What Is A Normal..appearance?

[cmwise1]

I recently shaved everything off (like a Brazilian wax) and I love it. However, it makes my inner lips look big. They protrude a bit and I am feeling a bit self conscious. My lover has not seen the "new" me and i don't want him to be horrified! Is this a common appearance or am i just a bit different? I can handle it if that is the case but just wondered what other women have noticed..and did their men mind at all?

[Mikayla1]

Honey, all pussies look different and they are all beautiful! Of course taking the hair away makes you look 'different' - but I assure you, he will LOVE the new you - and so will you. The feeling is so much better.

Oh, and if you are in the mood for it, take a look at www.SexyLabia.com - you will see a ton of different vaginas and just how beautiful they all are!

[pappyld04]

Many times guys go through this same mess worrying about size, girth, shapes, etc.. My gf discovered how much that patch was blocking her view. Since I often lift her legs up and stroke slowly and deeply I finally got her to enjoy watching what is going on there. I'm almost sure that he had a general idea of how you look even before this. This just makes it more visible and he will enjoy your new look even more!

[Amylynn920]

I think everyone is beautiful. Men and women. Whoever created us doesn't make junk imo.

[Twist]

I am the increasingly proud owner of the "pouty" look, one thing that helped me was the website mentioned above in Mikayla's post and the other was my new partner saying that he loves touching me and going down on me.

The new will surely be a fantastic sight for your SO's eyes.

[Tyger]

There is no real "normal" appearance for the labia. Everyone is different down there, like facial features. Just because you've shaved it, doesn't mean your BF hasn't seen the actual shape of it (and felt it with his fingers & mouth), right? Now that the hair is gone, it's just more obviously out there. So, I wouldn't worry about it. Besides, you can't help how you're designed down there, so it's nothing to worry about. Check out that website that Mikayla recommended. It's pretty popular.

[mailahn97]

I felt the same way when I first shaved which was about 2 1/2 months ago. Of course I shocked the hell out of my SO. I told him I had a surprise for him. I did it, took pictures and then emailed the the pictures to him. I knew he was at work so I put in the subject to open when he was alone. Well in a sense he was alone...he was on a conference call...that he was running and decided to open my email while on it. Well he ended up dropping the phone. They all wanted to know if he was alright. He called me as soon as he wrapped it u to tell me how much he loved the way it looked. Once he said that I was very confident taht it was fine. At first I was very unsure of its appearance.

[chloegirl]

Once it's gone you'll never want to grow it back....it just looks and feels so much better!

[mailahn97]

I agree I can't imagine going back now. He and I both love it.

[cmwise1]

Honey, all pussies look different and they are all beautiful! Of course taking the hair away makes you look 'different' - but I assure you, he will LOVE the new you - and so will you. The feeling is so much better.

Oh, and if you are in the mood for it, take a look at www.SexyLabia.com - you will see a ton of different vaginas and just how beautiful they all are!

Thank you, Mikayla. I checked out the site and had a good time looking at all the women who look just like me. They looked very sexy and I am feeling much, much better about myself. In fact, perhaps i have a bit of big labia pride going on. My lover had never said anything about their size one way or the other, but he must have noticed during all the time spent down there. I was the one who was surprised after shaving. I AM excited to see what he thinks about my well-groomed kitty.

[hollybw]

I am a bit "endowed" down there myself and completely shaved. I used to be somewhat self-conscious about it, too, but I think my husband likes giving head to me more than I to him! He says he wouldn't have me any other way and can't believe I used to be bashful about it!

Most men are not THAT picky - believe me! They are just glad to be wanted, as we are. I mean, have you ever cared about the penis size of a person you really loved or cared about??

[vanilla_bean]

I'm sure you look beautiful and your lover is in for a treat. I agree with the others, you'll never go back. It's funny how we look at ourselves. When I first shaved I thought it made me look fat (OK, I have issues).

[Amylynn920]

I had to take a look at Mikayla's link and it really is so true, all women are beautiful down there. We all come in different shapes colors and sizes, like our men.

I happen to be tight lipped, not pouty and sometimes I wish I had something to show off my female side. I was always kind of embarrassed that mine "hid" But hubby doesn't complain. In fact I remember when we were first together. He looked at me down there, and said OMG. I was immediately embarrassed and said OMG what?? Waiting for something really bad to come out of his mouth. He said to me I've seen alot of pussy, online and in real life and yours is the most beautiful I've ever seen. I said oh come on. He said no, really.

And he tells me that alot, so I was shocked. I mean I never thought much about how mine looked. So we as humans need to not worry so much about how we were made. It's all good.

[pappyld04]

I do believe that Pamela Anderson is tight lipped also. I don't think the guys are running away from her pussy either! Most guys would love to wear her like a pair of sunglasses!

[jj53]

Hi Pinky

Everythings normal when it comes to pussies and cocks, theres no such thing as an ugly one. If your man had no problem going down on you before, trust me he's going to love that bald pussy even more. I speak from experience, my cock and my wifes pussy are completely smooth, as a matter of fact the only place we both have hair is on our heads. If we could afford to get both our bodies complete lazered to remove the hair we'd do it in a minute. And by the way I've been eating and fucking my wifes pussy for thirty-five years now, it may not look the same as the first time I went down on her but it

sure looks great to me now. Her lips hang a little too it's just more to play with that all.

Enjoy your smooth pussy

James & Di

[MsLiz]

Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts, insights and links.

This is such a private issue that never really gets spoken about, at least among my friends....and I thought we talked about everything until now. We've discussed shaving vs waxing vs laser, but not the details of how our coochies look in detail. My observation is, most of us women are just not satisfied with what we were blessed with in life...pussy or other wise. At least we don't appreciate our pussies right off the get go. We need to process it. Judge ourselves. Why do we do this to ourselves?

I guess there was a bliss in the ignorance our elders had on the topic of sex. Back in Grandpa's day, no one was worried about how women's pussies looked. Guys were just happy to be getting some! They thought a big fur pie was just fine. Check out some old 70's & 80's porn to confirm this. Yikes! It didn't need grooming, just make sure it's clean and smells nice. Now we have yet another area to be judged on....and of course, as always, we are our own worst critics!

The first time I went fur free it felt so liberating. But like so many other women have expressed, I judged myself. Is it normal? Will they like it? The most important question, Do I like it bare as the day I was born? Oh yes I do. Some of the pleasure I get comes from the pleasure it gives my guy.

I enjoy it so much I am waxing it, hoping to make it perminent and have considered laser (big money...I think I will need to be "gifted" those treatments : )

Love yourself. Act confident and you will become confident. Every inch of you is beautiful & desirable. Own it. You're magnificent!!!!

[pappyld04]

Don't leave the guys out of that one MsRandi. It doesn't matter what the world calls average many guys will never be comfortable with their equipment either!

[MsLiz]

Don't leave the guys out of that one MsRandi. It doesn't matter what the world calls average many guys will never be comfortable with their equipment either!

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See next MsRandi post. Thanks.

[MsLiz]

Don't leave the guys out of that one MsRandi. It doesn't matter what the world calls average many guys will never be comfortable with their equipment either!

You're so right! Because of the mind bending issues RE size & "OMG my dick has a mind of it's own!", I would never want to be a man dealing with a penis. I'm very glad I was born a girl. Women are lucky that if our body parts aren't cooperating fully it is not as obvious.

I would like to say though, while men have to deal with the "I'm not big enough" or "This has never happened to me before...." , women have been far more objectified in their total appearance & seductive value. Boobs, boobs, boobs are served up everywhere as our beauty currency..... and don't even get me started on how sad it is that un-naturally large plastic ones are now becoming the norm (at least here in California). Anywhoo....

Admittedly it is women who buy into the media's sales pitch of how a pretty women should look. As an example, for some stupid reason I assumed that when I found a Victoria's Secret catalog in my guys bedroom that it meant that he wanted what he saw: a beautiful woman....in matching bra and panties. So of course, from that point on, I made a point of always wearing matching bra & panties (in an attempt to distract my lover from the fact I am NOT a VS model?). What I have heard since, from men of all kinds, is that the lingerie look they all appreciate most is my lingerie scattered around the floor of the room! That is not to say men don't appreciate pretty under-things or our efforts to be sexy....but it seems to be more important to us women. And yes, true to form, I do love my frilly girl things. They do make me feel sexy. But I readily admit that I could acheive the same results if I were capable of FEELING sexy without the elaborate & expensive trimmings.

Thanks for bringing it back to my attention that men have daunting issues to contend with too.

We are all human, and the bottom line is that we ALL have self-esteem issues to deal with. Some of us are just better at coping with them.

Kindness, compassion & understanding are the most important things we can practice with one another.

My trick when taking a new lover, and I'm judging MYSELF as to what I imagine he is expecting to see: Use the dimmer switch to keep the light low and use candles. Low light makes everyone look pretty/handsome and petty details are deminished. It's worked so far!

Our beauty (and self worth) begins in our mind.

[Tyger]

WELL SAID!!

[pappyld04]

Ditto Tyger's comment!

[nirvanam]

I had to take a look at Mikayla's link and it really is so true, all women are beautiful down there. We all come in different shapes colors and sizes, like our men.

I happen to be tight lipped, not pouty and sometimes I wish I had something to show off my female side. I was always kind of embarrassed that mine "hid" But hubby doesn't complain. In fact I remember when we were first together. He looked at me down there, and said OMG. I was immediately embarrassed and said OMG what?? Waiting for something really bad to come out of his mouth. He said to me I've seen alot of pussy, online and in real life and yours is the most beautiful I've ever seen. I said oh come on. He said no, really.

And he tells me that alot, so I was shocked. I mean I never thought much about how mine looked. So we as humans need to not worry so much about how we were made. It's all good.

but A LOT of photos and videos only show the the tight lipped and petite and so for at least me, it makes me feel self conscious.

[Amylynn920]

but A LOT of photos and videos only show the the tight lipped and petite and so for at least me, it makes me feel self conscious.

I understand that ((hugs)) but you are you, and unique and beautiful. Celebrate the fact that there is only one you. Don't let society set the norm.

If that was the case, we'd all be 5'9 with log blonde hair and a perfect body. Who wants cookie cutter women?

I hate the fact that my clitoris is small, I think that's why I have problems orgasming sometimes. But it's the way I'm made, and it's ok.

Please don't feel bad about yourself.

[cmwise1]

I hate the fact that my clitoris is small, I think that's why I have problems orgasming sometimes. But it's the way I'm made, and it's ok.

Same with me...but it seems to function okay! I equate clitoris size with penis size, since they are approximately the same organ in both genders. I've had small and I've had large and I had a great time with both.

[pjp]

I love when my wife gets waxed. Everything is right there for me to lick on and play with.