Newbie Black beaury Posted January 5, 2022 Newbie Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 Trying to remain calm in a sexless marriage...😔😔 2 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tiger48 Posted January 5, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 I know the feeling. I'm older and a male but it can be difficult. Hang in there 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jizzlobber77 Posted January 5, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 Shouldn't b that way x 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members marka09 Posted January 5, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 Welcome! There are many here that you can share with! 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ready2fuck Posted January 5, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 That's terrible, hit me up if you need to talk! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SexMaster Posted January 5, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2022 We are here for you if you need to vent. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie Black beaury Posted January 6, 2022 Author Newbie Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 8 hours ago, FishingNc said: I am right there with you on lacking in the bedroom. She is sleeping now next to me and I am so horny On 1/5/2022 at 5:14 AM, Starving said: I am sorry to hear that! We go through that sometimes!I guess that’s why there’s toys and your hands! I hope things will get better soon for you and welcome! That is so true that's how I discovered this website for toys ☺️😊and stuff to help in the bedroom, I'm trying to be understanding so I am being patient... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SexMaster Posted January 10, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2022 1 hour ago, NeverSuspect said: Have you talked with your partner? Sometimes ‘life’ or stress gets in the way.. If there’s love there I’d hope you can figure it out! I have to agree with you. My Wife and I have a good sexual relationship, she is a good Mom but sometimes I feel she is absent as a Wife if that makes sense. I find myself talking to other women that care for me mentally not physically. 🤷♂️ It's weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tannaked Posted January 10, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2022 Going down the same road also. Know the feeling not fun at all. Got some toys that help and I can just have fun with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cirrus20 Posted January 10, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2022 Unfortunately there seems to be a lot people in sexless marriages. I certainly wish you all the best in dealing with it and don't hesitate to discuss things here, there are others in the same situation that can sympathize and share insights. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members IronBar Posted January 10, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2022 We have been married 48 years - about 4 years ago the wife unit announced that she just did not want to have any sex any more. I decided to let her have her space and I said "no problem", I'll just take care of myself. I do o.k. at it and we sit in the living room right next to each other while I have at it. At first I felt a little strange jerking off sitting next to my wife, making as much noise as I often do - but it seems fine now. I started "sounding" about 2 years ago and I got her to slide one in once, but she never did it again. So I just take care of myself and I'm getting much better at it! 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rio Posted January 10, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2022 Is your wife older or younger than you? Why did she choose not to have sex anymore. Jerking off is one thing but to never have sex with your wife I don't know if I could handle that. Having sex only occasionally is one thing but to never have it that's just mind-boggling to me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members IronBar Posted January 13, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 Nope - she is old like me. She is just not interested. I'm not sure if I'm just no good at it or she has some issues. We have kids, grand kids and great grand kids - so I know all the parts worked, at least many years ago. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie rae77 Posted January 13, 2022 Newbie Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 Haha, sexless marriage its the story of my life. Hubby cant get it up anymore and I'm frustrated, so I bought a sex toy and the package is stilling beside me, i haven't opened it yet. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie rae77 Posted January 13, 2022 Newbie Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 I bought a clit sucker because i like to be eaten 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rio Posted January 13, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 Welcome @rae77. Well what are you waiting for? Open that package and get at it. And then tell us how it was. Sorry about your sex less marriage. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Excited Posted January 13, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 On 1/5/2022 at 12:08 AM, Black beaury said: Trying to remain calm in a sexless marriage...😔😔 I have a sexless marriage as well. I can tell you it is not stopping me from having fun. I believe one just has to make up their mind and decide someone else can’t hold them hostage to getting my needs met. Open your mind to other possibilities that can have you getting the best orgasims ever. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Excited Posted January 13, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 On 1/10/2022 at 2:32 PM, IronBar said: We have been married 48 years - about 4 years ago the wife unit announced that she just did not want to have any sex any more. I decided to let her have her space and I said "no problem", I'll just take care of myself. I do o.k. at it and we sit in the living room right next to each other while I have at it. At first I felt a little strange jerking off sitting next to my wife, making as much noise as I often do - but it seems fine now. I started "sounding" about 2 years ago and I got her to slide one in once, but she never did it again. So I just take care of myself and I'm getting much better at it! I am in the same situation. Mine is over 12 years now. I have no problem and neither does she to seeing me taking care of myself. I did move to another bedroom so as to give me the space I need to play whenever the mood hits me. Besides it lets her sleep in peace. When I first moved to another bedroom it was because I couldn’t continue laying beside her horny and not be able to touch her. It made me a bit flustered. Now vI can lay in bed watch porn or even look at this forum on the big screen as I take care of business. 4 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie LAStorm Posted January 14, 2022 Newbie Report Share Posted January 14, 2022 Did anyone try to open their marriage when it became a sexless marriage? How did that go? Not asking for a friend-lol. I'd like to have that conversation in mine, but I'm still scared to do so. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jizzlobber77 Posted January 14, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2022 17 hours ago, rae77 said: Haha, sexless marriage its the story of my life. Hubby cant get it up anymore and I'm frustrated, so I bought a sex toy and the package is stilling beside me, i haven't opened it yet. Good for u, get it open and in use x 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rio Posted January 16, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2022 @Southernbellethis is off topic but I just looked at your profile page and your green eyes are mesmerizing. Looking at those eyes in person I would have sex with you constantly. No sex less marriage for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mixed Up Mess Posted January 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 25, 2022 On 1/13/2022 at 12:34 PM, IronBar said: Nope - she is old like me. She is just not interested. I'm not sure if I'm just no good at it or she has some issues. We have kids, grand kids and great grand kids - so I know all the parts worked, at least many years ago. It sounds to me like she isn’t interested due to a few possibilities: 1. Do you treat her the same way you did when you were trying to get her to say yes? Flowers, love notes in unexpected places, etc…. 2. How often do you touch? Is every touch with the purpose of possible sex? Are there sometimes that you touch her to share your love and remove the possibility of providing her with that feeling of desire/wanting sex? 3. What were things like when you were dating? At one point I’m sure you just reached out to hold her hand, maybe pull her hand up a give it a kiss? Treat her like a queen. When you’re driving, reach out and hold her hand. Let her know that she’s in charge both in and out of the bedroom. 4. does she know that she is the most beautiful woman in the world? Food for thought! good luck! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members IronBar Posted January 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 25, 2022 WOW - I never really thought about any of this. I'm a guy. 1. Definitely not. I know she still has all of my love notes. I do randomly do the flowers thing. 2. I do touch her frequently (every day) - I grab her butt and play with her breast and kiss on her neck. I tell here I was thinking about her all the time. 3. Our life is nothing like when we were dating. I guess we have both been beat down by life. 4. I'm always positive and supporting her. But it is not romantic at all. Thanks for taking time to give me some feminine insight. I guess I have lost some important things over 48 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mixed Up Mess Posted January 26, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 26, 2022 Many women need a lot of foreplay before the “big event”. I think there are many of us that grew up with those archaic ideas that are so toxic to women. Ideas such as sex before marriage is a sin, no one will want you if you’re not a virgin, sex is a duty and you owe it to your husband, we shouldn’t enjoy sex, sex is for procreating, etc. I grew up feeling that any sexual feelings were inappropriate, dirty and wrong. Even now I don’t like the idea of others knowing that we’re screwing around in our room when the door is closed and locked. I know it’s something I don’t need to be ashamed of, but I’m still embarrassed about it! Have you ever had a discussion about how sex was perceived in her home growing up? Sharing some of those feelings might “loosen things up” for her. What about how she perceives herself? If she’s gone through menopause, things have changed. She probably doesn’t get as wet when you’re playing around. If she feels fat or unattractive that can definitely add to wanting to avoid intimacy. Maybe you two could go on some dates again! Get couples massages, go on a crazy vacation where there could be lots of touching. My hubby and I were in a dry spell for over a decade due to horrible stress at home with one of our kids. Now that she’s moving out in a couple of months, we’re getting pretty horny and messing around almost every night. I haven’t had an orgasm in months, even with oral sex and using vibrators. I guess we’re not out of the woods yet, but to finally be attracted to my hubby in a sexy way again is wonderful. I find that I reach out to touch him just to make that connection. Intimacy can be created and lost in so many ways. For years it was easier to push my hubby away when he wanted sex than to put in the effort to connect with him. With depression rearing it’s ugly head, It’s easier to pull away and continue to move away rather than find the energy to focus on our relationship. I’m glad that you’re open to different ideas. I apologize for the mega-long post! It sounds to me that your wife has the right man - willing to give up and fight for your marriage! She’s lucky to have you! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Railman96 Posted January 26, 2022 Members Report Share Posted January 26, 2022 I am in the same boat as you. That is how I found this site also. But it didn’t help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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