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Thanks, Stu!

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First, let me reassure you, YOU ARE NOT ABNORMAL. You say you are "radically inexperienced" but that you are already using a vibrator. Maybe what is happening is that your body feels like it's trying to be made to go from 0 to 200 mph in no time flat. Perhaps your clit needs to learn how to feel sensations before it can graduate on to more "intense" avenues. You might want to lay off the vibrator or at least not start off with it for a while. In case you are under any misconceptions, There is nothing wrong with not using a vibrator when masturbating. I don't even own one! So, if you want specific advice on creating the best reactions to those, I'm not your gal. BUT, I do have some things up my sleeve which might help your situation because it will help your body learn how to get those wonderful sensations. You could then use the vibrator to enhance them if you'd like. ***This is best done with cold fingers (stick them in the freezer for a minute if you must)*** Lay down on your back and reach down with one hand. Use your index and ring fingers to spread the vaginal lips (labia majora) to expose the inner folds (labia minor). Then use your middle finger to lightly tap along their edges. I personally like to vary the speed. I might let them touch for a moment and then pull my finger away or I might bounce it gently near and over the clitoris. The cold fingers highten the sensations, but be patient with yourself. Your body will eventually want more "action." Try then rubbing the middle finger through the contours of your folds. Pay some attention to your clitoris, rubbing it in circles or even going back and forth over it. Feel free to go down and penetrate yourself! You can even curl your hand to where your thumb rests along the crease of your middle and ring fingers. This will make the bottom knuckle of your thumb poke out enough for you to use that or the length of the thumb convenient for some pressured attention to your clit. Holding your hand this way is great for two reasons: 1. The shape of it will reinforce the thumb's strength and endurance 2. You can pay attention to your clit with your thumb will penetrating yourself with your other fingers. Win-win! You will most likely wind up noticing that the more aroused your body becomes, the faster, deeper, and harder you will want things. This is good! And when you finally want that final thing to just throw you completely off the edge into the lake of Orgasmville (which, you should already be wet at this point that I'm talking about), THEN introduce the vibrator. Remember, with guys, we want a little bit of foreplay, right? With ourselves, our bodies want the same thing. Oh, and after, if you're really sensitive, go back to the cool finger tapping for a few until you recover. It's GREAT for when you need to wind down too! Now, go have fun.

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Yes, definitely! "would it make you hot if I slapped your ass and told you to suck it harder?" Possibly heehee ******************** Would it make you hot if I gave you oral until you were hard, then put your dick between by breasts so you could titty-fuck me some until I place you back in my mouth so I can swallow your cum? Yummy.

He did, and he is GREAT at it! Before him, I had never gone down on a guy. Sticking a man's dick in my mouth is just too personal for me. But with him, I crave it. He may have given me oral first, but I do it more often! lol. He definitely tries to keep the tally at least close to even though.

Mikayly, I loved this post! I added my own little commentaries to the points you brought out. <3 1. IT IS NOT REQUIRED TO HAVE ORAL SEX I'm a firm believer in reciprocity. If he goes down on you, it's only fair that you go down on him. But if you just cannot bring yourself to giving it, then there at least definitely needs to be a reciprocation of something special! So you don't like dick in your mouth. Do strap-ons phase you? No? Does he like receiving it in the ass? Yes? Problem solved! But, reciprocation is key. You either both give and receive nothing or both give and receive SOMEthing. And this stands for both sides. A person shouldn't be forced to give anything if something pleasureable isn't also received. Communicate and compromise, people! 2. PORN IS BAD AND MEN THAT WATCH IT ARE PIGS Porn can make me feel awkward, but what other people watch is their business. But, if I'm tired--or we're tired--and watching a few minutes of whatever just so happens to serve as juuust enough inspiration....we're both happy. That, or we're both pigs! hahaha! >>oink oink<< 3. IF HE DOESN'T GET AN ERECTION WHEN HE SEES YOU NAKED, HE IS NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU When I see my man naked, I certainly am checking him out with my eyes. Alas, my crotch is not a faucet. And if I don't necessarily start gushing immediately myself, why require different standards from him? Still wanting you and having an erection are two totally different things. 4. SEX ONCE A MONTH IS MORE THAN ENOUGH Um, maybe if he's got cancer and can't do more than that. Otherwise, WTF????? Hell no! My libido is faaaaar too healthy for such a starvation diet. Talk about sexual emaciation! Okay, I gotta stop before I rant a little too much over that pure absurdity. 5. HE WANTS YOU TO WEAR LINGERIE BECAUSE HE WANTS A WHORE Sure, I can play that role! 6. HE WANTS ANAL SEX BECAUSE HE IS GAY-OR, ANAL SEX WILL HURT They say prostate stimulation gives the same sensation as a female orgasm (anybody ever wonder who supposedly figured that out, and HOW?). Who wouldn't want to share such things with their man? Orgasms are GREAT!! If he wants to know what that feels like, okay. And, it won't hurt if you would just r-e-l-a-x. 7. FAKING AN ORGASM IS OK, EVERYONE DOES IT Well, I certainly don't! If you're not doing it for me, then I'm sorry honey, you just gotta keep working at it. Maybe that's considered heartless, but faking is deceitful. It's a flat-out lie! Plus, more damage is done by making him realize you've given up on him and his skills than by giving him opportunity to achieve what he's trying to do by walking him through it. A woman's vagina is a dark tunnel, give the poor man a light to see the path!! Otherwise, he'll just keep banging into all the wrong places. And remember, it's just like a roadtrip too. Men don't always stop for directions, so provide your fellow with a map when he starts making all the wrong turns.

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Hi everybody! It's been quite a while. Just letting y'all know my move went well, I'm all settled in down here, and I also now have a boyfriend!!! This is a MAJOR step for me in my life, as I have had MAJOR commitment issues for all of it. But, I'm through that now apparently. So, YAY!!!

One of the most incredible things we can learn to do is to LOVE OURSELF ABOVE ALL ELSE. When we do this, everything else falls into place. Of course, by saying "love ourself," I do not mean masturbating. Eighteen. I remember when I turned that age, I realized that my life is, well, MY life. The only person who has to be with me all hours of the day for all the days of my life is ME! So, why not be my own best friend and love myself? I started this huge endeavor to conquer the crazy things that outside influences put in my head. I suggest you do the same. Now, here's a little trick I've learned about sexiness: Women who are "sexy" are nice to look at and enjoy momentarily, but do you know what REALLY drives a lot (if not the majority) of men crazy? Women who are NOT TRYING to be sexy. Isn't that ironic? The more we attempt it, the less we succeed because it's obvious that we're not being our true selves. That's why it's said that confidence is the sexiest characteristic out there--because it is! Fun, crazy, wild sex is undoubtedly enjoyable, but what really gets guys is when they have to WORK FOR WHAT THEY ACHIEVE...and when they are having sex with AN ACTUAL PERSON instead of some random body wearing a facade. Here's an exercise: Get a book you like to read or a pad to draw on--something along those lines (but NOT a computer). It could be as random as knitting. Take it to a semi-inconspicuous but visible and well-travelled place. Like, a chair in Barnes and Noble or a grassy spot near the sidewalk on a local college/university campus. Consume yourself with it. And wear something comfy, something you REALLY love to wear! Now, go enjoy that activity. Don't worry about your surroundings but be semi-aware; you're there for you and your own company (but not anti-social either). When someone looks at you, feel free to glance up, make eye contact, give a short sweet smile, and then RESUME what you were previously doing. I can GUARANTEE you that SOMEONE is going to think, "Wow. THAT is sexy." ...even if they don't come up to you. If they do, you can chat for a bit. But be honest after a minute and confess you have a boyfriend...unless you've already chosen to leave him! Good luck, babe. ...and let me know how it goes! PM me or something, okay?

Sorry everyone for being so all over the place, but this man has done enough to me and I'm at the point were I'm really fed up and it's just spilling out all over the place. so tired of him hurting me, in any way he can imagine, because I know he does it just to keep me down so I stay with him. and I can't leave now anyway. Is he abusive? You say, "so tired of him hurting me, in any way he can imagine." I can't help but to wonder, in which context to you make this statement? Emotionally, physically,...?

Oh my, that is GORGEOUS!!! I actually thought of you this past weekend because I went to buy me a knife and they had hand-made ones there too. I am so happy to hear that you have been able to pick making them back up!

This amused me beyond belief. I am DEFINITELY going to be showing it to a few medics I know!!! heehee

I like how it's a series of gifts, leading up to a climax I'm sure!!!

Okay, so I found the beginning of the conversation. After reading the explanation of your plight, I must say that I am now able to sympathize more (not that you're asking for sympathy). Nevertheless, I still stand by "mathematical certainty." You can't have sex. Trust me, plenty of guys out there are unable to have sex too. I work in EMS. Some of the things I've seen and heard about...It just usually isn't a, "Hi. Nice to meet you. I have no dick" type of conversation topic, you know? Guys seem a bit sensitive when discussing their penis. And don't discount the guys with a micropenis. After all, I'm sure a few of them are thinking, "Who would want sex with an inch long penis? Penetration would be near impossible, so what's the point?" That may have come off as offensive. Sorry.

Eminatic, In all statistical probability, if one person feels or believes one way, there is another person with the same or similar outlook. Not trying to say, "There's one out there for you, sweetie; just keep looking," but with 6 billion people in the world, someone somewhere shares YOUR priority on sex. It's a mathematical certainty. Here's my opinion: YES, sex can greatly attribute to the rise and fall of many, many relationships. Sex (or lack of) causing the fall usually stems from an imbalance in the two individual's needs, wants, and drives. Now, if you were to happen upon a man whose sex drive matches yours completely (even if it means NOT having one), what then would be the problem? After all, as I explained already, the man is bound to exist. Will you come across him? Maybe, maybe not. But being adamently single simply because you "cannot have a relationship because [you] cannot have sex" flabbergasts me since it doesn't seem as if that's a dating death sentence. Not in my eyes, anyway. Maybe you see it as a hopeless cause? Anyhow, I, for one, am single because A) it's easier and B ) I'm extraordinarily picky. To me, those appear good reasons to say, "I'll never be in a relationship." Why? 'Cause I'm too lazy and don't do too well with any kind of maintenance. So, chin up. Don't be so hard on yourself. Breathe. I'm not trying to force you down an aisle--and especially not with lube in hand! TA

So true, but I have no right to talk since I apparently view my relocation as a break from life. TPBM still has giddy moments.

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That it's time for a major change.