay with his parent's for a month and a half. They have a guest room above the garage, and the bed was across the room from a dresser with a large mirror. We shortly discovered that it was the perfect height. I would be on top and twist around to watch myself pump up & down on him. Very erotic.

Woohooo! I finally got a glass dildo. I'd put several on my wish list after I found out about them last fall. So many reviews that were just glowing! I thought that there must be something to this glass thing. I was a bit concerned that they would chip or something, but they are completely safe! Just don't be dropping it or something! They are actually pretty tough (so I hear, I didn't test that myself). Anyway, the one I got was the Glass Ruby. It's pretty thick at 1.5 inches diameter, so it's not a beginner's toy. I haven't gotten a chance to really try it out, as I've been sick. But I am so excited! It's really smooth and heavy.

Yay! Go TooTimid!!

I definitely prefer my hubby shaved. He usually doesn't do the scrotum, which I wish he would. It is so much more attractive and pleasant to play with. Unfortunately, he only shaves once in a while.

Yeah, ditto to all above. I have never gotten anything mailed to me by TooTimid other than those Priority Mail boxes. It only says Atlantic Innovations on the return address. Totally private nothing that even hints as to what could be in it. I've never gotten a mailer or catalog or promotional stuff in the mail from them. When they say private & confidental, they actually mean it. Unlike Adam Eve that sends stuff with their logo all over it and something stamped on the packages that says Adult Material or something like that. Total downer. I will never order from them again. I live in a very conservative area, and my mailbox is right next to my neighbor's. Sometimes the mailman leaves packages that don't fit into the mailbox in between them on the board that is supporting both of our mailboxes. Yeah, so I'm so very grateful that TooTimid actually sticks by it's privavy guarantee!

I just wanted to say hi to everyone and welcome to the forum! I haven't been keeping up with my personal welcomes. Also, this this a forum designed to be warm, open and welcoming, so please keep that in mind when posting and reading posts. Thanks!

Don't Stand So Close To Me-Police (I was a teenager with a serious crush on my math teacher, so this really turned me on.) Your Man--Josh Turner: His voice is so sexy. Sorry Signs on Cash Machines--Mason Jennings When You Say Nothing At All--Alison Krause Wonderful Tonight--Eric Clapton Stand By Me--I forget the artist. Love the song; it's so sweet. The beat gets me going too. She--Elvis Costello Beautiful Girl--Poe Fingertips--Poe Fly Away--Poe Come Away With Me--Norah Jones Going Back to Georgia--don't remember Remember When--Alan Jackson

I got a 4.

Try laying on your back with your butt propped up on a pillow so SO has a good angle for anal penetration and have the rabbit in vaginally. Hubby & I tried this position (without toys) for our first anal experience. It was very comfortable and I was able to put a hand on his chest or thigh and watch him so I didn't feel out of control. Also I was able to relax more laying down. I think it would be very easy to add a toy to the mix in this position.

I agree with lilpink; I really want to see what you come up with! Also, Tyger mentioned glass dildos, which I have yet to try, but I hear nothing but good things about them. I really want to try one, but the one that I want is a bit out of my price range right now. But to add to my earlier post, I hate hard plastic vibes. I have a bullet that is plastic, but it has a silky feel to it (don't remember what it's called). Also, rubbery vibes are okay, but anything that has a more realistic feel to it is better. I like outlandish colors better also. Such as hot pink or teal or purple.

I really don't have a set hour. I guess afternoon because then we don't have to rush to get done before we have to go to work, and we don't have to worry about staying up to late on a worknight. I am so not a morning person. We've had some great morning sex, but we get up at different times for work and I want my sleep!!

1. I have a bullet, two rabbits, a couple slimlines, a butt plug, anal beads, Smart Balls, a dildo. 2. My favorite is the rabbit, because it stimulates my clit (FANTASTIC!) and it penetrates, which is very, very important for me. It rotates instead of just vibrates, which is awesome! 3. My least favorite are the slimlines because the only vibrate and are not filling. They take too much work for me to use alone. Mostly, I need more girth. 4. A remote that is truly remote. No wires or cords. Waterproof. Good range of vibes, soft to intense. Dual action. 5. Variability. With my rabbit, I can start out slow and then raise the intensity as I become more aroused. Also, hubby can control the remote, so I have no idea what to expect. 6. I have to do the thrusting with my hand and I get tired or bored with the monotony.

The first time, it was hubby. He used my new dildo on me. Now it's either. Usually it's me, but he's done his share of starting too.

I guess my first real toy was the Smart Balls, but I only used them a couple times. They kept slipping out and the string irritated my lips. I want to get a small set and work my way up. I love the unexpected "vibes" from it though. My second toy was a clear dong with balls and suction cup. That works great, and I still love it. However, I guess my favorite is my Wascally Wabbit. It gets me every time!

I have another. What is the most unique nickname for your or your significant other's sweetspots (i.e. penis, breasts, vagina)?

I've got a couple more: Gwen Stefani and Kat Von D.

There are the options listed above. Also, if you'd like hubby to join, you could get a "enhancer" type toy that fits over his penis so he feels like he's taking part. Or you could get a strap-on for him to wear. Also, if you can reach down to insert the toy, some of the rabbit toys with a remote may work for you. Such as these: Rabbit JackrabbitSuction Cup rabbit Royal Rabbit Or The Dream Boat

If you are "straight", who would you sleep with for one night of the same sex? If you are "gay", who would you sleep with for one night of the opposite sex? This person can be famous, not famous. Real, imaginary. My picks would be Angelina Jolie, Cate Blanchett, Jessica Alba, Shadowcat (Kitty Pryde) from X-Men, Mystique from X-Men. I can't think of any others right now.

Not sure about profession. Singer/band member maybe.... Accents get me way more than line of work. For some reason, anyone with an accent is so much more appealing to me. For instance, I don't think Kevin Kline is sexy, but in French Kiss, in which he has a French accent, he is to die for. Otherwise, I guess mechanic (like for semi trucks and Cats and other big machines). Dirty, rough hands, hardworking. Smells like diesel.

I have another one from my medical bloopers calendar: "Doc, you can keep all the polyps you want, but the gold is mine!"