Do You Ever Do This?

[crazy1]

Just recently My wife and I were celebrating my birthday, and after the kids were gone to school and we were laying in bed, she took our dirty talk to a WHOLE other level. We are conservative and she is not prone to outbursts of dirty talk, but she put on quite the show for me that morning. Since, she has been a little more verbal and she has started adding things in that she was once a bit too shy to express. My question is: Does anybody else say things in bed that you would be HORRIBLY offended by if the situation was different?

[HappilyMarried2]

Just recently My wife and I were celebrating my birthday, and after the kids were gone to school and we were laying in bed, she took our dirty talk to a WHOLE other level.  We are conservative and she is not prone to outbursts of dirty talk, but she put on quite the show for me that morning.  Since, she has been a little more verbal and she has started adding things in that she was once a bit too shy to express.  My question is:  Does anybody else say things in bed that you would be HORRIBLY offended by if the situation was different?

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I certainly have crazy... hubby wanted me more verbal, and in the beginning I said things all the time that made me cringe inside, but I knew it turned him on. So as I got a little more used to it, now I mean it. hahahahaha... I think everyone has said or done something at some point that is out of character, eh?

[curvacious_lust]

omg...I am just blushing thinking about this. He knows that I have an opinion of "keeping some things in the bedroom" and will say something in front of my kids(1 who is a prepubescent male...lol) that makes me blush soooooo bad and my son says "ewwwwwwwww", but if we were in the bedroom, I'd be drooling and totally excited over!!

[crazy1]

CL, you have piqued my curiosity. What kinda things does he say?

People I would like to know, what are the terms you use in bed? Is it your dick, cock, dong, meat, or what? Do you call it pussy, twat, cunt, box, ect.? What about the other acts that are performed? What sounds sexy to you?

[Mikayla1]

When I get hot and horny all the dirty words come out of the closet. I tell my hb to slap my pussy, pull or lick my clit, stick his cock in my pussy, lick my tits, fuck my ass.

All the basic, raw words that make me think of what I want him to do to me.

I think that hearing the words come out of my mouth makes me feel like the sex is more primal.

Sometimes if we are having a more "Tantric" session, these words are not always used, it seems more nurturing and less primal.

However, in a normal, raw night of endless passion, these words fly out of my mouth like a porn start and I love it!

Mikayla

[quietguy]

I wish my wife would say what Mikayla says!!

After 5 years of marriage, we just discovered how much fun dirty talk is. I started it by just blurting something out while she was riding me. Quietly and softly I started to say "I really love fucking you". She reacted positively so I kept saying it. I then moved on to "I love your tits". When she orgasmed, she rolled off and started blowing me, so then I blurted out "oh you slutty bitch", very softly. I immediately apologized but she just started blowing me harder so I said it again. We had both had quite a bit of champagne so the next day I was somewhat embarrassed (we NEVER talk like this) but she just kind of joked about it. I apologized and she said I had nothing to be sorry about.

So the next time we were alone (kids out of the house) and doing it (again with some champagne helping loosen us up), I started in again, but eventually added towards the end "I love fucking your tight pussy". I think that made her uncomfortable since we never even tell dirty jokes to each other normally, so I will have to watch that the next time.

I'm just going to keep going at it slow when she is in the mood for it and maybe someday she will join in the converstation. She kind of gave me a warning and said "don't forget that sometimes nice and gentle and quiet is great too", so obviously she has to be in the right mood.

[Mikayla1]

What people never seem to realize about dirty talk is, they are just WORDS! Sure, words can have power...said in certain context or with certain meaning behind them, but in the scenario of sex between a loving and committed couple, why or how could anything either of you say be wrong? I love to talk dirty and I love to be taked dirty to because it is the raw emotion - no censorship - just the feelings. I know when my hb says "I want to fuck that tight pussy" that he is IN the MOMENT with me and is enjoying ME and my body. So when I say, "I want you to lick my pussy or slap my pussy" I am telling him what I want because I know what will make me feel good at that moment, and waiting until he figures it out, or saying it nicely without using those words doesn't fit the bill!

Your wife might get caught up in the stigma of what is right and wrong, or what those words "mean." Well sure, if some guy on the street say, "Hey whore, I want to fuck your tight pussy" she would have every right to be totally offended, and should run far and fast away! However, in the bedroom with her loving husband, this is the place to feel SAFE, and to explore that inner side of ourself and those feelings that are taboo and primal. So there, coming from the man she loves, this phrase should and could be a giant turn on!

I submit to everyone that dirty talk can bring lovemaking to a whole new level. I agree with Howard, talk to your wife. Perhaps get a list of words that she just hates. For me, the word "cunt" is just one that hits a bone with me. I don't like it. Pussy, twat, 'gina...just not cunt. Don't know why. I also don;t mind slut or whore, but she may. Get some ground rules, then go at it. Tell her you just want to use raw expression and make her feel good because you feel good.

Then go to it!

Have fun!

Mikayla

[torinasia]

I wish my wife would say what Mikayla says!!

After 5 years of marriage, we just discovered how much fun dirty talk is. I started it by just blurting something out while she was riding me. Quietly and softly I started to say "I really love fucking you". She reacted positively so I kept saying it. I then moved on to "I love your tits". When she orgasmed, she rolled off and started blowing me, so then I blurted out "oh you slutty bitch", very softly. I immediately apologized but she just started blowing me harder so I said it again. We had both had quite a bit of champagne so the next day I was somewhat embarrassed (we NEVER talk like this) but she just kind of joked about it. I apologized and she said I had nothing to be sorry about.

Hello quiet guy

I have to admit that I just love dirty talk and after some practice my wife got in to it too.

I guess you can see te topic it from two sides.

One is the one that Mikayla talks about " the raw emotion" it is so good to say what you actually feel in the heat of the moment, that can enhance the sexual feeling quite a lot.

The other side is that it can be a bit of a role play and in that way explore - what you might call - the darker side of your sexuality. And isn´t that what a deep and sincere sexual relation is about - to exlore your own sides and help your partner to explore hers/his??

And when playing a role, who gets offended?

The things I have said to my wife while she has given me blowjobs would probably put me in jail in some countries, lol.

But when my wife is told that she is " the best cock-sucking whore in the world" and that her "horny mouth was made for taking my dick real deep" she gets very excited.

And when she stands on all four in the bed and in an almost angry voice demand me to "stick it in her wet pussy, fill her up and fuck her like a rag-doll", well I almost cum.

So I guess Quiet guy, the thing is to talk to your wife and maybe make a little glossary on what words she just cant stand, what she can stand and of course what she wants you to say. And then just do it.

And for God´s sake, dont apologize afterwards. I think that will make the dirty talk a lot more shameful than the dirty talk itself. I totally agree with Howard on that point.

As we said before on this site, the brain is the sexiest part of the body. Use it.

Tor

[Scout]

My lover and I started slow with this - I guess finding out what was OK to say to each other and what might cross that line...but I'll never forget the time he walked up behind me, put his arms around me and whispered in my ear, "Hey, babe - wanna mess around?" I almost had an orgasm right on the spot! And when I turned and told him, "Oh! Baby! Yes! You make me have wet panties!" Well, he was about to scoop me up right there - and would have except we were in public! Those endearing words went more the way of what Mikayla is talking about - and we both find it an incedible turn on...

And please, don't apologize. What is between the two of you is perfectly ok. As Howard points out, you are married, have children - what could possibly be off-limits at this point?

Talk to her - let her know how good it makes you feel for her to say anything "dirty" to you...and let her know how good it makes you feel to say the same back to her.

My lover and I used to refer to it sometimes as "raw jungle sex!" You know, the kind that when he walks through the door, I'm pulling him down on the kitchen floor! And then there are the quiet times in front of the fire place - with an occasional glass of wine - and the list can go on and on...make it fun for both of you.

Enjoy!

Scout

[hrnychick]

lady in the street freak inbetween the sheets......i use to not like it but after trying it a bit more each time.....keeps the sex getting better and interesting......turns my guy on knowing that i blush so easy when something is said but in the bedroom im his dirty girl......aslong as its between us and stays in the bedroom i say y not go for it.....have to keep things interesting never want things to get into a rut.....sex should always be fun and never boring cause if gets to that point thats when trouble may start