chloegirl

Once it's gone you'll never want to grow it back....it just looks and feels so much better!

OOOOhhhhh!!! Fun!!! I've heard of doing this with a string of pearls, but never tried it yet. Think this is one recipe I'll print off....if I can just get him to follow ALL of your instructions..... Guess a trip to the hardware store is in order.

Way to go Aiden!!! I just love happy endings!

His comments about you acting like a selfish, jealous child would concern me. It sounds like you may be hoping for this relationship to go to a deeper level than he is. Kind of sounds like he just wants to get his rocks off. If I was you I would really pay attention to all the signals he's putting out and start having some honest discussions about where you both see this thing going. If it's just a temporary "lets have fun while it lasts relationship" and you want to explore the 3-some then now might be the time....if on the other hand you are looking for a longterm, loving future with him then yeah, I can see where jealousy might rear it's head....Think about what you want for you and go with that! Do NOT let him pressure you and you just go along with it hoping it will keep him around. If you have to "buy" his affection by kissing his ass at the expence of your feelings he's just not worth it! Good luck!

Just keep in mind and reinforce to your child that unplanned pregnancies at a young age before you've got all your ducks in row will not only severly limit their life possibilities, but it also puts un-necessary strain on the "grandparents" who will most likely be stuck helping to raise and support them, not to mention the poor kid's life. My daughter has really taken this lesson in and although she's on the pill (she waited till she was 19 and is pretty sure they will end up married after college) she still makes him use a condom everytime too....smart girl....you have to think about diseases as well as the b.c. aspect.

Not so much sex at that age, but they are seeing shows on tv and reading books where they are seeing people hook up and even at that young age the kids at school are already talking about who's "going out" with so and so....just kind of use those as ways to start a conversation and subtly begin to pass on your thoughts on those subjects and give her a chance to let you know her take on it without feeling judged and preached at ...the most important thing is to develop an open and honest line of communication that progresses as time goes by. It also helps to keep a sense of humor going.....it was always easy for me slip a point in that way, 'cause they know I just have a raunchy sense of humor and I just pretty much blurt stuff out without sugar-coating it. It's a fine line because you want them to be careful and selective (no-one wants their daughter to be the school slut!) but you don't want to repress them to the point that they can't relax and enjoy their sexuality when they become young women....I sure don't want my girls to have to wait till middle age to come into their own. Good luck!

Hopefully you have been having a constant ongoing dialogue that is age appropriate to your daughter's maturity level all this time. I always stressed to my girls that sex is a perfectly natural and pleasant part of life, but it should be reserved as a special aspect in a relationship where both people really care about and respect each other. I also stressed that if they don't feel the desire 100% for that person to not just give in and that it was better to wait until they were older. So many young girls get sucked into that "pressure" before they are ready and then never really learn to enjoy it for how it should be, they just kind of go thru the motions. But most importantly, I always stressed that when you are ready don't be ashamed, and come let me know and I will help get you on something as foolproof as possible, because no way did I want them taking a chance and coming up "accidently" pregnant. So far so good....

Ha! Seems like we're all on the same page here. - Exercise (you just feel and look better and become more aware of your body) - Keep myself shaved all over and lotioned/perfumed up everyday - Always put on makeup and wash/do my hair - Wear sexy lingerie every day / sleep naked! - Masturbation (an "O" a day makes you feel better in every way!) - Indulge in reading or looking at something with a romantic/sexual content everyday - Dance and just listen to music that makes you want to move - Laugh, joke, and make sure to keep a bawdy sense of humor everyday - Indulge in a little suggestive innuendo conversations - Take some time just for yourself and what you want each day (this was the hardest one for me to accomplish. I spent years caterting to everyone else's needs and neglecting my own....really dumb!) - Remind yourself that even though you may not be porn-star material you've still got what it takes to rock somebody's world! Then act accordingly!

Those are great!

Yep, you definitely need a partner on this....trying alone my arm gives out on me (but one way or another I shall persevere until I succeed!)

ahem (clears throat)....you have no idea....I think I'd like a male harem! Never saw this coming when I was your age!

Wouldn't mind trying out some of these, but it might be dangerous with my old man. Last time he tried to change something up he knocked over the lamp and broke a leg off a small bedside table (hehe)

OMG that's so funny that you've got it bad for Bowie/Jarreth too! My 17 year old is obsessed. Wonder what she'd think about your cute hubby?

I've got both different kinds too and though they're a fun way to walk around the house and remember/improve your kegels, I have never "O'd" with them either. Maybe someone needs to invent some strong vibrating ones!!!

Jeez.....I'd give up a body part for a man who could go at least one round and last that long.....anyone need a kidney?

You are gorgeous....a living testament to the fact that age is just a number and you can still rock it if you chose too! You go girl!

Amen Vanilla Bean!!!

Also remember your sexuality is a constantly evolving thing. You go at your own pace, with what you are comfortable with but time, experience, confidence in your own self, and the progression of your relationship will hopefully allow you to always keep an open mind. I would say most of us started out with a "hell no - not ever" stance on alot of things, not just sexual, and have changed our tune as we become more experienced. You just see things from a different perspective as time goes by and that's a good thing!

Got mine this weekend and I LUV it!!! Lots of power for something so small!

Love your new website! Looking forward to all your new blogs.....you are an inspiration to us all!

As everyone has said, you definitely need to have this out with him communication-wise and see where that goes but ..... I hate to bring you down but seeing this from way down the road years-wise, I don't think this bodes well for a very fulfilling sex life between you two. If you have ruled out medical, religious, or social reasons for his lack of interest then it is just him. At first you can make excuses and say he is being a "gentleman" or shy or inexperienced or whatever, but basically at this stage of your relationship if he is not showing you that he is "gotta have you now and often, hot for you" I'm afraid he may have issues that will prevent him from ever being a really giving, lust inspiring lover to you and down the road you will kick yourself for settling for that. I know that if you feel you love him now you think that with enough time and patience you can change him and be rewarded for your loyalty with a happy ever after ending, but from what I've seen it rarely ever happens that way.....there may always be a discrepancy in your sexual chemistry together and as the years go by even though you will learn to live with it, it will still be there under the surface and there will be many times that the frustration of it will eat you up. Why settle for that? You are still young and have no complicating obligations with him yet that will cloud your judgement making you feel compelled to stay. I'd say give it a try, but if the situation doesn't change soon to your SATISFACTION, then move on.....there will be someone out there that CAN completely give you what you need and you are still young enough to find it. Good luck.....you deserve to be happy!

Not "real" people, but once I get real good and worked up it usually progresses to me with 2 guys (one always being the main partner and the other just there for some additional back-up)....coming down though it's always back to just me and the one......guess after I get all the stimulation I need/want the other one can just "poof" disappear! It's magically delicious!

OMG that looks like fun....also looks like it would scare the sh** out of my husband....but you never know, lately I've been able to SLOWLY swing him over the "dark side" on just about anything hehe!

OMG Mikayla, I tried your "puppetteer" move earlier and you were right. Had my little friend standing up at attention and eager to play immediately! We've had storms, lightning, and tornados flying over us here all night but none of that interfered with our private little show. Thanks for the tip!

Ah Rokhopa, so many of us can relate to that. It's really sad how some of them just don't have a clue and can get lost in such a small area. What do we have to do? draw an "X" on it with a Sharpie? And the predictability of it all was getting to the point that I could tell you each move, how much time, and how many strokes till he was done, leaving me high and dry while he was getting treated like a freakin' sultan or something. I went thru this for years and like you just let it go to keep the peace, but as time goes on the frustration and anger builds up and will affect your whole relationship. I finally just laid it on the line that I was not going to live like that anymore and if he didn't care enough to "tend the field properly" I was gonna find someone else who would. I guess he realized I meant it because he has really changed his ways and things are much better now. I had to let go of my anger about it and stop blaming him....after all, I was the fool who allowed it to go on so long. Don't get caught in that boat....the years go by so very fast and you can't get them back....don't let too much time go by not getting yours! Good luck to you!