brianmichele

That's a good one...LOL

I think reading more carefully would be a good idea. I said that if you knew you didn't want children or want more children that it was a responsible decision to not have them. I said that you need to be unselfish when you do have them. I did not mean that you were being selfish if you chose not to have them. I also didn't say that people who chose not to have children were sad, just that I thought it is sad that so many people don't want them. I also am supportive of Tyger and her decision and stated so in my post. I don't think anyone should ever be forced to have children or anything else that they don't want to do. I know families who have many children for the wrong reasons and live in poverty or close to it. Most of the large families I know have to make sacrifices, but do so willingly and unselfishly. These families are anything but poor. They need to watch their budget and plan ahead, which is something everyone needs to learn to do to have a better economic outlook for the future. Children are given far too much in society today which produces selfish adults. Kids don't need everything they want and that does not make a family poor if they are unable or unwilling to give into every whim that their children have. It makes for healthy realistic views of life. I have 4 children and have had one miscarriage, so I have 2 sets of kids because there is 6 years between my 2nd and 3rd kids. It was challenging having to remember to pack a diaper bag after 4 years of not needing one and having to remember to pack snacks if we were going to be out awhile. My kids have always gone with us whenever we go somewhere and it has never been a burden. I can't imagine life without the smile of my youngest daughter or the energy of my youngest son. No, it's not for everyone and that's a personal decision.

thanks for the comments. we have decided to continue on it for another week or two and see what happens.

I am not trying to be argumentative here, but it really does sound like you are knocking those who choose to have a large family. You say those with a large family are "tied down" and call them a litter which has a very negative connotation. I beleive in large families. I would love a larger family than I already have, but we have decided it's not whats best for us right now. I know many, many families with 6, 8, or 9 children and they are not tied down. They are on the go more than I am. I think if someone doesn't want children that it is sad. I also don't think someone should be pressured into having more if they don't want to. I also beleive when you choose to have children you are making a life long (at least 18-20 years)committment to put them first. Being a parent means being unselfish. If someone is selfish they shouldn't be having kids. Tyger, I am sure you have talked with your husband, but it sounds like you are doing a lot of fighting about this issue. Maybe a moderator would be helpful. I agree that he shouldn't pressure you into having more children if it's not what you want, and don't take my statements to mean that I think you are being selfish, I don't. I think you are being responsible by not bringing a child into this world which you know you do not want at this time. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can work this out with him. Also, if it's the baby routine you don't want there are thousands of older children waiting for a good home. Maybe adoption of an older child is a solution you could look into.

Okay, First of all I hate taking birth control pills, but we don't want to get pregnant now and I was uncomfortable with all my other options. So, I was on a mini pill because I am still nursing my 19 mo daughter. But, I kept having full blown periods (3 in one month). I was hoping to eventually switch to Seasonale after I stopped nursing my daughter. Well, since I was having so many periods on the mini pill the Dr switched me now, since my daughter only nurses about twice a day for a very short time and I am trying to wean her. So, I get my period on a Sunday and I start the Seasonale. I have been spotting ever since (14 days now). I talked to the Dr and she said it is normal with Seasonale, and I shouldn't have breakthrough bleeding after I start the next cycle of pills. Of course, that is still 11 weeks away. Does anyone else have any experience with Seasonale? How long will this go on? I haven't had sex with hubby in 15 days. It is very, very light and dark brown most of the time. It is not even heavy enough to wear a tampon. I have only been using panty liners, but it is a huge inconvenience. I know my body needs to adjust, but how long could it take? Thanks for any help.

I just did that for my hubby's birthday last week. It was a lot of fun and I will post the picture of it soon (I hope). I bought a leather looking cut out dress like outfit. It cost about $35. you could use any little outfit you have really. I painted my nails a burgundy wine color and found a metal gift tag at Hallmark while looking for a card that said enjoy. I bought a matching (wine) colored bow and ribbon. Get whatever color matches your outfit or your husband's favorite color. I also got thigh high leather boots since it's close to halloween i was able to get them cheaper as a costume item than at the local sex shop. (about half the price) Anyway, I used the ribbon (it was the wide type) and made a collar for the gift tag and tied it around my neck and attached the bow (it was the kind with the sticky back) to some bare skin on my waist. I had my husband sit on the couch and close his eyes. Then I came in the room and presented myself to him. I think he liked the ribbon collar and tag the most. I thought it was a pretty neat idea, although I'm sure others have thought of it before me. Anyway, you could do several variations on this without much cost. Let us know how it goes.

I fixed it and it should work now.

I have some nipplettes ( i think that is the brand) They are purple, adjustable and vibrate. I had never used nipple clamps before, so i wanted to start with adjustable. They are not very strong, but the vibrations add a new sensation and is hands free. I also found they can double as a vibrating clit clamp. I personally will be looking for something with a little more bite, but these are fun.

This was definately not a virus (but a lot that do that are so it is good to be careful), but it is a site I have a subscription to. It showed up on my screen and I thought since I cut and pasted it that it would show up fine. Sorry for the blunder.

Sorry, I didn't know that would happen. Is there a way to delete the post? I see an edit button, but I don't see a way to delete it.

My husband fixed it and this time it shouldn't ask for a password. This cartoon is by Jerry King.

I am problably most horniest during my period. When I have a tampon in I still can get really wet and have great clitoral O's.

I know several people have asked, but what are some good movies that have a plot. I have watched porn before and with my husband, but like someone else commented, I have been uncomfortable when watching with him. I would love a movie that builds a plot, and contains romance before the action gets started and features the same characters all the way through. So, basically a full length feature with great hard core sex. Suggestions please. And any possibility of getting some clips or better descriptions of the movies offered here. So far the ones I have looked at are not very descriptive. Do they have better descriptions on the back covers? Any possibility of TooTimid offering a rental service?

I was going to add that when I give my husband a blowjob, I love the scent that seems to get trapped under his scrotum. It makes me so hot and horny. I have also at times been turned on by a clean smelling sweat.

How beautiful! It made me teary eyed.

Great! Thanks. I got that one figured out. Now a new problem. when you click on the drop down menu by my name or when it shows I have visited someones profile, my old picture is showing up and it is skewed. What's going on there?

The picture when you post is gone. Why is that? Do I need to make a change to my settings? It was there and now it's gone. I changed my pic thinking it needed to be updated or something. What am I doing wrong? Thanks for the help.

My hubby thinks I have a few times. It has not been as actual squirt, but he has asked me during sex if i did and I told him no. He said he thought I must have because he felt a hot gush run over him and the bed was soaked. I don't feel anything significant though. I don't feel any contractions like i am having an orgasm, so I am really not sure. We're not giving up though!

oh yeah, I've fantasized about FF, but I doubt it will ever happen

My list includes : having sex on the beach (although my husband thinks i'll spend the whole time screaming about the ghost crabs that run around at night) under a waterfall in my husbands truck under the stars in the hammock on the kitchen table (we did that a few times a long time ago, but we have a much better table now) using food (whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate syrup, etc) in a public bathroom and in one of those champagne shaped hottubs I've seen in Poconos ads I think that is about it, although if I think really hard I'm sure there are more.

My husband and I have discussed me doing this. I am not really sure if he likes them as is, but he says if I want to do it, he will find a way to pay for it. I have breastfed 4 children and have pretty much nothing but skin left where my breasts should be. I am a 36AA. I actually have a really hard time finding bras so small. Victoria's Secret only carries a few styles in the store in my size. They do have a larger collection online, but still alot of the time, I will find a bra I love and it won't come small enough. I am afraid of having the surgery done for many of the reasons pointed out here. I have read about nipple desensitation(sp?) and then what about the scars and having to have then replaced. I am not so much uncomfortable with my body as I am my body in clothes. It seems that clothes are made for women who are much better endowed than me and everything just hangs on me. So, I am going to look for the silicone breast pads that you put in a larger size bra to enhance your breasts in your clothes and see how that works. I bought a pair that are adhesive, but they are made for my current cup size and are really more of a bra to be worn with backless tops. They were an improvment, but not for everyday wear. If anyone knows where to find the other kind send me some links.

I guess it really wasn't multiples because my husband didn't have 2 orgasms, but recently when I was giving him a blow job he came(ejaculated) and then came a few minutes later with an orgasm. He didn't even know that he had ejaculated the first time, but he did and I thought it was curious that he was staying hard so i slowed down on the bj until i realized that he was staying hard a long time then i got really into it again and he had an orgasm with another ejaculation. Haven't been able to repeat the process again, but I am having fun trying.

I have been trying to have gspot o's. I have tried alone and with hubby. I have read Mikayla's article as well as many others around the web. On my own, I really can't get into it that much. With my hubby, it feels very intense. I feel like I have to pee then I feel like I am about to give birth and then it goes away. He keeps going and it happens again and again, but there are no contractions, like with a clitoral o and there is no squirting. The other night I felt that way at least 4 times(I wasn't keeping count at the time). Each one more intense than the last and then I felt like I was done. I just didn't want to go any longer. It felt great, but were we actually hitting the gspot? It is extremely pleasurable and feels better than anything I have experienced before, so I really don't care if its not the gspot, but I really would like to experience a gspot o.

I haven't read through all of the posts to see what others are saying, but I want you to know that I am here for you if you would like to talk. I know how you feel (for the most part). The first thing I want to tell you is you are not your husband's conscience. I know this is hard, and I am struggling with this myself, but let him look at what he will and just be the wife you are called to be. Don't nag him about or try to find out if he is looking, just make a choice to love him. Also at this point, your views are different, there is no way you can change his mind and you shouldn't change yours. You will need to accept what is and go from there. I can recommend many books for you to read to help in this area if you are interested. Second, I have caught my husband looking at porn online several times over the course of our marriage and I will admit that a lot of the reason why he had to go "looking" was my fault. It started out as pictures and later became movies and then one day it became an affair. I was hurt, angry, confused. I hated him, I hated me. I agree with you that marriage is a sacred vow and forsaking all others means exactly that. Yes, guys will look, but that's just the way they are wired and there is nothing wrong with that. If they weren't wired to look they would be so preoccupied with work or games or hunting/fishing, etc to ever notice us and then there would be no sex or marriage at all. It is gauking or seeking out of someone to look at that I disagree with. All men have the ability and can make the choice to look away, though. My husband and I just had a disagreement about your post. He saw it online and told me I might want to reply to you. I agreed with him, but then our discussion led to our disagreeing about porn again. So, it is an ongoing battle. I don't know that he and I will ever agree or that you and your husband will, but I do know that if we are the wives we are supposed to be that is what really matters. I am glad he told me about your post and I hope something I said can help you. I think the best thing to do is let your husband know how you feel in a non threatening way and then leave it at that. I started a journal for my husband and write my thoughts and feelings in it when I can't sit down and talk to him or when I want to have the time to find just the right words and not sound condemning or overbearing or angry. I started with cards, but there were so many it was easier to keep the journal so it was all in one place - cheaper too. Please feel free to email me privately if you would like a list of the books or to talk in more detail. Best wishes.

I recently had been having trouble having an orgasm during sex with hubby. I felt like I would be right on top of an orgasm, but not getting over the hump and having the relaxed feeling. I felt like I was holding back, but not on purpose. I tried Viva and although we were using a toy, I came quicker than I have ever come during sex. If anyone is having trouble I would suggest Viva. I am going to get more. Hopefully it keeps working the same way.