I would say that like a lot of men I've been very guilty of taking my wife for granted and getting hung up on the things that she doesn't do, (which are pretty minor) and not appreciating the things she does. She is a wonderful strong intellegent beautiful sexy woman who is an amazing lover. I sometimes try to push her to places that are outside of her comfort zone and rather than be satisified with what she is willing to share with me. It's rarely something physical, rather it's trying to get her to be more open about what she wants, what her fantasy's are, trying to get her to be more dominant at times in bed. I have finally begun to understand after 22 plus years of being together, that if I don't push, she will get to the point of telling me what she wants. She is not likely to become more dominant, that's just not her personality. I have to remember to appreciate her for all the things she does for me, emotionally, physically, spiritually and not get all hung up on the things I think are missing.