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There are better ways to introduce the wife to Anal pleasure then to numb her, i personally think that is a Dangerous way to do it. She could end up in horrible pain the next day and never allow you back there again not to mention you would have hurt her. i am sure it may not be the intention but it could be the result. It may have worked for you but it is not good advice. I think the best advice is to learn about what is going on. numbing a sphincter does not make it relax it just makes you not feel something being forced past it. If you want to learn about how to relax your outer and inner sphincters to allow something to slide in i have an article that i wrote some time ago but nothing in anatomy has changed so this still works. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Educate yourself and then go forth and Explore Anal Play

I think you should talk about it and at least let him know you are interested in Anal Play and that it is a turn on for you. Is this something you only want to do to him or would you enjoy him experimenting with you back there too. You should do what i do to the wife. different parts but similar in that you do not give them the oral sex first. if you don't just go right for it work around and tease with the tongue lick something then blow on it. tease and move around slowly getting closer then an accidental flick of the tongue then when you do put him in your mouth I would suggest a light tease with your finger. do not scare the crap out of him and push it in just tease. most men love the feel of having their anus lightly teased with a finger during a blow job. Start there and work your way up to it. make him realize that there is pleasure to be had with Anal play. If you are looking to go further you might want to read up on The Art of anal so you know what is going on and it is pleasurable for all. Take a look at this post it will explain anal play and pleasure. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Have fun and Explore

It has been a long time since i have posted but you can see by my name i am all about the Anal play and the pleasure that can be had from it for both partners. Let me just say to the girls here that when you have a man open to anal play they often feel funny asking for it but if they have been beating around the bush for it pun intended. buy a strap on and see if his eyes perk up. the women here would not believe how many married guys would love their wife to have a strap on and use it on them. what is the worst that will happen you wont use the strap on and have another dildo to play with. can any of you women recommend a strap on that you have and enjoy using. i think the Juli Ashton's Ultra Harness Set, would be a good bet for both partners to enjoy. any comments or thoughts on strap on preference ladies?

if you prefer anal play being clean is a good thing, i know you have to be thinking a bit in advance but one of the best things is to take metamucil. if you take it once a day for a couple of days not only will you be regular but it is very good at helping you have a good bowel movement and trust me it will help clear the way leaving not much behind. do not worry even if you are already regular it does not make it runny or anything like that. it would not hurt anyone to be using metamucil to clean out the colon on a regular basis.

i know this is an old post buried in the back of the files but i still believe it is a good one with the best advice being the anal training. with that said i have found something that i think would help people in learning to do their anal Kegel the main thing is to learn to control your sphincter. if you can tighten and hold it you are controlling it and when you can control it you can learn to relax it. here is a great device to help you learn if you do not want to use the finger method. http://www.biolifedynamics.com/pelvic_muscle_therapy.html this will work just as well in your anus to learn to isolate the muscle and tighten it. if you read my original post with this little device in mind it will make sense. maybe Too timid can look at adding something like this to their line up. i know it isn't a toy but learning to do your kegel's both vaginal and Anal can enhance your sexual pleasure and that is why we are all here : )

The hitachi wand was the first toy i bought to use with the wife. this is a corded model not cordless. she would complain that it was too intence. we did not use it for a long time and then one day while puttering in the garage i got an idea. the cord was a little short anyway so i extended the cord with a new one but while i was at it i added an inline dimmer control to turn the vibration down so now you can adjust it to just the right amount you are looking for. depending on how handy you are this project can be pretty simple.

just thinking , my wife does not even know i read here let alone post every now and again. I don't lie about it i just don't mention it. thinking about it as i was reading through this post i would have to say my first response would be to not admit it. partly out of not wanting to have to explain with the 100 questions that would follow. and partly because i know how my wife is and how she would over analyze the whole thing. and i think getting caught looking at porn is the same thing. Men may be programmed to look and not only think with their brain we are also wired for self preservation as well as i would like to think relationship preservation. just my 2 cents for what it is worth from someone who has been married 20 years.

i find it Very erotic to use a toy on my wife and i believe most guys do. as long as they are not intimidated by it. Great for foreplay. so you never know, it might just be in how you bring it up with him. that is if you want him to know you have a special little friend at all.

I do know it is possible to bring a female to an Anal orgasm and i have found that using a finger and pressing toward the G-spot can be very helpful. maybe one of the ladies could tell us if their experience involved any g-spot stimulation or is it just anal play. i do know my wife when in the right mood and excited has cum pretty intensely from anal stimulation alone. unfortunately she is embarrassed by having any pleasure from anal so it isn't like i can have a Q&A session and believe me i have tried.

all too often guys want their wife to give them a prostate massage but for the most part first the wife will think what the hell and second will be how do i do that. the how do i do that can be found on this site to explain pretty well but i happened across a few videos that show it very well. i dont know who all is familiar with youporn.com but you can find most things if you just search prostate you get a few hot ones. here is one hot one to get you started. http://www.youporn.com/watch/8913 this might be a good place if anyone else has good prostate, strap on or anal home videos you want to share. yes the site is free and no signing in or anything. hope this site sticks around for the visual training

Well it has been a while since i have written anything but i thought it was time. Being that it is mostly us guys trying to get the Wife or G/F to try or like anal it is our responsibillity to make sure it is pleasurable to her. One thing i have found that is after a nice massage and she is relaxed and maybe a little more open to Anal Play, if you are going to use a finger you can try and stimulate the G Spot through the anal cavity. the best way to do this is with her lying on her stomach. legs open a little as if you were going in for finger play elsewhere. I find i can do this best with my index or middle finger. after it is well lube and i have it incerted. instead of just an in and out motion i point down as if i was pointing toward her belly button. Hopefully you already know where her G spot is and have stimulated it. i can find the G spot and then i use my finger to make either a circular motion on it or the tried and true come here motion with the finger to rub over it. this will give anal and G spot stimulation at the same time. now once you have this going hopefully you have her fully excited and should feel the wiggeling and maybe the light moan. this is when you use the other hand to slide it under her and use it for Vaginal and clitoral stimulation. with this little combination you should be able to bring her to a very nice orgasm. now if that orgasm is anal, G-spot or clitoral i have no idea i just know it is a way to make her ask for it next time. Caution -- do not switch fingers at any time. once you have been in the anal it is not to be used elsewhere.

well it has been a while since i have visited and i am glad to see the Anal interest is still there. without going into detail here i would like to point you to my original post from a couple years ago that explains how to learn to relax your sphinter. lube is good and too much is almost enough but you should know what is going on back there. i highly disagree with the person who posted about using numbing creams or potions. if it hurts you are doing something wrong or taking it too fast. read this http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Good luck and would love to hear how it works out

i have not been here in quite a while but i must say i am pleasently suprized to see that there is a forum for anal. I am also happy to see that my post for learning the art of anal is still alive and being read. for those of you who missed it. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 I still feel it is the best advice you will find for learning about your sphincter and how to control it. It is about time that the word is getting around that hetero sexual couples can enjoy anal sex and yes men can enjoy it too. they say anal isnt for everyone but it can be if you allow yourself to relax and enjoy. OK bartender butt plugs for everyone. java script:emoticon('', 'smid_4')

this is still the best advice on anal you will find but you have to be committed enought to work on it and not try and get full penetration the first time

the art of analgood advice you can try this link or look on this site and look for the art of anal it is a good size article explaining anal as well as an exercise technique and you will learn all you need to about how to do this without the pain, and it is correct to never use desencitising cream. would you want to be numbed up so you cannot feel your legs and then go out and over do something causing damage. Anal sex can be done without pain but it will take time, practice and she must want it for it to work. you might want to consider trying to learn this yourself as well. if you know what it feels like you will know how slow and easy to go. goo luck