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There are better ways to introduce the wife to Anal pleasure then to numb her, i personally think that is a Dangerous way to do it. She could end up in horrible pain the next day and never allow you back there again not to mention you would have hurt her. i am sure it may not be the intention but it could be the result. It may have worked for you but it is not good advice. I think the best advice is to learn about what is going on. numbing a sphincter does not make it relax it just makes you not feel something being forced past it. If you want to learn about how to relax your outer and inner sphincters to allow something to slide in i have an article that i wrote some time ago but nothing in anatomy has changed so this still works. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Educate yourself and then go forth and Explore Anal Play

I think you should talk about it and at least let him know you are interested in Anal Play and that it is a turn on for you. Is this something you only want to do to him or would you enjoy him experimenting with you back there too. You should do what i do to the wife. different parts but similar in that you do not give them the oral sex first. if you don't just go right for it work around and tease with the tongue lick something then blow on it. tease and move around slowly getting closer then an accidental flick of the tongue then when you do put him in your mouth I would suggest a light tease with your finger. do not scare the crap out of him and push it in just tease. most men love the feel of having their anus lightly teased with a finger during a blow job. Start there and work your way up to it. make him realize that there is pleasure to be had with Anal play. If you are looking to go further you might want to read up on The Art of anal so you know what is going on and it is pleasurable for all. Take a look at this post it will explain anal play and pleasure. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Have fun and Explore

It has been a long time since i have posted but you can see by my name i am all about the Anal play and the pleasure that can be had from it for both partners. Let me just say to the girls here that when you have a man open to anal play they often feel funny asking for it but if they have been beating around the bush for it pun intended. buy a strap on and see if his eyes perk up. the women here would not believe how many married guys would love their wife to have a strap on and use it on them. what is the worst that will happen you wont use the strap on and have another dildo to play with. can any of you women recommend a strap on that you have and enjoy using. i think the Juli Ashton's Ultra Harness Set, would be a good bet for both partners to enjoy. any comments or thoughts on strap on preference ladies?

if you prefer anal play being clean is a good thing, i know you have to be thinking a bit in advance but one of the best things is to take metamucil. if you take it once a day for a couple of days not only will you be regular but it is very good at helping you have a good bowel movement and trust me it will help clear the way leaving not much behind. do not worry even if you are already regular it does not make it runny or anything like that. it would not hurt anyone to be using metamucil to clean out the colon on a regular basis.

i know this is an old post buried in the back of the files but i still believe it is a good one with the best advice being the anal training. with that said i have found something that i think would help people in learning to do their anal Kegel the main thing is to learn to control your sphincter. if you can tighten and hold it you are controlling it and when you can control it you can learn to relax it. here is a great device to help you learn if you do not want to use the finger method. http://www.biolifedynamics.com/pelvic_muscle_therapy.html this will work just as well in your anus to learn to isolate the muscle and tighten it. if you read my original post with this little device in mind it will make sense. maybe Too timid can look at adding something like this to their line up. i know it isn't a toy but learning to do your kegel's both vaginal and Anal can enhance your sexual pleasure and that is why we are all here : )

The hitachi wand was the first toy i bought to use with the wife. this is a corded model not cordless. she would complain that it was too intence. we did not use it for a long time and then one day while puttering in the garage i got an idea. the cord was a little short anyway so i extended the cord with a new one but while i was at it i added an inline dimmer control to turn the vibration down so now you can adjust it to just the right amount you are looking for. depending on how handy you are this project can be pretty simple.

just thinking , my wife does not even know i read here let alone post every now and again. I don't lie about it i just don't mention it. thinking about it as i was reading through this post i would have to say my first response would be to not admit it. partly out of not wanting to have to explain with the 100 questions that would follow. and partly because i know how my wife is and how she would over analyze the whole thing. and i think getting caught looking at porn is the same thing. Men may be programmed to look and not only think with their brain we are also wired for self preservation as well as i would like to think relationship preservation. just my 2 cents for what it is worth from someone who has been married 20 years.

i find it Very erotic to use a toy on my wife and i believe most guys do. as long as they are not intimidated by it. Great for foreplay. so you never know, it might just be in how you bring it up with him. that is if you want him to know you have a special little friend at all.

I do know it is possible to bring a female to an Anal orgasm and i have found that using a finger and pressing toward the G-spot can be very helpful. maybe one of the ladies could tell us if their experience involved any g-spot stimulation or is it just anal play. i do know my wife when in the right mood and excited has cum pretty intensely from anal stimulation alone. unfortunately she is embarrassed by having any pleasure from anal so it isn't like i can have a Q&A session and believe me i have tried.

all too often guys want their wife to give them a prostate massage but for the most part first the wife will think what the hell and second will be how do i do that. the how do i do that can be found on this site to explain pretty well but i happened across a few videos that show it very well. i dont know who all is familiar with youporn.com but you can find most things if you just search prostate you get a few hot ones. here is one hot one to get you started. http://www.youporn.com/watch/8913 this might be a good place if anyone else has good prostate, strap on or anal home videos you want to share. yes the site is free and no signing in or anything. hope this site sticks around for the visual training

Well it has been a while since i have written anything but i thought it was time. Being that it is mostly us guys trying to get the Wife or G/F to try or like anal it is our responsibillity to make sure it is pleasurable to her. One thing i have found that is after a nice massage and she is relaxed and maybe a little more open to Anal Play, if you are going to use a finger you can try and stimulate the G Spot through the anal cavity. the best way to do this is with her lying on her stomach. legs open a little as if you were going in for finger play elsewhere. I find i can do this best with my index or middle finger. after it is well lube and i have it incerted. instead of just an in and out motion i point down as if i was pointing toward her belly button. Hopefully you already know where her G spot is and have stimulated it. i can find the G spot and then i use my finger to make either a circular motion on it or the tried and true come here motion with the finger to rub over it. this will give anal and G spot stimulation at the same time. now once you have this going hopefully you have her fully excited and should feel the wiggeling and maybe the light moan. this is when you use the other hand to slide it under her and use it for Vaginal and clitoral stimulation. with this little combination you should be able to bring her to a very nice orgasm. now if that orgasm is anal, G-spot or clitoral i have no idea i just know it is a way to make her ask for it next time. Caution -- do not switch fingers at any time. once you have been in the anal it is not to be used elsewhere.

well it has been a while since i have visited and i am glad to see the Anal interest is still there. without going into detail here i would like to point you to my original post from a couple years ago that explains how to learn to relax your sphinter. lube is good and too much is almost enough but you should know what is going on back there. i highly disagree with the person who posted about using numbing creams or potions. if it hurts you are doing something wrong or taking it too fast. read this http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 Good luck and would love to hear how it works out

i have not been here in quite a while but i must say i am pleasently suprized to see that there is a forum for anal. I am also happy to see that my post for learning the art of anal is still alive and being read. for those of you who missed it. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=214 I still feel it is the best advice you will find for learning about your sphincter and how to control it. It is about time that the word is getting around that hetero sexual couples can enjoy anal sex and yes men can enjoy it too. they say anal isnt for everyone but it can be if you allow yourself to relax and enjoy. OK bartender butt plugs for everyone. java script:emoticon('', 'smid_4')

this is still the best advice on anal you will find but you have to be committed enought to work on it and not try and get full penetration the first time

the art of analgood advice you can try this link or look on this site and look for the art of anal it is a good size article explaining anal as well as an exercise technique and you will learn all you need to about how to do this without the pain, and it is correct to never use desencitising cream. would you want to be numbed up so you cannot feel your legs and then go out and over do something causing damage. Anal sex can be done without pain but it will take time, practice and she must want it for it to work. you might want to consider trying to learn this yourself as well. if you know what it feels like you will know how slow and easy to go. goo luck

Did anyone try any of this advice ? would like to hear who tired the anal exercise and what success you had with it.

Lisa. Even though you can take 6" you should still try the finger exercise to be able to relax both of your sphincters and know that you can control them. to answer your question on depth. If you cannot get past the 5"-6" range then I would go to something thinner and you may have to experiment with the angle that you are going in. the sphincter angles back toward your back and does not go straight up so if you are both trying to go straight in that may be the problem. Go with something that is thin and long to see if you can work out the best angle then when you can get 8" in you are doing pretty good. There are a lot of people who can take the 10" 12" and even 15" but not everyone can get that far and i am pretty sure you would be happy with 8" to 10" you should be able to achieve that with something thin and then work up to something thick. Good luck and Happy probing

After reading a little on this site and finding some of jens writing I knew i found a place of like minded people. Jen is a Gem And I love that fact that I have stumbled across someone who recommends Anal sex for hetero sexuals. Nobody really encourages anal play and or sex in a hetero sexual relationship like I have found on here. It is refreshing to see especially from a female. I would like to share what I have learned over the years. I will try not to make this too long but want to give you a little background. I have been with the same lady My wife for quite a few years now and like many men my first try at anal sex with her I was an Idiot. Slap a little lube and let’s go. It hurt her like hell and not only did she not even want to go there again but knowing I hurt her I did not want it either but after 5 or 10 years The thought of it became very erotic so I started reading as much as I could find on the subject and let me say there is not a whole lot of good info out there past use lube and go slow. People are misinformed for the most part about Anal Sex. I stumbled across a site that was for hetero anal sex lovers and there was quite a bit of good advice on there much like I see on here and I also did some reading by Jack Moran. I have compiled all of this info and found that you can teach anyone The Art Of Anal -- (kinda catchy huh. I think it would make a good title for a book) I thought it would be nice if someone with an audience such as Jen would do an in depth how to of anal for heterosexual couples or a small series on it. Now let me outline what I have learned over the years and how it can work for anyone. You need to know what is going on down there and how to control it. You have 2 sphincters one outer sphincter that is the opening and then there is another sphincter a couple of inches in and you need to be able to control both of these. The best way to learn this is with your own finger. Your finger will let you know when you are working the right muscle. You use your finger as a Bio feedback tool to let you know when you are contracting the muscle/sphincter. With some lube a little rubbing to relax it and you gently slide your own finger into your rectum you will feel the first sphincter but you don’t always feel the second one. Now with your finger fully inserted you try to tighten the muscle. You can start by trying to tighten the muscle to stop from peeing. It is like a kegal except for another orifice. You finger will help you isolate and concentrate on the sphincter muscle. The better you can tighten and hold the better you can control this muscle and the better you can control it the better you will be able to relax it. For the basic exercise you will want to tighten and hold for a count of 5 then relax for a count of 5 repeat this for 1 - 2 minutes once to twice a day. Yes it sounds strange and where can someone sit around with their finger in their butt other then at work where I am presently writing this. Well you can do it in the shower or you can do it in the bathroom sitting on the toilet when you don’t have to have a bowel movement. This basic exercise will tune you into being able to control the sphincter muscle that is at the center of problems with anal penetration. After a week of this with one finger you will find that you do not have to coax your anus to allow the finger to slide in and you are also toning and training these muscles it isn’t that you are stretching them in a tearing way. It is like working out the more you stretch and work out the more limber you will become. In one of the responses on the board one women said why would any women let a man do this to her and it could cause loss of bowel control when it is the exact opposite. I know someone who after a stroke he had a hard time controlling his bowel movement and his Dr told him he had to relearn to control his sphincter muscle and he was to do exercises. I did not ask if they were with his finger in his butt because how could I explain my knowledge of how to train the sphincter. once you have done this for a week you should of mastered the 1 finger and it is time to try for 2 fingers you will want to put one in first and relax then try to slide the second one in and repeat the tighten and relax exercise the same as with one finger. after you have completed this with 2 fingers for another week you will have learned to control the sphincter muscle without having to still have your finger in there to tell you if it is working in fact you should be able to tighten it into quite a contraction by now so you can practice your anal kegal anywhere you please. The 3rd step is to pick a small smooth toy 3/4"x 6" to try for and need I mention Lube and a wide base toy. Rule of thumb with lube too much is almost enough. You want to try and insert your toy however you are conferrable but I do suggest to start you insert the toy yourself there will be plenty of time for your partner to insert things into you once you have mastered this. One way of insertion is to sit on your knees but with your legs apart so that your butt can hit the ground. This is a semi relaxed way you can sit and apply light pressure down onto something. Make sure your 2 fingers will go in to get things ready then what you want to do is to put the toy on the floor pointing up so you can sit on it and I suggest doing this on a towel with the toy well lubed then you can insert the tip and gently try to slide down onto it. A good method is to take a deep breath and apply downward pressure as you blow the air all of the way out and you want to blow it out from your stomach. You should see your stomach go in as you blow all the way out this will help you to relax as you blow out. Once you have the toy in you can try tightening or bearing down on it a few times as you have learned before and your body will adjust to it. From here is up to you how big of a toy or real penis that you want to be able to take, I just suggest you work your way up a little at a time. Well if you made it this far I thank you for reading it and hope that you can put it to use. Maybe this can be done as a couple and you both learn sphincter control. I think it is good for a man to realize what his partner is feeling. I know this works but I would love it if I could get feedback on couples that try this method and what the success rate is. Thank you for reading my in depth stories and experiences of learning the art of Anal.

Lisa, All i can say is your boyfriend is one lucky guy that you embrace anal play. The reason you may be stuck at 5" is that your anus has 2 sphincters. One at the opening and the other is a few inches in. It may be that your second sphincter is not relaxing enough to allow something to go in. I would say that you need to go back down to something long and thin but it should also be smooth and pliable like a firm dildo or a jelly anal toy. There are a couple things you can try when you want to go past that 5" barrier. one of them is to try bearing down on the toy trying to tighten your anus around it then release and gently try to go further. The other thing you can do is you want to sit on the toy but you have to be able to relax so in a position like you are sitting on your knees but your legs apart so your butt can hit the floor, then as you sit on the toy and feel you are reaching your limit you want to relax take a deep breath and then sit down as you blow the air out using your stomach to blow it out all the way. this will help you to relax and press past your point as the inner sphincter relaxes.