Ummm, Could Use Some Input Here.

[bendme]

Ive never had thoughts about wanting another woman. I've met someone and I am thinking about her all the time. I don't understand this, it's so not me. I love men, always have, but these thoughts of wanting to sleep with this woman are just overwhelming me. I get so wet when I talk to her. I don't know what to do with what is in my head or how my pussy throbs when I simply hear her voice. God, this is so NOT like me. I could really use some advise or input on this matter. Is what I'm feeling normal? Does it mean I'm all of a sudden gay for wanting to have sex with a woman? Something that scares me is IF we do take this to the next level... I wouldn't even know HOW to have sex with a woman.

I guess I'm really embarrassed to ask for help with this. Can anyone share experiences with me? Or give me some tips on how to have sex with a woman? I'm really looking for more then just do what feels comfortable and you'll be fine. I'm looking for the HOW TO's.

Thanks.

[Tyger]

Where I don't have experience in sleeping with a woman (yet), I have had a few times where a woman has really excited me, which, the first time it happened, was also rather shocking to me too.

You may be bisexual, or just bi-curious. If this one woman does it to you, then, yes, it sounds as if you're attracted to her, and, no, you're NOT a freak. Many women love to watch woman on woman porn (I being one as well), and have seen some women that just make me go Ga-Ga. I've always considered myself "straight" too.

So, in answer to your question, yes, it's normal. How to go about it? Is this woman gay/bisexual? Has she expressed an interest in you as well? If so, why not bring it up in a conversation. Slowly hinting at the attraction (if you're shy). Or, you could just blurt it out and tell her that, although you feel "wierd" about it, you find her very attractive.

I'm sure there will be other women that can chime in here on how they broached the subject with a bi-virgin. Good luck & best wishes.

[Mikayla1]

Well, I most certainly can tell you "how to" have sex with a woman - as I have many times, and I enjoyed it! First, make sure you want to do it - REALLY want to. Nothing wrong with experimenting though. Also, is she a lesbian? Make sure SHE wants to as well. THen, make sure there are no STD's cause I can tell you from experience that having oral with a dental dam is....um....safe but nasty! Once all your p's and q's are set you are ready for sex.

Sex with a woman isn't all TOO different than sex with a man - at least not initially. The nice thing is, what you like done to you, she most likely will like done to her. I find that sex with women is more....intimate in ways. I always started with lots of kissing and petting. Hair petting and face touching. Then moving on to touching her breasts. Women mostly like things slow and sensual - take your time. Feel her through her clothing, kiss her deeply and passionately, take time removing her blouse and don't rush to take off her bra. Touch her breasts as you would want yours touched and ask her if she likes it. Perhaps she can give you direction.

One of the main "how tos" that I can render is to make sure you admire her pussy when it comes time. Don't be in a rush to finger it or to lick it - take your time. Use your fingers to touch it, pull on her lips, circle around it - do not rush. THink about how you like your partner to take his time with you. When you finally do finger her, do it slowly -lick your fingers, make sure you use enough lube and your nails aren't sharp. lick her pussy gently and eagerly - take time to withdraw and play some more. Make sure you use at least 2 fingers (perhaps more) when you are about to make her cum. Finger her and talk to her while licking her pussy. For the first time, give it all to her - then try other things like a 69 or toys. I suggest first time is always about admiration and exploration.

Did that help??

[bendme]

See that's the thing Tyger...I totally consider myself straight. The words bi-curious or bi-sexual scare me. I'm don't mean that as an insult to anyone who is but I've never considered myself "bi" anything. I've never had to consider that b/c I've always had relationships and been very attracted to men. So being attracted to this woman is really throwing me for a loop. She's not a lesbian or bi-anything. We've gotten close and have shared some extremely deep things with each other. We feel safe with each other, comforted, and share some horrible experiences which is how we started talking in the first place. She's told me she feels the same way about me and is just as confused as I am about our feelings towards each other. God, when I think of her all I want to do is hold her and kiss her and explore every inch of her body while she does the same to me.

Thank you Mikayla for your post it was very informative. It does help but I wonder if there are any toys in particular that would be fun to use with each other since we both like the feeling of a man IN us. I'm curious how a double headed dildo would be or work? I mean, does one person pump away or do you both pump at the same time? Which one would be best a bent one or the straight ones. God, I can't believe I'm thinking of using one with a woman, but I can't ignore or control my desire to be with her. Since I've only ever been with a man I don't know how to use a double headed dildo or give oral to a woman. It scares me a lot that when we are together that I won't be able to pleasure her or that she'll do something to trigger me and I'll flip out. Having these feelings for her has thrown me for a loop. But I really want to be with her and I guess I'm looking for any stories about anyone's experience with being with a woman and what toys they used and what is the best way to use them. Or if there are any sites or stories that could help us or give us ideas on the how to's, it would be a huge help and maybe would ease our nervousness.

Thanks.

[Amylynn920]

I think we are all sexual creatures. Being with a woman is different than being with a man, it's almost like having sex with a mirror image of yourself.

I think the best thing about having sex with another woman is they instinctively know what feels good. We all have the same parts, we know how they feel and we know how they work.

When I did it, it was great, and it was fun. But I knew that orientation wasn't for me. I looked at it as a sexual experience. I didn't wear a label afterwards I was still me.

[Tyger]

I think that "labelling" really has gotten out of control. We, as humans, feel the need to label something so we feel more comfortable with it. Well, if you don't feel comfortable with labelling yourself, well, then don't. Just do what you want to do, so long as she gives the go-ahead, and have fun. Don't worry about giving it a name/label. Go with the flow. Best wishes!

[OPL Laundry Goddess]

I totally understand your position as I was there myself. I don't like labels and for the most part would say I identify as straight, but the heart can't control who it loves and the psyche doesn't always choose to whom its attracted.

I remember the first time I was with Temptress. I was very nervous. I didn't know how she would react to having me be the aggressor. I would suggest that the first time be just the two of you, no toys. I think Mikayla is right to advise you concentrate on exploration and just getting to know each other's bodies.

The thing about woman on woman sex, for me, is that I just love the process. I love the way Temptress feels, I love the way her skin responds to my touch, and I love the noises she makes as I excite her. There is, of course, the natural understanding of how her body works, as I have the same parts. So if it's something I like, then I use that on her, altering position or speed as she dictates by her responses. Toys can always be a part of your loving later on.

While you are getting to know her physically, spend lots of time letting your fingers and lips wander all over her, focussing on her genitals. Women are shaped differently, so explore the folds and creviches she has. Spend time - LOTS - just being with her. The touches will arouse her, but don't rush to get her off. There will come a time when it's inevitable, thats when you close the deal.

good luck with that, keep us posted on how it goes for you!

~ the laundry goddess

[bazil323]

I'm also totally straight, married and monogamous. However, when I was a teenager, my female cousin and I experimented. We both were just curious about sex in general, and so it was fairly natural for us to start kissing & touching each other. I do not in any way consider myself a lesbian or even bi-sexual/bi-curious. So don't worry that this will "turn you gay." You two may discover that you want to be together or you may decide that was great, but now the lust is gone.

As far as toys, I do not have experience with using toys with another woman, but I'd say just try out different things, and take it easy. Don't get stressed out, you are experimenting. Just do what feels natural, and try it out.

[bendme]

Thank you all for your posts. Here's an update on what ended up happening. Howard we did end up talking and choosing a toy together, which we bought here at too timid, a double header. First I have to say that I had a blast with my friend. The whole experience was just mind blowing. I'm not worried about labels anymore. She and I got a hotel room together and spent the entire weekend, well most of the weekend, naked and enjoying exploring each other's bodies. Things in the beginning were a little awkward to say the least but after talking and just cuddling things progressed to sensual kissing and hands exploring everywhere. She loved when I sucked on her lower lip and the moans she let out drove me wild. Our soft skin pressed into each other, breasts against breasts, tummies breathing into one another, kissing so deep, and a bullet on our clits as we ground into one another, my God. We kissed each other all over every inch, fingers found their way to deliciously wet places, teeth nibbled nipples and gently pulled and sucked. After this wonderous connection we felt it made it so much easier to do the things I was so nervous about doing. My God, I just took my time like Mikayla suggested, and it was so easy to make her lift those hips off the bed, I just did what I liked and what I could hear her moans and hips grinding into my face told me to do. She tasted so sweet I could have dined on her pussy alone and I would have been happy. I waited so long before I put my fingers into her and God did she like that, like building up to the point of I would lose my mind if I couldn't feel her pussy wrapped around my fingers. I fucked her slowly with the DH, my fingers and my tongue and she did the same to me. God did she do the same to me... she had me screaming and panting and cumming so hard. We didn't have any trouble working the DH and my god it was amazing to feel so connected with her like that. I think my fav. part was when she flipped me over and fucked me doggie with the double header we now call DT (double trouble)... God, she did everything I asked her to do, went hard and fast when I wanted to be slammed, went slow while I had the bullet pressed into my clit so hard, she even spanked me when I asked her to and OMG did that send me over the edge. I have never in my life come so hard, I swear I couldn't move for the longest time. We colapsed together happy and exhausted and feeling the weight of her on me just had me in heaven, and the way she carressed my hair and kissed my neck....mmmmmmmm. I've never felt so connected before in my life, like she knew what was in my soul and the feel of her heart beating against mine told me that this is not a lust thing. I can't get her out of my head, or the scent of her out of my soul... I ache to be with her again. Time will tell if that will be possible. All I can say is who made weekend's only 2 days b/c 2 days was just not enough time with her.

[MystryKitten]

sounds like you had a great sexy time! your story was very arousing, lol.

im glad all worked out well for u.

[littlemissnonamegirl]

I'm happy you went for it and thanks for sharing!

Definitely sounds like it was a lovely weekend indeed =]