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LMAO! Pappy you're a trip. lol. I am with Nymph on this. Don't be afraid to let him know what you like and don't like.

Well I suggest being a tad bit more bold. Write down your name and phone number on a piece of paper and add a little note call me sometime if ya want. But of course make sure you have another liquor store to go to in case he doesn't. You would be surprised as he might too. I got the idea because it was done to me before... I called him because I thought it was brave of him to do it. However if you're not that brave then why not get a friend to go with you and if she thinks you're reading signals right then when you go out of the store she can linger behind and see what's up for the two of you? Just some ideas. Good Luck! PS. I know how you feel. Excited, scared, and anxious. lol. We've all been there. You're not alone.

Chuck, First of all, I feel your pain in your words. I left my ex husband that way. Perhaps her reason is this: Perhaps (and I stress that word perhaps) she felt numbed. Like maybe she had given all that she could give and that there was simply nothing left and she didn't want to tell you face to face because she feels guilty or because she still has feelings that she doesn't have to face as long as she doesn't have to face you. Maybe she loves you but she's just not in love with you anymore. If she has wronged you, I assure you I am a strong believer in Karma and what goes around comes around. Laugh now, cry later right? So be strong. Hold your head up. IF she was having an affair, darling don't take it personal. People do things like that for reasons such as low self esteem, Or they're gonna do it so I'll do it first, and for some, it simply a power trip. Know this, What goes up must come down. Maybe you're down right now, but you won't be forever. I am in a similar situation as yourself and if you ever need or want to talk feel free to PM me. As for the masturbation. It's normal. God created us in his own image and he did say be fruitful and multiply right? So it is normal. It is not a sin. I have read the bible and studied it viciously at times as my father was a pastor for many years. Nowhere in the bible does it say, do not masturbate. Put it this way. If it were a sin, we'd all be in hell. And my opinion is this. Being that you never did it before when she was there. Perhaps there is a part of you that says, "she's gone, who is going to meet those needs now?". Everybody feels lonely sometime I don't care who you are. Divorce is very hard. And I too understand completely about the thing with your friends. So what ya gotta do is spend some time on you. Take a night and go out somewhere. Who knows you could have the time of your life. Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up over what you did or didn't do. The point is, you tried. You gave it your all and darling, that is all we can give. Staying busy is smart. But at the same time, don't stay so busy that you completely avoid the issues that bother you about this. It's easier to talk to strangers, and people that you never have to face. That's another great thing about Too Timid. There truly are wonderful, caring, concerned people here and you know they're pretty great to talk to about anything, especially SEX! lol. You'll be okay. If your wife wants to go....then all I can say is this: Love is like a dove; If you love them enough-set them free. If they return, they're yours to keep.... And if they don't.... They never were. It's hard to let go of those we love. I know that first hand. But everyday, you'll get a little bit stronger. And someday, you'll wake up and she won't be the first thing on your mind. There's an old song by Pam Tillis I have grown to love. It's called Let that Pony Run. It says: "You do what you gotta do, and you know what you know; You hang on till you can't hang on And then you learn to let go. You get what you need sometimes but when it's all said and done You hang on till you can't hang on And then you let that pony run" Take care and good luck, Regards D-08

I totally agree with Nymph and IHA on this. You're young now. Those horomones are only beginning to rage. lol. Wait until you hit your early thirties. With age comes wisdom...and looks do fade eventually...but it is the things not seen nor heard that consume the heart, soul, and mind. When you find your special someone....and suddenly....after too many years together you're looking into their eyes and noticing that it is one of the few things about their body that hasn't changed over the years....you realize....looks aren't the most important thing....the way your special someone makes you feel....the love, concern, companionship, trust and comfort they offer you are merely a few of the many diamonds they have that sparkle when the lights go out. Enjoy yourself. Have some fun. Discover what it is you like, don't like...you're on the path to that now and you don't even realize it.

I agree with what everyone said about being ready...and believe it or not, you will be. I remember my first kiss....and if you ever do end up like me, God forbid (married twice) then you'll find those same feelings again possibly. I'm sure you've seen the movie, "Never Been Kissed". It's really a lot like that to some degree. You know, the anxiety, the nervousness, etc... It is very normal for you to feel this way....just remember this when your time comes....Every first kiss is different. If you special someone has kissed before but hasn't kissed you, it will be a new experience, and I'm willing to bet you that they would be just as nervous as you. One thing I did was to close my eyes and feel the moment. In saying that, I mean, pay attention to how you are feeling. Does it feel right? Does it make you jittery and weak in the knees? Or does it leave you feeling, like "Please don't let him bite my lip again" lol. I truly hope that when your time does come, that you'll feel the magic deep within your soul and that it will be better and more than you ever dreamed or imagined that it could be. Take your time. Follow your heart. And to get past the fear, remember that everyone under the sun who has ever kissed anyone before or anything else for that matter has all started where you are. Be proud of yourself for being who you are. There is someone special out there just for you, and if you take your time chasing the rainbows...then you'll be sure to find a pot of gold. (Just be careful with the Leprachauns lol.) Whoever you do choose to have sex with when you are ready, make sure it is someone you care about who you won't regret later. And make sure that you are doing it because you want to and for that reason alone....when the time comes, you'll know it's right because darling, there won't be the slightest alarm going off inside you. and more than anything else, it will simply feel right to you. Just don't forget to protect yourself when the time comes. (condoms and birth control )Sorry for the corny analogy but I couldn't resist. I have a 17 year old sister and we talk about things like this a lot.

I apologize if I have offended anyone. There is lots of great advice here and they are right, you do need to be careful in case of tears, etc...I think the most important thing is to be gentle.

I am glad that you have chosen to work this out. IMHO, too many people give up too soon these days. Everyone I've ever talked to who has been married for a century or half of one have always said that every rose has it's thorn. It's hard for first timers to post and sometimes when we answer those posts our words get a little mixed up unintentionally. And yeah there are two sides to every story. That's with every post concerning relationships and all that goes on within the realms of that. But what we see, when we read a story are the facts or opinions as presented to us. We are not asked to judge or lay blame. We are simply asked for an outsider's opinion. As for IHA's comment, I truly believe (correct me if I am wrong IHA) that the word not has been accidentally left out. Watch what I mean. I will show you exactly where I am referring to: NOTE: To actually see the difference, you have to read the original post. iha Posted Mar 1 2008, 09:15 AM I intend not disrespect to anyone or anyone's helpful advice, but it's always good to remember that when we have problems and discontents, there is always the 'other side' of the story...this is NOT to say that the person asking for help is lying or misleading, or that their partner is innocent, but it does mean that relationships are complex, and in most cases, both partners carry some responsibility for the current difficulties.

I have to disagree but do respect your opinion on that. I'm not saying Numb it so much that you don't have any feeling whatsoever. But for some women it is the answer that is why they sell the stuff. Even k-y jelly at walmart is supposed to aid with anal sex because I have friends who use the stuff. Everyone is different and n2it you will just have to find what works for you and your wife. Here is one of the articles in the sexual education topics. I have copied and pasted it for you:) Educating Yourself on Anal Sex Return To Anal Sex FAQ Page Does anal sex have to be painful? The common myth is that anal play, certainly intercourse, has to be painful. It is true however that due to the extreme concentration of nerve endings in the anus that there can be extreme pain if mistreated. In order to fully appreciate and enjoy anal sex it is vital to eliminate all physical pain and trauma. This requires the passive partner, the person accepting something into their anus, to be ready to say "no" if they are not comfortable with continuing. It also requires the trust that the aggressive partner, the one who inserts an object into their partner's anus, will stop immediately upon such request. Once that trust is there, the two most important factors are to relax and use plenty of lubrication. It is important to use lubrication because the anus does not produce any natural lubrication or moistness like the vagina does. The most popular lubricants can be found by clicking here. A good method for learning to relax and trust your partner is to have a session where there is an agreement that no actual intercourse will happen. This will allow the passive partner to enjoy the pleasures of this erogenous zone without the fear or concern that they have to immediately move on to something larger. Return To Anal Sex FAQ Page Will I be able to have an orgasm from anal sex? People can have orgasms from anal sex, but if one concentrates on the feelings solely looking for an orgasm, it is likely that the new pressure of seeking such an orgasm will prevent them from having one. That being said, it is most likely that a female will have an orgasm through anal sex due to the contractions of the pelvic muscle. Men will have an orgasm from anal sex due to the stimulation that is felt by the prostate. The most common way for people to have an orgasms while engaging in anal sex is to have some sort of direct genital stimulation as well while the anal intercourse is in progress. This can be done by rubbing the clitoris or testicles and stroking the penis. Return To Anal Sex FAQ Page What are some positions I should try? Depending upon how experienced you are there are a number of different positions you can try. For people just starting to explore anal sex, I recommend a "spooning" position, this is where the couple would lay on their sides, one behind the other. This helps keep the couple close to one another so they can see how one another is reacting to various movements. This also allows the receiving partner to have the most control possible over the amount of penetration. A very common position for anal sex is the rear entry or "doggie style" position. Although this is most likely not the best position for beginners, it is a position that allows for the deepest penetration. This position does not offer the kind of intimacy and closeness of others, but when it comes to hot and fast thrusting and deep penetration, this may be the position for you. A third position is that which closely resembles the missionary position. The aggressive partner would approach the passive partner from the top, while the passive partner lays on their back calves over their partners shoulders thus enabling the anus to be exposed. This allows the couple to face one another and gives them the ability to easily caress each other all over. View our complete anal toys section here.

I have to disagree but do respect your opinion on that. I'm not saying Numb it so much that you don't have any feeling whatsoever. But for some women it is the answer that is why they sell the stuff. Even k-y jelly at walmart is supposed to aid with anal sex because I have friends who use the stuff. Everyone is different and n2it you will just have to find what works for you and your wife.

Get you some warming lotions, a good porn and yes, definately read the sex ed articles. Also you may wanna try posting this to the sex expert. As Thurisas said, you will find lots and lots of helpful people here. And btw, weclome to the forum!

Everyone has made some great points here. My thought is this: 1. Maybe you start out easy, and then you get excited and it gets too rough or too hard, or too deep. 2. It could be something emotional or ethical as Tyger stated. Like, if she's ever heard you or anyone else make comments in reference to anal sex, then it could turn her off. PLEASE NOTE: I AM NOT SAYING THIS IS WHAT IS GOING ON OR THIS IS THE PROBLEM....ONLY A POSSIBILE. I don't know if these things apply to you or not but what I would suggest is this: First and foremost, respect her wishes, which you are doing. Second, get a lubricant of some type that will numb the area. Third, go slow the next time that you do and try not to go too fast, too far, or too hard. Lubes help lots of people who have discomfort with anal sex. As for talking to her about this, she has to completely trust and confide in you before she will ever truly open up to you. If she doesn't wanna talk, don't try and push her too. Be patient. Remember the old saying, The best thing comes to those who wait. Try the lubes. At first, you could play around the opening of her anus instead of actually penetrating. Then go a little at a time until she is comfortable with "full throttle". Hope this helps!

HELLO and WELCOME to TOO TIMID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I look forward to reading some of your posts. You'll find the staff and board members alike are the greatest on the web! Be sure and check out some of the sex ed articles as they are filled with hints, tips, and smart adivce. I have no doubts you'll love it here.

THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!! I CAN NOT GIVE MIKAYLA ENOUGH COMPLIMENTS OR THANK YOU'S FOR ALL OF HER ADVICE AND TIPS HERE. AS SHE HAS SAID MANY TIMES, SHE IS INDEED A FIXTURE HERE...FOR ME ONE OF THE REASONS THIS PLACE IS SOOOOO GREAT!

jenny, thanks for clarifying your point there. sorry if I came across in an upsetting way. ( I realize I shoudn't have posted in caps, sorry about that). Well, those were all the things that I knew to try. Sorry if they were no help to you. But just for the record, I do hope that this thing resolves and you get all you hoped for! Good Luck!

THIS IS A TOUGHIE. FIRST OF ALL, DON'T FEEL ALONE BECAUSE THIS IS A COMMON ISSUE IN MARRIAGES / RELATIONSHIPS. A LOT OF PEOPLE DO ACTUALLY EXPERIENCE THIS AROUND THIER TENTH YEAR AS WELL. YOU SAID YOU HAVE A ROOMATE. THAT COULD BE PROBLEM NUMBER ONE. AND DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. BECAUSE AT THIS POINT, IT COULD BE HIS ISSUE. YOU SAID: Buying toys: I have bought tons of toys to try and spice things up but he only uses them them I ask him to... i dont think he is into it OKAY. SORRY BUT I AM TOTALLY LOST ON THIS ONE. YOU HAVE TOYS. YOU STATED THAT HE ONLY USES THEM? AND THEN THAT YOU DON'T THINK THAT HE IS INTO IT? IF YOUR SEX DRIVE IS STRONGER THAN HIS, THEN WHY NOT MASTURBATE? USE THE TOYS YOURESLF. IT CAN BE VERY ENJOYABLE AND IT WILL TAKE THE STRESS OFF YOUR HUBBY TO INTIATE SEX. THE ONE THING YOU DO NEED TO STOP DOING IS PRESSURING HIM TO START IT BECAUSE THIS CAN ACTUALLY PUSH HIM FARTHER AWAY. DO YOU LIKE TO BE PRESSURED IN TO THINGS? PROBABLY NOT IS MY GUESS. YOU NEED TO BE PATIENT WITH HIM OR SEEK COUNSELING AS A COUPLE IF THIS CONTINUES IMO. NO ONE CAN BE PUSHED INTO DOING ANYTHING THEY DO NOT WANT TO DO. AS YOUR HUSBAND, YOU EXPECT THESE THINGS FROM HIM AND I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND...LET ME ASK YOU THIS. IS HE GOOD TO YOU? ARE YOU HAPPY IN EVERY OTHER AREA OF YOUR LIFE? NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT THOUGH SOME GET PRETTY CLOSE. THIS COULD BE SOMETHING THAT NEEDS MORE ATTENTION BUT IN A WAY OTHER THAN PLACING BLAME OR SAYING NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. DOES HE WATCH PORN ALONE OR DO YOU WATCH IT TOGETHER? THAT COULD ALSO BE A FACTOR IN THIS OR PERHAPS A RESOLUTION. APPETITE COMES IN EATING. MAKE IT ALL ABOUT HIM THE NEXT TIME YOU HAVE SEX. DO THINGS THAT YOU KNOW HE LIKES. THEN COMES THE HARD PART, WAITING. ALSO, HE NEEDS TO FEEL SAFE TO BE OPEN WITH YOU ABOUT THIS. EXAMPLE, IF HE THINKS THAT YOU WILL FEEL HURT, OR BECOME ANGRY THEN HE MAY NOT TELL YOU WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON WITH HIM. ALSO, IS HE ON ANY MEDICATIONS? CERTIAN MEDS CAN AFFECT SEXUAL DRIVE TREMENDOUSLY AS CAN STRONG EMOTIONS SUCH AS FEAR, ANXIETY, SADNESS, ANGER, ETC....TRY BRAGGING ON HIM. GIVE HIM COMPLIMENTS ON THINGS TO BUILD HIS EGO. I KNOW IT SUCKS TO ALWAYS BE THE FIRST. BUT RELAX. IF HE FEELS MORE RESPECTED AND LOVED AND CHERRISHED BY YOU, HE WILL TAKE ON THE ROLE OF BEING IN CHARGE A LITTLE MORE BRAVELY. THE FACT THAT HE KEEPS IT GOING AFTER YOU INTIATE IT FOR ME SAYS THAT HE DOES WANT YOU AND IS INTERESTED. SO AGAIN, DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. I AM SURE THE MODERATORS HERE WILL HAVE A BIT MORE DETAILED AND POSSIBLY BETTER INFORMATION THAN WHAT I HAVE SUPPLIED HERE AND OF COURSE THE OTHER MEMBERS OF THE FORUM WILL ALSO HAVE SOME GREAT ADVICE AND TIPS I ASSURE YOU. SO TO SUM UP ALL I HAVE SAID: 1. COMPLIMENT HIM. BRAG ON HIM. 2. INTRODUCE PORNS. IF HE WATCHES ALONE, JOIN HIM. IF YOU WATCH ALONE, ASK HIM TO JOIN. MAKE IT A COUPLE THING. 3.CHECK OUT THE MED THING IF IT APPLIES TO YOU. \ 4. CONSIDER MASTURBATING TO ALIEVE THE PRESSURE OFF YOUR SPOUSE. MAYBE IT'S JUST THAT YOUR SEX LIBIDO IS HIGHER THAN HIS DRIVE IF YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE FIRST TO INTIATE. 5. DO SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR HIM TO ENJOY JUST FOR HIM. MAKE IT ALL ABOUT HIM. 6. HAVE YOU TRIED BONDAGE? (TYING EACHOTHER UP?) PERHAPS THIS WILL GET HIM TO INTIATE IT AT LEAST ONCE. 7. ASK HIM IF "HE'S OPEN TO TRY NEW THINGS". THIS GETS THE IMAGINATION RACING FOR ANYONE MALE OR FEMALE. 8.BE SUPPORTIVE. DON'T PRESSURE HIM TO BE FIRST. LET HIM GO AT HIS OWN PACE. PERHAPS HE'S GOING THROUGH SOMETHING AT WORK OR SOMETHING AND DOESN'T FEEL COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT IT. THUS STRONG EMOTIONS. 9. TRY TO RE-CONNECT TO WHEN YOU FIRST MET. CONSIDER ROLE PLAYING. LISTEN TO OLD SONGS AND SHARE OLD MEMORIES. GO BACK TO A TIME WHEN HE DID START IT WHEN YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT THIS AND SAY HEY, DO YOU REMEMBER ????? IT'S ONE OF MY FAV MEMORIES CAUSE THE WAY YOU TOUCHED ME DROVE ME CRAZY! (OR SOMETHING TO THAT EFFECT). GOOD LUCK! HOPE THESE TIPS HELP A LITTLE AT LEAST. JUST REMEMBER NOT TO TAKE IT PERSONALLY, THOUGH IT'S VERY HARD NOT TO AT TIMES.

My Hubby knows and is totally into it. He loves reading the posts as much as I do.lol. We sometimes talk about the topics posted and discuss how we feel about them. (guy vs gal type thing). This forum has as Mikayla said in her Too Timid Success Story, brought sex to the fore front. I love my hubby and can share anything with him. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Jaca -GREAT JOB FOR A FIRST POST IMO! I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE COMMENT ABOUT TELLING YOUR WIFE SHE LOOKS SEXY. FLATTERY ALWAYS WINS BROWNIE POINTS! (AS LONG AS THE COMPLIMENTS FEEL SINCERE!)

YES YOU ARE RIGHT! I HAVE ALWAYS SAID, IT'S NOT THE SIZE OF THE EQUIPMENT, IT'S KNOWING HOW TO USE IT THAT COUNTS. IF YOU GET A GUY WHO KNOWS HOW TO USE IT WHO TRIES DIFFERENT THINGS TO GIVE YOU PLEASURE, THEN YOU'VE FOUND A DIAMOND IN A GOLD MINE.

I WAS IN A 5K WALK/RUN EVENT WHEN I WAS IN HS. IT'S A GREAT WAY TO CLEAR YOUR MIND, RELIEVE YOUR STRESS, AND GIVE YOUR BODY EXERCISE WHICH CAN ALSO INCREASE YOUR SEX STAMINA. HERE ARE MY TIPS: 1. DRINK LOTS OF WATER IF YOU DON'T ALREADY START. A RUNNER NEEDS ABOUT 32- 64OZ A DAY TO STAY HEALTHY. AND IT WILL ALSO KEEP YOU FROM HAVING AN ONSET OF A CHARLIE HORSE. (WHICH IF YOU DO HAVE A CHARLIE HORSE THEN LIE FLAT AND POINT YOUR TOES TOWARD YOUR HEAD.) 2. SEE HOW FAR YOU CAN ACTUALLY RUN AND TIME YOURSELF WITH A STOP WATCH TO KNOW WHERE YOU ARE NOW AND IN DOING SO YOU WILL KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO WORK ON. 3. WE HAVE TO CRAWL BEFORE WE WALK AND WALK BEFORE WE RUN. SO FOR STARTERS, TRY WALKING A MILE A DAY FOR A WEEK AND TIME YOURSELF. WHEN YOU REACH A COMFORTABLE LEVEL THEN ADD A MILE AND AGAIN, TIME YOURSELF. 4. ALWAYS KEEP WATER AT YOUR SIDE WHEN RUNNING. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO OVERHEAT AS THIS CAN RESULT IN HEART ATTACK, STROKE, MUSCLE CRAMPS, HEAT EXHAUSTION (IN EXTREME TEMPERATURES EVEN A HEAT STROKE) ETC.... 5. IF YOU SMOKE, STOP OR CUT BACK. YOU'LL NEED YOUR LUNGS IF YOU WANNA WIN. 6. BEFORE YOU WALK OR RUN ALWAYS PERFORM LEG STRETCHES! YOU KNOW, TOE TOUCHES, HAMSTRING STRETCHES, CALVE TONERS ARE ALSO GOOD STRETCHES. 7. ONCE YOU DO START RUNNING IN PREPARATION FOR A 5K, YOU'LL WANT TO MAINTAIN YOUR HEALTH AS WELL AS RECORDS OF YOUR TIMED RUNS TO KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT ON THE DAY OF THE BIG RACE. I LOVE TO RUN. MAYBE I'LL GET BACK INTO A 5K THIS YEAR. I WISH YOU THE BEST LUCK! FROM ONE RUNNER TO ANOTHER: BREAK A LEG! (THAT IS HOW WE SAY GOOD LUCK HERE....AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.LOL)

LMAO! YOU'RE EXACTLY LIKE THE KIND OF PEOPLE THAT I WORK WITH. LOL. LAST YEAR FOR A CO-WORKER'S BIRTHDAY WE ALL GOT TOGETHER AND GOT HIM A BLOW UP SHEEP DOLL.(HE WAS ALWAYS SAYING HOW SHEEP WERE SO MUCH LIKE WOMEN DUE TO A BAD SPLIT WITH A GF). WE ALSO GOT HIM A BOTTLE OF JACK DANIELS. THE NEXT NIGHT, HE MISSED WORK. WE LAUGHED ALL NIGHT TRYING TO IMAGINE WHAT HE WAS DOING. SO ANY WAY THE NEXT NIGHT HE COMES BACK TO WORK. AS HE WAS PASSING BY, WE ALL STARTED GOING: BAAAA-BAAAAA-(LIKE A SHEEP). IT WAS THE LAUGH OF A CENTURY! WE DO THINGS LIKE THAT TO ONE ANOTHER A LOT. OF COURSE YOU MUST KNOW THAT HE WAS LAUGHING JUST AS HARD AS WE WERE. WE'VE CALLED HIM LITTLE BO PEEP EVER SINCE THEN. LOL.

I HAVE TWO. 1. HE LIES FLAT ON HIS BACK AND YOU GET ON TOP. GO ALL THE WAY DOWN ON HIM UNTIL YOUR BOTTOM IS RESTING ON HIS THIGHS. FROM THERE, LET HIM PUSH YOU AND PULL YOU BACK AND FORTH. THIS PUSHES YOUR BODY DOWN BACK AND FORTH OVER HIS G-SPOT. 2. YOU GET ON TOP AND BARELY STICK THE HEAD IN AND THEN LEAN FORWARD AND KISS, LICK OR LET HIM SUCK ON YOUR TITTIES. YOU PRETTY MUCH STAY IN POSITION, ARCH YOUR BACK A LITTLE, AND LET HIM HAVE AT IT. HE WILL CONTROL FOR THE MOST PART HOW MUCH OF HIS COCK YOU RECIEVE, BUT YOU CAN ALWAYS TEMPT HIM TO GIVE YOU MORE WHEN YOU WANT IT BY SLIDING DOWN ON IT A BIT MORE TO A LEVEL OF COMFORT FOR YOU. TRUST ME, THESE DO WORK. I HAD A CAR ACCIDENT IN 1997 WHERE I CRACKED MY NECK IN TWO PLACES AND HAD A T6,7,8 FRACTURE OF THE SPINE.(BROKEN BACK). I'VE ALWAYS HAD A VERY STRONG SEXUAL APPETITE AND ONCE I BEGAN GETTING MOBILE AGAIN, I TOO HAD TO FIND NEW WAYS. IT'LL BE BETTER BEFORE YA KNOW IT, AND LOOK, YOU MAY FIND A POSITION YOU TRULY ENJOY THROUGH THIS EXPERIENCE! ANOTHER OPTION IS THIS: TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT THE PAIN YOUR HAVING AND TRY TO EXPLAIN YOUR PROBLEM. MAYBE HE CAN GIVE YOU SOME PAIN MEDS TO TAKE TO KNOCK THE EDGE OFF A LITTLE. ANOTHER SUGGESTION IS TO TALK TO YOUR PT.MAYBE YOUR PT (PHYS. THERAPIST) CAN ALSO TELL YOU SOME THINGS TO TRY. (THEY GET THESE QUESTIONS A LOT ! I PROMISE YOU WON'T BE THE FIRST OR LAST TO ASK!). ALSO, BE SURE AND EXERCISE THAT KNEE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. IF NOT, YOU COULD CAUSE MORE DAMAGE AND ANYTIME ANY PART OF OUR BODY HAS BEEN THROUGH AN OPERATION, THERE IS NOTHING BETTER FOR IT THAN EXERCISING IT. HOPE THESE IDEAS HELP A LITTLE.

IT'S FUNNY. I WAS THINKING ABOUT THIS TODAY ON MY WAY HOME. I MUST'VE MISSED THIS POST BEFORE. LOL. ANYHOW I LOVE MUSIC PERIOD. I ASKED MYSELF THAT EXACT QUESTION TODAY OF WHAT MY SONG WOULD BE....AND I SUCK. I COULDN'T PICK JUST ONE. LOL. SORRY!

Hi! Welcome to the forums! As everyone else has said, jump right in! This is the only website on the web I have ever seen with such class and the Sexual Education here is awesome. I always love reading about everyone's experiences and the tips and advice you can get here are great as well. So I have absolutely no doubts that you're going to enjoy it. LOL. LOOKING FORWARD TO READING YOUR POSTS!!!!!!

First of all, I am so sorry for you that you are going through this but in spite of it all, you have a great head on your shoulders. I think it sucks that women get discriminated against because of their weight. In fairness, some men do get discrimination too in sports. If they're not tall enough or built the right way, the coaches ususally find a way to cut them from the team. ( I know this because one of my hubbie's BF is a coach and I have heard it straight from their mouth). Anyhow, I just wanted to tell you that if it is your dream or your goal in life to dance, DON'T GIVE UP! Look at how far you have already came for this. You know your limits and your values. Stand up for them. Hold fast to them. It's true, dancers go through a lot, but I am sure you know first hand how hard the life is, as you have told us a little in your rant. I wish you all the luck in the world for this as it is evidently one of your passions. Let us know how things turn out! We'll be cheering for ya!